Ditch Debt and Solve for Freedom

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[1] I'm Ramsey Personality, George Camel, joined by my good friend and bestselling author, Mr. Ken Coleman.

[2] And we are taking your calls this hour at AAA 825 -5 -225.

[3] I'm the money nerd in the group, so I'll be happy to take your money calls and help you take that right next step.

[4] And Ken, of course, is going to help you with that shovel, making more income.

[5] Getting to work.

[6] Maybe it's a job switch.

[7] Money, money, money.

[8] Is that your new theme?

[9] Yeah, yeah.

[10] All right.

[11] You know, Dave says your greatest wealth building tool is your income, and I'm the guy that helps you figure out what that is, or how do we get more money?

[12] So, yeah, I thought so.

[13] I wanted to also test out the falsetto early.

[14] I was impressed.

[15] One more note, and we would have been taken off the air.

[16] I think so.

[17] Hey, it was too good.

[18] I don't think so.

[19] Too good for radio.

[20] By the way, George, the lobby is absolutely packed.

[21] You would think Bono is next to me with this kind of electric crowd out there today.

[22] and we're going to have a good time.

[23] We're going to meet them during the break, so your friendly reminder to come visit us.

[24] Let's get to the show.

[25] Dan awaits in Gettysburg.

[26] What a historic place that is.

[27] Dan, how's it going?

[28] Going pretty good.

[29] How are you?

[30] Great.

[31] How can we help today?

[32] So I had a question.

[33] Just want to make sure that me and my wife are on the right track with our budget, and we're hitting kind of a snag whether or not we should move because our neighbor is causing us issues with the apartment.

[34] that we rent.

[35] Wow, that's quite the snag.

[36] I'd like to know more about this.

[37] Bothersome neighbor.

[38] I like a little drama.

[39] What's going on with the neighbor?

[40] People want to know.

[41] Well, so, me and my wife are, as Dave would say, scorched earth with our budget.

[42] And we really started in April and tackling our debt.

[43] We have about $48 ,000 in debt.

[44] And our apartment's fairly cheap, but it's connected.

[45] and since we're not eating out anymore and we're cooking from home, the smells are bothering the neighbor from cooking, and it's like we're only getting like two, three hours of sleep at night now.

[46] Wait a second.

[47] I'm so confused.

[48] There's a lot to – can I unpack little, George?

[49] All right.

[50] You're telling me your neighbor is upset by your cooking smells.

[51] Yeah.

[52] What are you cooking?

[53] Can't breathe.

[54] What are you cooking?

[55] Oh, well, you know, like last – you know, like last night we just did chicken and noodles, and that kept her up for about four hours.

[56] What time are you cooking?

[57] We cook at about, you know, five, six o 'clock at night, you know.

[58] And so wait a second.

[59] So hold on.

[60] There's a lot here.

[61] So you cook at five or six o 'clock, and you're cooking pretty basic stuff like chicken and pasta.

[62] And the neighbor, is it a woman or a man, the neighbor?

[63] It's just a single woman.

[64] She's older.

[65] And she's older, and she's saying that it's keeping her up because of how aggressive the smell is.

[66] Yeah, I mean, we got a text at 2 in the morning saying she was going to call the fire department on us.

[67] Please.

[68] At 2 in the morning?

[69] I would love to see them show up and say, what's the issue here?

[70] Well, first of all, can you smell it?

[71] Why are you answering a text at 2 in the morning?

[72] Turn the phones off and put them in another room?

[73] Yeah, no, I'm not answering it.

[74] I call the landlord, and the landlord wants her out, but he's having trouble getting her out.

[75] I'm guessing this is not her first issue.

[76] She sounds like a trouble maker.

[77] No, no, yeah, yeah.

[78] What's the problem?

[79] Right now, me and my wife are determining, like, should we move to another apartment with a higher rent, or should we just keep?

[80] Keep cooking, and I would just push her out with.

[81] In fact, you guys aren't even cooking.

[82] Like, I cook something with a lot of garlic.

[83] I'd really double down on the smelly stuff.

[84] Like, how about some fish?

[85] drive the old lady out the landlord wants her out anyway why in the world and i'm having some fun with this uh but but why in the world would you move to a higher rent just because she's griping over just nonsense yeah uh just just just because it's just mental wear and tear why is it no okay what's the mental wear and tear i don't understand it's some grumpy old lady why you just ignore oh no yeah well no i mean well no i mean well Well, because they're conjoined apartments, and she has the upper court.

[86] Well, like, she'll stop around and, like, scream and yell, and we can hear it through the entire apartment, and that's what's waiting us off at night.

[87] She's screaming at you, or is this a different situation?

[88] A couple times.

[89] A couple times she has.

[90] I think this needs to go to the landlord, and if she wants to get the authorities involved, let them.

[91] Because it sounds like she's about to be moving out.

[92] I think you take it to the landlord and fight.

[93] instead of giving into this crotchety old lady.

[94] I'm guessing landlords on your side with this saying, yeah, she's a problem.

[95] I'm sorry.

[96] Yeah, he's trying to get her out.

[97] Can they move you to a different unit for the same price?

[98] No, no, no, it's a duplex house.

[99] Okay.

[100] So it's not like a complex.

[101] Well, how much longer are you going to be here?

[102] Is this your long -term renting situation?

[103] Well, we don't want it to be.

[104] That's why we don't want to go up to higher rent, because we have like $48 ,000 in debt, and I have a plan to have all of our debt paid off except for my school bill, which will be $35 ,000 at the end of the year and then get that done by in a half of a year because we make like $7 ,500 a month.

[105] And so we want to eventually work to get a house of our own.

[106] I'm going to tell you this.

[107] I'm jumping in, Dan, for a second, because the nature of this call is really not financial.

[108] This is an emotional and a mental thing that you're dealing with.

[109] And I get how much of a pain in the, you know, what it is.

[110] But, George, unless I'm missing something, this would be a bad financial move for you guys.

[111] I would sit down.

[112] This is me. But I love confrontation.

[113] All right.

[114] So I understand not everybody likes confrontation.

[115] I'd sit down with the old lady.

[116] I'd record the thing.

[117] And I'd go, ma 'am, this is what you're doing.

[118] You're stomping.

[119] You're screaming.

[120] We are going to record all this and document it.

[121] and we are going to sue you.

[122] We are going to drive you out of here if you don't stop this nonsense.

[123] So we're recording everything from this moment on.

[124] We are not leaving.

[125] You are not.

[126] Stare the old lady down and just go, we're not going to lose.

[127] You are going to lose.

[128] And here's how we're going to ensure that.

[129] And I would just double down on it.

[130] I really would.

[131] And get the landlord to kick her out.

[132] Or she stops this nonsense.

[133] That's what I would at least try that.

[134] You got nothing to lose, George.

[135] It's a little bit more confrontational than your style.

[136] At first I thought, well, maybe they're in the wrong here, but it doesn't sound like that's the case.

[137] If she did that to me, I'd go get a drum set and I'd play the drums.

[138] I'd fight fire with fire.

[139] I would.

[140] I'd go get a bass drum and beat on that thing until - I'm not petty.

[141] Dan is a nice guy.

[142] Dan, you don't want to do any of this.

[143] Yeah, well, I'm a, I work two counseling jobs, and I'm a youth pastor, so.

[144] Bless it.

[145] Maybe you should try to counsel her.

[146] Give her some free counseling.

[147] Of course I'm having fun with this, but Dan, I wouldn't give in on this.

[148] I'd drive her out through the landlord.

[149] Not at the cost of moving costs and moving out, the more expensive apartment.

[150] I'm going to stick this out and see what happens in the next few months and really put some pressure on the landlord to do something about it.

[151] Yeah, I gave him a deadline last time, yeah.

[152] It might escalate before it gets better, but I would not make any moves right now.

[153] you guys are on track to get rid of this debt fast i don't want to derail that because of some cranky old lady she's got some get off my lawn energy and we won't stand for that i would try cooking some the most passive aggressive move is to cook some fish ken's like microwave some five day old salmon see if that gets her out of there just smoke her out of there yes sir let's go more of your entertaining and real calls coming up triple eight eight two five two two five this is the ramsie show i've been doing this show for over 30 years and some of the saddest calls I have taken are from situations that are completely preventable.

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[203] All right, Nicholas is up next in Michigan.

[204] What is going on, Nicholas?

[205] Hey, my name is Nicholas.

[206] And at 18 years old, I moved out of my home state of Missouri, where my family owns several companies and businesses.

[207] And I went into the collision field, got my associate's degree in collision technology, and really hit the ground running, built a life for myself here in Michigan, and about a year and a half ago bought my first house, put $25 ,000 down on $125 ,000.

[208] Whoa.

[209] At 16?

[210] No, I am currently 25, but when I was 17.

[211] Oh, oh.

[212] Okay, I got you.

[213] So I, you know, moved out to Michigan and started my life.

[214] I was, like I said, my family owns several companies in Missouri, and I always kind of felt not really under their thumb, but just kind of in their shadow a little bit.

[215] So I moved out to, like I said, Michigan started my life in my own industry, the collision industry, and I met early young woman there.

[216] We've been together for six years.

[217] It's the only relationship I've ever been in.

[218] Like I said, about a year ago, I bought my first home.

[219] And about six months ago, I was listening to Dave's TikTok, and he told, he said on there that not many people can become successful or be millionaires while dragging somebody else with them.

[220] And that really got me into thinking.

[221] She's never worked.

[222] She's never gave into our, you know, checking account.

[223] She's never really done anything to help us financially.

[224] She's really only been a homemaker.

[225] And about two weeks ago, I rented my house out, told her that she needed to leave.

[226] And I'm planning on moving back to Missouri.

[227] And I would just want to know if Dave thinks that that is the right choice or not.

[228] Well, it sounds like it's too late, regardless.

[229] Well, yeah, I'm just kind of struggling with my decision right now.

[230] So you kicked her out because she wasn't working.

[231] You said she just wanted to be a homemaker, and you guys were never even engaged?

[232] Yeah.

[233] And you're upset that she wasn't adding to your checking account?

[234] I'm confused by your decision to even combine your life with this person before marrying them.

[235] Well, you know, I, for a long time I was too, but like I said, This has been my only relationship, and I really wanted it to be my last, if that makes any sense.

[236] And I don't really know.

[237] I'm a pretty financially, I feel like, stable person.

[238] You know, I drive a 2012 Mini Cooper that's paid for.

[239] I bought a house well under what I could afford.

[240] I make about $90 ,000 a year.

[241] But if you split that in between two people, you know, it's a little over $40 ,000 each, and I just can't.

[242] Do you guys have kids?

[243] You guys weren't married.

[244] You're playing house.

[245] you're right yeah i i i agree and and hold on hold on hold on hold on hold on hold on this is the gal you said you wanted to be your only relationship and you kicked her to the curb because she wasn't really bought in and does that mean she was anti what we teach or she just wasn't engaged there's a big difference well very anti i would say like was she racking up dead she exactly brand new car you know, I mean, wanted to just continue.

[246] But you had to sign the dotted line on all of those loans.

[247] Yes, exactly.

[248] You're right.

[249] So I want to make sure that you understand you are fully responsible.

[250] I know, yes, sir.

[251] So we've been working for the last, I don't know, probably three weeks on getting everything split.

[252] Her parents are actually going to be taking over her car loan, and we're getting all of our bills separated off of my checking account and stuff like that.

[253] But like I said, I'm really struggling because for the last six years, it's been me trying to get her, like, just, you know, get an income.

[254] Go just work.

[255] If you bring anything into the table, that's enough.

[256] Like, I just can't do it all by myself.

[257] Hey, Nicholas, the more troubling issue is not the income, but just that she is in complete opposition to the way you want to handle money.

[258] And so for that reason, I'm fine with this breakup.

[259] I think it's the right move.

[260] But I just don't think it's as much about her being a homemaker.

[261] and not wanting to work.

[262] The issue is that she's really opposed to being on the same page with you and got you to do things that you know aren't right.

[263] Yeah, I completely agree.

[264] And I think...

[265] So I think it's a good move, but now you're regretting it because you miss her.

[266] Yeah, that's where I'm at, exactly.

[267] I think you broke up with her for the right reasons, George.

[268] Yeah.

[269] I feel like I'm choosing my finances over her.

[270] Well, I do think you have been aggressively focused on building this career, and very focused on finances and income, which is good, but you've almost got a flat tire.

[271] And my worry is if you continue down this path, you'll be great at saving money, and you will be miserable, and you won't have any healthy relationships, your spiritual life's going to be in shambles.

[272] And I think for a young guy, I love your drive and your hunger, but you can't let that be your entire life.

[273] And my thing is, if you guys had a kid, would you be okay with her not working and being at home taking care of the kid?

[274] Yeah.

[275] Are you sure?

[276] Yeah, but you wouldn't be okay with her.

[277] being on the other side of the page on debt and everything else.

[278] That would be potentially destructive for your marriage.

[279] George, do I hear, I think he, I think he should have broken up with it.

[280] Oh, I'm not saying it wasn't the right move.

[281] I think your regret comes from the fact that you poured in a lot into this relationship.

[282] Six years is a large majority of your life when you're 25 years old.

[283] And you waited too late.

[284] My concern is you waited too late.

[285] You co -signed for all this stuff.

[286] You hope she plays ball.

[287] You hope she goes along with all of this.

[288] Yeah, you guys combined your life before you were even aligned in life.

[289] And that, that to me, is the big problem here, and that falls on both of you.

[290] And so I don't think, I think the regret will pass.

[291] You'll meet someone new, but you've got to get Nicholas healthy first so that the next relationship doesn't end the same way, where you go, what do you bring into the table financially?

[292] That's the wrong way to look at a marriage.

[293] I agree.

[294] Okay.

[295] Well, thank you.

[296] I'm sorry you regret it.

[297] I wouldn't blame Dave.

