Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard XX
[0] Good morning.
[1] Good morning.
[2] How are you?
[3] Good.
[4] You look cute today.
[5] Thanks.
[6] So do you.
[7] I like your outfit.
[8] You have your new little shorts that I bought.
[9] You bought.
[10] No. That you buy my presents.
[11] I did.
[12] Yeah, we had a fun shopping trip.
[13] We did.
[14] I loved it.
[15] I teased it on a fact check.
[16] Oh.
[17] Dax was asking what I did that weekend.
[18] I said we went shopping and then there was a story that we were going to tell on synced.
[19] And so I didn't say the name of the place.
[20] Good.
[21] And so I'm going to keep that place.
[22] underwrabs.
[23] But, like, he's going to listen.
[24] Okay, well, I don't know how to handle this.
[25] Okay, so we're going to do it anyway.
[26] I walk in to the store and you were there already and I saw as soon as I walk in, I see that you're like engaged with a man who works there.
[27] I don't want to enter the conversation.
[28] So I just start looking at clothes.
[29] And then I text you, I'm here.
[30] You're like, me too.
[31] And I was like, yeah, I see you.
[32] Like, just come here.
[33] But you were still in an enraptured conversation.
[34] And then you came over.
[35] And I was like, do you know him?
[36] Because I thought, oh, maybe Liz knows that person.
[37] The way you were conversing, it really seemed like you knew him.
[38] And then you didn't.
[39] You were just chit -chatting waiting for me. And then you felt that he was a little overbearing.
[40] Yes, overly familiar.
[41] And now we're worried because we did end up telling him about our podcast.
[42] But now we'll really know.
[43] I think you should cut that part out.
[44] Because we could have gone to a bunch of different areas.
[45] I mean, he's going to know.
[46] Oh, my gosh.
[47] Do you think he really is going to listen, though?
[48] But this is what I was thinking about the other day.
[49] I was like, this is a good story because there's a lot of meatiness to it.
[50] Because Monica let me come into the changing room with her, which is a new level.
[51] Well, she kind of snuck her way in.
[52] Well, no. Forced her way in?
[53] Like a little bit.
[54] I actually went into the other one and you're like, you know, like you can come in mind.
[55] And I was like, oh my God.
[56] This is the best day of my life.
[57] And so then you haven't changed in front of me, which I didn't look.
[58] I looked to the ground so that you would feel comfortable.
[59] That's nice.
[60] But I was really excited on the inside.
[61] Not sexually.
[62] No, because you felt like I trusted you.
[63] Yes.
[64] To me, these are landmark moments.
[65] Experiencing them brings me a lot of joy.
[66] But yes, so once we were in the changing room, I just started realizing what was happening.
[67] I was like, oh my God, this guy's now, like, following us around and, like, talking to us.
[68] I'm looking in the future of, like, how this interaction is going to end.
[69] He's going to try and get my, like, just the awkwardness of it all.
[70] And then you were like, you were best friends with him.
[71] Like, you let him believe that you were interested, not romantically or anything, but just that you were interested in conversing at all.
[72] Right.
[73] And all we did was talk about you.
[74] That was why I was so enraptured and interested.
[75] That may have given him the impression that I feel about him the way I feel about you, but I don't.
[76] And so then we were in the changing room.
[77] And then you were like, look, when someone.
[78] Someone says, like, do you need help?
[79] This is, and then we did.
[80] We did a role play.
[81] I taught you.
[82] You taught me how to respond.
[83] And so you keep looking at what you're looking.
[84] You say, oh, no, no, thank you.
[85] And then you turn around right away.
[86] That's right.
[87] You turn around.
[88] No, no, I'm good.
[89] I'm just looking.
[90] Thank you.
[91] Yeah.
[92] You can make a very quick eye contact with the smile.
[93] Say, oh, thank you.
[94] No, I'm good.
[95] I'm just looking.
[96] Then you immediately go back to your clothes.
[97] But then we went to another store where there was a very different vibe going on with You and the salesperson.
[98] Oh, well, I didn't have a vibe with him.
[99] No, but you were way more friendly that both of us were.
[100] We were, like, best friends with him.
[101] I mean, not best friends, but we were having a lot of fun.
[102] Well, okay, so I was trying stuff on.
[103] You were waiting outside, and then this nice man, he just brought you a jacket to try on.
[104] We can't go into such detail.
[105] He's going to listen.
[106] Look, I don't want to hurt his feelings.
[107] It's not him.
[108] It's me. Yes, that's right.
[109] If you're listening, it's not you.
[110] It's me. It's not.
[111] I think we get ourselves, a lot of women, and you're one of them, get yourselves stuck.
[112] And I've done this, too.
[113] Suck in situations that you don't mean to be in because of friendliness.
[114] Right.
[115] Because we think we have to be so friendly.
[116] And then you end up, like, getting sort of followed around the store, and then he brought you a jacket to try on, but you weren't going to buy it or anything.
[117] It did look really cute on you.
[118] It did, but it's never going to happen.
[119] That's how I let you in, because I could tell things were going.
[120] badly.
[121] I could tell in your voice that you at that point didn't like the amount of attention.
[122] And so then I said, you can come in this dressing room with me. How can you tell the high pitch?
[123] Yeah, maybe it's about the pitch.
[124] Or I think I just know you.
[125] But there was another man working there.
[126] And then this happened to get at another store.
[127] And this is not fair.
[128] But these people were gay men.
[129] And there's no problem chit -chatting with them.
[130] I don't feel like I have to do my thing of like, be in my bubble.
[131] Yeah, because there's no threat at all of it turning into something.
[132] But then it's like, can't just too straight people have regular interactions?
[133] I think they can.
[134] I think we should.
[135] I think that would, like, solve a lot of problems.
[136] But it's like, how do you...
[137] Yeah.
[138] Oh, no, it's so...
[139] What's the solution?
[140] I don't think there is one.
[141] I think currently it's the way of the world.
[142] I will stay my ground on this.
