Re-Imagine What a Life Well Lived Looks Like

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[5] Hannah's kicking us off in Atlanta, Georgia.

[6] Hannah, welcome to the Ramsey Show.

[7] Hey, thank you so much for taking my call.

[8] Absolutely.

[9] What's going on?

[10] So I was in a toxic relationship and ended up getting divorced.

[11] Me and my ex -husband had a few car loans, and, we had an apartment together.

[12] Once the divorce, or during going through the divorce, I ended up losing my job.

[13] And with that, I ended up losing my apartment that I had.

[14] And I also ended up losing one of my cars.

[15] So I have one collection that equals about 3 ,000.

[16] I have a car repo that's about 12 ,000.

[17] We did have a car loan that was joint together.

[18] And I just realized or found out recently that the car loan that we had together, has also been repoed.

[19] So I have about $55 ,000 in debt.

[20] Fifty -two thousand of it is in repo, three in collections.

[21] And I don't know what to do if I should file bankruptcy or what steps I need to do.

[22] So sorry.

[23] This is like a terrible country song.

[24] Just one thing after another.

[25] Are you back to work now?

[26] I am.

[27] Thank God.

[28] I have a job and I'm making about $2 ,500 a month.

[29] Okay.

[30] Do you have any kids?

[31] I do not Okay What job are you doing Making $2 ,500 a month I actually work in a dental office I'm just one of the receptionist there Okay Is that enough to pay your bills Luckily I live with one of my friends So my rent is not that expensive I pay about $800 in rent Okay Both George and I George is going to walk you through the math of all this but both him and I, I know there's a season when you just get beat up and beat up and beat up and beat up and the smoke clears and all that.

[32] I get that.

[33] But I want more than just $2 ,500 a month and you rent in a room from a friend for your life.

[34] I have a bigger vision for you than that, okay?

[35] And we'll talk to you how to get different kinds of work or expand that, but $2 ,500, man, that's got scratching by these days.

[36] I actually am in college right.

[37] now because of all of this, I needed a better life for myself.

[38] So I'm actually in school right now.

[39] Good for you.

[40] I'm going to be a nurse.

[41] Good.

[42] Okay.

[43] Amazing.

[44] Then I take back everything I just said.

[45] Good on you.

[46] You're incredible.

[47] That's awesome.

[48] Are you working full time while doing nursing school?

[49] Yes, I am.

[50] Wow.

[51] Good deal.

[52] Okay.

[53] So we make $2 ,500 a month.

[54] Do you have a car now?

[55] I do.

[56] I paid cash for it.

[57] Okay.

[58] And you...

[59] You owe nothing else except for the 52 in repo, 3 ,000 in collections.

[60] Was the 3 ,000 in collections for a car?

[61] What was that for?

[62] That was for the apartment that we had.

[63] During the divorce, I actually ended up losing the apartment because I lost my job.

[64] I couldn't pay for it.

[65] Okay, so this is kind of like the eviction settlement, missed payments, breaking the lease, all of that?

[66] Yeah.

[67] Okay.

[68] Well, the good news is you have a place to lay your head that's safe and affordable.

[69] You have a car to get you to and from work.

[70] You have work.

[71] So there's a lot of good things happening after what you've just experienced, which is straight up hell.

[72] So how much money do you have right now left over after you pay your bills every single month?

[73] I was doing the math last night after my expenses because I am paying for college myself.

[74] So I'm not taking out any student loans.

[75] After all of my expenses, I have about $300 left every month.

[76] Okay, you could start attacking these debts with.

[77] How much is school costing you?

[78] How are you able to cash flow nursing school?

[79] Well, I am going to a technical college, so it's about, I mean, maybe $1 ,500 every semester.

[80] But I'm just saving as much as I can a month to go towards that, so I don't have to take out any student loans.

[81] Hannah, for the repose, does both of those happen in Georgia?

[82] Yes.

[83] Okay, so when they get repose, the whoever repossesses the cars the person who holds the title sells those cars and what he sells or she sells that car for goes against the note so you don't owe $53 ,000 on those two cars they all the deficiency balance they should send you a should have sent you a number saying here's what you owe us now that we have sold these cars at for X number of dollars now it wouldn't surprise me if they sold those cars to their buddy for an insanely low deal.

[84] Like, I don't know how that all works, but you should not owe the total balance of $53 ,000.

[85] Okay.

[86] Have you been in contact with the repo folks?

[87] No, actually, the only way I found out about this was I just pulled up my credit karma and saw that the account was closed.

[88] Okay.

[89] And so I contacted the lender, and that's when I found out that it had been.

[90] Well, in some of these that get repossessed, if they sell the car and the price they fetch is higher than what you owe on it, they actually owe you that money back or have some sort of split depending on what state you're in.

[91] So I can imagine if they sold a $20 ,000 car and you owed 18, that they just kept that $2 ,000 and just didn't call you yet.

[92] Yeah.

[93] Do you have any communication with your ex?

[94] I don't.

[95] No, he has me blocked on everything.

[96] I can't contact him at all.

[97] Okay.

[98] And have you let them know that this debt is partially with an X that you have no contact with?

[99] we can make a plan to say how can we negotiate this can we get a lump sum saved up how do we attack this so that we can get this out of your life and have you move on but the only way out of this thing is to get rid of this debt off your record and out of your life and Hannah please please please don't file bankruptcy you're nowhere near that that case okay please don't do that that was the thing I didn't know if I should or what direction I should go in we've seen worse situations way worse and we still didn't tell them to file bankruptcy and so there is hope for you yet the key here is it's hard because you're in school You're not going to be able to take on, you know, extra side hustles and get your income up while you're in school.

[100] So how long until you're out of school and working?

[101] I've only been in school.

[102] It's a year now.

[103] This is my second semester.

[104] How long is the program?

[105] A bachelor degree for nursing is four years.

[106] Okay.

[107] So you could foreseeably be doing this for a while, living this life where you're trying to work full -time, school full -time, and trying to tackle the debt?

[108] Yeah.

[109] Okay.

[110] I've done that.

[111] I've done it, and it's not fun.

[112] But it's definitely doable, okay?

[113] We 100 % believe in you.

[114] But don't take, what I don't want you to do is I don't want you to take the pain of this divorce and then spread it over the next seven years with a bankruptcy on top of it.

[115] You've been through enough hurt.

[116] Don't do that.

[117] Hang on the line, Hannah.

[118] I'm going to send you a copy of my book, Breaking Free from Broke, as well as Financial Peace University.

[119] We want to walk with you as you climb out of this hole and start whatever's next for Hannah.

[120] We are cheering you on.

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[144] All right, let's head out to Philadelphia up next.

[145] We've got Jessica there.

[146] How's it going, Jessica?

[147] Hi, George.

[148] Hi, Dr. John.

[149] It's great to talk to you.

[150] It's even better to talk to you.

[151] How's it going?

[152] Well, here's my question.

[153] Would it be beneficial to pause baby step two for about two months in order to cash flow attending the money and marriage conference in February.

[154] That's a loaded question.

[155] Sophie's choice.

[156] I have my answer.

[157] What's the state of your marriage?

[158] Oh, it's a really good marriage.

[159] We have four kids.

[160] Three of them are teenagers.

[161] One almost is a teenager.

[162] We're really busy with that.

[163] My husband's an elementary school principal.

[164] The last four years have been really crazy with his job.

[165] And he's also in grad school right now going for his doctorate in education.

[166] So we're busy.

[167] And when I hear the Money and Marriage Conference being advertised, I'm like, I want to do that.

[168] I want to go with him and just invest in our marriage.

[169] And I think it would be really awesome.

[170] We've started the day Ramsey Plan about a year ago, which was a month after buying a car and financing like half of it.

[171] Oh, boy.

[172] How far away from becoming debt -free?

[173] So we should be in beginning to maybe step three, like in March of 25, if we didn't do the conference.

[174] it would put us on hold by about well here's the good news it's not the first or last time we're going to do this thing and so i would personally tell you i could get fired at any moment yeah that's true jessica if you were my friend and if it was any other event i'm going to tell you don't do this right now um i think john was saying hey is this on fire like your marriage is more important than anything if this is the one thing that's going to save the sinking ship then we would say all right this is worth saving your marriage over but this is not a crisis situation this is a luxury to travel to get lodging and transportation and go have fun for a weekend.

[175] And so I would tell you to just pause and join us for the next one when you're able to cash flow it and add a day.

[176] But I will tell you this.

[177] There is a, I don't think it's been announced yet.

[178] So I'm going to get your number or your email address.

[179] Okay.

[180] So you know the one in October is sold out.

[181] And if you do want to come, it's ramsysolutions .com slash events and money marriage.

[182] We opened up a new one in February, right, for Valentine's weekend.

[183] again.

[184] It's going to be amazing.

[185] But there will be a money marriage live stream that we follow up the October one with, and I'll hook you up with that, okay?

[186] Oh, that's kind.

[187] Oh, that would be amazing.

[188] So y 'all can watch it at home.

[189] It's not going to be as cool as the one here, but it's going to be amazing.

[190] It's going to be a totally different.

[191] It's going to me me and it will be awesome.

[192] So hang on the line and I don't even think we've announced this yet, so I may have just completely messed up everything with live events.

[193] If I have, I did just mess it up.

[194] Kelly's saying it's been announced.

[195] Oh, Kelly's just telling me you're fired.

[196] No, then you're fired, you're fired.

[197] It's okay.

[198] It's all right.

[199] So Jessica, we got you covered.

[200] So hang on the line here and we'll send you the, we'll get you hooked up with a free live stream.

[201] That's awesome.

[202] What a great pitch that we did not pay for for the money and marriage event.

[203] So thank you for that, Jessica.

[204] Check that one off the list.

[205] I know.

[206] It's tough for me because I want everyone to come because I know it's good.

[207] And also, if you can't afford it, you can't afford it.

[208] You get priorities right now.

[209] That's right.

[210] So that's good.

[211] Thank you for that.

[212] James is up next in Allentown, Pennsylvania.

[213] What's going on, James?

[214] Hi, thank you for taking my call.

[215] You got it.

[216] What's up, ma 'am?

[217] So I am pretty new to The Ramsey Show.

[218] I am looking to buy a car, which I have enough for in cash, but I have no real credit built up.

[219] I've had a credit card for about a year.

[220] I've only gotten my gas and maybe some dinner a couple of times with it.

[221] But I'm worried about if I don't ever build real credit.

[222] I'm worried about future mortgages and stuff like that, and I'm looking to see what I should do.

[223] You're going to play a game with us?

[224] Yeah.

[225] Okay.

[226] Guess.

[227] Mine or Georgia's credit score.

[228] Ready, go.

[229] Zero.

[230] Tadda.

[231] Zero.

[232] Well, you know what's funny?

[233] You know the reason people want a good credit score so they can afford the financing of the vehicle?

[234] You've already achieved that.

[235] You've transcended the need for a credit score.

[236] You have the cash to pay for it.

[237] So I will address the real fear that people have when it comes to buying a house because they go, well, the mortgage company's not going to let me just get a mortgage if there's no credit history.

[238] And there's this thing out there called manual underwriting.

[239] it's not done a whole lot because America's obsessed with debt.

[240] And so everyone just has a credit score.

[241] And this is the process I went through in 2019 to buy a house.

[242] I didn't have a credit score.

[243] They said, all right, you can do a no score loan through manual underwriting.

[244] We're going to look at your tax return, your income history, bank statements.

[245] And then a real person says, all right, Georgia's qualified for this mortgage.

[246] And so you're going to be able to do the same exact thing.

[247] And our friends at Churchill Mortgage, they've been doing this for decades.

[248] They're the experts in this field when it comes to no score loans.

[249] And that truly is the only reason I can think of where it's a valid point to go, all right, I might need a credit score here, and even then there's a way around it.

[250] Okay.

[251] How does that hit you?

[252] It's a relief.

[253] I didn't want to have to finance anything.

[254] I'm really looking forward to staying debt -free for the rest of my life.

[255] Beautiful.

[256] What kind of car you buy?

[257] There's a way around it.

[258] Nissan.

[259] Nice.

[260] And how much cash do you have saved up?

[261] a little over 30 ,000 Whoa That's incredible How long do that take you?

[262] I don't really spend much So it's kind of just been saving for like ever But I love it James you just said something That I think is important for us to double click on What's that?

[263] Buying a house With a And using a mortgage I mean Using a manual underwriting that's not actually the way around it that's actually the thing that makes the most sense the way around not having enough money or not being in a position where you have any business buying a house that is where a credit score comes in right that's actually the hack because if you have cash you just buy it and if you pay your bills on time and you've got enough money and you can prove here's my job that's what manual unwriting they're just going to come check out your life and make sure you can actually afford what you're about to do.