[298] I would blame your lack of getting alignment on vision and values and goals before.

[299] you structured your life together?

[300] Do you have advice how to better do it with my next one, I guess?

[301] Yeah.

[302] How to move on, I guess.

[303] Yeah, before you get in a serious relationship, you talk about money.

[304] Okay.

[305] You say, what are your values around debt?

[306] I think this is probably a third date conversation.

[307] I really do.

[308] I think it's early on.

[309] I'm going to say third date.

[310] You know, it doesn't mean you're talking about combining finances and getting freaking the girl out.

[311] You don't need to ask about income and all that.

[312] No, but just talk about how do you view money?

[313] How do you view debt?

[314] How'd you grow up with money?

[315] What were your parents like?

[316] Yeah, you need to find somebody who has got shared values on this issue.

[317] Money is as big a cause of marital strife as anything, George.

[318] Yeah.

[319] What's the big ones?

[320] Money, politics, religion.

[321] And kids.

[322] That's the big one, too.

[323] Yeah.

[324] So I think it's okay as you get further along in a dating relationship to start talking about things.

[325] Not further along.

[326] I'm sticking with third date.

[327] Third day.

[328] What do you say?

[329] Yeah, I'd say a few months into the relationship.

[330] A few months.

[331] Yeah.

[332] You've got to get to know.

[333] That's a lot of time and money invested to find out that you're not alike.

[334] There's a lady in the lobby that's going my third day.

[335] She's saying third day.

[336] Why waste each other's time?

[337] What are we doing?

[338] Wow.

[339] What are we doing?

[340] So the other part of my question is I, like I said, I rented my house out now.

[341] I'm in a really good loan place on it.

[342] I owe $100 ,000 on it.

[343] It's worth about $170.

[344] And I'm thinking about moving home back in, you know, being around my family.

[345] Do you think that that's a good decision?

[346] I don't know why you'd move backwards unless you're financially destitute and needed to.

[347] You've already started your life of independence.

[348] You've got a good financial spot.

[349] I don't see any need to move home.

[350] You don't need that landing pad right now.

[351] You're going to be okay.

[352] Nor do you want to be a long distance land.

[353] Yeah, I would sell it if you do plan on moving home and restarting.

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[376] I'm George Campbell, joined by Ken Coleman.

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[378] Brea joins us up next in Seattle, Washington.

[379] Brea, welcome to The Ramsey Show.

[380] Thank you so much for taking my call.

[381] Absolutely.

[382] How can Ken and I help?

[383] Hey, so I've got some medical debt out the wazoo.

[384] I've got going all the way back to, I think, about 2018.

[385] Most of it has gone to collections.

[386] We hired a financial planner recently, and his advice to me, because we had a lot going on in our life right now, is to just ignore the debt, and it'll fall off my credit, and just don't pay attention to that right now.

[387] I can kind of see where he's coming from, but at the same point, I just feel a little icky, not paying attention to the debt, but I'm wondering if he has a valid point.

[388] Well, why did he make that point?

[389] Do you have a lot of other debt to focus on right now?

[390] We've got some credit card debt, but my husband's salary just tripled, and our housing being paid for.

[391] So we're knocking it out pretty fast.

[392] So what's your total debts?

[393] List them out for me. So in credit cards, I would say we have about, we have one $5 ,000 credit card.

[394] We have another $2 ,000 credit card.

[395] um, a $300 credit card.

[396] Um, we just paid off our car.

[397] And then we've got, um, I think another $1 ,000 credit card.

[398] What have you been racking up on these credit cards?

[399] Um, so that we just, I guess the brutally honest answer is that we've just kind of been irresponsible.

[400] My husband did take a sales job last year and he was commissioned only.

[401] And I started to have seizures, and so he had to take a few months off.

[402] Was that the medical debt from the seizures or what?

[403] Yeah, the medical debt is from the seizures as well as we also stupidly took out credit cards to be able to get by during those time.

[404] Are you guys done with credit cards?

[405] Yeah, I'm done.

[406] I don't even have a physical credit card anymore.

[407] I've just tossed them.

[408] Well, they're still all tied to your account, so you can go make purchases on them still, right?

[409] Yeah, yeah.

[410] So we need to cut ties.

[411] We need to actually close the accounts, and then we can begin paying them off.

[412] Remove all the card info, stick to the debit card, and even then, you've got to be on a tight budget.

[413] Because what is your income now that your husband's salary has tripled?

[414] Right now, he's making about two to three grand a week.

[415] I don't know what that is monthly.

[416] It tripled, and now it's two grand a week?

[417] Um, well, his, his, sorry, I think I misspoke, his commission for sales tripled.

[418] So they tripled So they tripled commission for each sale.

[419] Got it.

[420] Okay, so he's making somewhere between eight to ten, eight and ten grand, maybe 11 on a great month.

[421] Yeah, yeah, 11 grand in your, and you're currently not working?

[422] I'm a stay -at -home mom.

[423] Okay.

[424] How many kids do you have?

[425] I have two, I have a three -year -old and a one -year -old.

[426] Okay.

[427] And how much medical debt do you have?

[428] So you laid out the credit cards.

[429] You've got $8 ,300 in credit card debt.

[430] What's left on the debt?

[431] For the medical bills, that's the other thing I'm struggling with is I went through my bills and I called each hospital and I asked them to send me their information for collection agencies like where they send their debt to.

[432] And I'm in the process of making all those calls, but I would say...

[433] Have the collectors not reached out to you?

[434] They have, and And I'm ashamed to say that I've ignored their calls.

[435] And so this is kind of a panic call, I guess.

[436] Well, the key is you need to start being proactive.

[437] You need to be calling them saying, here's the situation, here's where I'm at, here's what I can pay.

[438] And because these debts are older, they may be willing to negotiate and settle.

[439] The first thing I would do is get itemized bills from each hospital.

[440] Okay.

[441] And if the collectors cannot provide it where every single dollar went to, then they legally cannot collect on that.

[442] And so you need to look up the Fair Debt Collection Act.

[443] make sure that they're following it by the book.

[444] And then worst case, you might be able to settle on this for, you know, a quarter of what you actually owe.

[445] But you have no clue what you owe.

[446] How many thousands of dollars?

[447] I know that the bills that I have physically seen show up at my door, I would say at a minimum I owe around like 15.

[448] $15 ,000.

[449] And how much money do you guys have in savings?

[450] Right now we only have about $2 ,000 because we paid, we've been paid.

[451] paying out of pocket for medical care because we're in between insurance, so we don't have much savings.

[452] Okay.

[453] And you guys have insurance in place now?

[454] Yeah, we have a health share.

[455] Okay.

[456] Well, my advice, maybe against the financial planners, is to not keep ignoring all the debt.

[457] It's kind of why you guys ended up here.

[458] You've had your head buried in the sand, spending as you will, buying whatever you want, and then looking up going, la, la, la, la, one day we'll deal with this.

[459] So you and your husband need to sit down and have a great.

[460] grown -up conversation about what are all the debts we owed.

[461] What is our game plan?

[462] I'm going to follow the debt snowball method in the baby steps.

[463] That's paying the debt smallest, the largest, and let's see if we can settle with the medical debt once we get a clear picture.

[464] And you can pull your credit reports to get a clear picture.

[465] You can pull them all from each credit bureau.

[466] Go to annual credit report .com.

[467] You can pull all three for free.

[468] Okay.

[469] So that would be my first step.

[470] Okay, I love that.

[471] And, but listen, the collectors are supposed to be mean and scary and rude because that's their job, but you are in control.

[472] And if you just remember that, take a deep breath, and you control the conversation, you tell them what you can do, then they will start to play ball.

[473] But their goal is to scare you and push you into a corner where you do exactly what they want.

[474] And once you make it clear to them that you're not going to do what they want, but you're willing to do something, then the whole conversation changes.

[475] So trust us on this, and you hold tight, hold firm in that conversation, and then they'll start to play ball.

[476] And never give them access to your checking account.

[477] Ever.

[478] Okay.

[479] Get everything in writing.

[480] Whatever they say, say, I'm willing to do this, but you need to get it in writing.

[481] You need to email it.

[482] You need to snail mail it.

[483] I'm not making any moves until I get in writing.

[484] And that's a very good point.

[485] Record the conversations as well.

[486] Record the conversation and tell them, if they refuse to give you something in writing, go, you're holding this up.

[487] And I'll be happy to talk to your manager and start dropping in the Fair Debt Collection Act.

[488] Yeah.

[489] Start dropping stuff like that at him and go, I'm not doing anything.

[490] You're the one holding this up.

[491] And get names of every single person you talk to, get down what day and time you called.

[492] You need to document all of this like a detective.

[493] So then all of a sudden they realize they can't push you around.

[494] I like that.

[495] I will definitely do that.

[496] Do you see how this is all proactive instead of reactive?

[497] Proactive instead of reactive.

[498] That's what you need to be.

[499] Reactive is how we got in this mess.

[500] Proactive is how we get out.

[501] You happen to the debt collectors.

[502] Don't let them happened to you.

[503] That's what we're saying.

[504] Got it?

[505] I love it.

[506] Thank you.

[507] Yeah.

[508] Thank you so much.

[509] Be strong.

[510] Don't be afraid to growl at them.

[511] You know, I'll throw them off.

[512] Okay.

[513] That might also, yeah, I might scare them.

[514] If you start growling on the phone, did you imagine?

[515] That's actually kind of funny.

[516] I'm not saying it'll work, but it's a strategy.

[517] It's probably not going to work, but I think it could turn the tables a little bit.

[518] Might get him to laugh.

[519] And I'm also going to hook you guys up with every dollar premium.

[520] And what you're going to do, once you get this tool, you're going to list out all of the income for the month.

[521] The husband's every single commission he thinks he's going to get.

[522] Let's list it out then all of our expenses.

[523] And my guess is once you do that budget, you're going to find, oh my gosh, we brought $11 ,000 this month.

[524] Where is it going?

[525] We make great money.

[526] And you realize your expenses, your bare bones expenses add up to $4 ,000.

[527] Well, there should be $7 ,000 in these couch cushions if we look closely that we can throw with the debt.

[528] In total, even if you paid off the medical debt as it stands and the credit cards, it's about $23 ,000.

[529] You guys make way more than that.

[530] You could kill this debt within a few months if you really grind it.

[531] And so I think this is going to be a memory and this is going to be the first day you guys happened to your money instead of it happening to you.

[532] So hang on the line.

[533] We're going to send you every dollar premium.

[534] Christian and Taylor will pick up and they'll make sure to get you that.

[535] And for those of you wondering how to start paying attention, maybe you're like our friend Brea and you're going, everything's been a mess.

[536] I don't know where to start.

[537] I'm telling you the budget is the place.

[538] I know it's scary to look in that financial mirror and actually go, oh, that's how much debt we have.

[539] Oh, that's the interest rate.

[540] Oh, here's what our paychecks actually add up to.

[541] Instead of just kind of the, you know, thoughts and prayers mentality, fingers crossed, let's just hope we have enough money through the end of the month.

[542] That's what's caused America to be broke.

[543] We're just hoping and reacting instead of being proactive.

[544] Hashtag money and margin.

[545] That's what it's all about.

[546] That's hashtag thoughts and prayers.

[547] Because most of the time, it's really not an income problem.

[548] They're making great money.

[549] They're just not doing anything with it other than letting it disappear into the abyss.

[550] So that's what it takes to get control and It's possible for you.

[551] Get started.

[552] Everydollar .com.

[553] You can get started budgeting for free and make that intentional spending plan.

[554] Hey, when you go against what society thinks is, quote, normal, like avoiding debt, for example, it might seem weird at first, and that is totally okay.

[555] We want you to be weird if that means doing things intentionally, including how you spend your health care dollars.

[556] And one way to be intentional is with Christian health care ministries.

[557] CHM isn't health insurance.

[558] They're a health cost -sharing ministry that's helped hundreds of thousands of families, like yours, take care of health care costs without sacrificing their freedom.

[559] Find out more and join at chmistries .org slash budget.

[560] That's chmistries .org slash budget.

[561] Welcome back to The Ramsey Show.

[562] I'm George Campbell, joined by Ken Coleman.

[563] Open phones at AAA 8255.

[564] Well, Ken, it's Financial Literacy Month, and one of the ways that we are celebrating is taking questions from students at high schools that are going through our foundations and personal finance curriculum.

[565] And today's question comes from Ava in Illinois.

[566] Considering the whole goal of the baby steps is to never go into debt again, is it advisable to freeze your credit?

[567] That is a mature question from a high schooler.

[568] I love that question.

[569] It is.

[570] They're already thinking about credit in a good way, I might add.

[571] So yes, the goal of the baby.

[572] steps is to never go into debt again.

[573] Hopefully you haven't gone into debt if you're 16 or 17.

[574] That's what I love about this curriculum, Ken. The students are going through it.

[575] They're avoiding the mistakes.

[576] I just ran into someone yesterday.

[577] I was getting a cookie.

[578] And she said, I recognize you.

[579] I'm going through the curriculum right now.

[580] And I was like, that's amazing.

[581] She's going, I'm paying cash for my car.

[582] Nice.

[583] I'm saving up.

[584] I'm not going to go into debt.

[585] Was this at the mall?

[586] This was at a cookie store.

[587] It's a new one called Whitney's Cookies in downtown Franklin.

[588] You should stop by so you're grabbing a cookie.

[589] Grabbing a little gluten -free cookie at the festival yesterday.

[590] I love it.

[591] So anyways, yes, it is advisable to freeze your credit.

[592] And here's what that looks like.

[593] There's three main credit bureaus, and you can go on to their websites or call them, and you can freeze your credit.

[594] What that means is nobody can create a credit account under your name, using your Social Security number.

[595] And this is something many people do to, it helps you avoid identity theft, and it helps you avoid going into debt, because they have to, you have to unfreeze the credit in order to open an account.

