The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett XX
[0] Did you know that the DariVosio now has its own channel exclusively on Samsung TV Plus?
[1] And I'm excited to say that we've partnered with Samsung TV to bring this to life, and the channel is available in the UK, the Netherlands, Germany and Austria.
[2] Samsung TV Plus is a free streaming service available to all owners of Samsung Smart TVs and Galaxy mobiles and tablets.
[3] And along with the Dyeravisio channel, you'll find hundreds of more channels with entertainment for everyone all for free on Samsung TV Plus.
[4] So if you own a Samsung TV, tune in now and watch the Dyer of a Cio channel.
[5] right now.
[6] Anxiety is really complex.
[7] So let's start with diet.
[8] The biggest change that I've made to my anxiety was stopping drinking sugar -free monster, which I love, by the way.
[9] Absolutely love them.
[10] But there's something in them that causes my microbiome to get out of whack and I will feel really anxious.
[11] So I used to have generalized anxiety disorder.
[12] I couldn't even tell you why I felt anxious.
[13] I just did all the time.
[14] and finally I realized there was a component of diet so I no longer get generalized anxiety now I will still get anxious if I'm dealing with something that's really like the stakes are really high and it really matters to me so I have to I've had to learn meditation that changed my life in ways that I can't even convey so that's been really important but it is it and some of it is going to be just the way that I'm wired I have I don't have an addictive personality but I have an obsessive mind now my obsessive mind has led to my success because I will think about problems all the time.
[15] And so, like, I'm actually a really slow thinker, but people give me all this credit because I can talk fast.
[16] But I talk fast because I've thought about it obsessively for days, weeks, months, years, depending on what thing we're talking about.
[17] But that rumination, in fact, I was just talking to a guy that does, he doesn't like the term hypnotherapy, but everybody will understand that idea.
[18] so he's really well versed in hypnosis.
[19] And he said people break into three personality types.
[20] And the personality type that struggles the most is the personality type that both experiences the world incredibly emotionally, but then has an analytical mind that ruminates on the emotions.
[21] And that's where I'm at.
[22] So I experience the emotional gamut of life.
[23] And it's incredible.
[24] I would never want to not.
[25] It's wonderful.
[26] Life is a roller coaster of incredible, highs and lows.
[27] And meditation and my belief system allow me to even that out so that I never get too out of whack in any direction.
[28] But I'll loop on ideas.
[29] And if it's a negative idea about myself, I'll loop and loop and loop and loop and loop.
[30] And so that's why I said at the beginning, what you allow yourself to repeat is really going to determine the quality of your life.
[31] And so I have to really get good at interrupting that.
[32] So that's why meditation is the key for me to dealing with anxiety.
[33] Like, as I can feel it rationing up, it's really my mind ruminating on all the ways that it could go wrong.
[34] And so I have to find a way to insert myself to break that rehearsal of failure and instead force myself to focus on rehearsing success, which it's almost silly, but it really does drop my anxiety to next to nothing.
[35] But I have to really forcefully insert myself.
[36] Does it always work that process?
[37] There are things that are so high in amplitude that it's like, okay this is really like stressing me out um but yeah it always works i've never been more than 45 minutes away from complete equanimity really and that's that's going through things that are where there's hundreds of millions of dollars on the line it's like really really stressful i've experienced anxiety too and i before i'd experienced it i think i experienced it in my mid 20s for the first time when my business got really really difficult and when the stakes got really really high, I always thought it was something that other people experienced.
[38] I never thought it would be something that would find me. And so my perspective in my, this is why I'm so compelled by the concept, because it did find me. And I couldn't believe it did.
[39] I couldn't believe it when it did, because as I said, I thought it was something that, some kind of, you know, maybe chemical disorder.
[40] But when I reflect on how many people in our society are feeling anxious these days, it pulls into question, is there something we are just fundamentally doing wrong about the way that we're living our lives.
[41] Yes.
[42] And what is that?
[43] Diet is the biggest problem.
[44] You think it's 100%.
[45] If you were, if you said you can have what you can make one change to somebody's life, what change would you make to lower their anxiety?
[46] A hundred percent their diet.
[47] Now, once that's regulated, it doesn't mean that it goes away.
[48] I still have anxiety.
[49] But when I think I've reduced it by 70 % through diet alone.
[50] Now, the remaining 30 % is still a pain.
[51] So you really do want to address it.
[52] And for that, I've had to turn to meditation.
[53] I've had to insert myself into the, of my ruminating thoughts and be very thoughtful about that.
[54] I've had to adjust my belief system so that I'm not afraid of failure.
[55] There are a lot of things that I've had to do to get myself to that place.
[56] But if I could only make one change, it would be that.
[57] Now, living in the social media era is amazing.
[58] It's amazing, man. And it's given so much.
[59] And I think it's given far more than it takes.
[60] But you really have to be careful.
[61] Like to give people an idea, I have had a lot of I have a lot of the worldly things that people want.
[62] And even I can look at somebody's house.