[143] I think it's good that men do go up to women in public.
[144] I don't think we should just be on apps all day and that that's how we should be meeting.
[145] I do think people should be meeting.
[146] Again, nothing inappropriate happened.
[147] No, no. So then he did show up at the coffee shop.
[148] No, we can't put this one.
[149] No, we can't put this one.
[150] No, we are.
[151] No, it was just funny because then we went to this coffee shop.
[152] This was just hilarious because we were talking about just these dynamics of straight men versus gay men and our interactions with them.
[153] When you're single, that's another thing.
[154] If you're in a relationship or if you're married, this goes out the window.
[155] Right.
[156] It's about the idea or threat that this might turn into something or that someone will think it could turn into something.
[157] So, we were talking about all this.
[158] We went to this coffee shop right down the street.
[159] And we were waiting for the matcha and he just showed up there.
[160] Did you tell him you were going there?
[161] No. He bugged the dressing room?
[162] No, he happened to go there.
[163] It was a coincidence.
[164] He even said, he said, I'm not following you guys, which was funny.
[165] It was just really funny.
[166] But I feel so bad in my body right now that, like, he's going to listen.
[167] It's not him.
[168] Yes.
[169] And if he listens, thank you for listening.
[170] By the way, it sounds like we're like, ew, and we have a podcast.
[171] That's not what happened.
[172] The other salesperson said, oh, I love your show.
[173] And then we started talking about that he wanted to know about the show.
[174] Right.
[175] But we love you.
[176] We don't, okay, sorry.
[177] No, see, you're doing it.
[178] Yeah, but I don't.
[179] Okay, so what, so how do we manage?
[180] I know.
[181] How do I?
[182] You have to get over needing to be so liked.
[183] I feel like I'm hurting him right now.
[184] It's not about.
[185] Let's be really clear.
[186] Okay.
[187] This is not him.
[188] It was just an example of how we interact differently with different people and their sexual orientation.
[189] Unfortunately, it kind of makes, it does.
[190] Yes.
[191] I think this is common for single people.
[192] I don't think this is...
[193] Yeah.
[194] Oh, my God.
[195] I had a dream.
[196] I just remember, Liz.
[197] I was so mad at you last night in my dream.
[198] Yeah.
[199] Oh, no. Don't worry.
[200] It hasn't translated to real life.
[201] What did I do?
[202] You, like, seduce Jimmy Kimmel.
[203] The best boy?
[204] Yeah, I think it's because we've been talking a lot about him because he's a best boy.
[205] Cool guy, sexy man. He's all three.
[206] Exactly.
[207] He's the only one that's all three.
[208] But you met him.
[209] Okay.
[210] You know how dreams get complex?
[211] Yeah, I was with you.
[212] We were at a taping of a show or something.
[213] And then you had like a look on your face, kind of like the voice thing that I know about you.
[214] You had a look on your face.
[215] And I was like, what's going on?
[216] And then you're like, well, we hung out yesterday.
[217] And I was like, Liz.
[218] Oh, my God.
[219] He's married.
[220] And we like his wife.
[221] And even if we don't, it's not good.
[222] And he kind of kept looking like, oh.
[223] over at you, too.
[224] So he fell in love with you.
[225] You kind of seduced him the day before.
[226] You'd only hung out once, but then you were like, I'm taking him.
[227] You were like, really, you were then dead set on it.
[228] And I was trying to trap you in a space so that you wouldn't.
[229] You had like balloons and stuff.
[230] Oh, nice.
[231] Sweet.
[232] And you were going to like, you were like going to go to him and I was like, no. That's my move.
[233] Yeah, I go with balloons.
[234] Yeah.
[235] It's sexy.
[236] Yeah.
[237] I just remember that.
[238] How weird.
[239] Maybe because I knew we were recording today and then a lot of Jimmy talk lately.
[240] Sometimes I will be telling a story and you'll be like, lit.
[241] Like you'll like assume this.
[242] And I'm like, no, but I also understand why you would assume that.
[243] That's on my track record.
[244] That you are being flirty.
[245] Is that way?
[246] Well, sometimes I think I get myself into situations that are unexpected.
[247] So how are we going to, do you have you forgiven me?
[248] Yeah.
[249] Tonight, I'll see how it goes with our dream selves.
[250] I'm not so sure where we're at.
[251] But in real life, we're great.
[252] Okay, great.
[253] Thank God.
[254] We have last week's pen.
[255] I know.
[256] Thank you.
[257] I've been thinking about that.
[258] But thank you for brunch pin is also on my mind.
[259] Did we fully cover?
[260] I still feel horrible.
[261] I'm going to have tummy eggs for a week over this.
[262] Lid.
[263] It was fine.
[264] He wasn't him, but it was interesting that our demeanor changes.
[265] Because I don't think he was flirting or anything.
[266] I think he was just being very friendly.
[267] But when you date guys and you're available, everything becomes, oh, no, do they think I like them?
[268] And half of the time, it's not even happening, I don't think.
[269] Like, no one's thinking that, but it can always be on your mind.
[270] And so many friendships, you know, there's a whole meme of, like, the guy that's about to ruin the friendship.
[271] And it's like, he'll just be like, I can just talk to you.
[272] Like, when they start saying the things that you know is like, uh -oh, it's a sign that they're going to, like, start revealing their love to you.
[273] And again, I think you should tell people when you like them.
[274] I'm pro interacting with people.
[275] And the thing that I try and remember, because even sometimes, okay, this is dating ups, I feel guilty in one way.
[276] Yesterday, like, this person just wrote this, like, really thoughtful, like, what they like, what they like, you know, about my, it seems like you're really blah, blah, blah, and like, what's really loved to.
[277] And then I just was looking at that person, I was like, could I get myself to?
[278] And I was like, no, I can't.
[279] And then I felt this wave of guilt wash over me. But then I remembered, I told myself, men are used to being.
[280] rejected way more than women are.
[281] It's kind of part of the whole game, right?