[596] And so the only time you might need to unfreeze it temporarily is, let's say you're getting pre -rease it.

[597] approved for a mortgage.

[598] And that's really the only time.

[599] And you can simply unfreeze it.

[600] They'll run your credit to make sure that you don't have any delinquencies.

[601] Then you can freeze it again.

[602] So it's really no big deal.

[603] And so I would absolutely recommend freezing your credit and checking your credit report once a year from that website I mentioned earlier in the show, annual credit report .com.

[604] No affiliation.

[605] It's just the actual, you know, it's the one you want to go to.

[606] It's free.

[607] Don't pay to have this done to run to pull your credit.

[608] This is different from a credit score.

[609] Their credit report is actually showing all of the accounts that you have open, and we'll give you a clear picture and help you avoid fraud.

[610] If you see anything weird on there, you can dispute it.

[611] So, I love the question, Ava.

[612] Absolutely freeze your credit, and you will avoid a world of hurt and pain.

[613] Thank you for that.

[614] That gives me a lot of hope in the next generation.

[615] All right, let's go to the phones.

[616] Adam is in Bozeman, Montana.

[617] What's going on, Adam?

[618] Hi, George.

[619] Hi, Ken. Thanks for taking my call.

[620] Sure.

[621] What's happening?

[622] So I was just calling, I'm getting ready to really start attacking my mortgage, and I got in three years ago with interest rates being extremely low, and I was just wondering if it's more advisable to throw the money at the mortgage account with a low interest rate, or if it would be better off in like a gross stock mutual fund or a high -yield savings account and then pay it all off in one big chunk at the end.

[623] This is a classic existential question in today's world, Adam.

[624] And it's a tough one, truthfully, because we get harangued for this in the comment section on the internet.

[625] They're going, you should never pay down your low -interest mortgage.

[626] Keep it forever.

[627] And I'm going, do you guys understand the options you have when you don't have a mortgage payment?

[628] You can, like, move if you want to.

[629] And what I'm hearing, Ken, as people go, I have a low -interest mortgage, I'm handcuffed to it because I can't sell the home because then I'll have to go get another mortgage that's going to be at a 7 % rate.

[630] Right.

[631] So number one, Adam, you're choosing freedom.

[632] You're solving for freedom when you pay down the mortgage.

[633] And we can do the nerdy math and go, here's how much you're paying in your amortization schedule towards interest.

[634] Here's how much you could make in a high -yield savings.

[635] Right now, it's about 5%.

[636] Is that accurate?

[637] Yeah, 4 .7 is what I currently have.

[638] Okay.

[639] And your mortgage is at a two something or three?

[640] Three and a quarter.

[641] Okay.

[642] So if you actually did the math and what you'd be making, do you actually have enough to pay down the mortgage today in savings?

[643] no not today i'm looking at about probably a 12 year schedule okay so if you wanted to nerd out for a second to do a mathematical equation you could see how much money you'd be making in that high yield savings account over the next five years and i can almost guarantee since you don't have the money in full today that you'd be better off paying down the mortgage because of how much interest you're paying on the front end when you look at that amortization schedule you'll notice that most of it is going towards interest and only a small percent goes to the principal And as you start paying it down, it starts to switch.

[644] And so I would almost guarantee that right now, without even seeing the math, it would be a better bet for you to have that guaranteed interest by paying down the mortgage and building equity versus investing it in a high -yield savings account.

[645] Okay.

[646] That's the math side.

[647] Yeah.

[648] And the emotional side, like I mentioned, I'm a guy who did exactly what I'm telling you to do, which is pay down the mortgage regardless of what the market is doing, what high -yield savings are doing.

[649] because you also got to remember high -yield savings accounts, they're at pretty amazing rates right now, but that could fluctuate.

[650] That's variable.

[651] It could go down to four.

[652] It could go down to three over the next year or two, whereas your mortgage, you're always going to pay that 3 .25 % on a few hundred thousand dollars on that mortgage balance.

[653] And I would encourage you to go look at your amortization schedule and everyone out there.

[654] If you have a mortgage, go look at what you're actually paying an interest per month and add it up over the course of a year.

[655] It will make you want to hurl.

[656] It'll make you want to get rid of that mortgage.

[657] So that's my thoughts, Ken, anything to add to that?

[658] Well, I would just say for our money audience, I don't think the Fed's going to do anything on the interest rates anytime soon.

[659] You may see something towards the end of the year, but the days of the super low rates are gone.

[660] They're not coming back anytime soon, but the flip side of that is, and quite frankly, I'm okay with it because I want to get more for my savings.

[661] So I think, like you were describing, I just would let the audience know that you're getting an elevated interest rate.

[662] And I think that while it may fluctuate some, I think it's going to stay higher for those that are savers.

[663] So that high -yield savings account, that rate's going to stay at a pretty nice number, I think, for the near future and maybe distant future.

[664] Yeah.

[665] And the only time it really works out on paper is if you have the exact amount of your mortgage sitting in savings working for you.

[666] And most people, they don't.

[667] They're not in that situation.

[668] And he didn't either.

[669] But just a side note, I just because people are paying attention.

[670] and they think the Fed's going to come rescue them.

[671] And right now, the Fed's kind of backed into a corner because they can't lower rates right now.

[672] Well, spending is still so hot.

[673] They're not really cooling inflation.

[674] Well, here's a fun little term.

[675] I know James loves it when I talk economics.

[676] Can I guess?

[677] Is it stagflation?

[678] We are now officially in stagflation.

[679] Most of you don't know what that is.

[680] You may remember it from sixth or seventh grade.

[681] But that's where the GDP shrunk the last quarter.

[682] and inflation went up.

[683] And so when you see the economy, the GDP, the gross domestic product, when it is shrinking and inflation is increasing, you are officially in stagflation.

[684] So the Fed, for those of you that are paying attention to this in an election year, plus the fact that consumer spending is still high, inflation is spike, they're really, their hands are tied.

[685] So maybe that's a little too nerdy, but I'm telling you that's where we stand.

[686] So now it's good for savers.

[687] Debt is bad.

[688] It's always bad.

[689] it's even more ugly right now.

[690] Well, we always say, you know, broke people, pay interest, wealthy people earn it.

[691] And so that's one of the keys of getting out of debt.

[692] And I'll tell you, I have the best mortgage interest rate of all time right now.

[693] It's 0%.

[694] And the way you get that is by paying off your mortgage.

[695] And we found that as people do this, they don't call in and say, can I regret it?

[696] I could have made more in my savings account.

[697] I could have made the spread on the 1 or 2%.

[698] It's simply not worth the mental calories, the emotional weight.

[699] and it sounds silly to people who love to do the math, but there is such emotional mental freedom.

[700] Yeah.

[701] Well, you know, for years, Dave called it financial peace.

[702] We still, you know, refer to it as financial peace.

[703] And while we put the word financial in front of it, it really is peace.

[704] It's peace in that I'm not worried.

[705] It's peace in that I've got options.

[706] You know, people that have a lot of margin and no debt in their life, they can change and make moves anytime they want to.

[707] switch careers, move different states.

[708] A hundred percent sell the house, go somewhere.

[709] So, you know, if you want to be stable in an unstable economy, then follow what we teach.

[710] Because no matter what the Fed's doing, no matter who's president, no matter who controls Congress, you're just pretty much like you realize how much those people don't matter.

[711] Yeah.

[712] You realize how much of a circus it is watching the news freaking out.

[713] They want you to freak out about what's happening in the economy.

[714] Yeah.

[715] And so if you're truly freaked out about what's happening, happening the economy, what could happen, then we would all be paying off our mortgages if we truly believe that.

[716] Well, I agree.

[717] But why would people do that when Congress is continuing to spend trillions and trillions and trillions of dollars?

[718] It's just, it's debt is just okay.

[719] It's just a necessary evil to so many people, except for us.

[720] And that's sad, and we're converting people.

[721] America's number one in a lot of things and consumer debt is at the top of that list We are leading to charge All time high The national deficit All time high We keep beating our own personal best, Ken It's amazing It's really exciting There's nothing we can't do Well I tell you what If it were financial Olympics We'd be winning huh That puts this hour of the Ramsey show in the books My thanks to Ken Coleman My co -host everyone in the booth Keeping the show afloat And you America will be back Before you know it Live from the headquarters of Ramsey Solutions it's the Ramsey Show, where we help people build wealth, do work that they love, and create amazing relationships.

[722] I'm Ramsey Personality, George Campbell, joined by bestselling author of Money's Not a Math Problem, Jade Orshaw.

[723] We're taking your calls at AAA 825 -5 -225.

[724] You call in and we'll help you take the right next step for your life and your money.

[725] And remember, it's just our opinion, but we are experts on that, at the very least.

[726] So let's kick it off with Tim in Los Angeles.

[727] on, Tim.

[728] Hey, George and Jade.

[729] I appreciate you for having me. Sure.

[730] How can we help?

[731] Yeah.

[732] Yeah, I'm in a weird situation.

[733] I used to work with my parents.

[734] They started a company eight years ago, and I ran production for them.

[735] Every time I asked them for a raise, it was just an excuse, and we can't afford it, blah, blah, blah.

[736] So I left, and I'm working for their biggest competitor right now.

[737] Juicy.

[738] Wow.

[739] Yeah, they got really upset about that.

[740] I can imagine.

[741] Did you do that for spite?

[742] Well, whenever I would ask for a raise, if you can't pay me, and I'm working my butt off for you, you know?

[743] Like, I'm just going to wait on the spite.

[744] Got it.

[745] All right.

[746] Yeah.

[747] I'm like, what the heck.

[748] Own it.

[749] Okay.

[750] So he, ever since I was 10 years old, if my dad doesn't get his way, he calls the cops.

[751] and I just turned 28.

[752] So this happened last year when I was 27.

[753] Okay.

[754] He called the cops saying that I was going to go home and unalive myself.

[755] Oh, wow.

[756] Yeah, because he wanted me to work for him again.

[757] They bought a $2 million house.

[758] And when I left, they realized they're losing money because they don't know how to run production.

[759] And now I'm working for the biggest competitor.

[760] and so he calls the cops and lies to them about saying that you're going to do something really bad to yourself and that they need to show up he realized he was losing money so he asked me to work for him again but how is this the solution to like make you lose your job or something and then you have to come crawling back to him like what was his strategy here and that's what it seems like well what happened next when so the cops come and then what happens the cop yeah so he asked me to work for him again.

[761] I said no. He calls the cops and they put me into a hospital.

[762] I wasn't even there for a day.

[763] I told the doctors what was going on, you know, and they let me go.

[764] But I have a $16 ,000 medical bill because of all that.

[765] What's the 16 ,000?

[766] Just you going in the emergency vehicle?

[767] That and then being in the hospital for almost the day, I guess.

[768] Yeah.

[769] And you didn't have health insurance?

[770] At the time, no. Oh, boy.

[771] Oh, boy.

[772] Okay.

[773] Yeah, because that's just writing in an ambulance.

[774] Yeah, and you're wanting him to pay it because he caused this, which of course, he's not going to do.

[775] I told him if you ever want to see me again, you have to have a check.

[776] And he said, you're not getting a penny from me. Oh, wow.

[777] Well, I'm so sorry.

[778] This is beyond.

[779] I would call this the last straw.

[780] And I'd be done with this relationship because clearly he is.

[781] he opted out i want to make sure you know that tim because i know there can be a lot of guilt and shame and baggage that comes with a hurt relationship especially one is close to a father and son but this is not on you he opted out of this relationship and you need to just move on now the medical bill might be on you to take care of because truthfully as as jacked up as many of the things are in this situation the one thing that is on you is you didn't carry you medical insurance.

[782] And so it came back to bite you in the butt in a sucky kind of way, but here we are, you know, so I, unless you're trying to get lawyers involved, which I probably would advise against.

[783] The only option is to try to sue him for the 16 grand.

[784] Yeah.

[785] And I don't, I personally doesn't seem like any of this is worth that.

[786] Mm -hmm.

[787] So what do I do about the, because I'm the type of person.

[788] I'm not in debt.

[789] I have no debt.

[790] Then just pay it, dude.

[791] You pay it.

[792] You can see if they'll be willing to sell.

[793] Do you have that money?

[794] Do you have that money?

[795] and savings?

[796] Well, I do, but I feel like I shouldn't even pay it.

[797] I'm like, I...

[798] This is, listen, this type of situation, I think John might say, like, not by your hand, but in your lap kind of situation.

[799] You know, there's a lot of dysfunction here.

[800] There's a lot of unhealthiness here with the relationship with your dad.

[801] And he chose to do something that he made a decision, but the reaction of it, the consequence of it ended in your lap.

[802] And part of that, you know, yeah, you didn't have the insurance to cover it, and you'll learn your lesson from that.

[803] But kind of what George was saying, your choices here are you can either go after him legally for that money, but that's not going to end well.

[804] Like, it's just going to further deteriorate what's already going on.

[805] It's going to take your mental energy, emotional energy, physical energy, financial energy, just to fight this.

[806] And y 'all have already gone tit for tat, right?

[807] Like, I wanted a raise.

[808] They wouldn't give me a raise.

[809] So I'm going to, for spite, go work at, you know, their competitor.

[810] He's going to do that.

[811] Well, I'm going to, you know, call the police on him.

[812] So you guys are going back and forth.

[813] Somebody's got to stop, like, the crazy cycle.

[814] Somebody's got to go, enough is enough.

[815] I'm going to be the bigger man and make a choice that the other guy isn't going to expect.

[816] Because he's expecting you to retaliate, right?

[817] And so just be the bigger man and go, okay, if I have the money, I'm paying this or I'm settling this, and I am dusting the dirt off my feet and I am moving on.

[818] And that's kind of what I was, like, do you think I should pay it then?

[819] It's not in collections, is it?

[820] It's just with the hospital still?