[264] That's just a straightforward path.

[265] We've created, we like started taking an exit around the actual, anything that makes sense.

[266] And now that's become so normal, right?

[267] You just see everybody exiting, so everybody just exits.

[268] And it really clears up the lanes in front of you.

[269] But the path should be, can you afford this or not?

[270] And if you can't, and the only way we tell you to borrow money is with a mortgage, do you have a life that makes this mortgage?

[271] for as few years as possible as it's going to be in your life, do you have a life that can sustain this mortgage?

[272] That's not the weird thing.

[273] The weird thing is having to get this proxy to be like, no, no, no, no. We've looked at all the other places he borrows money and he's pretty good with it.

[274] So we're going to give him a triple stamp and double stamp it.

[275] Not his first rodeo at not being able to afford things.

[276] Yeah, yeah.

[277] He never can afford things, and he always figures out a way to pay little bits and pieces of the things he can't afford, so he's good to buy your house.

[278] You see what I'm saying?

[279] You're doing it the right way.

[280] all right just the chaotic way it's just become normal because we live in a yeah that's the weird part is that like it's so normal now to be broke and to have to navigate the stupid broken financial system that when you do it any other way people look at you funny and I guarantee James when you go to the car dealership and you go oh no I don't need to go to the financing office I'm just going to write you a check they're going to be like what and they're going to try to convince you that you should finance it anyways I walked in and said the second time I bought a car the first time my kids are with me was a disaster and the same second time, I said, I work for Dave Ramsey.

[281] I'm on the air for the Ramsey show.

[282] I'm going to write a check.

[283] And the salesman was amazing, but he goes, dude, I hate to do this, but they're going to call you.

[284] They're at least going to call you.

[285] And I was like, okay, right?

[286] They just can't not.

[287] They can't not.

[288] So James, just, we say that, be careful when you step foot on that dealership or wherever you're buying the car from.

[289] Do your due diligence.

[290] Don't let them talk you into anything.

[291] They're going to make you feel stupid, out of touch.

[292] You're dumb.

[293] Oh, you're one of those idiots that listens to that show and you're like, no, no, no, I'm one of those idiots that sleeps all night.

[294] They might even offer you a discount for financing with them.

[295] Don't take the bait.

[296] They are in the business of making money.

[297] Cars are quite literally the vehicle they use to lend money.

[298] That's it.

[299] That's how it goes.

[300] And James, hang on the line.

[301] I'm going to send you a copy of my book, Breaking Free from Broke.

[302] I want you to read the credit scores chapter because I think it will make you have an even worse taste in your mouth towards the system and help you overcome it.

[303] This is The Ramsey Show.

[304] I've been doing this show for over 30 years.

[305] some of the saddest calls I have taken are from situations that are completely preventable.

[306] Yeah, and what's so hard is I feel like one of those, especially, the ones that I'm like, oh, it's terrible.

[307] People that call in and their spouse has passed away suddenly, and they don't have life insurance.

[308] When you have to think through, how am I going to pay my bills?

[309] I'm going to eat next week.

[310] Yeah, in the middle of all that grief.

[311] Like, it's just, it is.

[312] It's terrible.

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[318] You've got to say it out loud and you've got to say, I'm going to say, I love you to my family by taking care of them and taking the time to put this stuff in place.

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[327] Kevin is up next in Seattle, Washington.

[328] Kevin, welcome to the show.

[329] Thank you so much for having me. Sure.

[330] I need help.

[331] I am debt -free, which I'm extremely excited about.

[332] I discovered Ramsey Solutions about probably a year, a year and a half ago, and really dove in, and it made me feel good that I felt like I had been living the Ramsey Solutions lifestyle for my entire adult life without even knowing it.

[333] You're like, I'm not the only crazy person out here who's like, I don't want to have payments.

[334] Right.

[335] Right.

[336] We're more realistically, somebody taught you common sense, right?

[337] Well, yeah.

[338] I mean, when I graduated college, I was just shy of 70 ,000 in student loans.

[339] So I immediately out of college, my focus was to pay off the student loans.

[340] My goal was get that done when I was 30.

[341] I managed to pull it off just before my 29th birthday.

[342] And from there, I purchased a house with a mortgage.

[343] I didn't really have much money saved up at that point.

[344] and then spent my 30s, you know, focusing.

[345] I had a couple roommates in and out and just, you know, picking up side jobs and focused on trying to pay my mortgage off as fast as I could.

[346] Fast forward another 10 years, I ended up selling that house when it was really close to being paid off, put that money into an IRA.

[347] Things are going great.

[348] I've moved closer to family.

[349] I don't currently own a house right now, so I don't have a mortgage.

[350] I'm renting just to make sure that this is the place I want to be.

[351] be and I like the job and everything so the biggest challenge and I'm starting to realize it more and more as I get older is that I've been doing the track every dollar I've been living the Ramsey's solutions life for so long that I'm really it feels that it's turned into like an obsession or an addiction or is like taking over my life and I've I realized that I'm you know in a much better situation a lot of people and I don't take that for granted but I feel like I'm struggling by not being able to spend money if I know that probably sounds crazy but no hey like what what you're experiencing is is surprisingly I want to say it's common but it's not rare that this identity kind of takes over and I guess as someone who is on the inside of this thing right like me and George actually stir the Kool -Lade before we send it out to you guys um probably the top three most expensive meals i've ever eaten in my life were with dave right so ramsie's not about not spending money and not about buying really nice things and not about having amazing dinners and experiences with your friends it's about making sure that you're a person of generosity and that you can afford these things right and you can How do you, and it's, but I think it's almost turned into like fear because I've been, you know, like I said, when I graduated college and I just needed to pay off the student loans, right?

[352] So that's where every dollar went.

[353] And then once that was done, then it was a mortgage and I only focused on that.

[354] And then, you know, like the fear was always not being able to do that.

[355] What was money like growing up for you?

[356] I would probably lower middle class.

[357] it never went without but like just we were just happy and everything seemed fine and you know if you're lower middle class there was a tension in your home that was palpable it was I guarantee you and whether you knew it to be that or not if your lower middle class things are tight all the time yeah I mean it was definitely I mean we were happy but it was definitely tight there you go and my guess is that's wired into your nervous system I And so how do I, you know, being 45 years old now.

[358] And ancient.

[359] Like, I can write everything down on a piece of paper and I can be like, I'm going to be okay.

[360] Like I, but I can't convince myself.

[361] Can I tell you a trick?

[362] It's not a trick.

[363] It's just a path.

[364] But I want you to know you're not crazy.

[365] I grew up and it was very, very similar.

[366] Lower middle class.

[367] Things were scary.

[368] And my dad never said, we're broke and we're poor.

[369] He never said that.

[370] But when I would say, hey, I'm out of deodorant, I could see him wins.

[371] And when I went to get seconds and there was very little food, I would kind of just exhale.

[372] Right.

[373] So I caught it.

[374] It was a part of me. And now my life is very, very different.

[375] And recently, my family's moving.

[376] And I told my son, who's 14, I told him, I have this weird non pit in my stomach now.

[377] And he said why, and I told him because it's still wired into me that everything goes away, right?

[378] And so here's what I want to tell you.

[379] You cannot outthink this.

[380] One of the great modern lies of the modern mental health movement is that you can become mentally okay.

[381] You can become mentally and emotionally well by just sitting around thinking about stuff.

[382] That's just not true.

[383] You have to act differently.

[384] and so what does that mean for you you have to choose to stop ruminating when your mind starts spinning and spinning and your heart rate starts going up and going up and going up you have to choose to say oh I know what you're doing you're trying to protect me body I'm all good and then you have to think of something else you have to choose that it's the same thing I tell like a parent who's lost a child often that picture that last picture of the kid in the funeral home will just lightning bolt into their mind and they get to choose from that moment forward.

[385] Are you going to meditate on this picture and think about it and have your body just go back to that spot?

[386] Or are you going to exhale and then immediately replace that picture with little kid on the big wheel?

[387] You get to choose that.

[388] And here's the second thing.

[389] You have to build into your budget giving and spending.

[390] You're going to have to practice this new way of being.

[391] Dave has taught me to really look at the ratios because my nervous system can't handle the life I have now compared to the life I grew up with.

[392] And so I simply have to look at the ratios.

[393] Do I have enough money for X and Y and Z?

[394] Yep, I do.

[395] Okay, cool.

[396] Then I'm going to give this much away.

[397] And dude, it is like, ah, but you exhale.

[398] And then I'm going to buy this for my wife because I love her.

[399] And comparatively, it's less than 0 .000 0 % of my net worth.

[400] I'm going to buy it.

[401] And I practice.

[402] And I practice.

[403] And I practice.

[404] And I promise you it gets easier.

[405] Are you single, Kevin?

[406] I am, yeah.

[407] No, no, no, don't get over it.

[408] Don't get over it.

[409] Go right through it.

[410] So what we're saying is in that every dollar budget, you're going to force yourself to give more than you ever have, and you're going to force yourself to spend more than you ever have, and you're going to find a new hobby, and you're going to pour some money into that and start to see what that feels like.

[411] And over time, that will become normal.

[412] That's a normal part of the budget.

[413] Kevin gives more, Kevin spends more, because you're great at saving.

[414] We got that dialed down, right?

[415] now we have a flat tire so we need to inflate the other parts of our life artificially right now by forcing it into the budget until it becomes oh you know what i enjoy golf i'm willing to spend 200 bucks a month on this hobby over here and let me challenge you on the giving part i want you to tie or do whatever your faith tradition practice tells you to do but i want you to when when i talk about giving i want when you go out to eat i want you to find a bus boy who's cleaning up tables and just scrub and scrubbing and they're going from table to table to table, walk over and put your hand on that guy's shoulder and he'll turn around.

[416] And because most people walk past that guy every day, they don't even look at him as though he's a human.

[417] And I want you to stop and I want you to hand him a $100 bill and say, I see how hard you're working.

[418] I'm really grateful for you.

[419] We just watch his eyes.

[420] Or go to Waffle House and tip the waiter $200 on a $20 plate of diabetes and dude, they will follow you out in the parking lot and they'll hug you because you just paid their electric bill and their water bill, and whatever was, you see what I'm saying?

[421] Like, you will experience generosity.

[422] And watch what happens to your body.

[423] You're going to feel more joy than you having a long time.

[424] Because truthfully, there's very little joy in saving and investing.

[425] There's more joy in spending, but there is way more joy in giving.

[426] And I think that's going to unlock something for you, Kevin, as you start to do this.

[427] I want you to, you're changing your identity, so I want you to write down on a piece of paper.

[428] I am, I am so -and -so, and I'm a person who is a good steward.

[429] I give.

[430] I'm so and so I'm a person who has a good time with my money I'm so and so I am smart with my money and we're going to start from there we're going to back fill that with habits and make it happen this is the Ramsey show this show is sponsored by better help hey good folks the back to school madness is upon us it's hitting us right now we got travel and work and all these forms to fill out now and sports to travel to and on and on my family's schedule is so packed And we haven't even begun talking about things like exercise and date nights and counseling and church and home projects.

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[443] Just the, I guess the candy, just the sweet nothing candy that is the internet.

[444] I don't know.

[445] You refer to yourself as the Ramsey eye candy.

[446] Some of the candies are all bad.

[447] That's very different, John.

[448] But thank you for reminding America.

[449] You're welcome.

[450] They're not watching on YouTube.

[451] Now's the time to start.

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[458] Right, John?

[459] Disagree.

[460] Julie's up next.

[461] In Montreal, we're going way north, John.

[462] How's it going, Julie?

[463] Hi, I'm good.

[464] How are you?

[465] Good.

[466] Julie, we've got some of your closest friends here in the studio from Montreal, from Toronto.

[467] Wait, really?

[468] Yes, we really do.

[469] We're surrounded by Canadians right now.

[470] It's one of the nicest, warm feelings I've ever had.

[471] Oh, well, thank you so much for taking my call.

[472] I love both of you.

[473] I watch you religiously.

[474] That's so kind.

[475] Well, what's up?

[476] All right.

[477] I'm 27.

[478] I, nitrous.

[479] I'm currently doing baby step number two, gazelle intensity.

[480] I did.

[481] I'm doing Financial Peace University.

[482] And if I keep going, I'll be out of debt by August, 20, 24.