[282] And Rob, tell me if I'm wrong.
[283] And I'm not saying it's easy, but it's part of the sort of seduction thing is that men are hitting on way more women in that process, know that they'll get rejected.
[284] And actually, I think that makes them more equipped for - Yeah, and confident to sort of, again, engage in public or engage with people that they don't know, whereas I'm very sensitive, I think, to rejection and, you know, make a whole story about it.
[285] So it helped me think about the fact that these men, they don't feel it in the same way that I would feel it.
[286] Well, also, you just shouldn't feel guilt about not being interested.
[287] You can't control that.
[288] There's nothing to feel guilty about.
[289] Guilt comes when you've done something actionably wrong.
[290] You can't help it.
[291] That's a good point.
[292] The brunch pin.
[293] Yeah.
[294] The brunch pin is from last week, a big cliffhanger.
[295] Huge.
[296] We went to brunch and we got on this conversation that I think is important.
[297] You are with some non -single friends.
[298] Yeah.
[299] And we're always with non -single friends.
[300] You are.
[301] You made the astute point that when you're with non -singles, the first thing they ask often is about your dating life.
[302] And they're almost, like, drooling.
[303] They're, like, chomping at the bit.
[304] They, it's entertainment.
[305] Entertain me. It's like, so what's going on, you know?
[306] They want it to be good.
[307] Like, I'm not saying they want, like, a catastrophe or, like, a car crash.
[308] But they want, like, details.
[309] Also, could we be generous if they're sort of living vicariously?
[310] I think so, 100%.
[311] But the thing is, there's a superiority.
[312] There's a superiority because it's a mix of entertainment and pity.
[313] There's a little pity because then most of the time, if you're still single, the stories aren't going to be great, right?
[314] It's like if you're in a relationship, then that's it.
[315] But if you're talking about, and again, some dates are great, but most of them, there's a reason why it didn't work out.
[316] And so usually what ends up happening is that they, like, what's going on?
[317] and they're frothing at the mouth and then all they get is really horrible.
[318] Just a bad story that you have to tell.
[319] And dating stories, even the bad ones, like, it would be almost better if they were dramatic and interesting, but like, it's usually like, yeah, and then I never heard from him ever again.
[320] Or then he just kind of like wasn't putting in a lot of effort and it's usually just a down.
[321] Do, do, do.
[322] Exactly.
[323] It's done, like it's not, so then they're not satisfied because that's not what they wanted.
[324] They wanted something that's, like, fun and juicy.
[325] And then both of you feel bad.
[326] That's how I feel like that question usually goes.
[327] Now, I feel bad, and now you feel bad because I feel bad.
[328] And then you end up giving me, like, a weird pep talk about how I'm going to find the one, which then the superiority comes in.
[329] Exactly.
[330] It always leads to the person who is in a relationship imparting some advice, which is tough.
[331] Because they started it.
[332] That's the thing.
[333] It's like, I didn't ask for advice.
[334] And even one day, like, you know, you'll be happy.
[335] And you're like, I was happy before you asked me this question.
[336] Yeah.
[337] I'm actually fine.
[338] And now because I'm primed to think about all the things that aren't working out in this part of my life.
[339] And I think the flip side would be so inappropriate, right?
[340] For me to be like, tell me about what's going on with John's lack of erections.
[341] Like, yes, married sex lines.
[342] Totally.
[343] Invasive.
[344] It would feel very invasive.
[345] And so it's almost like we're on display because we're single.
[346] I mean, this isn't all my friends.
[347] Also, they mean well.
[348] They do.
[349] They're just checking in on our lives, but it's true that the reverse doesn't necessarily, I mean, sometimes it does.
[350] I have friendships where we talk about their marriages.
[351] And in that case, I don't mind as much because it feels more equal.
[352] And also, I think you're coming in not from a place of wanting details, but from a place of hearing about how she's feeling.
[353] It's not for, like, the gossip of their inner conflicts.
[354] In any other area of life, if a friend is looking for a job, You wouldn't immediately, like, first thing you sit down, so how's the job hunt?
[355] Or, by the way, if you are doing that, you shouldn't do that because you would know if they had a job.
[356] So the job hunt's not going well.
[357] It's like you already have the answer.
[358] And also, if I am dating someone that I'm excited.
[359] If things are going well, you will know about it.
[360] Exactly.
[361] You don't have to prompt me. It will come up in conversation.
[362] The thing that, again, I noticed as we were talking through it, was like, Monica never.
[363] asks me that question.
[364] We will be out together for hours and dating will just not be, again, it can totally come up.
[365] It comes up.
[366] Oh, what happened with that guy?
[367] It'll come up tangentially sort of from other conversations.
[368] But there are so many other things that you're going to ask me about my life.
[369] It is not the entre.
[370] No. It's like the sprinkles like, oh, yeah, what's good?
[371] You treat it like it's not the most important thing that's happening in my life.
[372] And I think that tone and intention.
[373] It's not.
[374] It's not.
[375] I love it.
[376] And I appreciate it.
[377] And I appreciate it.
[378] it so much.
[379] And I love how little we end up talking about it in the way that I don't like.
[380] Like, I think we do end up talking about relationships and dating and obviously all kinds of stuff.
[381] But I don't ever feel that heaviness to it.
[382] Or again, that sort of subtext.
[383] Yeah.
[384] I mean, it could be just because we're in the same position.
[385] But I wonder if we end up in relationships, if we'll do that.
[386] I think people get amnesia.
[387] They were just single and feeling the exact same way.
[388] And then as soon as they're in a relationship, you forget.
[389] forget.
[390] I remember being in a relationship, well, particularly one of them where for some reason I thought we had such a great relationship.
[391] And like it was great, but also not perfect in any sense.
[392] And it's over.
[393] So like, you know, there were definitely issues where I had almost a sense of superiority over even some of my friends that were in relationships where like I felt they were being treated as good as I was.
[394] I'm sure that happens.
[395] Yes.
[396] And now they look back, I'm like, oh my God.