[821] Yeah, it's just still with that.

[822] I would contact their financial office and sit down with them and explain to them the situation and see if they'll have some mercy on you and maybe they'll forgive it.

[823] Maybe they'll cut it down and you just write them a check and be done with it.

[824] But I would at least try to fight in that regard.

[825] Yeah, especially if you didn't have any real care.

[826] Like you might not like the the ride in the ambulance, that's like 5Gs without even thinking.

[827] But if you look through that bill because they get asked for an itemized bill and really go through and say like did you give me this?

[828] Did they do that and really get on the phone with them and say, listen, here's what happened.

[829] All of a sudden, that 16 grand turned into seven once you asked for an itemized bill and go, what did you actually charge me for?

[830] And if you can get proof from the police or otherwise, some actual legal proof that this was fraudulent, that he did this out of spite and there was no real merit behind it.

[831] They may wipe it for that reason.

[832] I don't know.

[833] But it's worth at least digging into.

[834] Okay.

[835] Okay.

[836] Yeah, and looking at the automites bill.

[837] I think they let me go.

[838] I wasn't even there for a day.

[839] I explained about the situation.

[840] And if they've no proof after running testing, you know, so I would, I mean, we're not lawyers.

[841] You may want to contact one just for a consultation to see what your options are to try to get this removed.

[842] But man, the harder part is just realizing that you just lost a relationship with your father.

[843] Yeah.

[844] That's going to sting more than the 16 grand.

[845] We can pay off debt.

[846] We can't repair an unreparable relationship.

[847] Yeah.

[848] And for that, I'm truly sorry.

[849] But the good news is you're healthy.

[850] You're here.

[851] You've got the money.

[852] You've got the to pay it off.

[853] I'm going to just learn from this and move on.

[854] If you have to get a restraining order on this guy and make sure the cops are aware of, hey, if this guy ever calls on me, know that he is just a spiteful crazy man. But goodness, I cannot imagine being in that situation.

[855] Yeah, the hardest part for him is going to be not to retaliate because that's the pattern that they have with each other.

[856] Well, and that resentfulness, that'll stick with you if you're not careful.

[857] And you start to drink your own poison thinking that it's going to hurt the other person.

[858] That's true.

[859] And so, Tim, you might want to just go to counseling and therapy to deal with the loss of your father, in a sense.

[860] Because I think that grieving is going to take some time and maybe some professional help.

[861] So I'm sorry you're going through it.

[862] Glad you're on the other side soon.

[863] Hopefully you'll be back to debt -free in no time.

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[879] Madison is up next in Atlanta, Georgia.

[880] Madison, welcome to the show.

[881] Thank you so much.

[882] And thanks for your time.

[883] I appreciate it.

[884] How can we help?

[885] So I recently found myself unexpectedly and kind of traumatically facing a divorce.

[886] I'm 52 and I did not have time to kind of do a long plan.

[887] It was a matter of space being needed to file for divorce.

[888] But my question is we do not have any retirement, but we do have some rental properties.

[889] and I'm trying to figure out the wisest move.

[890] If my husband has offered, we could split them up, we could form a company and keep them together, but honestly, that's not going to work with the dynamics.

[891] So it's kind of, is it wider to hold on to a couple or just liquidate?

[892] And I'm trying to get a pulse on what I want so we can move to the next phase of negotiating.

[893] and what's the bigger financial picture here where are you living do you have any debt do you have income sure so well my husband i have been a stay at home um wife and mom for most all of the marriage so his income is 270 ,000 a year okay and then another 26 ,000 from our rental properties per year okay how many rentals are there thank you so we have um right now are they paid for or they have mortgages on them they all have mortgages and um most of them i do know the cash flow and the equity of them but they do have mortgages okay and if you sold all of the rentals and after paying the mortgages and the realtor fees how much would you net combined as a couple around 800 ,000 and you would split that evenly um it would either be evenly with space, yes.

[894] It would be 50 -50.

[895] I, to be honest with you, I am going to ask for more, but 50 -50 is definitely okay.

[896] So that's option A is you walk away with about $400 ,000 that you can then use to invest.

[897] Correct.

[898] Okay.

[899] And do you have any other debt other than the rental property mortgages?

[900] We do.

[901] So we have one credit card that's $32 ,000.

[902] One is $22 ,000.

[903] Now, to be honest with you, it's not a – negotiations are not done, but his intention at this point is to take on that debt, is what he's told me. I don't know that I can 100 % count on that, but he plans on – But this debt is in both of your names currently?

[904] It is.

[905] Okay.

[906] And what other debt outside of the credit cards?

[907] Outside of the credit cards would be two vehicles.

[908] So one has a payment.

[909] It's a Jeep of 636.

[910] What's the full amount you owe?

[911] I believe the full amount we owe on that is 12 ,000.

[912] Okay.

[913] And the other one?

[914] And then the other one is going to be about 35 ,000.

[915] Why in Tarnation have you guys been racking up all this debt when you've had a household income of $270 ,300 ,000?

[916] at 52 years old Well, there's some personality dynamics and a strong personality So you're saying these were all his decisions?

[917] Pardon?

[918] These were all his decisions?

[919] Yes.

[920] But you co -signed on them.

[921] Your name is on all of the debt.

[922] On most of it, yes.

[923] So you're working with the lawyer.

[924] You're working with the lawyer, right?

[925] Or are you guys trying to do this?

[926] amongst each other?

[927] So I have a lawyer, and to save on lawyer fees, if we can work out what we can without the lawyers, whatever we can agree on, I'm trying to do that.

[928] Okay.

[929] And then, you know, utilize my lawyer as needed, but it's obviously he's a high -end lawyer and it's expensive.

[930] And you're going to have some serious spousal support after this is all said and done?

[931] I am going to get spousal support.

[932] I need to find out what my rights are as far as how much.

[933] He has offered me a certain amount.

[934] What is he offered?

[935] Just so we can have something numbers -wise.

[936] Yeah, no, I appreciate it.

[937] He offered like $4 ,000 a month.

[938] I counted with $45 ,000, but I think I'm entitled to more based on what he makes, but $4 ,500.

[939] And then he said he would pay all the bills.

[940] like that would just be so all the debt would go to him correct interesting i don't i i might take more spousal support if he can if you can get a hundred grand a year from his 270 you'd be better off and use the the proceeds from the rentals to knock out all the debt together so i would do some serious math before agreeing to it on face value and i would talk to your lawyer about what makes the most sense financially because long term i'd rather have you have a double the income versus gone well i don't have to deal with the debt right which is a short term problem however the one debt that I would want to be dealt with is these mortgages.

[941] Like, if I were in your shoes...

[942] I'm cleaning.

[943] Just clean slate.

[944] Yeah, I would not want to be on any of this property with him.

[945] I would not want to set up any sort of business.

[946] I would say, let's cut our losses.

[947] We sell them.

[948] You split the profits.

[949] And then that's that on that.

[950] Clean break.

[951] So you have over $100 ,000 in consumer debt.

[952] Are you living in the house that you guys lived in together?

[953] And is there a mortgage on that?

[954] We have...

[955] We are not living together.

[956] and we sold the home that we were living in together.

[957] What happened to the proceeds of that home?

[958] I have, we split that, and I, 50 -50, I have, so that wasn't a lot because it was only a year old, but that's like 32 ,000, and I have, it was 60, I have half of that, I have 32 ,000 of that in my bank account.

[959] Okay.

[960] We're also selling another property.

[961] Not one of the four?

[962] Not one of the four.

[963] It was another one we were going to move into, and that one should net a lot of, $170 ,000 in profit.

[964] And you get half of that?

[965] And we will say split is 50 -50.

[966] That's guaranteed.

[967] So you get another $85 ,000.

[968] Great.

[969] Is that all the money to your name then?

[970] The 32 and the $85?

[971] Nothing in retirement.

[972] And that's all, everything you have in savings.

[973] Okay.

[974] And where are you living now, by the way?

[975] What's your living situation?

[976] So I moved out and I'm staying with my adult daughter.

[977] So I've been like kind of living on a couch and out of a car and trying to figure out.

[978] Oh, out of a car.

[979] Yeah, well, like my belongings are in storage, but then the things I needed are in the back of my car.

[980] So I've really been displaced and just trying to figure out, I don't want to, I want to put down roots somewhere that I know I want to be.

[981] And that's going to probably be an out -of -state move.

[982] And it's just been pretty traumatic with, you know, it's kind of a, I would say, lifetime movie, but really like a date line movie.

[983] Yeah, because it sounds like you were fleeing something.

[984] and I hate that for you.

[985] It was abusive.

[986] No, yeah, it was abusive.

[987] And I would have never, ever used that word before, but it was, and it became unsafe.

[988] And I had to literally leave when he went out of town within a couple days.

[989] Well, and I'm proud of you.

[990] I'm proud of you.

[991] That takes a lot of guts.

[992] Thank you so much.

[993] I'm sorry you're going through it, but I know it's the healthiest best thing for you, as much of a nightmare as the situation is.

[994] So let's recap, and we'll give you some next steps.

[995] I would absolutely sell all of the properties and get as much as you can out of all of that.

[996] I would fight to get as much spousal support as you can.

[997] And if he wants to take on the debt, that's fine.

[998] If you need to split it and you pay half of it, he pays half and we call it square.

[999] You need to just cut all ties with this man other than the spousal support, which is part of it.

[1000] That's part of the deal.

[1001] And at that point, you'll be debt -free.

[1002] You'll have a giant pile of money.

[1003] And at that point, I would contact a smartvestor pro.

[1004] You can do that at ramsysolutions .com.

[1005] and they can help you make a plan for a few hundred thousand you have sitting there.

[1006] Maybe part of that is fully funding retirement, maybe part of it's in a brokerage account outside of retirement, but they can help you with that.

[1007] And I'm also going to have our team send you this article.

[1008] It's on our website, and for those of you that wondering, we'll put it in the show notes, how to survive divorce, protect yourself and your finances.

[1009] That's on the Ramsey blog, and I'll have our team Kelly and Christian will pick up.

[1010] They'll send you a link to that, and we'll also drop in the show notes for anyone watching.

[1011] I also want to gift you, Madison, a free financial coaching session from one of our trained Ramsey Financial Coaches because there's a lot to unpack here.

[1012] I want to make sure that we take care of you more than we can in a five -minute radio call.

[1013] So hang online, we'll gift you that, and everyone else, tune in for that article.

[1014] This is The Ramsey Show.

[1015] Welcome back to the Ramsey Show.

[1016] I'm George Campbell, joined by Jade Warshaw this hour.

[1017] And in the lobby of Ramsey Solutions on the debt -free stage, we've got Steve and Julie here.

[1018] How are you guys?

[1019] Good.

[1020] How are you?

[1021] Good.

[1022] Where are you guys from?

[1023] South of Raleigh, North Carolina.

[1024] North Carolina.

[1025] Well, thanks for making a trip to celebrate debt freedom with us.

[1026] This is exciting.

[1027] How much have you guys paid off?

[1028] We paid off $217 ,000.

[1029] Okay.

[1030] And how long did that take?

[1031] That took about six and a half years.

[1032] Uh -oh.

[1033] I'm sniffing something out here.

[1034] This is about to get interesting.

[1035] And what was your range of income during that time?

[1036] We started out making about 200 combined and finished up right around 320.

[1037] Amazing.

[1038] What do you guys do for a living?

[1039] Well, I work in Oncology, research.

[1040] I'm an early childhood educator.

[1041] Wonderful.

[1042] Awesome fields.

[1043] And what type of debt was this 217?

[1044] That was our mortgage.

[1045] Bingo bongo!

[1046] There it is, Jade.

[1047] You were sniffing it out.

[1048] I was a bloodhound over here.

[1049] I'm like 217 ,6 and a half years.

[1050] That's exciting.

[1051] Wow, we're looking at weird people here.

[1052] Not that you guys look weird.

[1053] You look wonderful.

[1054] But that is a weird thing to do.

[1055] So take us back six and a half years ago.

[1056] You had this mortgage sitting around.

[1057] What happened?

[1058] We actually moved.

[1059] We actually took a little step back in our journey, took on a little bit more mortgage, moved to be a little closer to our kids' school.

[1060] And through that time period, we just decided we wanted to finish it early.

[1061] We took out a 10 -year mortgage instead of 15, but put it off in 6 .5.

[1062] A lot of people don't know you can even do that legally.

[1063] They're all 10 years.

[1064] So you pre -decided that you.

[1065] that you didn't want this mortgage hanging around.

[1066] We did.

[1067] We didn't know exactly how long it was going to take because we had a lot of other things happening in that six and a half years.

[1068] We had three kids to go through college.

[1069] We paid for that and a wedding.

[1070] Cash flowed all of that.

[1071] Wow.

[1072] And our daughter's wedding.

[1073] Very good.

[1074] You guys are impressive.

[1075] Thank you.

[1076] Okay.

[1077] So what got you on this Ramsey journey?

[1078] How did you hear about us and what influence did we have?

[1079] I think the first time we heard you was actually on the radio show.

[1080] and we were just kind of going about life like people normally do or what we thought anyway we used credit cards we had car payments and one day we just decided we had enough of that and that kind of started the journey wow very cool and then you do the move and you go you know what yeah we don't want this mortgage hanging around we're going to pay it off early let's do a 10 year and you paid it off in six and a half right wow yeah so three and a half years ahead of schedule if you just made normal payments.

[1081] And yeah, we had a low interest rate mortgage.

[1082] Yeah, I know.

[1083] You guys, oh, my gosh.

[1084] Yeah.

[1085] Wow.

[1086] And you stand here before us living to tell the tale of paying off the mortgage in light of how much you could have made.

[1087] Exactly.

[1088] Did people ever think you were crazy for doing that as you talk to your friends?

[1089] Because you're a smart guy in our oncology research or early childhood.