[483] and I listened to that episode that Rachel talks about giving to charity and she talks about how important it is and to like how it transforms you across like how important it is and I think it's a I believe in it but when it comes to the you know I make right now I'm making $4 ,000 a month and that that extra $400 I can't find myself to actually give it a way um and and i'm yeah i'm wondering if it's how like how wrong it is to not give when you're in baby step too i don't like looking at it from a right or wrong kind of moral perspective you know giving has been and always will be a matter of the heart and we've always said give a little until you can give a lot giving is not one of the baby steps until baby step seven which is sort of you know choose your own adventure but you know in baby step one give a little give something baby step to give a little give something and once you get out of those steps into baby steps you know four five six seven that's where you can really dial it up because you have more margin and so right now you're saying 400 bucks is that 10 % or are you saying 400 bucks is how much you can throw with the debt that would be 10 % okay is that what your church is asking of you uh no but in in in your budget you say give 10 % of your income.

[484] Okay.

[485] So, yeah, I mean, I just did that.

[486] Well, I mean, it's coming from Rachel's perspective, and she's a Christian, and so tithing 10 % is built into her spiritual practice, into her faith practice.

[487] If you can't breathe, if you can't eat, then I want you to be well and whole.

[488] I think what George is getting at is it's an ethos.

[489] It's a way of being.

[490] Does that make sense?

[491] And so if you can't give $400, don't get $400 today.

[492] But I do want you to pick up somebody's gas at a gas station.

[493] I do want you to put into your budget.

[494] I'm going to give $35.

[495] I'm going to give $50 away.

[496] And I'll tell you, the more it pinches, the more it becomes a part of you.

[497] The more it hurts, if you will.

[498] But giving to where you walk around with your eyes open and you get your eyes out of your belly button and our whole world is as forcing us not forcing us our whole world encourages us to walk around staring at our own navels and wondering how do we feel and what and you know what do we feel and how do we feel and how do we feel giving helps you look up and see humanity see your neighbor see that person who doesn't have what you have and it gives you perspective on your own life it gives you perspective on your own challenges and you get to see in real time oh i don't have to wait for somebody in some government house to solve the world's problem i can be a part of this to and I see you neighbor and I'm going to help you out.

[499] It's an ethos, right?

[500] It's way less a math problem.

[501] And even inside the Christian faith, there's people who 10 % you know, gross, 10 % it's going to be a question that you have to answer for yourself when you sit down a budget.

[502] But yeah, I'm with George, man. Make it a part of who you are.

[503] And make it fun.

[504] It feels like right now you've got to hit a quota.

[505] I just want you to, you know, have that spontaneous spirit like John's saying.

[506] a line item in my budget just called bless up.

[507] And we just set aside a little bit of money and whoever sees an opportunity, we just get to give.

[508] And maybe that's how you start to frame it up instead of a certain percentage.

[509] You just say, here's how much I'm able to do this month.

[510] Here's how much I'm willing to do.

[511] And you just make it fun and you make it matter.

[512] And I think that will unlock something in you.

[513] And guess what?

[514] A year from now, you're going to be in a different place.

[515] So this is not a life sentence.

[516] And so I wouldn't put too much pressure on yourself to do a certain thing, a certain way.

[517] Does that give you some peace?

[518] yeah that definitely helps thank you okay absolutely all right it's a great question it's a great great question i love the spirit of it the fact you're even asking this tells me that you're going to be a very generous person if you're even struggling with it like ah i want to but it's hard better than i don't even understand why the heck would you even do that yeah all right john is that up next in des moines or as some of my friends call it des moines one of your friends does one of my favorites john what's happening Hey, George and John, thanks for taking my call.

[519] Yeah, what's going on?

[520] What's up?

[521] Well, to keep it straightforward, my wife and I, we're receiving pensions that meet all of our family's living expenses.

[522] So is there a need or benefit to still investing in a retirement plan, like a Roth IRA or 401K?

[523] I'll tell you what I would do.

[524] I would still recommend diversifying away from the pension.

[525] and there's a few reasons for it.

[526] The obvious one is that you don't have any control over the pension, and that if something happens with the company, the pension dies too, and they perform poorly comparatively to you investing on your own through a 401k or an IRA.

[527] Okay, and to clarify, so I'm retired military, so I receive a retired pay from the government plus a disability.

[528] So I guess if that funding stream stops, I think we're all in a worst way.

[529] Absolutely.

[530] That would be a scary one.

[531] How much is it, is it?

[532] Is this enough to sustain for the next foreseeable future, regardless of what happens with your expenses?

[533] Yeah, so between the two of us, we make a little over $10 ,000 a month and just the disability and retirement pay.

[534] Okay.

[535] And what's your life like right now?

[536] What's your financial picture?

[537] Do you guys have any debt?

[538] We just have the house left.

[539] We have about $87 ,000 left.

[540] pay so another year and a half and then we'll be completely debt free amazing and what kind of retirement dreams do you guys have have you talked about that well we're kind of living them as we go so um we're just enjoying time we have two kids nine and ten year old so we're just you know getting in that family time when we can traveling when we can and then you know giving our time and money when we can as well because we're we're definitely a blessed situation all right john I'm going to ask George a question on your behalf.

[541] Is that cool?

[542] Yeah.

[543] If I was John and I was getting $10 ,000 of a federal pension every month and I was 18 months away from having my house paid off, I think in my house we would pause any sort of additional investing and get that sucker paid off.

[544] Because that feels like a liability that doesn't really even need to be there.

[545] Is that bad math?

[546] No. I mean, I think truthfully, John, you're going to be okay either way.

[547] I just still like, no one's ever complained that they had too much wealth to pass on and leave a legacy with.

[548] And it doesn't sound like you guys investing, you know, 15 % of your income would really change your life all that much.

[549] But it could change the numbers down the line.

[550] Okay, so we, my wife, she currently stopped contributing to her Roth IRA and 401K, so we can pay off the house and get rid of that liability.

[551] Okay, good deal.

[552] I didn't know if there was a benefit or a need for us to actually continue with the retirement.

[553] accounts, if that's something that will, you know, we can pass on to our kids or anything like that in the future that we need to think about that I'm not aware of.

[554] Yeah, well, the thing to think about is with a Roth IRA, you need earned income in order to contribute to that.

[555] And so while, you know, y 'all are working, that's a good thing to use.

[556] The 401K is a good thing to use.

[557] But again, if this is guaranteed from the government forever, you're going to be okay.

[558] But I would just rather be diversified and have more options of where I'm pulling from and when with those other retirement opportunities.

[559] So thanks for the call.

[560] That was great.

[561] Yeah, thanks for your service as well.

[562] This puts this hour of the Ramsey Show in the books.

[563] I'm George Camel.

[564] He's Dr. John Deloney.

[565] We'll be back before you know it.

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[568] We'll do our best to help you take the right, next step for your life and your money.

[569] Sarah's going to kick us off this hour in Green Bay, Wisconsin.

[570] Sarah, welcome to the show.

[571] How can we help?

[572] Hi.

[573] Thanks so much for taking my call, first of all.

[574] I have an opportunity cost question.

[575] Okay.

[576] Lay it out.

[577] So the situation is that I'm a cancer patient and it's metastatic.

[578] So I have an 85 % chance that I'm going to die within the next five years.

[579] Sounds very dramatic, I know.

[580] But I also have a very specific life dream.

[581] My husband and I, when it comes to the baby steps, I would say that we've really moved into Baby Step 7 and we had made plans as partners that we were going to now pursue very specific dreams to give back to the community.

[582] And my dream is to charter a federal credit union.

[583] and it really requires a specific college degree.

[584] With so little time left, I'm debating.

[585] Is it time to just kind of put that dream on hold because it's going to take a couple years of college or pursue it so that I can finish strong if these are my last five years?

[586] And I really just don't know which direction to go.

[587] For those people who are listening to this going, wait, wait, what what what how is she talking so clearly you've you've been wrestling with this for a long time haven't you yeah the past year ever since the diagnosis okay so is the smoke cleared are you still walking around kind of in that that shocked phase where everything feels pretty good and it's hard to wrestle with even though it's sitting out out there I can get emotional from time to time but I think I think I know what I want to do I just need to know like which direction to take I want to again, make that last, if this is the last chapter of my book, I want it to be a really good chapter.

[588] And I don't know, I don't want to rob my husband of our last few years together.

[589] I would have to be a full -time student and work full -time.

[590] But I also don't want to not do something with my life before I go.

[591] Okay.

[592] So when it comes to, when it comes to price point, like we can afford it.

[593] No, it's nothing to do with that.

[594] Tell me about your dream of, what would like if you had a magic wand and you went kating on a local park bench and this credit union emerged what would it be doing for the community this federal credit union would be chartered specifically for my native american tribe um to basically there's just so much poverty and so much lack of both resources and training within my tribe that i want this federal credit union to give them access to a specific type of loan and the coaching that they need to be successful so that they can begin having that opportunity.

[595] I think that's beautiful.

[596] And I also think you can accomplish a huge chunk of this.

[597] Or let's snap your fingers.

[598] You spend five years imagining what life is going to be with your husband.

[599] Because here's the deal.

[600] Y 'all made plans.

[601] and those plans are now over as you knew it right your marriage as you know it is over your life as you knew it was over and now you're going to build a new life for the last five years okay and so you care and love for this tribe and you want to give them resources you want to give them information you want to give them coaching this is just me I would hate for you to live the last four years of your life taking a counting three right when it just sound kind of miserable I know it is because my I used to watch my roommates would come home and just stare at a blank wall, right?

[602] So here's the thing.

[603] If that's what you want to do because I'm somebody who loves a college classroom.

[604] I love being surrounded by people and arguing and debating ideas and a professor who's walking us.

[605] I love that.

[606] So if you tell me, John, that I've always had this dream, I don't want to go out without an accounting degree.

[607] I'll tell you right now, go sign up today.

[608] You got four years, go make it happen.

[609] you to go do that.

[610] That doesn't sound like your dream.

[611] It sounds like that is a step you have to take to create this vision of how am I going to help and love my tribe.

[612] I would love to see you just bypass that whole thing and just love your tribe.

[613] Is there a way to accomplish that mission without being a charter of a - Start a weekly class?

[614] Credit union?

[615] Because if the goal is to give them resources financially, there's all kinds of ways to do that, right?

[616] Set up a program on teaching them how to apply for college, teaching them how to get jobs.

[617] I mean, you could create an entire ecosystem so that 150 of them can band together and build a whole string of credit unions down the road.

[618] And one of them will name it after you one day.

[619] You see what I'm saying?

[620] Yeah, yeah.

[621] I think I hear the direction that you're going with this.

[622] Then one of the things that I'm afraid of is how do I get that, you know, that kind of that investment, that cultural, group investment if I don't have their credentials because I don't have a whole lot of charisma either so I don't think they're just going to sign up so what would be a way to substantiate I don't I disagree with you I disagree you do have charisma I can hear it on the phone well I talk on the phone for a living there you go right I mean I you're doubting yourself and you've pigeonholed the only way I can I can leave a lasting Marcus to create this brick and mortar thing.

[623] And George and I are telling you...

[624] You could start an Instagram account and reach way more of those people this year.

[625] Of, yeah, of our native friends.

[626] So we're just saying I want you to dream of different ways you can accomplish the mission so that you don't pigeonhole yourself and do well.

[627] If I don't sit in a classroom for the next four years, this isn't going to happen.

[628] Because I think there's more than one way to do this.

[629] And I also want you to enjoy, let's say there is five years left.

[630] How do you still enjoy time with your husband and still create memories and also accomplish your career dreams?

[631] Yeah, can I challenge you on something?

[632] Yes.

[633] Do you have kids or just your husband?

[634] No kids, just the husband.

[635] He's an amazing guy to one of a kind.

[636] It's actually notated in my doctor's notes how much he stood beside me. So definitely a heck of a guy.

[637] That's awesome.

[638] So if you decide y 'all two alternate making dinners for each other, And you wake up every morning and watch the sunrise and have coffee together for the next five years and you pass away.

[639] That's an extraordinary last chapter.

[640] An extraordinary last chapter.

[641] I don't want you to conflate a life well lived with big neon flashing signs that say, I left my mark.

[642] Because what you're going to find is, yes, it is cool to put a mark on something.

[643] It's cool to have, I'll give you, it's cool for me to have the number one.

[644] best -selling book, but I tell you what, when my son stands up and George, my son's here today and he, he's like, man, he called me, yes, sir.

[645] And I'll take that every day of the week.

[646] Right.

[647] And that comes from having morning breakfast and hanging out and walking alongside and teaching and riding bikes together.

[648] And so I want you to reimagine what a life will live looks like in your last chapter.

[649] And I promise if you chase some big, huge, dramatic thing, it's not going to feel like you think it's going to feel.

[650] I want you to be honest about what does a life well -lived look like in the last five years.

[651] And you're in this right or die with your husband.

[652] You all sit down together and decide what is this going to look like.

[653] And it might be serving indigenous people.

[654] That's amazing.

[655] I love that.

[656] But let's serve them in a way that's not going to require you to spend three -fourths of your remaining time in a classroom.