[397] That must have been so, again, I'm sure people felt in the tone or whatever.
[398] Because society also rewards you for being in a relationship.
[399] Like you've won, especially, I think, for women.
[400] Even though this is wrong, the headline is you've been picked.
[401] Yes.
[402] And that's why it's not the same for men because they're the ones doing the picking.
[403] But it's all fucked up and not true and wrong, but there's still this thread hovering a little bit.
[404] Totally.
[405] Inescapable.
[406] And then I was like, well, so what are the like rules?
[407] Like, what are people?
[408] Well, not rules, obviously.
[409] But the recommendation, I guess.
[410] Maybe talk about other stuff.
[411] Yes.
[412] It'll come up.
[413] It'll come up.
[414] Like, what's bringing you joy?
[415] And then, like, if they're not bringing up anything related to dating, that's because it's not.
[416] Well, exactly.
[417] Maybe the question is.
[418] So what's been going on?
[419] I think I'm no longer telling my friends about first dates.
[420] That's your new rule?
[421] It's Omerda.
[422] Like, no one knows.
[423] Because that's what kind of leads to this.
[424] Like, so what happened to, and you're like, who?
[425] Sometimes you don't even really remember.
[426] And you're like, oh, right.
[427] and then I have to remember this person and remember what happened.
[428] It ends up bringing those things top of mind when they're not.
[429] So, yeah, I've been thinking about the first date, no talking rule.
[430] Okay, I love that.
[431] I don't know, that's one strategy.
[432] I get it.
[433] It's also not on us.
[434] Yes, it was just about to say that.
[435] We can't control what they're going to do.
[436] They might just ask, so then maybe some safeguards on the other side of not talking about every little thing that happens.
[437] I know, but that's so fun.
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[501] Oh.
[502] Because I made two martinis this weekend.
[503] You did.
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[505] Obviously, this started.
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[508] Here's a present hack for people, gift hack.
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[511] This isn't relevant to you because you don't drink anymore.
[512] But if you did, or maybe I would still do this because you could drink Sprite out of it.
[513] Then if that bar sells glasses, then buy that.
[514] Like, I have two martini glasses from Bamelman's Bar in New York, which is my favorite bar in the world.
[515] And then I have two from the Knot in London that also had a beautiful bar that I stayed there for a week.
[516] And it's a memory, too.
[517] You're so good at gifts.
[518] I love giving gifts.
[519] That's such a great idea.
[520] Because what you're so good is you give very personalized gifts.
[521] It's important.
[522] Thoughtfulness.
[523] How do you do it?
[524] Well, I just like it.
[525] Rob's like that too.
[526] He's very, very good at giving gifts.
[527] And I mean, it's ultimately selfish.
[528] It's just I like the feeling of putting that puzzle together.
[529] It's a puzzle.
[530] It's a puzzle.
[531] It's a puzzle.
[532] It's a science.
[533] Girl math.
[534] So, yes.
[535] Anyway, all to say, I have some nice rentini glasses.
[536] And then I was on YouTube Friday.
[537] night looking for a recipe and a video of Emma Watson popped up.
[538] It was a Vogue.
[539] I think I saw this video with her and her brother.
[540] Yes.
[541] Oh my God.
[542] Yes.
[543] She has a new alcohol company.
[544] And so she was on British Vogue making some drinks with her new gin.
[545] And then her brother was in one making one with her.
[546] But anyway, the first one she made was an espresso martini.
[547] And I was like, I'm going to make that today.
[548] But I was overwhelmed because I don't know how to make espresso.
[549] I don't know.
[550] But then I remember to have an espresso machine, so I made it.
[551] I Instacarted a chocolate liqueur.
[552] Oh, wow.
[553] All nine yards.
[554] I know, I know.
[555] So I made it.
[556] It was delicious.
[557] It was so good.
[558] The problem is I only have the stir apparatus.
[559] Some martinis are meant to be shaken and some are meant to be stirred.
[560] Okay.
[561] And so I have from Bells.
[562] I have the stirring situation cover, but I don't have a shaker.
[563] And the espresso martini needs a shaker.
[564] So it tasted so good, but I can only give it a seven because it didn't have the consistency it was supposed to have.
[565] So now I'm on the hot.
[566] Oh, and then on Sunday I made a regular martini, my martini, gin.
[567] I used to get it without vermouth, but I'm putting that back in.
[568] And lemon twist.
[569] It's, there is such a sexiness to it.
[570] You peel the lemon and you have to do it over.
[571] the glass because the aromas come off into the glass and then take a little strip and you wrap it around the longster and it gets curly.
[572] Oh, it's fun.
[573] Anyway, so I need a shaker.
[574] Yesterday I went out with Jess.
[575] We just went out on the town.
[576] We went to multiple stores.
[577] Everyone was out of shakers.
[578] Wait.
[579] What are you talking about?
[580] I know.
[581] Why?
[582] What's going on?
[583] What's shaking up?
[584] Emma Watson.
[585] Yeah, her video came out.
[586] Everyone bought Shakers.
[587] Do you think...
[588] I mean, Taylor Swift made $93 million for the NFL by just going.
[589] Exactly.
[590] So, like, it's just...
[591] Well, Jess said, based on his restaurant, he thinks people are drinking a lot right now.
[592] A lot more.
[593] Oh, that's such a cool focus group.
[594] Interesting.
[595] So people are drinking more in January?
[596] That's kind of surprising.
[597] Like, normally not, but he's just saying right now this year, for some reason, he noticed, and his manager noticed, people are drinking a lot.
[598] They're ordering a lot.
[599] drinks.
[600] Isn't that interesting?
[601] No more shakers.
[602] People are drinking a lot.
[603] Well, his explanation was that everyone's drinking so they bought all the shakers to like make their...
[604] I mean, duh.
[605] That's obvious.
[606] I mean, it's, well, look, like, obviously it's like a very small sample, but it is anecdotal information that's pretty interesting put together.