[1090] You know, people go like, what are you doing?

[1091] Or did you not talk about it?

[1092] We don't necessarily talk about it with our, like, our parents.

[1093] so much because they are of the mindset of you should keep your mortgage.

[1094] So we don't need their opinion.

[1095] Really?

[1096] We love them.

[1097] We don't want their financial advice.

[1098] Have we had people look at us like we had three heads when we talk about it?

[1099] Yes, we have.

[1100] Wow.

[1101] And look at you now, totally free.

[1102] No regrets.

[1103] No regrets.

[1104] What's this house worth?

[1105] It's worth around 680, I think.

[1106] Oh my goodness.

[1107] Very cool.

[1108] And what's in retirement, nest egg, all of that?

[1109] Somewhere around 1 .5.

[1110] Oh my goodness.

[1111] So you are well beat.

[1112] You were already Baby Steps Millionaires.

[1113] We are.

[1114] Long ago.

[1115] Yeah.

[1116] But now you don't have a mortgage.

[1117] That's right.

[1118] That's right.

[1119] Wow.

[1120] Can I ask how old you two are because you seem pretty young?

[1121] You got a lot of life ahead of you with no mortgage.

[1122] Thank you, George.

[1123] I appreciate that.

[1124] Maybe not her age, but yours.

[1125] I just turned 54.

[1126] Okay.

[1127] I'm 53.

[1128] That's awesome.

[1129] Amazing.

[1130] Yeah.

[1131] So what now?

[1132] What do you do?

[1133] I mean.

[1134] You've reached the pinnacle.

[1135] Yeah.

[1136] travel.

[1137] Maybe step seven.

[1138] Do all the things.

[1139] Lots of travel.

[1140] Lots of giving.

[1141] We have a brand new grandbaby.

[1142] Oh, that's so spoiling the grand number.

[1143] That's A1.

[1144] Yeah.

[1145] So what's the first thing you did or will do now that you're completely dead free?

[1146] So we actually paid the mortgage off a couple months ago.

[1147] And that was right after our youngest son finished college.

[1148] So we just finished with that.

[1149] And we took a week to Maui.

[1150] Oh, my goodness.

[1151] Just you two?

[1152] Just us too.

[1153] Just us too.

[1154] It's actually our second trip to Hawaii, so we're maybe going a third time.

[1155] I love it.

[1156] Oh, my goodness.

[1157] That's exciting.

[1158] Yeah, yeah.

[1159] Wow.

[1160] So how does it feel to be completely debt -free?

[1161] For people that don't know what that's like?

[1162] It's just really hard to describe when you do your budget every month, you realize you have all this margin that you can give more to people, and I don't know, it's just really an amazing feeling.

[1163] That's fun.

[1164] It gives us options.

[1165] Yeah.

[1166] We have choices.

[1167] Now you can work because you want to instead of until you have to.

[1168] Right, yes.

[1169] That's incredible.

[1170] Yeah.

[1171] And I see there's some people here on the side of the stage.

[1172] Who are these people that have joined you today to celebrate?

[1173] It's our daughter Katie and son -in -law, Joel, and our granddaughter, Charlotte.

[1174] Oh, my goodness.

[1175] That's so sweet.

[1176] I'm glad the granddaughter's here to witness this.

[1177] She'll go back on YouTube and be like, that's my grandparents.

[1178] Yes, she will definitely remember this.

[1179] That's incredible.

[1180] So what do you tell people the key to becoming totally debt -free house in everything is?

[1181] My answer is, I think the two of us working together, having combined goals, a combined vision, and just executing that plan together.

[1182] I mean, before we were not aligned and now we are, and that's been huge.

[1183] I will say for a lot of years, I wanted for us to just use debit card only, and we were just doing the points, credit card kind of thing, and I just knew the more I pushed, it was not going to help.

[1184] And finally, he just came to the realization.

[1185] on his own one day and we just really got on board and dialed down the budget and just the shared goals really helped.

[1186] Wow.

[1187] Yeah.

[1188] How do you get there, Steve?

[1189] Like one day you just wake up and you go, all right, fine.

[1190] I'll do it her way.

[1191] I'm a little slow, George, but eventually it happens, right?

[1192] Eventually at 54 you might wake up and go it's time for it change.

[1193] It happened a little earlier than that.

[1194] Thank goodness.

[1195] Yeah.

[1196] Well, you guys are inspiring.

[1197] I hope I'm like you one day living and giving generously with a grandbaby now.

[1198] I got an eight -month -old now, and so you start to think about legacy and, you know, what really matters in life.

[1199] And money has went from an obstacle for you guys to a tool.

[1200] Yes.

[1201] That's the best part of all of this.

[1202] And the cool thing is we're able to teach our kids as we went.

[1203] They watched this whole process.

[1204] Exactly.

[1205] So we have changed our family tree with our own children.

[1206] We have three children, Katie, and then her two brothers.

[1207] Wow.

[1208] Yeah.

[1209] Who couldn't be here to join us today.

[1210] What a difference.

[1211] They're celebrating.

[1212] online.

[1213] Yes, they are.

[1214] Well, this is exciting, guys.

[1215] This is the moment we've all been waiting for.

[1216] So we've got some gifts for you, some parting gifts, and that's two every dollar premium subscriptions.

[1217] And you can use those, you can give them away, maybe to the kids, maybe their friends who thought you were crazy, the ones cheering you on.

[1218] But this is an exciting moment.

[1219] So we'll be sure to give you those as you head out today.

[1220] All right, here we go.

[1221] It's Steve and Julie, Raleigh, North Carolina.

[1222] $217 ,000 paid off in six and a half years, house and everything, making 200 all the way up to 320.

[1223] Count it down.

[1224] Let's hear a debt -free scream.

[1225] Three, two, one.

[1226] We're dead free!

[1227] Baby steps millionaires in our midst, Jade.

[1228] They're all around.

[1229] And you might not know it.

[1230] Because my guess is Steve and Julie live pretty normal lives if you just saw them walking down the street.

[1231] Ten -year mortgage.

[1232] That's all I have to say.

[1233] What a flex.

[1234] Ten -year mortgage paid off in six and a half years.

[1235] Y 'all out here flexing with your fancy cars with a $1 ,000 payment attached, they're out here flexing with their 10 -year mortgage they paid off in six and a half.

[1236] I know that's right.

[1237] They said, no flex.

[1238] They freed up a few grand, and they're not here to impress anyone.

[1239] They just want to make an impact, leave a legacy, go to Maui, enjoy their life, and they did it all with cash.

[1240] And I love that they gave up the game.

[1241] Yeah.

[1242] They were saying, yeah, we used to be those people.

[1243] We did it for the points, and we had our payments, and life was okay, but it wasn't like this.

[1244] Yeah, this is different.

[1245] They weren't levitating with freedom.

[1246] And that's what I love is when you stop playing someone else's game, you zoom out and you go, oh, I was just a rat in the credit card company's maze.

[1247] I just, I also love the example of patience, you know, when Julie was like, hey, I could have pushed harder and harder, but I just, I let him come to the conclusion and he did.

[1248] I just love that.

[1249] And then once that happened, it was game on on the same page.

[1250] I'm telling you, shared goals, shared vision.

[1251] They have a better marriage.

[1252] They're communicating more.

[1253] And now they can do whatever they want, which means less money fights.

[1254] It's amazing how that works.

[1255] Yeah, probably very, now the money fights.

[1256] well we went to Maui last time I want to go to that's right that's really the arguments now is where we're going to go on vacation next I'm happy to have that be my worst marital problem well folks I hope that inspired you guys as much as it did us that is the power of the baby steps everyday people living out the principles becoming debt free leaving a legacy that's what this is all about this is the Ramsey show this is the Ramsey show I'm george Campbell joined by jade warshoff the number to call is triple eight two five two two five We've got a lot of events happening around here.

[1257] One of those is a brand new one called Dave Ramsey's Investing Essentials.

[1258] And at this event, Dave Ramsey and myself, we're going to deep dive into investing.

[1259] And for the first time ever, Dave is going to unleash his personal playbook on investing, including how he buys real estate, which is something that he has not done at length, which is really cool.

[1260] So this is a two -night virtual event happening May 21st and 22nd.

[1261] And because it's online, you can watch from the comfort of your own home.

[1262] so you don't have to worry about us being in your town because you get to watch.

[1263] We're coming to you.

[1264] And investing is something that you all ask us to dive deeper on all the time, and this event is our response to that.

[1265] So we're going to start with the basics, build a foundation, and then get into specifics, some 201 and 301 content, mutual funds, real estate, investing traps and trends, how to maximize your 401K, and a whole lot more.

[1266] So join us.

[1267] Tickets are $249, but you can tune in with your spouse and you don't have to get another ticket, so that's nice.

[1268] go to ramsysolutions .com slash events and get your virtual pass today and join us May 21st and 22nd.

[1269] And yes, you can watch the replay.

[1270] I think we're giving them a week with the standard pass to watch it.

[1271] So if you miss it, you'll have many, many days to enjoy it and tune back in and catch the replay.

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[1273] You're going to want it.

[1274] Ramsey Solutions .com slash events.

[1275] All right.

[1276] Tony is in Salem, Oregon.

[1277] Coming up.

[1278] What's going on, Tony.

[1279] Hi, George and Jade.

[1280] Pleasure to talk with you.

[1281] Yeah.

[1282] My beautiful wife and I are in Babysipset 4, 5, and 6.

[1283] But we're wondering if we have too much locked up in sinking funds.

[1284] Ooh.

[1285] Let's talk about it.

[1286] How much you got?

[1287] And what's it for?

[1288] Yes, we have $42 ,000 in emergency fund that's not a thinking fund.

[1289] $10 ,000 in travel, $11 ,000 for taxes, insurance, and our kids' school, $8 ,000 for medical, $5 ,000 for home maintenance, and $3 ,000 for gifts slash Christmas.

[1290] Well, let's see, gift slash Christmas.

[1291] Christmas tax medical school travel there was another one in there that I missed you went through them pretty quickly but it sounded like it sounded necessary um do you think any of these are overfunded currently I like the insurance that if something comes up because the way our budget is set up I feel like even though everything's fully funded we still month to month you know the end of the month and we're down to nothing so are you unable to cover other expenses or because of these sinking funds?

[1292] What is it holding you back from?

[1293] Everything's covered.

[1294] I just feel like we can't budget to some of these things in our current budget is out of my paycheck.

[1295] So this is the peace of mind that's come to.

[1296] I think you're choosing one thing over another and I think it's your choice to make by funding these every single month.

[1297] Yeah, you're taking away some of your monthly cash flow because you're saying, no, we are going to take a trip and you have to probably put some caps on these, I would think.

[1298] Like, is the trip going to be more than 10K?

[1299] or is that enough?

[1300] Like, does it need to be something that's continually on there?

[1301] Same thing with, you know, taxes, school, and insurance.

[1302] Only you know if you've hit that mark or if you've exceeded it or if you still have some to go.

[1303] But let's just say where they're at right now, let's pretend that they're fully funded.

[1304] Then all of a sudden that money is back in your month -to -month budget.

[1305] But if you say, well, some of them are fully funded, some of them are not, then that is a little bit more cash flow.

[1306] Or if you say, no, no matter what, I constantly want to be putting towards these, then you've made the choice that at, for comfort, like, you're forsaking month -to -month comfort of having extra margin for a year -round comfort of knowing, hey, we can take a vacation at the drop of a hat.

[1307] Yes, it's more the latter.

[1308] They're fully funded, and we like to just, on a wind, go travel.

[1309] Today, we can cover it.

[1310] I don't have to think about it.

[1311] Then I think that that's the choice you've made.

[1312] Nothing seems broken here.

[1313] I would just, it's almost like you're wondering have I gone overboard.

[1314] And the truth is, like, for the medical, what is the 8K for, exactly?

[1315] We're on a high -deckle plan, and so when I first went to that, my wife was nervous.

[1316] So I said, I will fund an account just to pay for medical, and we've yet to turn in a receipt over three years.

[1317] So at some point...

[1318] And that's where I'm like, that might be unnecessary.

[1319] You have an emergency fund.

[1320] If there truly was an emergency that went above and beyond, you could either cash flow it or dip into the emergency fund temporarily.

[1321] And so for some of these, I would just go, are these actual expenses that will be coming up within the next calendar a year?

[1322] or is this just the like, oh, crap fund?

[1323] And truly, that's your emergency fund.

[1324] I also think there's something to be added to this, whereas you guys kind of just got to baby steps four, five, and six.

[1325] So it's taken some time and it's taken clearly a lot of your budget to make this happen.

[1326] But to George's point, the deductible fund, it's done.

[1327] Like, you don't have to keep adding to that.

[1328] There was another one in there that I feel like it was for 5K.

[1329] The home maintenance.

[1330] Yeah, home maintenance.

[1331] It's like...

[1332] Are you spending 5K a year on home maintenance currently?

[1333] Because if you're not, you might want to scale.

[1334] that back down.

[1335] Unless you're saving up for a remodel.

[1336] But then it's like, okay, if you're saving up for a remodel.

[1337] So I think it's just you guys...

[1338] Or the roof needs to be repaired in two years.

[1339] Let's save up.

[1340] Yeah.

[1341] To make sure we have that funded.

[1342] So I think you're fine.

[1343] You're probably overthinking it, if anything.

[1344] And I would make sure you're investing 15%.

[1345] Do you have kids?

[1346] We have one son.

[1347] And you're funding some into a college fund?

[1348] Everything.

[1349] Yep.

[1350] We're making actually more in our house payment every year.

[1351] But thank you for his school, it's private school as well as putting into college.

[1352] Good.

[1353] And I still...

[1354] I'm at a point where I feel the light at the end of the tunnel.

[1355] We're 280K away from a debt -free scream.

[1356] It's going to happen.

[1357] Awesome.

[1358] Good.