[657] And let's figure out other ways to do it because I promise you're smart enough and you are captivating enough to do that.

[658] Best of luck to you.

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[676] I'm George Camel, joined by Dr. John Deloney, open phones at AAA 825 -5 -2 -25.

[677] Today's question from the day.

[678] Question of the day.

[679] It comes from Zach in Kansas.

[680] What does Zach have to say?

[681] I'm looking for it here.

[682] All right, let's see this.

[683] Oh, boy.

[684] Is this a real question?

[685] This may be my favorite question of all time.

[686] This is my number one favorite question of the day ever.

[687] Zach from Kansas writes, I want to buy an Alex Van Halen drum set at auction.

[688] It's his last played tour set.

[689] It's likely going to be $100 to $150 ,000 and I want to use some of my 401k money to pay for it.

[690] Dude, I am with you so far, Zach.

[691] I love drums and I love Van Halen.

[692] Most importantly, that was awesome.

[693] I think it will go up in value rapidly, more rapidly than my 20 % increase in my retirement fund.

[694] That's how much it's gone up so far this year.

[695] I think it's a good investment because it's rare.

[696] I would like to hear your thoughts and insights.

[697] Oh, man. Easily.

[698] Number one, favorite question of all time.

[699] Should I cash out my 401?

[700] one to buy Alex Van Halen's drum set.

[701] I'm going to have to go to the yes on this one, Zach.

[702] I'm going to have to go with the yes.

[703] A big yes.

[704] I feel like Deloni in his heart of hearts would actually make, yeah, bro.

[705] Do it.

[706] Worth it.

[707] Oh my gosh.

[708] Zach, for all that is holy, please don't do this.

[709] Yeah, in case someone stops the call here, do not do this.

[710] Please don't do this.

[711] For anything.

[712] No. Especially on Alex Van Halen drum set.

[713] I think it will go up and value more rapidly than my 20%.

[714] Okay.

[715] Let me explain, it's a good lesson in compound growth, John.

[716] You want to play the game?

[717] You're going to bite?

[718] There's two investment lessons here.

[719] You teach the one on compound growth.

[720] I'll teach the one on stuff.

[721] Okay.

[722] So I remember when they asked Warren Buffett about crypto.

[723] And he said, I wouldn't buy all the crypto for $25.

[724] And they said, why?

[725] And he said, because no matter how much it goes up in value, that value is not real.

[726] It's a proxy.

[727] It's a It's a It's a guest estimation It's a bunch of people saying I would pay that for that I'd pay that for that And any given moment 24 -7 Right And what he said was I would have to sell it To be able to Buy anything that I need That has value That has value Like wood Or oil or water Or a Van Halen drum set Or a Van Halen drum set Now you see where I'm going So if you're buying a A dude I like buying guitars I love them I love them And once I sell X number of books I've got my on a very particular guitar that I have no business buying, but I can't wait to get it.

[728] I get that.

[729] But to say that I'm doing this for an investment would mean at some point I have to sell this and hope that somebody will still buy this for this much money down the road.

[730] And so I do not think it will appreciate more than 20.

[731] I just don't see it.

[732] So when you're thinking about buying things that are going to go up in value, Beanie babies, baseball cards.

[733] Do they go up in value temporarily or over a shorter period of time?

[734] Yes, of course they do.

[735] But I'm not going to, Mickey Mantle rookie card.

[736] It's going to up a trillion dollars.

[737] I wouldn't use that as an investment vehicle.

[738] And I wouldn't spend money.

[739] I wouldn't borrow money for myself to buy something that I'm going to have to resell to do anything with.

[740] Good point.

[741] You ready for the math lesson?

[742] Bring it.

[743] Okay.

[744] So taking money out of your 401K as a withdrawal has not only your income taxes, but also penalties.

[745] So it's like borrowing, let's say it's $50 ,000 he wants to rob his 401k of.

[746] It's $150 ,000.

[747] We said he wants to use some of his 401k money to pay for it.

[748] I don't know if he's saying he has, you know, let's say he's going to use $50 ,000 as an example.

[749] Well, he's going to pay upwards of 30, 35 % for the pleasure of using that money.

[750] Not only that, but he's also unplugged the future growth.

[751] So I have an example here.

[752] Let's say he's 37 years old.

[753] He's going to use 50K.

[754] That money, from 37 to 67, if he had just...

[755] left it in the 401k, never added a dime, would have turned into over a million dollars with compound growth.

[756] So if you're trying to tell me that this drum set is going to be worth over a million dollars one day, now we'll talk.

[757] He's one of the best drummers of all time, George.

[758] I'm not going to lie.

[759] Well, why isn't someone else bidding this up for?

[760] Why are they only selling it for $100 ,000 if it's actually worth a million?

[761] It's just not there yet.

[762] Don't do the Zach.

[763] Oh, Zach, Zach.

[764] This is a real question, guys.

[765] Guys, is this really, that we know and fake this in the booth?

[766] Okay.

[767] People always assume, John, that we fake this stuff for, like, entertainment.

[768] I could not have written this question in an improv creativity group.

[769] I couldn't have done it.

[770] It's too good.

[771] Too good.

[772] All right.

[773] Back to real people with real problems, hopefully.

[774] John in New York City, what's going on?

[775] Hey, guys, thank you so much taking my call.

[776] Sure.

[777] How can we help?

[778] Hey, so I have a business I had for roughly about 15 years and finally decided to run it.

[779] It's, you know, I'm going to need some cash.

[780] I have about $200 ,000 I'm sitting on.

[781] And I, you know, the business itself doesn't have any money because of the way I ran it up to this point.

[782] But, so the question is, do I use the money to finance it or do I apply for a line of credit or, you know, what should be the next step for me?

[783] So explain, you said you've been running the business for 15 years?

[784] I had it for a while, but I had such a nice job.

[785] I never really thought about ever quitting the job, which I did a year ago, to actually run it.

[786] So it was basically, you know, I was paying really well.

[787] Whatever the money was coming in was going right back out.

[788] I started at $346 a month, and fast forward, it's at close to $800 ,000 right now.

[789] And on contract, I have now a top line of 3 .2.

[790] Wow.

[791] That's what I'm going to be at this time next year.

[792] So top line is $800 ,000 a year?

[793] Right now, but on the contract right now, starting July 1st.

[794] So at this time, next year, it's going to be my top.

[795] on it's going to be 3 .2.

[796] And what is your net profit?

[797] 30 % on that.

[798] 30%.

[799] Okay.

[800] So why are you needing to finance anything?

[801] Why can't you just pay cash for whatever you need to do to scale the business?

[802] That was the question.

[803] See, up to this point, I've been rendered in such a way.

[804] Then I never even bothered to, I took a very tiny salary.

[805] And so now that I quit my job a year ago, I decided I'm going to grow up this business.

[806] We're going to build something for the family, like a brand new legacy.

[807] and that, you know, but I have 200 ,000 I've been sitting on because I come from nothing and just the fear of going back to nothing is to be sort of open off the cash.

[808] And so that was the question.

[809] Do I go into debt for the first time in my life or do I, well, not the first time I actually have a house and investment property.

[810] But again, that's not really part of the equation right now.

[811] I'll tell you the best way to run a business is debt free.

[812] And that's how Dave Ramsey started this company, the studio we're sitting in, this building we're sitting in, all was done at the speed of cash, and it's how we teach all business owners to run their business in Entry leadership, which is our business arm of teaching people how to grow and run a business.

[813] And so I would highly recommend you continue to run this business debt -free, move at the speed of cash, don't get ahead of yourself, don't get starry -eye, don't, you know, go finance a million dollars to try to scale this thing.

[814] You've done an amazing job doing it with cash.

[815] There's no reason to turn to a lender now.

[816] Good enough.

[817] I've been actually having to turn business away because I don't have to.

[818] have enough cash for the, you know, what I'm going to need in terms of buying equipment.

[819] And I'm okay with that just so you know.

[820] What kind of business is it?

[821] It's like a cleaning, cleaning service, property management, uh, deal with a lot of large, uh, commercial properties.

[822] That's all I deal with.

[823] And, you know, everything is with contracts, uh, for a year at every least.

[824] Uh, we don't, you know, we're doing well.

[825] And we project to do even well and grow even more.

[826] But I haven't to turn business away because I don't want to do it after that.

[827] you know, I'm hesitating.

[828] I find you guys that about a year and a half or so ago, and I'm late to the principles, but again, I don't have any debt at all.

[829] But, yeah, let's, John, listen, here's what you just did.

[830] You've been moving and moving, and you just signed the big one.

[831] You just signed one that's going to bring in millions of dollars.

[832] And so I want you to step out and look at 10 years from now.

[833] If you nail this one, it's going to put...

[834] Well, you are to.

[835] I know you will, I know you will, but it's going to put millions of dollars in your pocket.

[836] And that is going to be what you buy the new equipment with.

[837] So if you can hold your lifestyle one more year and you can hold the way the business operates one more year, you're going to be flush.

[838] And I'll tell you, you're in New York City, so you get what I'm about to say.

[839] Imagine the meetings we had here in 2020 when the world shut down.

[840] We had not one creditor to pay.

[841] A hundred percent of the energy in this building was going to make new business and help people who were hurting.

[842] It was not trying to backpay money.

[843] we'd already spent.

[844] And I want you to be ready for that moment because there's going to be people in your field that are desperate to pay off their cleaning equipment and their vans and whatever.

[845] And you're going to owe no money and you can come in and give people a base price during the middle of a crisis and you will take the entire market over.

[846] You are right where you need to be, my brother.

[847] You're on track, on track.

[848] Welcome back to the Ramsey show.

[849] I'm George Campbell joined by Dr. John Deloney, open phones at AAA 825 -5 -225.

[850] We're going to keep the show rolling on to Cincinnati.

[851] What's going on to Ambrose in Ohio?

[852] How's it going?

[853] Hey, how's it going?

[854] I just had a question for you guys.

[855] I am getting married in August.

[856] Woo!

[857] Yeah, I know.

[858] And basically, both me and my fiancee, I'm 27, she's 26.

[859] And I'm just kind of wondering how to combine finances.

[860] So I have a house in about like a $100 ,000 net worth.

[861] And she has she was traveling her for a while, so she's got a really high cash net worth of almost 200K, and I'm just kind of wondering, how do you guys suggest, like, combining finances, obviously, I mean, I have been married before, so first time doing this, I don't actually know how you guys did it when you did it.

[862] So just looking for that type of help.

[863] Awesome.

[864] When I got married.

[865] We were so broke.

[866] Yeah, I had 8 cents, and so it was pretty easy to combine it.

[867] We combined it in the ashtray, the cup holder in our car.

[868] And Ambrose, like, I have a million, she's got two million, just wondering the best way to combine these things.

[869] No, that's great.

[870] I love that you're thinking about this.

[871] So, you own a home.

[872] What's left on the mortgage?

[873] It's about a 200 ,000, or it's worth, I don't know, it estimates.

[874] There's from 220 to 240, and I have 140 left on it.

[875] Okay.

[876] So you've got about 100 ,000 equity there.

[877] And is she renting right now?

[878] No, she's at home with her parents.

[879] Okay.

[880] So once you guys get married, is the plan for her to move into your house?

[881] Yep.

[882] Okay.

[883] And You guys have any debt other than your mortgage?

[884] No, no debt.

[885] And she has $200 ,000 in cash?

[886] Yeah, she was a travel nurse during all of COVID, so pretty good.

[887] This is amazing.

[888] And you have cash as well?

[889] Yeah, I've got about a 15K cash set aside besides the stuff.

[890] So 15K and then the rest of it's going towards the wedding.

[891] Okay, you guys are cash flowing the wedding.

[892] Have you figured out who's paying for that?

[893] Yeah, we already got that covered.

[894] Great.

[895] And honeymoon?

[896] Yep, got that covered too All right So here's what I did Here's what I recommend anyone do Once you guys are back from the honeymoon Combine your bank accounts to one And what I did was I had my checking I just created, made it a joint checking And added her to it So it's not like you both have to close down your accounts You can just create out of yours A joint checking Add her to it She can shut hers down And then you guys have a shared joint checking Savings account as well That can be a high yield savings account With an online bank And that's really all you need as far as the tactics.

[897] Are you going to live in this house for a long time?

[898] Ask your question again?

[899] Sorry, so basically, also, there's like no tax implications of combining finances and considering that work.

[900] No, no, no, this is y 'all's money.

[901] Are you going to live in your house?

[902] Is this going to be your permanent place?

[903] Yep, I'm going to probably be there for about five years ago.

[904] And she's excited about living there?

[905] Oh, absolutely, yeah.

[906] She's gotten to the garden beds, picked out a bunch of stuff, is updating it, pending the rooms.

[907] He's definitely nesting a little bit there, although she's not pregnant as long, I'm saying.

