The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett XX
[0] Did you know that the DariVosio now has its own channel exclusively on Samsung TV Plus?
[1] And I'm excited to say that we've partnered with Samsung TV to bring this to life, and the channel is available in the UK, the Netherlands, Germany and Austria.
[2] Samsung TV Plus is a free streaming service available to all owners of Samsung Smart TVs and Galaxy mobiles and tablets.
[3] And along with the Dyeravisio channel, you'll find hundreds of more channels with entertainment for everyone all for free on Samsung TV plus.
[4] So if you own a Samsung TV, tune in now and watch the Dyer of a Cio channel.
[5] right now.
[6] Steve's invented this groundbreaking concept called the chimp model, and it focuses on how there's these kind of three parts to our brain.
[7] The first part is called the chimp, which is our sort of desire to be impulsive and irrational and emotional and short term.
[8] The second part is what he calls the human, which is logical and rational, and thinks in terms of facts and thinks things through in the long term.
[9] And the third part is what he calls the computer, which is our set of core value, and beliefs.
[10] Steve's work focuses on how we can manage and control the interaction between these three parts of our brain.
[11] One of the things you talk about extensively is about forming habits.
[12] And a lot of people in my life recently, including myself, have tried to form habits, especially during the lockdown when so much of our lives was, our habits were broken, our cycles were broken because we were all trapped in our houses.
[13] So whether we, you know, had formed a habit of going to the Starbucks, then the gym in the morning or whatever, we had our habits broken.
[14] So I spent a lot of time thinking about how I could form healthier habits in my life.
[15] One of them was working out every day.
[16] But I, and one of the sort of, I guess, popular narratives is that if you do something for 21 days, it becomes a habit.
[17] What is the truth about habits and how we form them?
[18] I mean, there's a lot of research on this.
[19] And a little bit contradictory.
[20] Sure.
[21] So read and believe what you like.
[22] But, I mean, the general feel is that if you look at why we form a habit, it's either consciously done with a belief system under.
[23] unconsciously done.
[24] We aren't thinking about it.
[25] A common one, for example, a poor habit is, and I use this a lot when I do keynote speeches, to say to people, when you go home, if you with a partner that you love, how do you present to them when you arrive?
[26] And it's amazing how most people mourn, which, you know, they've not thought that what, they don't want to see somebody mourning, you don't meet someone and say, you could have this every day of your life, I'll come back and see, you know.
[27] So what you do is you walk in and think, what habit would you like and the belief then is if I go in mourning they could leave me yeah it's good damage now that's going to shift your habit so once you've turned the belief around this you're unconsciously doing it without thinking this is damaging and so if you actually sit down and work that out and put it in your computer system then when the chimp gets through the door it's not going to mourn because what the chimp has to do scientifically is consult the computer before it does anything it all happens in a tiny fraction of a second but it's a computer's programmed to say don't forget it will unconsciously remind the chimp, you need to be in a good place when you walk in because that's what they're going to decide and whether they're there the next night.
[28] So you start to recognize that being someone who moans all the time or complains when you first meet someone isn't ideal.
[29] So we have these unconscious habits which we're not aware of, which we can bring to conscious by starting to look at our life and say, is this how I want to be?
[30] But you have to ask the question.
[31] Or we have habits like we eat too much.
[32] Now, these are different.
[33] because the first one wasn't based on a drive, it's just based on a behavior that we've gotten to a pattern.
[34] The eating habits much more complex, because now you've got not only a behavior that we've got into, like eating too much or eating the wrong things, we're driven with an incredibly powerful survival drive to eat.
[35] So now we have to deal with two aspects.
[36] One is what is it the habit that we want to get and what are the beliefs we're going to underpin with this, and how we're going to manage this drive?
[37] How are we going to fulfill the drive in a way that our chimp's happy, that it's got its drive fulfilled, and we're happy.
[38] So now you really have to look at that.
[39] So that's a big battle.
[40] That's not an easy battle.
[41] But it can be won.
[42] It can be won.
[43] So again, habits are not straightforward.
[44] They need to be subdivided and say, let's look at unconscious, conscious, whether they're linked to drives or they link to some really bad experience.
[45] Sometimes we have a habit because they've got a bad experience.
[46] It's like you explained that you went through a really bad time with this girl.
[47] If it got repeated, God forbid, if it got repeated three or four times, you can see how your habit would be to distrust.
[48] And it would become a habit because your belief is that these women are not trustworthy.
[49] And suddenly your chimp generalises all women are like this.
[50] And you hear a guy saying this.
[51] And clear, that's so untrue, you know.
[52] And so with you, I'd be looking and saying, when you meet this, what are you looking for in the girl?
[53] Are you looking at physical looks?
[54] looking at, do they make me laugh, or are you looking at their values?
[55] So we can actually start looking at how you're choosing your partners.
[56] And that might help you to avoid the behavior, the habit of picking up what you might then define as the wrong person.
[57] And worse even to blame yourself then instead of saying, right, let's analyze this.
[58] So again, there's habits there where it's based on your belief of what you've experienced or you're letting your chint make decisions instead of your human saying, hang on, can I make decisions from a more rational basis than just keep deciding on an emotional basis?
[59] Did you know that the Darioviceo now has its own channel exclusively on Samsung TV Plus?
[60] And I'm excited to say that we've partnered with Samsung TV to bring this to life and the channel is available in the UK, the Netherlands, Germany and Austria.
[61] Samsung TV Plus is a free streaming service available to all owners of Samsung Smart TVs and Galaxy mobiles and tablets.
[62] And along with the Dyer of a CO channel, you'll find hundreds of more channels with entertainment for everyone all for free on Samsung TV Plus.
[63] So if you own a Samsung TV, tune in now and watch the Dyer of a CEO channel right now.