[1359] You guys are dialed in, man. I can throw more of this towards it.

[1360] And just make sure you enjoy life.

[1361] I love that you have the vacation travel fund because it tells me that you are wanting to enjoy some of this money.

[1362] And that's how I see it is just make sure you don't get a flat tire.

[1363] Are we giving enough?

[1364] Are we spending enough?

[1365] Are we saving and investing enough?

[1366] If you got all three of those covered, you've got a rich, healthy life.

[1367] Perfect.

[1368] So, yeah, thanks for the call.

[1369] that's a fun that's a fun question it is a fun no heartbreak here yeah i think you know i think that when you need sinking funds they're a really great tool you know if you like to have the extra for you know your deductibles if you want to fund multiple you know vacations ahead of time i think it's a great tool and so for those who that don't know what we're talking about here with sinking fund let me clue you in a sinking fund is simply a way to save up for a bigger purchase over time instead of needing the money that month and not having it ready so if you know you're going to $1 ,200 on Christmas in December, and it's January, well, we need to fund $100 a month into a savings account in order to make sure we have that money, so on and so forth.

[1370] And so as you go through, you know, home maintenance, a vacation.

[1371] If you know you've got the vacation coming up, let's save over time instead of trying to muscle our way through it within a month or two.

[1372] And so that's the whole point, is you're being proactive, you're thinking ahead instead of being reactive and hoping.

[1373] I think in many cases, though, for a lot of folks, it's a way to make sure that no matter what, they never touch their emergency fund.

[1374] Like when you start doing a separate one for, you know, your deductibles and things like that, I think there's part of you there that's like, no matter what, I don't want to touch this emergency fund, which I can 100 % understand.

[1375] Oh, yes.

[1376] And most people that do this, they're like, they haven't touched the emergency fund.

[1377] Because really what happens is as you get this financial foundation under you, you sort of get better at things.

[1378] You buy higher quality items.

[1379] You do the proper upkeep and maintenance.

[1380] And then when an emergency does come up, it's usually the ankle biters.

[1381] Yeah.

[1382] And you're able to cash flow it in next month's budget.

[1383] Right.

[1384] Because think about the biggest one.

[1385] The biggest thing that could happen is like your roof, right?

[1386] I feel like that's like the big one.

[1387] Your roof.

[1388] Maybe HVAC.

[1389] Yeah.

[1390] If you live in South Florida, though, a new roof is like $30 ,000.

[1391] And so, but usually you can see that coming.

[1392] And that's my whole point is usually most emergencies, unless they're medical, you can kind of see it coming unless you're a person who like sticks their head in the sand.

[1393] And if you can get ahead of that and start a sinking fund, then it's a great way to not have to touch your emergency fund.

[1394] Exactly.

[1395] So I think a lot of it, when you're broke and trying to follow the steps and get out of debt, it feels like everything, life is just coming at you.

[1396] And every little $100 emergency or $600 emergency, you're like, this is going to be my whole life.

[1397] Then once you get above it and get out of debt and get the emergency fund, you sort of have better luck.

[1398] That's right.

[1399] But it's not really luck.

[1400] It's just you putting yourself in a better place.

[1401] That's right.

[1402] So that's what I love about the emergency fund.

[1403] And it's a good callout that this is different than a sinking fund.

[1404] The emergency fund you only use if it's urgent, necessary, and what's the last one?

[1405] Unexpected.

[1406] Unexpected.

[1407] There it is.

[1408] I knew it was there.

[1409] Jade, that was like an alley -up.

[1410] It was.

[1411] I was glad I was ready for the pass.

[1412] Definitely did not want to fumble.

[1413] So that's a big one.

[1414] So baby step one, $1 ,000 starter emergency fund.

[1415] And then baby step two, let's knock out all of the debt.

[1416] Then baby step three, we can get that fully funded emergency fund and begin to put those sinking funds away.

[1417] And even if you're in baby step two, it's wise to have that sinking fund ready to pay the insurance bill.

[1418] at the end of the year that you know is coming.

[1419] Yeah, that's true.

[1420] And so if that slows down your debt snowball, that's okay.

[1421] Yeah.

[1422] We want to make sure we don't go back into debt because we weren't aware of an upcoming expense.

[1423] Yeah, yep.

[1424] I'm that person, too, that likes those deductibles.

[1425] Like, I'll keep the deductible in the HSA.

[1426] You know, you can invest the rest or whatever.

[1427] And I just like knowing it's there.

[1428] Yeah, I just like, I like knowing it's there.

[1429] Love an out -of -pocket max.

[1430] This is the nerdy conversation you listen to the show for it.

[1431] Where else can you get this kind of content?

[1432] We get to nerd out.

[1433] Only the Rams.

[1434] show.

[1435] Well, as a fun hour, Jade, thank you so much.

[1436] Thank you to all the folks in the booth keeping the show afloat and keeping the audio smooth.

[1437] And thank you, America, for tuning in.

[1438] We will be back before you know it.

[1439] Live from the headquarters of Ramsey Solutions, it's the Ramsey Show, where we help people build wealth, do a work that they love, and create amazing relationships.

[1440] I'm George Campbell, joined by Jade Warshaw.

[1441] This is your show.

[1442] So call us up at AAA 825 -5 -225, and we'll help you take the right next step.

[1443] for your life and your money.

[1444] Anne is going to kick us off in Albuquerque, New Mexico, and thanks for taking the time to chat with us.

[1445] How can we help today?

[1446] Hi, yeah, I was hoping for some guidance on how to navigate a difficult conversation with my husband about finances.

[1447] I just found out that he has a business credit card with about $10 ,000 of debt on it, and this is like a third or fourth time that there's been, financial deceptions throughout the course of our marriage and so I'm what were the other times um after we got married about five months and I found out he had about $10 ,000 of credit card debt and then a few other things like he borrowed $6 ,000 from his parents and another $3 ,000 um so how are you how are you finding out about this is he telling you or you're coming across some information on your own.

[1448] This time he did share with me the business credit card, and that was after we've been working the baby steps for about four months.

[1449] The other times were his parents mentioned it at Thanksgiving.

[1450] So he was actively trying to hide it?

[1451] Yeah, the other times.

[1452] So, okay, so you found, he came to you and told you about the 10K that he has on the business card now.

[1453] You said it was, you guys have been actively trying to work the baby steps.

[1454] My question is, is this old debt or is this debt that he has acquired while you guys have said you're working the baby steps?

[1455] The credit card for his business, I think, is about a year old.

[1456] Before?

[1457] Prior.

[1458] Yeah, prior.

[1459] But we went through everything while we were trying to figure out how much debt we were in and trying to get it all, you know, work on getting it resolved.

[1460] And that was something he just didn't share with me then too.

[1461] And when this happens, do you say, hey, why?

[1462] How did you hide this from me?

[1463] Yeah.

[1464] Is he get defensive?

[1465] Is he open?

[1466] What's his response?

[1467] Kind of a mixed bag.

[1468] So he'll get defensive and then it goes to, well, I was really embarrassed and this and this, and I should be handling my business better.

[1469] And so it's that, you know, with him like, okay, well, I understand that, but we're also a partnership.

[1470] And how long have you guys been married?

[1471] I need to know what's going on to nine years.

[1472] Okay.

[1473] So there's been a pattern since you've gotten married that has not really gotten better.

[1474] Yeah.

[1475] Let me ask you this, Anne.

[1476] Okay, you said you guys have been married for a good little minute.

[1477] Do you feel like he's, like, is there goodwill here?

[1478] Like, is he, do you think that he's keeping this from you because he's afraid of how you'll react?

[1479] Is he feeling remorseful, like, you know, shameful?

[1480] Or is it like I am intentionally trying to do my own thing on the side here?

[1481] Like, do you feel like he's done with this behavior and it was just one last thing that he was feeling some type of way about telling you?

[1482] Or do you feel like this is going to be, behavior that's going to continue.

[1483] I would like to say I hope it's over, but I'm a little concerned that, you know, with his track record.

[1484] Well, I think it's fair that you don't have full trust and faith in him right now.

[1485] He hasn't earned that.

[1486] Yeah.

[1487] And so I think you need to talk to him and say, listen, so far, there's been a lot of financial infidelity in this marriage, and I'm done with it.

[1488] And we're going to put all the cards on the table, and you're going to tell me every single penny.

[1489] You're going to give me full transparency and accountability into our finance.

[1490] And by the way, business debt is our finances because he signs the dotted line, not the business.

[1491] Yeah.

[1492] It's personal.

[1493] And so that conversation, you need to have that come to Jesus conversation and he needs to act like an adult.

[1494] If I were you, I would hop on better help and I would look for some couples counseling.

[1495] And I'd bring that to him.

[1496] I'd say, you know what?

[1497] I love you.

[1498] These are the areas like George highlighted.

[1499] And I'd like for us to go to counseling and just get some clarity.

[1500] Get to the root of this.

[1501] And have somebody who's right there in the middle that's, you know, not biased so that we can figure this out.

[1502] What would he say to that, to that?

[1503] Please approach that subject a few times.

[1504] And it's, well, I don't want to do couples.

[1505] I'll do individual.

[1506] And then he doesn't take any steps to find a therapist.

[1507] And I've offered to help support him.

[1508] But I also don't want to be his mom and do it for him.

[1509] And so that, like, crushing feeling for me. Yeah.

[1510] Well, I do think.

[1511] I do think that if he won't go with you, I would still go individually so that you're having a sounding board and you're getting the best next right steps.

[1512] And they can give me some tools to use.

[1513] There is something to be said about leading by example.

[1514] And so maybe, I'm not saying that you beat him over the head with it.

[1515] But if you say, listen, if you won't go to counseling with me and if you won't go to counseling on your own, I'm going to go because I want to work on this marriage.

[1516] And I know that that starts with working on myself.

[1517] So I think there's a lot that you can do to lead by example.

[1518] And then I do think that there's some firm language that needs to come up with it where it's like, listen, I need to know that you're invested here and that you're interested in making this marriage better.

[1519] And I'm interested in seeing actions.

[1520] And I think that making that very clear, I want to see actions.

[1521] I want you to be able to see with my own eye you doing things differently.

[1522] And if that involves counseling, if that involves clear communication, whatever that is, I would make that really clear.

[1523] that you're worried.

[1524] And have you made it clear that you got, or is he really a line that he wants to become debt -free aggressively?

[1525] Yes.

[1526] He really, we really do.

[1527] And it's that every month looking at every dollar and be like, we make way too much money to be in this much debt.

[1528] So the next time this happens, you go, you violated our family value and goal.

[1529] You violated my trust.

[1530] We said out loud, this is our goal.

[1531] Here's our values.

[1532] We want to live a debt -free life.

[1533] and you went backwards behind my back and that's not okay and I think it's okay for you to you know to share how you really feel and what he's going to do is he's going to get feel all the shame he's going to sort of cower down and feel bad for a while but his response how he reacts is on him but you need to be very honest I'm not sure you've really told him how scared you are how upset this makes you how frustrated you've been in this marriage and tell him I want to win in this marriage I want to see us grow as a couple and money is just a symptom that's holding us back right now.

[1534] And we make too much to have money be a problem in our life.

[1535] Okay.

[1536] I like that.

[1537] Have you guys been through Financial Peace University?

[1538] I have he declined.

[1539] Oh, that's different.

[1540] He just said, not interested.

[1541] I'm good.

[1542] I'm crushing it.

[1543] Yeah.

[1544] He was too busy.

[1545] Wow.

[1546] That to me is a sign of disrespect.

[1547] because it's something that you care about that you've asked for his participation in and he said, nah, don't have time for that.

[1548] I'm going to go get into some business credit card debt, BRB.

[1549] Do you work?

[1550] Are you working, Ann?

[1551] Yeah, we both work, make about 150 combined.

[1552] I bring in like 85 of that.

[1553] Okay, okay.

[1554] So I'm just trying to get his mindset is he thinking, oh, she's not working.

[1555] I'm in charge.

[1556] I don't need her help.

[1557] I'm just trying to think, I'm trying to put myself in his mindset.

[1558] I don't like it.

[1559] I'm not going to lie.

[1560] I don't like the way you're being treated.

[1561] I feel like you're being a little bit belittled in this relationship.

[1562] He's not done things that have earned trust and I hate that for you guys.

[1563] But again, only counseling is going to help this.

[1564] George and I, you know, this is something that you and your husband have to dig into if you want to see your way out to the other side.

[1565] When's the last time you went through FPU, Ann?

[1566] About five months ago.

[1567] Okay.

[1568] Well, if you don't have that, access, hang online, our team will make sure that you still have access, and I would do one last plea to go, please go through this with me. Otherwise, we're going to have major problems.

[1569] This is the Ramsey Show.

[1570] Welcome back to the Ramsey Show.

[1571] I'm George Camel, joined by Jade Warsha.

[1572] Open phones at AAA 825 -5 -225.

[1573] Sarah joins us up next all the way in Sacramento, California.

[1574] Sarah, welcome to the Ramsey Show.

[1575] How can we help today?

[1576] Hi, thanks for taking my call.

[1577] Sure.

[1578] Um, so my husband and I are in our mid -20s, and we have a substantial nest egg that is from inheritances.

[1579] And we're already doing the basics.

[1580] We have a separate emergency fund.

[1581] We budget.

[1582] We don't have any debt.

[1583] Um, so our question is, how do we maximize this nest egg that we have?

[1584] Wow.

[1585] Okay.

[1586] How much are we talking?

[1587] Um, when we inherited it, it was around 800 ,000 and it's grown to 1 .1 million.

[1588] Wow.

[1589] When did you inherit it?

[1590] How did it grow that much?

[1591] We inherited it maybe four or five years ago.

[1592] Well, we each had a bit of inheritance that's now combined now that we're married.

[1593] And so I inherited mine maybe eight years ago.

[1594] And he inherited his maybe five years ago.