[908] No, but no, I can imagine moving in after you've lived in your house by yourself, it's going to need some work.

[909] I would recommend considering taking some of the cash that y 'all both have and pay this house off.

[910] It'd be pretty amazing to start your new marriage without a house payment.

[911] Yeah, you'll have 215 going into it if nothing changes, if you don't add anything to it, and you pay off the mortgage of 140, you still have 75 ,000 left as your, you know, emergency fund, savings, vacation, slush funds, what have you.

[912] And that would put you in the Ramsey Baby Steps at Baby Step 7 at a very, very young age, which boggles my mind.

[913] Now, the question is, what is she going to think about using her $200K toward this mortgage?

[914] I don't know.

[915] It's going to be hard to convince her.

[916] She does, she doesn't want to invest in that because it's kind of just sitting in cash right now.

[917] pay off your house.

[918] That's the best investment you can make.

[919] A forced, fixed savings rate.

[920] You don't have to worry about what the market did with your money.

[921] You guys are sitting pretty.

[922] What's your mortgage right now?

[923] What's the monthly payment?

[924] $1 ,200.

[925] Okay.

[926] So you'd free you up probably about $1 ,000.

[927] You know, obviously you've still got to pay property taxes and homeowners insurance.

[928] But that's an extra thousand bucks you guys now get to invest on top of your amazing incomes.

[929] What are you guys going to be making together once you're married?

[930] Uh, one, sorry, 160.

[931] Woo!

[932] Okay, can I recommend something before you do any of this stuff?

[933] Y 'all need to go out and have a dream about money, a conversation about money.

[934] Because I'll tell you what, you're going to start off and you're already going to, you're going to drive out of the church parking lot with two flat tires if that money is still her money.

[935] And if your house is still your house.

[936] Yeah.

[937] When y 'all drive out of that church, that's y 'all's money.

[938] And that's y 'all's house.

[939] And so if y 'all decide we're going to pay our house off, pay your house off.

[940] And if y 'all want, if y 'all decide we're going to live a life where we owe nobody anything forever.

[941] And our entire destiny is up to us moving forward.

[942] I can't even imagine how amazing that would be.

[943] I'm just like trying to put myself in your shoes thinking about the fights and the discouragements and the near calling it quits.

[944] Me and my wife had the first few years.

[945] And so much of it was overmore.

[946] money and jobs and where we're going to be.

[947] Y 'all will have all of that behind you, if you wish.

[948] But y 'all need to get on the same page with this is going to, all of this becomes ours and just practicing, talking about that and deciding what kind of life do we want to have.

[949] You get what I'm saying?

[950] Yeah, that makes a lot of sense.

[951] Okay.

[952] That's the most difficult part because she worked really hard to save up $200 ,000.

[953] And so it can be very jarring for you to come in and be like, all right, sweet, we're married now, so you're going to pay off my mortgage.

[954] And you need to change the language around all of this.

[955] This is now our money.

[956] This is our mortgage.

[957] This is our house, our dreams.

[958] And what is our best path to wealth and peace and joy?

[959] And 100 % of the time, that is debt freedom.

[960] That's a part of it.

[961] And you'll have plenty of time to invest.

[962] I'm not worried about the fact you guys will be multi -millionaires.

[963] If you invest from 27, making high six figures all the way up to 67, it will boggle your mind.

[964] But for now, in the meantime, while you guys are young, I don't the free up a mortgage payment and enjoy that money invest some give some spend some go on some trips how does that hit you awesome that makes a lot of sense i appreciate the advice all right go get them brother goodness gracious what a wonderful problem to have and here's the other side if she came in with two hundred thousand dollars of i don't know medical school debt that would also be our our debt be our debt that's right it's a lot less fun than coming in with 200 grand of net positive cash flow but it's the same principle where you have to swallow your pride and go I did so well saving and she came into this well that's her debt to pay off and so she's going to work on that well that's a one way ticket to a real sad marriage yeah and it's also tough to so often when you are able to and you're blessed enough to build up some pretty significant cash reserves you almost don't realize how much you start leaning on it like as an identity as a safety crutch like I'll be okay I can do anything right and so when you get married and of course you don't have a house payment but I mean I need I need my I need my I've been leaning on this for years like this is my $200 ,000 that I can do anything at any time with and it's like no no no now it's us right and that's a hard transition to make I get that's really tough yeah probably that one of the hardest conversations as you combine lives together is just getting over that hump of what are we now going to build together because there's some compromise it's not like you marry the same exact person who's like, oh my gosh, I was thinking the same thing.

[965] You should definitely do that.

[966] There's going to be some arguments and spirited debates over what to do.

[967] There should be.

[968] There should be.

[969] But when it's born out of the same values, well, now we can get somewhere.

[970] We can actually compromise and not lose our principles.

[971] And I think it's asking, what do we want our house to feel like at the end of every day?

[972] I want it to feel warm and hilarious.

[973] And if we just want to watch TV, we can watch TV.

[974] If we want to just go for a while, we can do whatever we want because we don't owe anybody anything.

[975] And that's how you reverse engineer that, oh, then I'm just going to go and pay the house off because we had this money sitting in this account.

[976] That will be better than, all right, let's buy a duplex.

[977] And we're going to arbitrage it.

[978] Jeez, Louise.

[979] Well, we know money fights and money problems are still one of the leading causes of divorce.

[980] And so when you can start out your married life with zero debt, I'm telling you it's going to decrease the amount of money fights and money problems you have.

[981] You're going to have to go look for some problems.

[982] Oh, that's good.

[983] That's good encouragement.

[984] They'll find you.

[985] They'll find you.

[986] Always do.

[987] They'll find you.

[988] Well, I've found, John, that even though my wife and I don't argue about money a lot, still a lot of arguing, you know?

[989] I'm like, why did you have to buy so many throw pillows?

[990] Well, I have to see which ones look good, then I'll return the rest.

[991] America.

[992] Then it's girl math.

[993] If you could help solve the problem of how many pillows are on my bed right now, why are there so many pillows?

[994] I will never, ever understand that.

[995] You're not even allowed to put your head on them.

[996] I have two doctors, and I don't understand why we need so many pillows on our beds, George.

[997] for the aesthetic that no one sees except you.

[998] Help America, help.

[999] Send help.

[1000] This is The Ramsey Show.

[1001] This is The Ramsey Show.

[1002] I'm George Campbell, joined by Dr. John Deloney.

[1003] You know, a crux of this show is making the most of your money.

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[1010] All right, Maya's up next on the line in New Orleans.

[1011] What's going on, Maya?

[1012] Hello.

[1013] So essentially, my question is, should I put my credit card debt on hold to pay for my summer classes?

[1014] And then how can I best prepare myself for my loans as I graduate with my MBA in December?

[1015] So I know there's going to be a new monthly cost overall.

[1016] I did do a breakdown with all my debts, so I'm trying to be quick, but I can warn you guys through what I'm working with right now.

[1017] Okay.

[1018] So how much more, your school is over in December, how much more do you have to pay?

[1019] So I'm paying for my summer classes right now.

[1020] I'll be taken out a loan in August, only $5 ,000.

[1021] But right now I paid $1 ,600 at the beginning of this month, and then I owe $1 ,600 at the end of July.

[1022] As far as my credit card debt on one, my total is $8 .79, and $300 is due by the end of July.

[1023] My next credit card, $358, best at the end of the month.

[1024] month, I can easily pay that off now, actually.

[1025] A lot.

[1026] If you could easily pay it off, why did we go into a few hundred bucks of credit card debt?

[1027] What happened?

[1028] So, this is kind of crazy.

[1029] So I normally put my gym workout, like, on the credit card every month.

[1030] It's just kind of like a reoccurring thing, but I got a little willy -nilly and ran it up higher than it should be.

[1031] So it's normally about $75 a month.

[1032] Ran it up through extra spending?

[1033] Correct.

[1034] Okay.

[1035] Maya, you're getting an MBA.

[1036] Are you going to two classes or is this an online program?

[1037] This is an in -person.

[1038] I'm doing an accelerated program.

[1039] So it's nine months, but this summer I'm taking some additional courses or some, I guess, online classes.

[1040] So it's about three grand for the summer and it's normally five grand a semester.

[1041] So I was taking out one additional loan.

[1042] You have you gone through all of your services and fees?

[1043] Yes.

[1044] Hold on.

[1045] Hold on.

[1046] what they're charging me. Yeah, so if you go through your services and fees, I would be stunned if you're not paying a rec fee, you're not paying for an amazing gym.

[1047] No, no, no, that's separate.

[1048] I'm sorry.

[1049] The gym membership is coming out of my own personal.

[1050] I know, that's what I'm saying.

[1051] I'm saying you're about to have an MBA.

[1052] You're about to have a master's in business administration.

[1053] And as a part of this $5 ,000 tuition that you're paying, that comes with counseling services and medical clinic and access to the university gym.

[1054] And over here, you're paying for the gym again.

[1055] That's what I'm trying to get at.

[1056] I'm paying, yeah, I have trainers that I go to, and unfortunately, I just don't want to give it up.

[1057] I know, but you don't have the money for it.

[1058] So you're going to go into debt at who knows what interest rate so that you can have multiple gym memberships?

[1059] Could you cash flow this otherwise?

[1060] You're about to be a master of business administration.

[1061] So, okay, you make a great point.

[1062] So I actually started listening to you guys in January.

[1063] I was doing great.

[1064] And then in March, I kind of stopped listening to you all.

[1065] I'm not going to lie.

[1066] And I got myself back into credit card debt.

[1067] I'm seeing a correlation here.

[1068] When you don't listen to what John says, bad things happen.

[1069] And if you don't have George Campbell in your ears at all times, don't do it.

[1070] Here we go.

[1071] Yes.

[1072] You guys are back into my morning.

[1073] Are you in great shape?

[1074] Are you in great shape physically?

[1075] I need to get it fully.

[1076] You'll be all right for a few months.

[1077] Okay, for real.

[1078] Here's the deal.

[1079] Let's try to stop the bleeding.

[1080] No more loans.

[1081] So if you took debt off the table, what would it take for you to cash flow the rest of the schooling?

[1082] Okay, so I'm...

[1083] How many thousands of dollars?

[1084] Cash flow, okay, by the end of July, I mean $1 ,600, I'm still going to get a grand back for my taxes.

[1085] So I was going to throw that to it.

[1086] And I already have a total of $1 ,400 saved up today to take my son of school.

[1087] So July's covered, right?

[1088] Let's check off.

[1089] July.

[1090] What's the next bill?

[1091] Yeah.

[1092] Five grand, and then they do payment plans, so it'd be a grand a month.

[1093] Done.

[1094] Can you cash flow a grand a month to avoid going into debt?

[1095] Done, yes.

[1096] So I make $55 ,000 a year.

[1097] Thankfully, my job pays for all my car expenses, and then come August I'll pick up at my part -time job again.

[1098] I work at that same gym.

[1099] You work at the gym and it's not free?

[1100] So the gym membership is free, but the part where I get training is $75 a month.

[1101] Oh my goodness.

[1102] Okay.

[1103] Here's the truth.

[1104] You make $55 ,000, you can cash flow $1 ,000 a month.

[1105] Truth?

[1106] Okay.

[1107] So.

[1108] Yeah.

[1109] Yes, you've got to cut things.

[1110] You're in graduate school.

[1111] Debt is not an option.

[1112] That's your new mantra.

[1113] Okay.

[1114] So do I stop investing in my 401?

[1115] Stop and invest.

[1116] That's my 401K for both of them.

[1117] Pause investing down to zero.

[1118] We're going to cut our lifestyle down a little bit so that we don't have to go further into debt because the truth is you don't need this you don't need a lender you have Maya she works her butt off and she has the money to pay for this and so here's the deal that's my thing is I'm young so I'm like 23 and my goal is just to pay off the debt by the time I'm 30 I don't but you keep taking out more debt I was thinking like the end of the year because you know I it's only about right now I'm sitting at 57000 How is someone who's so driven and so disciplined, so lackadaisical about their financial future?

[1119] Going, well, seven years from now, maybe I'll pay off a few thousand dollars.

[1120] Or somebody who's getting a credential that is going to give you access to teach people how to run their businesses.

[1121] And you're like, I know, but like...

[1122] Maya, if Maya was running Maya Incorporated and she was running the books, what would you grade her right now?

[1123] Honestly, I would give myself like a two.

[1124] But ask me two months ago, and I would have gave myself like a six.

[1125] Is this out of ten?

[1126] Yeah.

[1127] I want to rate you ten out of ten, and to do that, we're going to cut the debt.

[1128] Because you know how business works, right?

[1129] Revenue goes up, expenses go down.

[1130] That's how it works.

[1131] Right.