[63] If people saw my house and then they hear the following statement, they will laugh.
[64] But I can look at someone's house and be like, yo, that's a house, right?
[65] So it never ends.
[66] Right.
[67] So it's like if I peaked out and I had the best house in the world, I'd be like, yeah, but Elon Musk just built a rocket that can carry 300 people to Mars.
[68] Like, what have I done?
[69] So there's always some other thing.
[70] So you've got to be psychotically careful about what you allow yourself to value yourself for because I value achievement.
[71] I think it's extraordinary.
[72] I'm very glad that I have that.
[73] It makes me strive.
[74] It's pushing me to be a better version of myself.
[75] But at the same time, I have to be really careful not to let it damage my sense of self, which it will do very rapidly.
[76] And I think every, we have to agree that there is a North Star and for optimizing a human life.
[77] And I will say that which reduces suffering and elevates the individual to, you know, fulfillment, those would be my two things.
[78] Reduce human suffering in yourself and others and elevate your sense of fulfillment in yourself and help other people do the same.
[79] Like that seems to be the cocktail for the most resilient mental state you could hope for.
[80] So that even as life goes up and down and you win and lose and people are born and people die, I mean, we're all going to go through just unrelenting misery from time to time.
[81] It just is.
[82] And the only way to eat, even all of that out is to pursue those two things.
[83] Now, once we have that, then you start optimizing for lifestyle and beliefs and your thought patterns and all of that stuff.
[84] I really do feel like if you removed social media, you'd remove a tremendous amount of anxiety.
[85] And obviously, everyone's context would get smaller.
[86] So the comparison part, I mean, there's various reasons, front of mind reasons why I think social media causes people to be anxious.
[87] One of them is obviously all the feedback we get about our success, our achievement.
[88] 100%, whatever.
[89] And the other is the feedback we go searching for via comparison.
[90] So me looking out at the world, which is now billions of people on my phone, whereas once upon a time my human design probably, I was probably designed to deal with about 20 or maybe, you know, a small tribe.
[91] You could also optimize.
[92] Here is the brutal thing.
[93] Put out a tweet.
[94] Like put out a hot take, but something you really believe in.
[95] Like that really matters to you.
[96] And you're moved by it.
[97] And you feel like, you're adding something positive to the world like put out one of those tweets it will not be universally loved i've done that last week and it was 20 pieces yep and it was like in newspapers that is that is emotionally brutal yeah and when you realize that man i just want to like connect i want i want to put something rad out into the world but then people kick you in the face and it makes you want to turtle up and so it's this weird exercise of like you have to divorce yourself from what other people think, which is powerful if you can do it, but we're the human animal.
[98] And so you can't ever, I think, completely detach.
[99] We are, as I like to say, we are both the shout and the echo.
[100] So we are what we say do and believe, but we're also what people tell us about the things that we say do and believe.
[101] And it matters because we're a tribe animal.
[102] So it gets real weird.
[103] And then you and I are both into Web 3 in a big way.
[104] The only thing I know that's going to be more devastating to mental health than Web 2 and social media is Web 3.
[105] but it's also incredible and it's so life -changing that we have to find a way to mitigate some of the bad but you're taking all of the things of Web 2 and putting money on top of it and so now people are really freaking out why is it going to be worse Web 3 because it's money you're playing with people's money and so now it's not fun in games anymore it's like people are they're oftentimes investing more than they should in something and so it will be bad for them because now something that they otherwise could have enjoyed becomes incredibly stressful.
[106] And for the creators, we're going to destroy a lot of creators who are just like, yeah, I'm not, I can't, this isn't fun anymore.
[107] Like, it was fun, but I've now taken money for this thing.
[108] I have obligations.
[109] You have to be honest about that.
[110] But if, like, it's not going well, most people are not going to have the tools that they need to grapple with that to work through problems to improve to get better like it's just going to be really hard and so when you take the the ability for people all over the world to tell you what they think and then you let them invest money now it gets it gets crazy real fast and we're already seeing projects implode because the creator was maybe an artist who's already wearing their heart on their sleeve.
[111] And it just doesn't work.
[112] And they're not able to deal with that.
[113] And then the project poof, it goes away.
[114] And I don't think that most people had ill intent.
[115] Of course, there are people that have ill intent.
[116] But I don't think most of them do.
[117] But they're just, it's a business.
[118] And they don't know how to run a business.
[119] Did you know that the Dyer of a CEO now has its own channel exclusively on Samsung TV Plus?
[120] And I'm excited to say that we've partnered with Samsung TV to bring this to life, and the channel is available in the UK, the Netherlands, Germany, and Austria.
[121] Samsung TV Plus is a free streaming service available to all owners of Samsung Smart TVs and Galaxy mobiles and tablets, and along with the Dyer of a CO channel, you'll find hundreds of more channels with entertainment for everyone all for free on Samsung TV Plus.
[122] So if you own a Samsung TV, tune in now and watch the Dyer of a CEO channel right now.