[607] That's super interesting because there's a whole dry January thing, but usually there's more in my feet, you know, people bragging about it on my feet.
[608] And I'm not seeing it as much.
[609] That's true.
[610] I had one friend who was doing dry January, where she did it for like a week.
[611] I feel, I mean, we've talked about this, but last year was like such a bummer.
[612] And, you know, it's going to be an election year.
[613] It's going to be a lot more drama.
[614] I think people are just in their yolo.
[615] Like, they just don't care.
[616] There's kind of a yolo -ness in the air.
[617] You feel that?
[618] A little bit.
[619] I feel it in myself where I'm like, whatever, a little.
[620] That's nice.
[621] You don't feel it?
[622] No, not yet.
[623] I think I will.
[624] This beginning of the year has been very stressful for me. And then someone did this hilarious, me. Or, is it a meme if it's just letters?
[625] I mean, words.
[626] Yeah, I think it counts.
[627] Okay, it counts.
[628] They posted something that said, I reposted it.
[629] Oh.
[630] One thing about January is that she's going to make sure you feel all 31 days of her.
[631] That is how I feel.
[632] I just like, thank God we're almost out of this month.
[633] I'm ready for a turnover.
[634] Interesting.
[635] What are you ready for?
[636] What are you inviting in?
[637] Just not so much heaviness.
[638] Some levity, some light.
[639] Just a little bit more ease.
[640] Coziness.
[641] I don't need it to be cozy necessarily.
[642] It can be sprightly, but it just can't be so heavy.
[643] Right.
[644] Well, you've been dealing with a lot of drama.
[645] I know.
[646] There's been a lot of drama around you that's been trying to, like, bring you in.
[647] It's hard.
[648] And you've been doing, I think, a really good job of resisting.
[649] Thank you.
[650] Getting wrapped up into it.
[651] Yeah.
[652] But when this airs, it will be February.
[653] Happy February.
[654] Happy February.
[655] Congratulations to all of us.
[656] We made it.
[657] And hopefully by now, I will have.
[658] had a martini shaker.
[659] So I might go on a little mission today, try to get one.
[660] Go on a martini mission.
[661] Martini mission.
[662] It's your social video.
[663] This is a social video.
[664] I feel so bad.
[665] This is what we do on Flightless Bird, too.
[666] Every time we do an episode, we say, oh, for social, we'll do this.
[667] And then we don't never do it.
[668] You know, sometimes you shoot for the stars and you land in the trees.
[669] Okay.
[670] And that's so good.
[671] Shoot for the moon and land in the stars.
[672] Yeah, I think that's, yeah, the trees is a new spin on it.
[673] You didn't even make it to space.
[674] Yeah, landing in the trees.
[675] It's better than landing on the ground.
[676] That's a good way to put it.
[677] It's not what you want it, but it's something.
[678] Sometimes something is enough.
[679] All right.
[680] Well, should I tell this bad story about a restaurant?
[681] How bad is it?
[682] I went to a restaurant, and I went with Elizabeth and Andy from Nobody's Listening, right?
[683] Favorite podcast.
[684] And when I got there, I asked the server.
[685] I said, can I also put in a to -go order?
[686] And she said, sure, of course.
[687] Just let me know whenever you want to put that in and we'll get that going.
[688] And I was like, great.
[689] So, you know, we order our food.
[690] We're in the middle of it.
[691] It's like an hour in.
[692] She comes back by and I say, I'm ready to put in the to -go order.
[693] I give her the order.
[694] She's asking about the sides.
[695] You know, we get it all done.
[696] And then she comes back some minutes later and says, I'm really sorry, but the kitchen is too slammed and can't accommodate it.
[697] And I was sort of like, oh, okay, no problem.
[698] It just sort of caught me off guard, so I said no problem.
[699] But then I...
[700] Had a problem.
[701] Yes.
[702] Then I did have a problem.
[703] Because it doesn't...
[704] You can't do that.
[705] First, to me, you can't say yes and then say no. Like, at that point, you have to tell the kitchen, sorry, I already said yes.
[706] Or before you say yes, you say like, let me just double check.
[707] It's kind of a busy night.
[708] But once you say yes, it's on you.
[709] It is.
[710] Or we're out of this item, but we can do these other ones.
[711] Like, you lie.
[712] Do whatever.
[713] But at SoulCycle, they would say find a yes.
[714] Oh.
[715] Even if we were out of water, you had to find a yes somewhere.
[716] Like, okay, we're out of this, but we have this if you want this or we'll give you free something.
[717] Like, you have to for customer service.
[718] Right.
[719] Also, because we could have just ordered the food.
[720] Were you at the table still?
[721] Yeah.
[722] Should have just been like, never mind, I'll take it now.
[723] That's what I was thinking.
[724] Exactly.
[725] But by then we were already so far into the meal that I think, they could have said like you have to give your seat up.
[726] Well, okay, so then we also got kicked out.
[727] You got kicked out.
[728] I've heard about this happening there.
[729] There's technically a time limit on the table.
[730] And depending on how busy it is, they don't often care.
[731] But in this case, and we were there for two and a half hours.
[732] So then a different manager came up and said, hey guys.
[733] And this was very nice.
[734] He was trying to find a yes.
[735] He said, we'd love to move you over to the bar will buy you a round of drinks, but we need this table.
[736] But we were still drinking our drinks.
[737] I just said, we're heading out.
[738] Don't worry.
[739] I understand.
[740] But also after what already had happened, you kind of like, you just have to be aware.
[741] Yeah, yeah, yeah.
[742] So that was rough.
[743] Especially because yes, you can't say yes and then no, because I would have just ordered all the food and then taking it to go.
[744] I just never heard of like, wouldn't they want to make more money by giving you more stuff?
[745] I'm sure they were just really.
[746] Flammed, but it's not like an order calling in.
[747] We're there.
[748] Right.
[749] It's weird.
[750] There's a little weird.
[751] There's something going on.
[752] They have so many policies there.
[753] I know.