[1132] And one of the expenses right now is debt.

[1133] So if you can cut that, then your revenue, your income is going to be all profit.

[1134] Right.

[1135] This is business 101.

[1136] And so that's how I want you to live your personal life.

[1137] because you know this from a business standpoint, but it's easy to get sloppy in your personal life because we are infallible humans who have emotions running the show.

[1138] And Maya, why are you getting an MBA?

[1139] This is kind of a bad question.

[1140] So I have my undergrad and healthcare management.

[1141] I actually graduated in December of 2022 with my undergrad.

[1142] I graduated a little early to save the money.

[1143] I did not like working in the health care field, so I switched over to HR.

[1144] And I work for a car rental company.

[1145] I like doing what I'm doing.

[1146] But if I'm going to be honest with you, I really don't know why I'm doing the NBA.

[1147] I tried to get a master's in a different, like, area.

[1148] And essentially, the counselor I met with was like, no, you need to get an MBA.

[1149] Like, it'll do good things for your career.

[1150] So I'm just getting it right now because I know that, you know, I'm young.

[1151] I don't have kids.

[1152] Like, I have time to get it.

[1153] And I'm able to, like you said, cash flow is cheap right now.

[1154] But you're not cash flow.

[1155] You're told that you're going to go into debt for it.

[1156] And you already owe $57 ,000.

[1157] Yeah, I do owe $57.

[1158] But yeah, so I'm going to attempt, like you guys said, to cash flow it.

[1159] Actually, I think that that's possible.

[1160] Well, you promise me it's not going to be an attempt.

[1161] Can you just say, I'm going to cash flow it?

[1162] I'm going to cash flow it.

[1163] Okay, we will be watching.

[1164] We will find you on the Internet and we'll know, Maya.

[1165] So don't lie to us.

[1166] Yes.

[1167] No, no, no. I am.

[1168] I'm going to put a plan in place.

[1169] I just need to figure out, I guess, how to best.

[1170] budget like all my my stuff there we go that's a solution hey my how far how far along are you in my in your program um I have five classes left so I'm taking two classes in the summer and I'll have three come August and I'm done okay so you're you're already you're already headed way downhill because otherwise honestly if you were just one semester in I'm I told you to stop it's too expensive and it's too hard of her credential and at 23 you're going to get out with an MBA, and you're going to put yourself in a strange position where you're over -credentialed so people can't hire you at some of these entry -level positions at these big companies, but you're going to be not have enough experience to run the company or be a senior leader, and so you're going to find yourself in a no -man's land.

[1171] So I want you to start now networking, networking, networking, networking, so that when you get out, you'll have a job or multiple job opportunities with this new MBA that you don't even know if you really want.

[1172] Good God Almighty college counselors.

[1173] We've got to do better.

[1174] That puts us sour of The Ramsey Show in the books.

[1175] From Ramsey Network, this is The Ramsey Show, where we help people build wealth, do work that they love, and create amazing relationships.

[1176] I'm Ramsey personality, George Camel, joined by my good friend and colleague, Dr. John Deloney.

[1177] That's DR.

[1178] Dot, two PhDs, don't forget it.

[1179] We're pumped to be with you.

[1180] Happy to serve you in any way we can to give you the right next step for your money, your life, your mental health, your relationships.

[1181] John, you ready to go?

[1182] Always.

[1183] All right, that's enough confirmation for me. Andy's up first in Atlanta, Georgia.

[1184] What's going on, Andy?

[1185] Why don't you have more friends?

[1186] What's up, Andy?

[1187] Hey, hey, guys, thanks for taking my call.

[1188] Sure, sorry you had to hear that.

[1189] Yeah, we can hear you loud and clear.

[1190] Okay, good.

[1191] I appreciate it.

[1192] I have kind of a, it's more of a moral question than a money question, but I have two sons, one of graduated college, a couple years ago, one is going into a senior year.

[1193] The oldest one got the mother of all scholarships where basically he graduated with 20 grand in the bank that they paid him to go there.

[1194] Yeah.

[1195] The younger one basically has full tuition scholarship, but I'm paying his room and board, and I've been cash flowing it just because life has been good the last four or five years.

[1196] And while I've saved over $50 ,000 for each of them in a $5 .29, I was just going to leave that sit there, so if they want to get a master's at some point, it's there.

[1197] My question is, I basically, I will have over four years put out about $60 ,000 room and board because it's, gosh, it's so expensive.

[1198] Andy, Andy, Andy.

[1199] Yeah.

[1200] You don't owe your other kid any money.

[1201] Is that what you're about to say?

[1202] Okay.

[1203] Well, I'm just wondering if there's any moral obligation in any way.

[1204] Wait, do the kids know about all the numbers here?

[1205] Oh, yeah, well, yeah, probably.

[1206] I mean, they're smart.

[1207] Like, is your other son being like, wait, wait, wait, dad, he got 60 worth.

[1208] Like, is he asking you?

[1209] Oh, no, he's the most grateful.

[1210] No, not in a million years, Woody.

[1211] And I actually, he's getting married this August, and I did tell him I wouldn't, because his, his, uh, fiance's family doesn't really have any money.

[1212] So I gave him the $15 ,000 budget.

[1213] That's kind of you.

[1214] That's his wedding.

[1215] That's awesome.

[1216] Yeah.

[1217] So here's a, I just that made me start thinking, well, a big disparity, so I didn't, you know, just thought I'd get some...

[1218] Here's what I know.

[1219] There's no disparity.

[1220] There's no disparity.

[1221] Here's what I know.

[1222] The home that that young man grew up, and I've spent my whole career working with college students, that home that that young man grew up in was safe and it was warm, and he had parents who pushed him and coaches and supporters who pushed him, and I don't even know why he got that scholarship.

[1223] but that didn't happen in a vacuum.

[1224] You've been supporting him his entire life.

[1225] Sure.

[1226] And that looks different.

[1227] Support for our kids looks different.

[1228] Some of our kids need extra medications and some of our kids need a different kind of backpack and some of our kids need counseling and some of our kids need football gear.

[1229] As a parent, we want to look at what's the best way I can set my kids off.

[1230] I don't want to keep a spreadsheet and I spent seven cents here and I spent nine cents here.

[1231] I mean, that's a recipe for resentment.

[1232] That's just, dude, you've done an amazing job with your kids.

[1233] They won the freaking dad lottery when they got you.

[1234] Well, they won the mom lottery and dad didn't screw it up.

[1235] Well, I'm curious, Andy, is this coming from like a personal place where you feel guilty?

[1236] No, I get it.

[1237] I get that.

[1238] No, not really.

[1239] Just when I started thinking about, okay, I'm going to underwrite some of this wedding here, or most of it, then I started thinking well that doesn't even things out and I know it's weird it's weird to think oh I have to even that out but maybe it's coming from a place of you know in the last several years I've been very fortunate in my business and it's done really really well there we go I could do that that's a totally different proposition I got a buddy who's when his kids got married he's very very very like comically wealthy.

[1240] And when his kids got married, he surprised each one of them with, I'm going to, I'll take care of your first home.

[1241] That was their wedding gift that they didn't know was a college.

[1242] Right?

[1243] And so if you want to drive a car up that's brand new because you've been super blessed or something like that, do that because you don't, let me put it this way.

[1244] You don't need an excuse to be generous with your kids.

[1245] Sure.

[1246] And I don't want you to say, well, okay, I've been super, super blessed in the last four or five years.

[1247] business wise financially I had to take care of this kid so I really would love to do something amazing for their wedding oh I you don't need to go through a bunch of mental gymnastics if you want to be generous be crazy and generous go for it but it doesn't have to balance that with your kids and don't do it out of a place of guilt yeah do it at a place of joy I worked really hard for this money I got lucky and I'm going to give a lot of it away I think that's beautiful man that's awesome all right all right well that makes me that makes me feel a little bit better about whatever it is what do you do for living what do you do for living I have a small company that creates sensory rooms for kids with special needs mostly my customers are mostly school systems Andy you're making all the other dads out there look real bad right now especially with Father's Day around the corner it's the last thing we need All right Andy can I ask you this one other question Yeah When you have a small business did one or both of your kids grow up when things were really lean?

[1248] Oh, yeah.

[1249] When I left my decent paying job to come here as a partner, I had to take my salary down to basically $30 ,000 while we were putting them in music lessons.

[1250] And, yeah, we drastically tightened the belt for years.

[1251] And that's where we learned about this thing called the envelope system.

[1252] Yeah.

[1253] So.

[1254] I've actually taught FPU once at a lot.

[1255] our church.

[1256] Well, I'm really grateful, dude.

[1257] But listen, that is a very common thing that there's really lean years and you as a dad are looking at these two youngsters and you're wishing you could give them the new baseball glove, the new bat, the new computer, the new whatever, and you just can't.

[1258] That money doesn't exist.

[1259] And then when it comes, there's this sense that I need, I, A, need to make up for the past or now that I can, I'm going to just.

[1260] turn the faucet on and flood this kid with right don't use your kids as a way to try to make up just do it out of a spirit of generosity and a spirit of i can you get what i'm saying right you were an amazing dad they got to see you grind they got to see you win they got to see you sacrifice they got to see you win again dude how incredible what a gift for these kids and then they get to see you dedicate your life to serving um kids with learning exceptionalities and special needs?

[1261] Come on, man. I mean, it's incredible.

[1262] It's incredible.

[1263] Well, thank you.

[1264] I mean, in the end, it's manufacturing and business, but it is nice to be able to do it in a way that enriches the lives of people who really need it.

[1265] That's exactly right.

[1266] You're there, my brother.

[1267] Come up with something really cool for them and give it away and be comically generous with them, but not out of any sense of obligation, but because you get to, because you're able to, and that's just who you are.

[1268] You're a guy who's just generous.

[1269] That's amazing.

[1270] I want to be Andy when I grow up.

[1271] For real.

[1272] And that's a good reminder.

[1273] Happy Father's Day.

[1274] It's around the corner and a lot of great dads out there.

[1275] Dad's, you know, they get a bad rap.

[1276] You know, the Homer Simpson era of dadhood.

[1277] But then you have Andy's.

[1278] And you're like, oh, that's what it looks like to be a father, to raise kids the right way.

[1279] And kids learn when their dads are grinding way more than when dads are just passing out new things all the time.

[1280] You want to teach your kid.

[1281] Let them watch you really struggle and continue to get up and continue to get up.

[1282] That transforms generations.

[1283] Good on you, man. Beautiful.

[1284] This is The Ramsey Show.

[1285] Welcome back to The Ramsey Show.

[1286] I'm George Camel, joined by Dr. John Deloney.

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[1289] And thank you guys for calling in and trusting us with your most important life decisions.

[1290] We don't take it lightly, and we try to do our best to steer you in the right direction.

[1291] That will lead you to peace and debt freedom.

[1292] All right.

[1293] Up next, we get Catalina in New York City.

[1294] What's going on, Catalina?

[1295] Alina.

[1296] Hi, how are you?

[1297] Thank you for taking my call.

[1298] I need your help.

[1299] I'm joining debt, but my main question is I have a loan for 21 ,000, with 1199%.

[1300] And I just call a company, one of those debt relief companies, and they said they can save me on the interest if I joined their program.

[1301] Do you recommend that?

[1302] No, no, no, no. So, can I be honest?

[1303] Catalina, I hate these companies with a burning, undying passion because they promise this wonderful life where you're going to have debt relief.

[1304] And what they really do is they tank your financial life and then attempt to negotiate while taking your money.

[1305] And so what they're doing is something you can do for yourself without paying someone to do it and without tanking your financial credit and all that in the process.

[1306] So what kind of debt is this?

[1307] it's a personal loan that I took to pay off some of my credit cards okay yeah and you're at 21k how much do you make a year about 60 you make 60 okay are you single I'm Mary okay is this household income 60 thousand yes okay are both of you working outside the home yes okay and you're living in New York York City, correct?

[1308] Yes.

[1309] Okay.

[1310] I'm just curious because it's such a high cost of living out there.

[1311] Are you guys struggling to just eat?

[1312] That's my nearest city.

[1313] I live in a different town in a small town.

[1314] Okay.

[1315] But it's close to your city.

[1316] Got it.

[1317] Okay.

[1318] What company holds this debt?

[1319] It's one of those...

[1320] Let me see what's the name.

[1321] It's one of those...

[1322] Hold on.

[1323] Let me see the company.

[1324] Because I'm wondering if you can negotiate directly with them and say, listen, I want to pay you back.

[1325] These interest rates are killing me trying to get a handle on the principle here.

[1326] Could you bring the interest rate lower and I'm going to attack this thing and get you your money back?

[1327] It's one of those credit unions.

[1328] Okay.

[1329] Have you been over there to talk to them?