[1595] And, yeah, they're invested.

[1596] And we also try to add to it as much as we can from our income.

[1597] Okay.

[1598] Is this in a brokerage account, non -retirement, in index funds or mutual funds?

[1599] It's mostly in index funds, but we do have some in individual stocks.

[1600] Okay.

[1601] And that's where it's been.

[1602] It's grown substantially over the years as it's been sitting there invested.

[1603] And you're saying, should we be doing something else with this?

[1604] Yeah, I think we're, you know, one option is to just have it sit there.

[1605] But we also know a lot of people go and, you know, invest in real estate.

[1606] and it feels like there's so many options of what we could do with it to maximize it.

[1607] And I guess we just want to be smart with it as much as we can and have it grow as much as possible.

[1608] Yeah.

[1609] What's your household income?

[1610] Combined, we make around 230 grand.

[1611] What's your living situation?

[1612] We rent currently.

[1613] Interesting.

[1614] Well, I'd definitely be looking into a home ownership situation.

[1615] I feel like that's something that you guys, can afford to do.

[1616] And, you know, whether you decide that you're going to pay cash or you're going to put a hefty down payment.

[1617] My other question briefly was, how much is in stocks?

[1618] Like, what percentage would you say is in stocks, single stocks?

[1619] It's hard.

[1620] We made a few good decisions where now the stocks have grown a lot where there may be larger in our portfolio than we'd like them to be.

[1621] Like 25 % larger?

[1622] Maybe more than that.

[1623] Wow.

[1624] Okay.

[1625] But, yeah.

[1626] My only thought here...

[1627] Yeah, go ahead.

[1628] My only thought is I, if you have a huge portion of this or even, honestly, I wouldn't want more than 5 % of this to be in single stocks, I would consider working with someone to reinvest that into mutual funds or index funds like George said.

[1629] Okay.

[1630] And I guarantee these, those single stock companies, they exist.

[1631] in those same index funds, but you're just really diversifying and lowering your risk by doing that.

[1632] And you've done really well.

[1633] And so it's easy to get starry -eyed and think, well, we'll just keep in there.

[1634] It's done well for us.

[1635] But I would be losing sleep at night knowing that, you know, Elon tweets something the wrong way or X's something the wrong way and all of a sudden that, you know, the stock tanks on Tesla, which was our bread and butter.

[1636] And so that's just too much, you know, brain calories for me. I don't need that living in my hand, rent -free.

[1637] So I'm with Jade.

[1638] I would look into home ownership as the next step, and I would also move those stocks into index funds and mutual funds for the long haul.

[1639] And, you know, the truth is nothing says you have to go into real estate investing.

[1640] I do want you to have a paid for house.

[1641] I think having that in your early 30s is a huge win for you guys while making 230 living in California.

[1642] That's unheard of, and it'll give you more options later on.

[1643] Because truthfully, if you just invest 15 % of 230, you're going to be multi -millionaires anyways.

[1644] This inheritance will be a drop in the bucket compared to what your net worth will be.

[1645] So then it becomes what is the best short -term goal.

[1646] And to me, that's home ownership in California, which is wildly expensive.

[1647] This just got you an amazing sort of fast past to being homeowners in California.

[1648] And there's nothing that says you have to go put this into real estate.

[1649] I would right now keep it in index funds until you're ready for that step because the rule of 72 would say that your investment will double.

[1650] If you get a 10 % rate of return, it will double every seven years.

[1651] If you get a 7 % rate of return, it will double in 10 years.

[1652] And so if you just leave it there, you're going to have a huge nest egg that you can use later on in life.

[1653] Yeah.

[1654] So what are your thoughts on this home ownership if we were to pursue that?

[1655] I guess we're both very risk -averse, which typically goes well with money.

[1656] Well, it shocks me that you have a bunch of single stocks if you told me your risk -averse.

[1657] Yeah, those were almost on accident.

[1658] And some of them were inherited.

[1659] Okay.

[1660] But I guess for the home ownership piece, I'm nervous about, like, liquidating a lot of it and putting it into a home.

[1661] What makes you nervous about that?

[1662] Being less diversified, maybe.

[1663] The question is, do you plan on staying in Sacramento?

[1664] Is that something that you guys want to do long term?

[1665] It's a more expensive area.

[1666] Is there, are your jobs keeping you there?

[1667] Or is there a way that maybe down the road you can transfer your skills elsewhere?

[1668] buy a home that's more affordable and you're not liquidating as much of this although again you're in your mid -20s like you're to george's point you have plenty of time with your income which is only going to go up by the way for you guys to build a multi -million dollar net worth so I don't want you looking at this like oh this is the only money I'm ever going to get and even if you guys said um you know we're only going to uh put half down on a mortgage like that's your choice to make it's not to say that you must pay 100 % cash for your mortgage that's your choice to make, but I do think that if I were in your shoes, I'd be looking to put at least 50 % down on the home.

[1669] Okay.

[1670] Yeah, that's good advice.

[1671] As far as risk goes, it makes you feel better, Sarah, real estate is one of the safer assets when you look at just a primary home.

[1672] Go look at what the real estate prices have been in Sacramento over the last 20 years.

[1673] And you'll see that it's had an amazing return, even compared to the stock market.

[1674] And so I wouldn't be scared to put your eggs in that basket.

[1675] And truthfully, over time, your nest egg will eventually outgrow.

[1676] your home as an asset.

[1677] And that's where we're at as a family.

[1678] Whitney and I, we have a paid for house.

[1679] And right now it takes up a huge chunk of our net worth.

[1680] And I'm okay with that because our nest egg just hasn't had time to catch up yet.

[1681] Yeah.

[1682] Because you're going to experience compound growth in that investment account versus the real estate market, which is just based on capital appreciation of the market.

[1683] So I'm not worried either way, but I do think home ownership is your next best bet because rent is going to be a moving goalpost in Sacramento versus locking in something in your area if you plan on staying there long term yeah all right that's good advice thank you thank you thanks for the call that's a that's a fun problem to have it really is fun but i got a million bucks sitting there what do i do it's an emotional thing though i mean she's seen that money grow from 800 to 1 .1 million it's been around i think she said eight years for her five years for her husband so they're used to seeing that like there's a as weird as it sounds probably a comfort that they have seeing that in their account, in their investment accounts.

[1684] And I imagine it could feel some type of way to say, I'm going to liquidate the majority of this to buy a house, even though we understand like this is a great move, that there is an emotional component there that it's totally fine to feel that way.

[1685] Yeah.

[1686] Well, there's also, there's also the sort of fomo of, what if I had done this?

[1687] And there's always the regret over what could have been and what if I had done this.

[1688] I just don't think it's worth it to live like that.

[1689] It's just too many brain calories burn when you're doing okay.

[1690] Yeah, they're fine.

[1691] You know, it's funny, I was, there's some finance YouTubers out there.

[1692] And as I've talked to them and studied them, I found that there's sort of this chasing of the next thing.

[1693] Like, once you get to a million dollar net worth, you're around people potentially who also have a million dollar net worth or a three million dollar net worth.

[1694] And so now you're comparing yourself to how your friends are doing, how your mom and dad are doing, and it's just this endless chase.

[1695] There's also an interesting component to it.

[1696] I mean, they'd run the math out.

[1697] But if they said, all right, rule of seven, this one point, this one point one point one's going to double in seven years, we also know that the average person who walks the baby steps through has no debt, they pay off their mortgage in seven years.

[1698] So the funny thing is, is if they use their own income and said, you know, we're just going to use our own income, we're going to buy a house paid off in seven years and let that money sit and double.

[1699] There's some fun compound interest that's happening.

[1700] When you think about if they buy a house in cash and then they can invest 30, 40 percent of their income, into investments, well, that's going to make up for it.

[1701] That's true.

[1702] That's true.

[1703] So if you're going to be okay either way, but what you don't want to do is sit there and do the math on what could have been.

[1704] The grass was greener on the other side, maybe.

[1705] I would just rather have peace, be content with where you're at.

[1706] Being in your mid -20s and having a million -plus net worth, just celebrate that.

[1707] Yeah, that's excellent.

[1708] Live and breathe, go on a vacation, enjoy your life, and be consistent with your investing.

[1709] You're going to be okay.

[1710] That's what it's all about.

[1711] You've got to have balance.

[1712] as you live out this plan.

[1713] This is The Ramsey Show.

[1714] Welcome back to the Ramsey Show.

[1715] I'm George Camel, joined by Jade Warshaw.

[1716] And in the lobby of Ramsey Solutions on the debt -free stage, we've got a smiling face.

[1717] We've got Madison here.

[1718] How are you, Madison?

[1719] Good.

[1720] How are you guys?

[1721] Doing great.

[1722] Where are you from?

[1723] I'm from Kansas City, or from Chicago, but I live in Kansas City now.

[1724] All right.

[1725] You got to shout out the roots there.

[1726] That's street cred.

[1727] All right.

[1728] So how much debt have you paid off?

[1729] $125 ,000.

[1730] Come on.

[1731] That's a lot of debt.

[1732] It is a lot of debt.

[1733] What kind of debt was that?

[1734] I'm just curious.

[1735] I know.

[1736] All school loans.

[1737] I knew it.

[1738] Yes.

[1739] Get you every time.

[1740] Wow.

[1741] And how long did this take you?

[1742] Two years.

[1743] Oh my gosh.

[1744] That's amazing.

[1745] All right.

[1746] And what was your range of income during the two years?

[1747] So it started, I am a nurse.

[1748] And so I started making like 40 grand, new grad.

[1749] I was on days.

[1750] And then towards the end, nurse has like a lot of flexibility.

[1751] And so I was picking up so many shifts that I was making like $120 ,000.

[1752] That's awesome.

[1753] Yeah, I kind of ended with a lot.

[1754] That's amazing.

[1755] Yes.

[1756] We'll be proud.

[1757] You've earned every penny, especially over the last two years.

[1758] That is impressive.

[1759] Okay.

[1760] So you're a nurse.

[1761] This is all nursing school student loans?

[1762] Yes.

[1763] So I did an undergrad with a health science degree.

[1764] And then I did an accelerating nursing degree at Missou.

[1765] Wow.

[1766] And here you are to tell the tale.

[1767] Mm -hmm.

[1768] So two years ago.

[1769] go, you're the average nursing school grad.

[1770] You got a bunch of debt and you went, I'll pay it off eventually.

[1771] What made you go, no, I'm going to get aggressive about this?

[1772] Yeah.

[1773] So it's kind of crazy because I didn't know how much debt I was actually in when I was in college.

[1774] I was like, oh, you know, maybe eventually like I'll pay it off or I just didn't know how much I had.

[1775] And then after college, I just sat down and I was like, oh my goodness, I have $125 ,000 of debt.

[1776] My parents set me down and I just started bawling.

[1777] I'm like, oh, man. This is a lot of money, but I started looking into my faith, my freshman year of college, and honestly just started to see it like in a biblical lens of why it's biblical to pay off your debt.

[1778] That's right.

[1779] That gave me like motivation to be like, I have got to take care of this.

[1780] And so, yeah, I just sent me on this like journey of just attacking my debt.

[1781] So what was your, like, what was your life was like?

[1782] What was your living situation?

[1783] What were you spending?

[1784] Because hardly anything to do this so fast.

[1785] Yes.

[1786] So I did night shift.

[1787] So I barely got to see a lot of people.

[1788] So I was living with four other girls.

[1789] So there's five of us in this house.

[1790] So trying to live like as cheaply as I could in Kansas City.

[1791] I moved in with my friend and her mom when I first moved there.

[1792] So try to like really not have that much.

[1793] And then yeah, just started.

[1794] Yeah, just kept paying it off.

[1795] So.

[1796] So you're like I started at 40 ,000.

[1797] I'm going to keep living on 40 ,000.

[1798] Yes.

[1799] Even though the income is going up and that's I mean that's the hardest part right you see everybody else going out having a good time with their hard -earned money and you're buying houses getting nicer cars going out every weekend and you're like nope I'm going to keep living like a broke college student what your friends think the girls you were living with when you told them what did they say they were great I mean they were like my support system so they were like very encouraging and just like honestly if I didn't have them you know I don't know where I'd be but my co -works are the most surprising I just I didn't realize like how unpopular it is to pay off your debt.

[1800] They're like, oh, you know, just wait for the government or you'll be in a different tax bracket so you don't want to like pick up shifts.

[1801] And I was like, wow, I don't know if that really makes sense to me. But so yeah, it was this crazy different advice that I was given like over the years.

[1802] Wow.

[1803] So what got you connected to Ramsey?

[1804] Yes.

[1805] So my friend actually, I started to share my faith like my fifth year of college and just started building a relationship with one of my good friends.

[1806] And so after school, I realized how much that I was in.

[1807] And so we were talking about it.

[1808] And her and her family are just Dave Ramsey.

[1809] Yes, they knew everything.

[1810] And so they like really just took me underneath their wink and was just helping me throughout the whole process, telling me about all the baby steps, sending me all the videos of what I should be doing, which one I should be attacking first.

[1811] And so, yeah really my friend has like been the biggest cheerleader for me so you're amazing like you you do understand that plenty of people i mean the majority of people they come out of school with 125 or more of student loans and they just they're so overwhelmed by it they do nothing and then 20 years goes by and whoever's in administration doesn't forgive it and it's just this chain around their neck and you completely went against the grain i'm just blown away that's amazing well thank you And I love the way your faith played a part in this whole thing.

[1812] Yes.

[1813] That's incredible.

[1814] What was the hardest part paying on this 125 grand off in two years?

[1815] Hmm.

[1816] I think, honestly, probably, like, I was working four to five shifts a week.

[1817] I was living on nights.

[1818] So, like, I was sleeping all through the day.

[1819] And so that was, like, there was so many, you know, moments.

[1820] Just physically, mentally exhausting.