[754] I've gone in the afternoon with Calvin, and they've made me take my hat off.
[755] Yeah.
[756] I'm like, how does this thing?
[757] I don't like that at all.
[758] I hate dress codes.
[759] Even if I go in and I do what they want me to do, I feel bad the whole time.
[760] It's just such an exclusion tactic.
[761] It had a nice shirt on.
[762] It wasn't even, it wasn't, like, showing up in a T -shirt.
[763] And you, like, can't wear certain types of footwear.
[764] Oh my God.
[765] I have no idea when I want them.
[766] Mainly for men.
[767] They don't do much for women.
[768] But there's also something about like as an adult being told to do.
[769] What to wear?
[770] Like it feels very like you're 14 and you're at school and like the headmaster's like, yeah, to me it like brings me back to like a weird place.
[771] It definitely feels exclusionary for reasons that are shady.
[772] Yeah.
[773] All right.
[774] Well, on that note, let's answer some questions.
[775] Yeah.
[776] Oh, this one's heavy.
[777] Is it okay to leave someone who might have cancer?
[778] Cancer.
[779] Anonymous.
[780] Hi, Monica and Liz.
[781] Last year, I asked for a divorce from my husband of eight years.
[782] We tried couples counseling for a bit, but I realized I could not get over all the emotional abuse, gaslighting, and cheating that went on for years.
[783] We recently have started getting paperwork and things ready for the split.
[784] We have children, so it's a process.
[785] However, recently, he's been having some health issues and doctors are a bit worried about the possibility of cancer or something serious going on.
[786] I'm very conflicted on if it is something serious, would I be a bad person to continue with the plan to leave?
[787] I find just hearing you to talk through things can be very helpful to look at things from different angles.
[788] Thank you.
[789] Oh, ma 'am.
[790] This is hard.
[791] And I would struggle with this.
[792] I think you can go ahead and leave.
[793] Yeah.
[794] I was expecting, like, because of me too.
[795] The sickness, which I think is more complicated and nuanced, but this is not, unfortunately.
[796] And you can be there for this person.
[797] I mean, staying with them does.
[798] not help them and will not help them recover.
[799] I think that you can still support them and especially if you're co -parenting and you're still involved in each other's lives.
[800] But I think you're not doing anyone any favors by pretending you want to be in a relationship.
[801] You know, you don't want to be in.
[802] And just suffering.
[803] I mean, also because you've already put in your due diligence.
[804] You've tried.
[805] You've been hurt.
[806] You know that you can't come back from it.
[807] And that's it.
[808] You have to put yourself first.
[809] I mean, this is like the most heightened situation for codependency.
[810] It's like begging for any codependency.
[811] It's like begging for any codependent.
[812] Because of course you feel like, oh, no, how could I, quote, abandon someone when they have a serious illness?
[813] But you're not.
[814] And you have to protect yourself.
[815] And your kids.
[816] You have to also protect your kids.
[817] Because when your parents are miserable, the kids are miserable.
[818] Yeah.
[819] I don't love to give, I don't have kids.
[820] So I don't, anyway, whatever.
[821] But you were a kid once.
[822] I was.
[823] It was for a long time.
[824] 18 years.
[825] But I think sometimes I think we want to do things for kids because we think it'll have.
[826] help them.
[827] And again, I think there's a lot of people who will sort of keep the semblance of a family, even though there's a separation or a divorce for the kids.
[828] But I think it ends up just confusing them more.
[829] And sometimes just being clear cut and being honest and not wavering, right?
[830] Yeah.
[831] Of, well, now daddy's sick, so we're going to be together, but we still hate each other.
[832] Like, I think that only makes it more complicated for children, even though maybe the initial experience of being separated while they're going through an illness will be difficult.
[833] I think overall, in the long term, it will be for the best.
[834] Well, yeah, I think if you do have kids, a good thing to think about is what would you want for them?
[835] If your kid was in your situation and had been emotionally abused and cheated on and they're sad, like you don't want that for your kid.
[836] So you shouldn't want that for you.
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[862] Well, that was much easier than we thought.
[863] Yeah.
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[866] Solo traveling as a very independent wife.
[867] This is from Lane.
[868] Hi, Monica and Liz.
[869] Big Armchair and Sink Squad member here.
[870] I'm a super independent married woman.
[871] I've always been the person that won't wait around for others to decide that they want to join me on an adventure.
[872] I'll just go do it on my own.
[873] My husband and I normally do one big trip together each year around our anniversary.
[874] My husband is more worried about budgeting and money than I am.
[875] He plans and researches while I just do whatever and figure it out as I go.
[876] This means I've gotten to go on a lot of amazing solo trips, and then my husband doesn't feel like we have enough money to do a big trip together.
[877] I'm almost 31, and I feel like I'm getting close to trying to have kids.
[878] I'm feeling the pressure to use my limited time off to do adventures I won't be able to do as easily if I become a mother.
[879] I have it in my head that this year I really want to go to Scotland and walk the West Highland Way, but my husband doesn't have any interest in doing that.
[880] It's also our 10 -year anniversary, and we want to do a bigger celebration trip together.
[881] I'm worried that if I do my usual, do what I want, and go to Scotland.
[882] I will jeopardize our anniversary trip and I will feel guilty and my husband will resent my decision.
[883] What should I do?
[884] How do I balance keeping my independence and also being responsible and a good partner?
[885] This is tricky actually because we're so independent and I do love solo trips and I also agree that one life and if you don't think you'll be able to do this Scotland trip for a long time because of children, I'm kind of like you need to do that.
[886] And I understand being in a partnership and feeling like, can't you sacrifice that for something that we do together?
[887] What does he want to do?
[888] I guess I want also more information.
[889] He wants to do a bigger celebration trip, but we don't know what it is.
[890] Okay.
[891] And I think the thought is if she does the Scotland trip, there won't be enough money.
[892] Right.
[893] But also, I guess the question is, is that true?
[894] Right.
[895] He is very more frugal.