[1330] No, no, not yet.

[1331] I just gave a call to one of these companies.

[1332] That's why I call you because I don't want to make another mistake.

[1333] I already make plenty of mistakes.

[1334] I'm glad because I don't like these debt consolidation companies, these debt relief, these debt settlement.

[1335] They all work in a few different ways, but largely what they'll tell you to do is, hey, stop making payments.

[1336] Don't make any payments, and you pay us that payment instead, and in the meantime, your credit gets tanked.

[1337] It'll go to collections, and they're going to try to settle.

[1338] That's their strategy.

[1339] That's what he told me not to make any payment, yes.

[1340] Exactly, and that's their strategy.

[1341] And so instead of doing that, instead of stopping payments and, you know, tanking this thing, sending it to collections and causing this problem to get even worse, the key here is for you to attack it.

[1342] Because you've trying to take the shortcuts.

[1343] I'm going to pay off one debt by using another debt to pay off that debt, right?

[1344] Yes, I'm on baby step one.

[1345] I started to like line up my debts, but I'm like lost.

[1346] How many more debts do you have?

[1347] Well, I have a lease and I have credit card debts 10 ,000.

[1348] Okay.

[1349] And do you know what's left on the lease if you did an early buy out?

[1350] Yeah, the list is end on September, but I would like to, you know, refinance and keep the car and buy it out because I already pay half of the car, so that's my only transportation that I have.

[1351] What's the car worth?

[1352] It's 29 ,000.

[1353] Whoa.

[1354] And you guys make 60 a year.

[1355] Yeah, we're drowning.

[1356] Don't you think that was a lot of car to buy?

[1357] Well, the moment, the payment seems, Okay, you know, the monthly payments, but now I'm almost done with it.

[1358] One of the keys, Catalina, to breaking free from this debt cycle is to not use the language of broke people.

[1359] So here's what broke people ask, how much down, how much a month?

[1360] Wealthy people ask, how much?

[1361] Can I afford it in full?

[1362] And so that's the kind of question I want you to ask because you will become a wealthy person.

[1363] That is going to be your identity.

[1364] and now we're just going to take some steps to get there.

[1365] So you've got the lease, you've got the credit cards, you've got the personal loan.

[1366] What else is out there?

[1367] That's it, just the lease, the credit card and the loan.

[1368] That's plenty.

[1369] Don't worry.

[1370] That's enough.

[1371] And so we need to get our income up.

[1372] How quickly can we get our income up?

[1373] Are both of you working full -time right now?

[1374] I'm doing some side work.

[1375] Like sometimes I do a day extra and I get like, you know, almost $300.

[1376] So I'm trying to get like side work.

[1377] And you have a husband?

[1378] A week.

[1379] Yes.

[1380] What is he doing for work?

[1381] He cooks.

[1382] Okay.

[1383] And so are you both making about $30 ,000 or is one making a lot more?

[1384] Well, he makes less than me. Okay.

[1385] What does it look like for him to go make more income?

[1386] Well, he's about to retire next month.

[1387] So it's probably going to be there.

[1388] Retire?

[1389] You can't afford it.

[1390] sweetheart.

[1391] Well, he's going to, you know, retire to get the paycheck, but he's going to keep working.

[1392] So it's going to be like, you know, a little more income.

[1393] How old are you two?

[1394] Um, 50.

[1395] He's, uh, almost 50, almost 65.

[1396] He's six, almost 65.

[1397] So he, does he have a pension or a 401?

[1398] How's he going to retire?

[1399] Nothing.

[1400] He has nothing.

[1401] Yeah, you can't retire, sweetheart.

[1402] Y 'all are broke.

[1403] And where does that leave you?

[1404] You don't have any money?

[1405] Now trying to pay off all of this debt with half the income.

[1406] Well, it's going to be bashinging more because the Social Security money will be a plus because he's going to keep working his hours.

[1407] Okay.

[1408] I don't understand the concept.

[1409] I thought the whole point of retirement was to not be working.

[1410] Yeah, no, not for him.

[1411] But hold on.

[1412] When he retires, where is he going to get extra money from?

[1413] he's going to stay at his job and then he's going to collect from social security okay so by retirement you mean he's going to start collecting he's going to start collecting exactly not like stop working got it okay okay i would rethink this whole plan i think you guys need to figure out how we're going to go into retirement completely debt -free and number one i would look into the buyout of the lease and then i would sell that car it is not a car you should be driving so even if you do buy it you don't keep it.

[1414] You're going to buy it in order to then sell it to make that $30 ,000 and then you're going to get a much cheaper car in cash.

[1415] Okay, I like that.

[1416] And how do I resell it?

[1417] Well, you can go private party on, like, you know, Facebook marketplace.

[1418] That's one way to go in your local community.

[1419] There's reselling sites like auto trader you could list it on, Craigslist.

[1420] And then with the credit card side, we need to cut those up.

[1421] They've not been a blessing in your life.

[1422] Have you used the credit cards recently to stay afloat?

[1423] Well, I just use it for like the monthly payments like the, you know, but I paid at the end of the month, most of them.

[1424] It's just one that I said you a $10 ,000 in credit card debt.

[1425] Yeah.

[1426] Well, then you don't pay it off the end of the month.

[1427] I think we stop, we need to stop getting starry -eyed about what you hope will happen when you start using these lenders money and start looking at what we need to do to never need a lender again and never need one of these programs and never need to pay off the credit cards with a person alone because the interest is better.

[1428] Do you see how this is broke people math and broke people mentality?

[1429] Yes.

[1430] You guys work too hard to be living like this at 1565.

[1431] I know.

[1432] That's why I need you help.

[1433] That's why I decide to call you.

[1434] Well, help me help you.

[1435] Here's the deal.

[1436] I'm going to gift you Financial Peace University.

[1437] I want you to watch all nine lessons with your husband.

[1438] We're going to craft a plan to get our income up, even if that means he's working and not collecting Social Security for another few years.

[1439] and your goal is we are not going to stop working until our debts are paid off and we have some stability and peace in our life and that might be a four -year journey for you but it will be worth it so hang on the line christian's going to pick up and we'll gift you financial peace university just promise me you'll go through it watch every lesson and take what we've said to heart thank you catalina we are cheering you on goodness i just want to strangle some lenders john they disgust me debt settlement debt relief get a clue.

[1440] This is The Ramsey Show.

[1441] Welcome back to The Ramsey Show.

[1442] I'm George Camel, joined by Dr. John Deloney, open phones at AAA 825 -5 -2 -2 -2 -5.

[1443] Well, guys, insurance is a big deal.

[1444] This is the defense you play as you begin to build wealth.

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[1448] And we vet these folks, we interview them, we coach them to make sure that they are market experts who have your best interests at heart.

[1449] So if you're wondering, if you have the right coverage based on your individual needs, be sure to find out for yourself at ramsysolutions .com slash coverage.

[1450] And you can take our free coverage checkup quiz.

[1451] It's quick, it's simple, and you will have more peace by the time you're done.

[1452] Let's go to the phones.

[1453] Victoria's up next in Vancouver, British Columbia.

[1454] What's going on, Victoria?

[1455] we help?

[1456] Hi.

[1457] My husband and I are on Baby Step 7, and we have begun the process to immigrate from Canada to the U .S. And I was wondering, how much should we be saving for our family for medical expenses?

[1458] So we have four kids, five and under.

[1459] And the timeline to immigrate, would be maybe five years, maybe 15 years.

[1460] So there's lots of time to save.

[1461] Yeah.

[1462] Well, I don't think medical expenses are something to, you know, worry about.

[1463] Are you guys going to be working here?

[1464] Well, my husband will be, but in Canada, we don't pay anything.

[1465] Brag about it.

[1466] So he'll probably have, if he's working for an employer, he'll likely have, you know, an employer subsidized health care plan, or is he going to start his own business?

[1467] He is self -employed, and so he would just.

[1468] just be moving his business.

[1469] Okay.

[1470] So you guys would just be kind of shop in the marketplace for health insurance.

[1471] And you can start that process now.

[1472] You can jump on Ramsey Solutions .com and get connected with a health insurance pro who can walk you through the options and go, here's what it is today.

[1473] If you move here today, here's what the cost would be.

[1474] Here's the things to look out for.

[1475] Here's the monthly premium.

[1476] Here's, you know, where your out -of -pocket max would be.

[1477] And so I wouldn't overthink it.

[1478] I mean, just know that it can be variable because of, you know, being self -employed and just shopping over the marketplace, it might be, you know, for a family of six, it could be $3 ,000 a month for health care.

[1479] Okay.

[1480] And so I would get at least a figure.

[1481] Now, that's going to change five to 15 years from now, but it will be far more expensive than if you just had an employer subsidized plan.

[1482] And then on top of that, just making sure you have the out -of -pocket maximum.

[1483] So let's say it's with your plan, $15 ,000 is the max that you pay before insurance coverage.

[1484] as the rest.

[1485] I would make sure to have that in an emergency fund.

[1486] Or if you have a high deductible health plan here in the States, you can get something called a health savings account.

[1487] Where it's triple tax savings, you put the money in tax -free, it will help you grow it tax -free, you can invest the money, and you can use it tax -free for qualified medical expenses.

[1488] So that's another great way to help cover some of those costs.

[1489] And how often do you pay $15 ,000?

[1490] That's like if you had all five of your kids in a car and This is all an awful hypothetical, so forgive me. And there was a bad car wreck, and everybody had to go to the emergency room.

[1491] The most you would pay is $15 ,000.

[1492] Then the insurance company has to pick up 100 % after that.

[1493] So it's catastrophic.

[1494] Or if, like, I don't know, if you're like me growing up, you're always breaking something, I'm breaking a bone, and let's say I got infected.

[1495] The most you're going to, so that out of pocket is the cap.

[1496] And so George and I both, we both have kids.

[1497] And so we have in our emergency fund, I have in my emergency fund the maximum amount of money that I could ever have to pay in a single year, it's there.

[1498] And so I have never had to use that ever in my life.

[1499] But if it did, I would have it.

[1500] And I'm just throwing random numbers out there, Victoria.

[1501] Because every plan is going to be different.

[1502] I think ours is 10 ,000.

[1503] My plan is nowhere near that.

[1504] I think with the family plan, we're on a high deductible health care plan here through Ramsey.

[1505] I think it's like $7 or $8 ,000 maybe for family, maybe 10 max.

[1506] Yeah, so that 15 was a made -up high -end number.

[1507] But there's a cap to, I think the illusion outside of the U .S. is every time you go to the doctor, you have to pay for it out of pocket, and it's $50 ,000 every time you go.

[1508] That's just not true.

[1509] Okay.

[1510] So I think some facts would help you to have, I think right now it just this kind of like the unknown is so scary.

[1511] And so jumping on on Ramsey Solutions .com, talking with a health insurance pro, they'll just be able to give you some ballpark numbers to give you some ease and go, right, here's what you would really need to cover day and day out, here's what you need in an emergency, here's what it would cost per month, and that'll give you a better picture?

[1512] Okay.

[1513] Now, health, medical costs aside, would you think it is a wise suggestion to move from Canada to the U .S. in terms of financial gains?

[1514] I mean, I'm so biased.

[1515] I'm so like America.

[1516] I think this is the greatest country.

[1517] I would never leave it.

[1518] So I'm a little biased towards that.

[1519] I think there's a lot of opportunity here.

[1520] We've got our fair share of problems.

[1521] I'm not going to pretend like it's perfect.

[1522] But, you know, I think it's a wonderful place to live that has tons of opportunity.

[1523] And it's kind of like college.

[1524] It's like you get what you put into it.

[1525] And, you know, you can make it what you want it to be.

[1526] I can tell you this, for my friends who live in Canada, in Tennessee where we live in every state has different income tax brackets or different state income tax.

[1527] We have no state income tax in Tennessee, none.

[1528] Yeah, we were thinking of moving to Tennessee.

[1529] Well, it's a beautiful place.

[1530] And so, like, your tax rate is going to be dependent on how much you make, but you're just going to pay federal taxes if you live in a state like this.

[1531] And then, you know, on the high end, it would be 30, up to 35 % of your income if you were making a whole bunch of money.

[1532] And so when you think of how much taxes you pay at home, it's going to depend on how much you're making and all that.

[1533] But my Canadian friends sure are jealous of how much of my money I get to take home.

[1534] And how much cheaper everything is.

[1535] When Canadian callers call in, Victoria, my brain like explodes when they tell me just how much the groceries are and cost of living and all of these things.

[1536] So I do think, you know, there's some benefits there to be had.

[1537] But, you know, just two guys' opinion who have only lived in America.

[1538] So take it with a grain of salt.

[1539] That's right.

[1540] But I wish you guys the best.

[1541] That's a big decision.