[1821] And I'm like, man, I want to, you know, I was still trying to make, like, church of priority and wanted to still like be involved in like serving and stuff but there was just certain times that like I had to like just work during the night and I like couldn't physically do it but I think that was probably the hardest part is sometimes just feeling a little bit like isolated because you're trying to yeah off all this debt are you still going this hard because you went from 40 to 120 have you maintained that now or are you sort of like all right I'm backing off you're going to rest a little bit I feel like I oh sorry this is gonna um I feel like I honestly started to kind of, I'm like working my three shifts.

[1822] So I've kind of taken a little bit of a back of just, I don't need to be like killing myself anymore.

[1823] That's right.

[1824] Yes.

[1825] So what do you tell the people who like I said, you're not normal, you're different, which I love.

[1826] What do you tell the folks who are sitting there watching going, ah, you know, I'm going to wait or, you know, maybe when I make a little bit more money, I'll try to tackle it.

[1827] Or my least favorite, easy for her to say.

[1828] I'm not Madison.

[1829] So what do you say to that person?

[1830] Yeah.

[1831] I'm like, I'm, like man it just it's so free to finally get here I felt like just you truly are a slave to the lender and I just felt so enslaved and so I'm like man it only starts with like one step and so I know it's like the big number is a lot to think about sometimes but man if you just like just that $100 just that one extra loan like you can you can get there like it is possible and so yeah I think that was just like the most encouraging thing of like it is not my own strength but it's really like god that is in me like i can do anything and so i'm like man that's possible for each and every person too i love that yeah because it shows you an inner strength that you have i'm sure that you feel like you can tackle anything now there's like an invincibility you get when you have agency over your life when you take control your money you go well i can take control of this area of my life too in this area versus life just happening to you forever yes that's huge i know you have some cheerleaders here who are these nice people yes so this is my friend this is we yeah we met in college and so I started to share my faith with her and her and her family are the ones that adopted me and helped me with the Dave Ramsey and yeah that's a friend for life right there yes it is it really is that is beautiful well we are so proud of you you're an inspiration I feel like your joy and freedom is contagious oh not only to the people watching right now in the lobby but to everyone listening and watching online so thank you for sharing your story yes that's huge well we've We've got some parting gifts for you.

[1832] We've got two every dollar premium subscriptions because budgeting is the key, making a plan for every single dollar.

[1833] And so we want to gift that to you.

[1834] You're free to use it or gift it to someone else and get them started because I think that's kind of how this is going to go.

[1835] There's a ripple effect that has played into your life that will continue to play into other people's lives.

[1836] And we're honored to have you here to share your story.

[1837] It is Madison from Kansas City, $125 ,000 paid off in two years, making $4 ,000.

[1838] to 120 with her whole life ahead at her to live and give like no one else.

[1839] Madison, count it down.

[1840] Let's hear a debt -free scream.

[1841] Three, two, one, I'm debt -free!

[1842] Love it.

[1843] That was cool.

[1844] And she did a little Snoopy dance.

[1845] A little dance to go with it.

[1846] That's what I'm talking about.

[1847] We all should have celebratory.

[1848] I should not be seen dancing in public, but I think it's fine for people that have the rhythm.

[1849] If you got the Snoopy dance, don't hold it in.

[1850] Don't hide it under a bushel.

[1851] But, man, Madison's one of those people.

[1852] you're just like, I need people like that in my life.

[1853] I know, that's right.

[1854] Well, you're the sum of the people you hang around.

[1855] And clearly she had some support.

[1856] The girl she was living with, understand her best friend, understood the assignment.

[1857] Thank you.

[1858] And now we see the result of it.

[1859] You get a bunch of naysayers in your life.

[1860] They just say, nay, why would you do that?

[1861] Wait on the government.

[1862] Why pay off your loans?

[1863] And really what it is, they don't think it's possible for them.

[1864] And they don't want it to be possible for you.

[1865] Ooh, stealing that hope.

[1866] No hope stealers here.

[1867] You get around people who are hope givers.

[1868] who have the gift of encouragement and support, that's what it's all about.

[1869] Find you those people, whether that's in an FPU class or in your local community, it really makes all the difference as you follow this plan.

[1870] This is The Ramsey Show.

[1871] Welcome back to The Ramsey Show.

[1872] Our scripture of the day is Psalm 104, verse 24.

[1873] Oh, Lord, what a variety of things you have made.

[1874] In wisdom, you have made them all.

[1875] The earth is full of your creatures.

[1876] Albert Einstein once said Two things are infinite The universe and human stupidity And I am not yet completely sure About the universe Now that one I'll take That's a little bit of a It's a good dis Well when you're really smart You can say things like that You know but I think Albert was on to something That was shady Albert Because I think You know depending on where you are And where you're looking You will see an increase in human stupidity sometimes Facts Yes Oh boy All right let's get to the phones, Allison joins us in Hartford, Connecticut.

[1877] Welcome to the show, Allison.

[1878] Hi, thank you guys for having me. Yeah, how can Jade and I help?

[1879] So I'm over half a million dollars in debt right now, and I have a rental property.

[1880] And I guess my biggest question right now is whether I should be selling this rental property to start paying off my dad.

[1881] I just have a really great interest rate and it's income -producing, so I don't kind of, like, weigh the benefits.

[1882] I'm going with, yes, but let's hear a little bit more.

[1883] Where are you currently living?

[1884] What's your personal living situation?

[1885] So I currently own a place in Connecticut, and originally I had bought a place in Boston, so that's where that big, a lot of my debt is coming from the Boston property mortgage.

[1886] Okay, and that's the one you're renting?

[1887] Yes.

[1888] Okay.

[1889] So your primary mortgage here in Connecticut, what do you owe on that?

[1890] I owe about 200 on that.

[1891] And then the one in Boston, what do you owe on that?

[1892] And if you sold it, what would it bring?

[1893] I owe about 300 on it, and I could probably sell it for about 420.

[1894] 420?

[1895] Okay.

[1896] What's your Connecticut home worth?

[1897] It's worth probably like 240s.

[1898] Okay.

[1899] And what's this?

[1900] half a million dollars in debt that you have?

[1901] So it's the two mortgages that I have.

[1902] I have about $20 ,000 in student loans and $12 ,000 in car.

[1903] Okay.

[1904] So it's mostly in mortgages versus consumer debt.

[1905] Mostly, yes.

[1906] That gives me some great piece.

[1907] I know that's right.

[1908] What's your income?

[1909] I make about 75 at my full -time job, and then this rental property gets me about $7 ,000 a year.

[1910] A year?

[1911] Okay.

[1912] I could find that in couch cushions and do an Uber.

[1913] I don't think this is worth it.

[1914] Girlfriend, if I'm you...

[1915] You don't think so.

[1916] If I'm you, I'm selling this Boston residence.

[1917] I'm getting the $420 after fees, however much it may be...

[1918] Probably end up with about $100.

[1919] Well, you said you'd profit.

[1920] Did you say you'd profit $420?

[1921] Or did you say that's what you...

[1922] That's what I could sell it for.

[1923] Yeah.

[1924] If you sell for $420, you have $300 left to pay.

[1925] So you'd probably walk away with about $100 or a little less, which helps you knock out the student loan and car room.

[1926] Yes.

[1927] and leave you about 60, 70 grand, which becomes your emergency fund plus plus, plus.

[1928] I think this is the plan.

[1929] Easy, easy, easy, peasy.

[1930] It's not worth all the risk.

[1931] Even though it's income producing and it's made me. It's only $7 ,000 a year.

[1932] There was a kid in my neighborhood running a lemonade stand that made more than $7 ,000.

[1933] So I don't think this is, and I know you got a low -interest mortgage, but this is a lot of risk and a lot of pay.

[1934] It doesn't, you're not making any money.

[1935] Listen, I said this the other day, I think you and I were on the show together.

[1936] I think that real estate people get this idea.

[1937] It's almost like they just like being able to say, I have an income property.

[1938] When I'm like, think about the risk that you're carrying for $7 ,000 a year.

[1939] I mean, it's not even a thousand bucks a month.

[1940] That's not even an Uber side hustle.

[1941] You know what I'm saying?

[1942] Like that's not even a side hustle.

[1943] If I tasked you with making $500, $600 a month, you could go do that pretty easily with a side hustle.

[1944] And so you're taking on a lot of risk.

[1945] And a lot of you got $500 ,000.

[1946] dollars in debt and you're calling because you're stressed about it.

[1947] And so we're giving you a way out with really no harm to your life.

[1948] And you can always go get a rental later, but I think it should be after you have your primary home paid off, and we save up and pay cash and we get your income up.

[1949] Because making $75 and paying mortgages on half a million bucks, that would scare me to death.

[1950] Yeah.

[1951] Because one thing goes wrong with this tenant, and you're long distance, number one.

[1952] And so you've got a property management team, I'm guessing you're paying right now to deal with that?

[1953] No, I'm actually doing it on my own.

[1954] Oh, dear.

[1955] So you're traveling, you're going over there.

[1956] This is not worth the hassle.

[1957] Okay.

[1958] I think we put the real estate guru dream down for now and let's focus on getting our income up and getting our primary mortgage paid off and getting the consumer debt paid off.

[1959] Because I'm guessing you've gone through your whole adult life with all of this debt.

[1960] Yeah, I mean, I'm only 24, but I got a long way to go for sure.

[1961] Even more reason to get this cleaned up now because you have so much time to build wealth the right way.

[1962] And this was just a quick little drop in the bucket that it was a detour in the wrong direction, but you've got your whole life to go on the right path and honestly become a multimillionaire, whether that becomes you buying real estate in cash or it's just you investing in your 401k, the boring way.

[1963] And between your consumer debt interest and your mortgage interest, you're paying more than seven grand in interest right now.

[1964] And so I want to see all that go away.

[1965] So you can start earning the interest and doing this with way more cash flow.

[1966] And so the good news is you're in a great spot.

[1967] I mean, you're going to be totally debt -free with a whole bunch of money in the bank and ready that you can even attack your own mortgage with some of that money left over.

[1968] Yeah.

[1969] Yeah.

[1970] That's a good plan.

[1971] And you'll be there in no time.

[1972] And you're only 24, like you said.

[1973] And so who knows, maybe by 30, you've got enough to pay cash for rental property or 35.

[1974] That's okay.

[1975] But I like this plan a whole lot, way less stress way more peace george i feel like real estate is like the it's the person that you date they're good looking and on paper it seems right but then you get in the relationship it's just not it's just not hitting right they're not you know you know it's not going in the direction of marriage but you stick with them because it's that the idea was there and it's like well it's the like well he comes from a good family yeah that's not enough to sustain marriage material he's got a stable job yeah but you know you know good and well that's not the right person for you i feel like real estate people get into it because it looks good on paper and it's everyone is saying like this is the thing for you and meanwhile people are losing money barely making any money and they're carrying all of this risk and they're tied to it for years and years for what yeah that's a lot of mental and emotional weight all right let's try to take one last quick call from jennifer in los angeles jennifer what's your question today hi um i'm wondering if i should use uh money in a 403 for my previous employer to pay off credit card debt.

[1976] How old are you?

[1977] 40.

[1978] Ooh.

[1979] How much credit card debt is it?

[1980] It's about 19 ,600, and then I have student loan also.

[1981] How much is a student loan?

[1982] 43 ,000.

[1983] What's your income?

[1984] A month, about 45, 70, take home.

[1985] Okay.

[1986] Is it just you or you have family, kids?

[1987] I have two kids, single mother.

[1988] Okay.

[1989] So you're bringing home about 55K, and you have about 63 ,000 in consumer debt.

[1990] Yes.

[1991] So I would not use your 4 -3B.

[1992] I wouldn't touch it because you're essentially, it would be like taking out a loan at 30 -something percent interest because of the penalties and fees you'll pay.

[1993] Because you're not of retirement age yet.

[1994] And so they like to ding you for that.

[1995] And I know it sounds like a smart shortcut because you can get rid of your debt faster, but I would look at literally any other way to pay off this debt.

[1996] savings, side hustles, selling stuff that you have, but do not touch the 403B.

[1997] Okay, that was a simple answer.

[1998] Are the credit cards out of your life, you cut them up?

[1999] Yes, they're gone.

[2000] Good, good.

[2001] So making $55 ,000, have you done a monthly budget yet to see how much you'd have left over if you were paying attention?

[2002] Yeah, I have like a good amount aside.

[2003] I guess my other question is, you know, I did all the stupid refinance things with the student loan and it's giving me a $0 minimum balance.

[2004] Oh, boy.

[2005] But I should not be doing that, right?

[2006] Right.

[2007] That means you're racking up interest.

[2008] Yeah, yeah.

[2009] Because the interest is still accruing.

[2010] You want to pay as much as possible, not as little as possible.

[2011] That's how you know you're making progress.

[2012] Thank you.

[2013] That was my second question.

[2014] I was like, I don't think I should be doing zero because I was wondering if I should put that minimum balance toward my snowball, but I should just keep the snowball at what it should be.

[2015] Keep the snowball moving.

[2016] Separate all the debts, small solaris balance.

[2017] ignore the interest rates, and you might need a side job in order to get the income up, because 43K making 55, that's take home, which is great, but you need to be thrown.

[2018] I want this debt gone in two years or less, which means about 20K a year going towards this.

[2019] And so you can start to reverse engineer that as to how much margin you need every month to attack that goal, and that will help you stay on the path.

[2020] Say, I'm going to put two grand a month on top of this debt, and if that means a side job, I'm going to do it.

[2021] And those kids will be watching Mom be a hero the whole time.

[2022] That puts this hour of The Ramsey Show in the books.

[2023] She's Jade Warshot.

[2024] I'm George Camel.

[2025] Thank you to all the folks in the booth, keeping the show float.

[2026] And you, America, we'll be back before you know it.

[2027] Hey, folks, Dave here.

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