[896] Exactly.
[897] Exactly.
[898] He's more frugal, which is great.
[899] But what's the truth about the finances?
[900] Right.
[901] Maybe she could, like, make a budget and say, I think we have the funds to do this big trip together and for me to do this important thing for me. Maybe budget it all out and then present it to him and say, like, I don't think we have to do one or the other.
[902] I think both can happen here.
[903] Right.
[904] It seems like there's an issue.
[905] It's funny.
[906] I feel like my parents have like this exact problem and they're like over 70.
[907] And so it just can become something that's just difficult.
[908] And my dad almost went out and did this two -week trip on his own in Hungary.
[909] And I was like, why do you do it?
[910] Like part of me was just, okay, sure, go do it.
[911] But I could tell there was like a sadness to it.
[912] And he didn't end up doing it, which I thought was probably for the best.
[913] But anyway, that's kind of a separate story.
[914] But yeah, I think it's common with couples, right?
[915] That you're just approaching travel and money.
[916] I mean, money, right?
[917] Like, just differently.
[918] So I would want you to like plan something even better together or try and find a way to sort of do both and do it on a budget that feels good for you because, yeah, you should be able to do things you want to do, right?
[919] Yeah, especially before you have kids.
[920] I agree.
[921] And you're young.
[922] So if there's something that's going to be like a lot more expensive that you both want to do together and you feel okay sacrificing the Scotland trip for it, then maybe do that.
[923] But I would just sit down and like make a budget, make a list of different options.
[924] options, and then you might have more clarity on it.
[925] I think there's a difference, too, between becoming a dad and becoming a mom that she can maybe even bring up, because I understand feeling left out.
[926] And if she's going on this adventure, it's their 10 -year anniversary.
[927] So, yeah, I do think she should be thoughtful about making that anniversary special and celebrating it together.
[928] But I also think women having kids and men having kids is just like a total, like you become a different person.
[929] You know, you lose a lot of things.
[930] You'll gain so many things.
[931] Yes.
[932] But maybe that's also something that could be helpful for her to sort of discuss with him why this is so important that it's not just like I'm independent and obviously she is independent all that stuff but like becoming a mom in 2024 or in these days there is a loss of freedom there is and you won't be able to do things the same way that you used to do for a while you'll be able to eventually but for a while it won't be and it will never be this version anymore once you have a kid they are your priority for life yes not to say like you'll never do a vacation.
[933] Of course you will.
[934] But your brain changes, right?
[935] And your priorities change and your life changes.
[936] And so I think you should do what you want to do before that happens.
[937] Yeah.
[938] Okay.
[939] Let's see.
[940] I think we have time for one more.
[941] I want to end the relationship with my sister -in -law now that her and my brother are getting divorced.
[942] It's from Ashley.
[943] Hey, Monica and Liz, I need some advice on how to manage a delicate situation.
[944] My younger brother and his wife are in the middle of getting divorced.
[945] They've been married for two and a half years, but I've been together since they were 16, now 33.
[946] In all honesty, she's not a person I would ever gravitate towards in real life.
[947] She's judgmental, aggressive, and her anger almost always gets the best of her.
[948] In my family, anger has always been a big issue, and I've worked hard to keep mine in check and surround myself by people who keep a level head.
[949] Anyway, her and my brother have had a volatile relationship since the beginning, and they have two sons who have always suffered the consequences of this.
[950] During arguments, they would jump to harsh words and intense emotions, whether the argument was small or big.
[951] She always seemed to bring out the worst of my brother, and for that reason, I distanced myself from him while they were dating married.
[952] Anyway, my brother has finally stood up to say, enough is enough, and they're getting a divorce.
[953] Currently, they are working together to keep things civil, but there have always been a few situations that foreshadow a difficult divorce proceeding is coming.
[954] She wants to continue to hang out with me because she sees me as a friend and wants to have a relationship with my two children, but I would prefer to cut ties in order to pursue a better relationship with my brother.
[955] I used to be so close with him when we were kids, to get back to that place.
[956] He has been so much happier since asking for the divorce, and we've been hanging out a lot more.
[957] I don't want to risk messing that up.
[958] How do I broach this with his soon -to -be ex -wife without her being spiteful and using my nephews as leverage to get me to hang out?
[959] She's done that before even when they were married.
[960] Help.
[961] Oh, God.
[962] Sounds fun.
[963] I mean, for me, this is a no -brainer.
[964] And it's also, here we go again, boundaries.
[965] Here they are.
[966] They, like, you can just be straightforward.
[967] You can be straightforward.
[968] You can be straightforward, but also you don't owe her an explanation and a whole thing too.
[969] I think it's a pretty simple one text because sometimes I feel like we end up over explaining and it ends up kind of justifying their spitefulness or their anger or like you've done this horrible thing.
[970] To me, it's a simple, when she asked you to hang out, say, I really don't have the bandwidth right now, but I'll reach out when I do.
[971] Wishing you the best.
[972] Making it clear in your communication that you're not asking questions, you're not engaging, you're not really interested in that relationship.
[973] This goes back to what my therapist said once about boundaries when I'd ask, like, do I need to have a conversation?
[974] Do I need to tell them basically that I'm putting up boundaries?
[975] And she was like, no, you just put up the boundary.
[976] Exactly.
[977] So yeah, this does feel like that.
[978] And you're so fine.
[979] Like prioritizing your brother is exactly what you should do.
[980] And honestly, it's an out.
[981] This person has some toxicity.
[982] You felt it this whole time.
[983] It's created a faction between you and your brother.
[984] And so great.
[985] Time to start over with him.
[986] How fun.
[987] Right.
[988] And she doesn't need to be a part of it.
[989] And I can't get into it, but I had a similar situation.
[990] And I just would be cordial but distant.
[991] Yeah.
[992] In text messages or interactions, non -communication is communication.
[993] Sometimes the loudest.
[994] Exactly.
[995] And just preserving that distance.
[996] Because she's going to want to pretend like you guys are still close and that you're going to stay close.