[1542] Big move.

[1543] And call us back if you need any help along the way.

[1544] I love living in Tennessee for whoever that's worth.

[1545] It is a wonderful place.

[1546] I'm not going to be too excited and invite everyone because, you know, it's getting busy over here.

[1547] We're close for business.

[1548] I don't mind.

[1549] Keep coming.

[1550] Keep moving.

[1551] Keep it moving.

[1552] It's good times.

[1553] All right.

[1554] Let's try to get to one quick one here from Keith in Newark, New Jersey.

[1555] what's happening, Keith?

[1556] Hi, guys.

[1557] Big fan of the show.

[1558] I appreciate taking my call.

[1559] Yeah.

[1560] So I'm trying to advise my father, who is 81 years old, lives a very active lifestyle, completely independent, and he's looking at his future needs for his medical care.

[1561] He's considering a continuing care retirement community, and I'm a little concerned about the situation.

[1562] of putting all of his eggs in one basket and limiting his ability to make decisions, you know, to be flexible with his spending and his health care needs in the future.

[1563] So what's it going to cost?

[1564] So roughly what he's looking at, so he's probably got about $2 million saved up.

[1565] The buy -in is $450 down in about $5 ,600 a month.

[1566] So what does that include?

[1567] So that's nothing, really.

[1568] That's just a condo.

[1569] So that's independent living.

[1570] If he wants to progress to, I'm sorry, acute care, I'm sorry, assisted living, that comes with additional costs and can be up to $14 ,000 a month.

[1571] My concern is when I actually do some back of the envelope math, if he puts down force, 50, and he's paying $5 ,600 a month.

[1572] He's, for the first four years, he's essentially paying $17 ,000.

[1573] Oh, because of the buy -in.

[1574] For the ability to possibly use the assisted living, which he may or may not need.

[1575] Yeah, I agree.

[1576] Based on what you laid out, this does not seem like a great plan.

[1577] He can live where he wants to live, and when he needs assisted living, let's move to that option.

[1578] Yeah, this is, and unfortunately, Unfortunately, this is a much deeper conversation here.

[1579] I think there's some conversations about friendship and community and safety.

[1580] So have those conversations with your dad.

[1581] Sorry we didn't have enough time to unpack it, but that's a very layered conversation.

[1582] You're wise to tread with caution here.

[1583] This is The Ramsey Show.

[1584] I'm George Camel, joined by Dr. John Deloney.

[1585] Our scripture of the day, Psalm 10313.

[1586] As a father has compassion for his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear.

[1587] him.

[1588] Charles Kettering said, every father should remember that one day his son will follow his example, not his advice.

[1589] Ooh.

[1590] I love that.

[1591] That's, you know, that's his version of Morris Cotton Tott.

[1592] I like that.

[1593] And again, happy Father's Day this weekend for all who celebrate.

[1594] That's you, John.

[1595] That's me. It's a big weekend for me. One of the best dads I know.

[1596] And me, this is my first Father's Day, John.

[1597] Thanks for acknowledging that.

[1598] Yeah, congratulations.

[1599] Thank you.

[1600] We did it.

[1601] Excited to see what Mia gets me. Yeah, she better come, she better come strong.

[1602] Yeah, I mean, you're not getting breakfast in bed from a nine -month -old.

[1603] How well did you do on Mother's Day?

[1604] Not great, but I feel like it was a win.

[1605] You know, I did all the things I could think to do.

[1606] So you should expect what you did divided by three.

[1607] I expect nothing.

[1608] That's how I live my life.

[1609] I completely disagree with that.

[1610] You already have a picture of that morning already laid out.

[1611] I honestly forgot it was happening.

[1612] That's how humble I am.

[1613] Kelly is saying words that I cannot say.

[1614] The number of thoughts going through my head that I'm not going to say because we're on the radio.

[1615] All right.

[1616] Let's do what we do, John.

[1617] Danny is in Orlando up next.

[1618] How can we help, Danny?

[1619] All right.

[1620] How's it going, gentlemen?

[1621] We're good.

[1622] What's up?

[1623] Well, I find myself very much in a poor mindset.

[1624] And I was listening to your conversations earlier, right?

[1625] And buying vehicles, finding out what the down payment was versus the monthly payment.

[1626] I'm 34 years old today, I find myself in about $50 ,000 worth of debt salary, making about $88 ,000 a year.

[1627] I have a home.

[1628] I purchased that about four years ago, so it's gone up significantly or good enough, I think, in equity upward to $100 ,000.

[1629] However, the debt to income ratio, I think, has finally caught up.

[1630] And I think the writing was on the wall a few years ago, but I've been able to pay.

[1631] kind of stave it off as much as possible.

[1632] Unfortunately, to payify myself, making minimum payments, sometimes missing payments, dealing with late fees, penalties, and really just making the bare minimum, sometimes missing those payments, in turn, having negative effects on my credit score, which are obviously impacting me long -term for any loans or anything of the sort.

[1633] So the question is, well, what do you promote or advise that I do, but what I had thought about is selling the home that I currently have.

[1634] Using the equity to pay off the debt, in turn, raise the credit.

[1635] I should have some money left over at the time to purchase another income -generating property.

[1636] That's the last time we need to look into his business opportunities.

[1637] Okay, Danny, I can sense, I'm less concerned about your credit score.

[1638] I'm more concerned about Danny.

[1639] You sound like a guy who just got punched in the face.

[1640] Well, yeah, looking at an addiction.

[1641] just tired, like I'm just done, I'm overwhelmed.

[1642] I'm, if I get one more overdue bill, like, are you ready to just live a different life?

[1643] Yes, sir.

[1644] Are you single?

[1645] No, I'm not.

[1646] I have a wife at home, two children, and I think that's a big part of it, right?

[1647] Looking at 30 years down the road, what life I'm able to live on time and them.

[1648] Is she as exhausted as you?

[1649] Yes, yeah, yeah.

[1650] Okay.

[1651] What do you do for a living?

[1652] What's that now?

[1653] What's your job?

[1654] for living.

[1655] I'm an EHS manager, Environmental Health and Safety Manager.

[1656] What kind of debt is the 50?

[1657] Break it down.

[1658] Come again?

[1659] What kind of debt?

[1660] It's two vehicles.

[1661] About 15 ,000 each.

[1662] Some of it is investments that I made in the property, perimeter fence, water softener unit, some credit cards, that's minimal.

[1663] I think that's like $2 ,500 ,000, but the bulk of it is it's the vehicles, the property improvements.

[1664] And this is for your primary home, you did these improvements?

[1665] Yes, sir.

[1666] Okay.

[1667] Yes, sir.

[1668] Yeah, dude, stop calling those, like, property investments.

[1669] You wanted a water softener on your house.

[1670] Like, just call it what it is, because it allows you to band -aid or duct tape over.

[1671] Like, you wouldn't normally spend that money, or maybe you would, but just call it what it is.

[1672] Dude, I wanted a nice fence, and I built a nice fence.

[1673] I wanted a water softener, got a water softener.

[1674] I wanted to upgrade the flooring.

[1675] did that.

[1676] Let's don't wrap it up into like, you know.

[1677] The ROI.

[1678] Yeah.

[1679] Okay.

[1680] So what are the cars worth?

[1681] They're upside down on the vehicles.

[1682] I bought them like two years ago or, you know, have you checked like Kelly Blue Book, private party value on these?

[1683] Yeah.

[1684] Yeah, I think it's, oh, about 16, 18, and they're, you know, they're value like 10, 8, something like that.

[1685] Okay, you said you had 15 on each.

[1686] You're saying it's 16 to 18 on each?

[1687] Something like that.

[1688] I'll be honest, I don't know the exact numbers, but it's between that 15 to 18 range, and I say that because there's lake fees that have compounded on there.

[1689] So if it was 15 at one point, the late fees that brought it up now.

[1690] Well, please do not let this car get repoed.

[1691] You need to get out of this thing.

[1692] Even if you're underwater, here's two options for you to get out from under this.

[1693] Number one, you save up the difference in cash.

[1694] You have a great income.

[1695] I don't know where it's going right now.

[1696] I don't buy that it's just going to the minimum payments and that, you know, I think there's some spending and lifestyle happening here, too, right?

[1697] Yeah, I mean, mortgage payment is $2 ,700, you know.

[1698] And what do you take home every month?

[1699] A big chunk of it, isn't that $5 ,000, give or take, $5 ,500.

[1700] Yeah, so about half your income is just going to try to cover the mortgage.

[1701] Exactly.

[1702] Well, I'll tell you this, selling the house is a last ditch napalm.

[1703] We tried everything else, and we couldn't scrape out of the debt after years of trying.

[1704] that's when I would say sell the house.

[1705] But to me, right now it feels like a cheap shortcut.

[1706] And I do think this was too much payment for you.

[1707] I think if we can't get the income up long term, then selling the house is a good idea just because it's too much of your world.

[1708] But don't do it as a temporary shortcut.

[1709] Yeah, and that's where I find myself, right?

[1710] Most of my income is going to the property, to the house.

[1711] Do you have any money in savings?

[1712] No, I can't.

[1713] All of it has been slowly chipped away, and that's what I meant.

[1714] The writing was on the wall.

[1715] Once I saw that savings slowly fade away, that's when I should have made some drastic changes.

[1716] But I had enough to kind of make it die up until now, but now it's paycheck to paycheck.

[1717] What about your lifestyle stuff?

[1718] Do you go out to eat a lot?

[1719] Not anymore.

[1720] Okay.

[1721] We used to.

[1722] I tell you, we did have a lifestyle where, you know, comfortable.

[1723] We would go out, and everything was paid, tip -tip -tops.

[1724] credit score was in the 700s.

[1725] This all really turned downhill within the past four years and can't quite pinpointed, and obviously it's my fault, I think, too much debt all at once.

[1726] Okay.

[1727] What did the car payments?

[1728] $500 and $600.

[1729] Okay.

[1730] So here's the other option.

[1731] I mentioned saving up the difference in cash of the difference you're underwater on, that way you can sell the car, and you have a clean title.

[1732] The other option is going to your local credit union and a loan for the difference.

[1733] And so that way, instead of being $18 ,000 in debt, you're in debt for the difference.

[1734] And at least that gets you out of the car, freeze up a payment.

[1735] Can you guys live on one car for now, or do you need two?

[1736] We essentially are.

[1737] One of the vehicles that's not even registered because I can't afford that.

[1738] Well, can you work overtime, side -hustles?

[1739] I'm a salary employee, so it's not a real overtime situation.

[1740] But yes, side -husts.

[1741] I'm a very Yeah, my handyman, I do a lot of handy work, and I'm not afraid to work.

[1742] What are you charged for handyman work?

[1743] I've cleaned out thing.

[1744] I charge by the job.

[1745] I don't charge by the hour.

[1746] But, Danny, there's something that's, you make $88 ,000.

[1747] You almost make $90 ,000.

[1748] Yes, sir.

[1749] I don't understand.

[1750] Help me with this.

[1751] I don't understand what this all goes.

[1752] Yeah.

[1753] No, you're probably taking a pension, right?

[1754] A little bit, a little bit here and there, but nothing that's steady enough for me to say, yep, this is my investment plan, right?

[1755] You need to point all the guns at the debt, which means no investing, no eating out.

[1756] Every extra penny we can scrounge up is going toward our smallest balance debt.

[1757] We're going to knock that out.

[1758] Which is the smallest debt?

[1759] Credit card?

[1760] Yeah.

[1761] Okay.

[1762] So we knock that out?

[1763] Here's the thing.

[1764] You kind of picked up on my tone of voice.

[1765] I have a hard time looking at that.

[1766] When I am behind on the HOA, I am behind on the mortgage payments, and now I'm looking at a potential eviction from my home.

[1767] Well, if you're going to get evicted, then we've got to sell it before you hit this point.

[1768] But I think we need to take an honest look.

[1769] Right now, you don't even know your debt numbers.

[1770] Go pull your credit reports from all three bureaus.

[1771] You can do that for free, annual credit report .com.

[1772] Get a real picture, sit down with your wife and say, we're in crisis.

[1773] We need a plan.

[1774] Hang on the line.

[1775] I'm going to send you my book, Breaking Free from Broke, to help you navigate some of this.

[1776] Brother, this is happening to you.

[1777] You can go down with this ship or you can get a path off.

[1778] But this is happening.

[1779] You've got to look at these numbers.

[1780] I know it hurts.

[1781] and I know it's scary.

[1782] You have to look at these numbers.

[1783] That puts this hour of the Ramsey's show in the books.

[1784] Thank you to Dr. John Deloney, the folks in the booth and you, America.

[1785] Thanks for listening.

[1786] We'll be back before you know it.

[1787] Hey, folks, Dave here.

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