[997] And you need to signal.
[998] that's not the case.
[999] You have every right.
[1000] It sounds like she's a difficult person, so if she comes back and if she's directly attacking you or questioning you, I think you could say at that point, I'm sorry you feel that way, I need to prioritize my relationship with my brother.
[1001] Exactly.
[1002] That's it.
[1003] The shorter, the better.
[1004] Yeah.
[1005] And then if they keep coming back, just ignore it.
[1006] I mean, that's the, like, it's sad because the children, but your brother will have time with the children, and you'll see the children then.
[1007] No, it doesn't even matter.
[1008] I don't, you know, they, you know, they sell.
[1009] have their parents.
[1010] They still have you as their aunt.
[1011] The kids don't need the aunt to be friends with No, I think the thought is would then she be removed from seeing the kid.
[1012] Like she probably, these are her nephews.
[1013] And so the thought is, will I not be able to see them anymore?
[1014] But you will via your brother.
[1015] Yeah.
[1016] Oh my God.
[1017] It's fine.
[1018] I don't think it will jeopardize your relationship.
[1019] Unless if she's super toxic, she can start talking shit about you.
[1020] Exactly.
[1021] Which is kind of a whole other thing, but yes, you can't.
[1022] And just be, be short and be cordial and focus your relationship on your brother.
[1023] And I think this is great.
[1024] Me too.
[1025] It worked out the way it was supposed to it sounds like.
[1026] Because it's hard when you have a sibling or even a friend and they're dating someone that you know is bad or that's not bringing out the best in them or that's mistreating them.
[1027] It's very difficult.
[1028] And in many respects, that can bring a lot of problems within the family and with the kid and all that stuff.
[1029] But I feel like this clear separation is a really good thing for everybody.
[1030] I agree.
[1031] Okay, great.
[1032] Great questions.
[1033] Keep writing in.
[1034] We get such beautiful, wonderful questions.
[1035] I just saw Anthem.
[1036] Thank you, Anthony's again.
[1037] Hi, Anthony.
[1038] Do you send another one?
[1039] No, it was just the one for last week.
[1040] Okay, next week is the big...
[1041] It is already next week.
[1042] Yeah.
[1043] I have like, my stuff is knock on.
[1044] Well, because also, I didn't realize how bad I am.
[1045] No. Well, not bad, but my body, there's something wrong with...
[1046] I'm not breathing.
[1047] I have not been breathing my whole life.
[1048] That's what I'm kind of realizing.
[1049] Yeah, you learned that, which is kind of a big revelation.
[1050] make revelation to me. And, like, when I breathe with my diaphragm, it hurts.
[1051] And I feel like I'm dying sometimes.
[1052] I'm in these exercises.
[1053] Not dying, but, like, there's something wrong with me. Have you ever done a thing?
[1054] Okay, lay down.
[1055] Yeah.
[1056] Put something.
[1057] A book.
[1058] That's one of my exercises.
[1059] But it's like the transnational ultrasound.
[1060] Oh, what?
[1061] Yeah, yeah.
[1062] It's that for my diaphragm.
[1063] Yeah, it hurts.
[1064] I've been storing a lot into my phlegis solar.
[1065] Solar plaxis.
[1066] In French, Canadian, they say Plexus Solar.
[1067] Oh, wow.
[1068] I guess I said it wrong.
[1069] So, yeah, I've been storing a lot.
[1070] Apparently, there's a bodywork guy I should go to.
[1071] Hannah told me to, but now I'm...
[1072] Don't add more doctors.
[1073] I know.
[1074] I just like, I just want to chill.
[1075] This was supposed to be like...
[1076] I mean, it has been relaxing.
[1077] It's been not so great for my roommate, I'm sure.
[1078] Not so relaxing for her.
[1079] It's been a nice experience, but I'm very afraid to perform.
[1080] In my first acting class in college, so like once you joined the acting programs was the first like real acting class.
[1081] The first day of class, the teacher said it was like a Monday, Wednesday, Friday.
[1082] She said, okay, on Friday, everyone's going to come in and sing a song for the class.
[1083] Terrifying.
[1084] And I was like, I quit.
[1085] I'm not doing that.
[1086] I'm not doing it.
[1087] But she said the reason is Because singing in front of people is the most vulnerable thing a human can do.
[1088] And once we all do this, we will know each other so much better.
[1089] We'll get that first vulnerability out of the way so that we can like, you know, act on each other and stuff.
[1090] So we should all say.
[1091] No. That's what we're saying.
[1092] You have you've done this and I haven't started my essay yet.
[1093] I mean, I'm so jealous.
[1094] I mean, thinking about you when I'm doing these fucking things, I'm like, man, I got the wrong end of the stick here.
[1095] I know, but this is your purpose.
[1096] Personal journey.
[1097] No, I chose.
[1098] No, I'm glad I did it because it's helped me. My month of January has been good because of this.
[1099] It's been something that's made me scroll less on my phone and just have a goal in life.
[1100] Yeah, yeah.
[1101] Direction.
[1102] And like this teacher I found is really sweet, even though she's just on my computer.
[1103] It's just a video lesson.
[1104] Like, she's very great at what she does.
[1105] That's great.
[1106] Yeah.
[1107] Okay, one more thing just to add right before we go, I just remembered that last week when we talked about beauty products, you talk about the Hydrogel.
[1108] A couple days ago, I was at Target, and it's under lock and key there, too.
[1109] It's behind the glass.
[1110] What is it?
[1111] Wow.
[1112] Maybe you can make, like, meth out of it.
[1113] There must be an active ingredient.
[1114] I think it's just, like, hot commodity.
[1115] No, they would put, like, if all things in Target, the hydrogel, NutriGina, no. That's weird.
[1116] I think there's more to this.
[1117] We should investigate for next week.
[1118] Yeah, let's go.
[1119] Cliff Hanger.
[1120] Yeah, that.
[1121] okay thanks for listening and we'll see you next week bye bye