True Maturity Is The Ability To Delay Satisfaction

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[2] I'm Dave Ramsey, your host, Ken Coleman, number one bestselling author, host of the Ken Coleman podcast on the Ramsey Networks is my co -host today.

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[8] Rob's in Los Angeles.

[9] Hey, Rob, welcome to the Ramsey Show.

[10] Hey, guys, absolutely love the show.

[11] So, a big fan, follow most of your advice.

[12] My question is about romance and how to keep it alive with the joint bank accounts.

[13] So my wife and I recently got married and were doing what you suggested, having one centralized checking account.

[14] But my question is, what do you do on Valentine's Day or her birthday?

[15] I don't particularly wonder to know how much I spent on flowers or if I take a look for a meal, you know, how much it costs?

[16] So what do you guys suggest?

[17] The longer you're married, the less that matters.

[18] Because actually, Sharon and I go out to dinner for Valentine's after 43 years, and we play Guess the Check before it comes.

[19] We want to see who can guess the closest to what it's going to be.

[20] So it'll work out.

[21] No, I'm messing with you.

[22] But that's a sweet, wonderful question.

[23] Thank you.

[24] Okay.

[25] So I guess there's a couple.

[26] I mean, we just need a mechanical way to fix it.

[27] So you've got some money that is spent towards her, but she doesn't know what it is.

[28] And so I guess around Valentine's Day, you could, as an example, around her birthday or something like that, you could increase your Rob spending account because you should have a his and her account for blow money, right?

[29] Yeah, we have a good.

[30] free account.

[31] Yeah, guilt -free account.

[32] Okay, let's increase your guilt -free account around that time, and she knows that we've increased the amount, but she doesn't know what you spent on the particular items then.

[33] Got you.

[34] But, I mean, she's not going to be okay with you dropping five grand out of budget, okay?

[35] But you don't want her to know if it's a $200 flower or a $300 flower, right?

[36] Exactly, that's my importance.

[37] Yeah, I understand financial infidelity, et cetera.

[38] But, yeah, there's a happy media here.

[39] Yeah, I agree.

[40] Yeah, so just build it up during that time, and it's just kind of a stated thing.

[41] I get a little more guilt -free money because I'm taking care of your birthday out of that.

[42] Shut up, you know, right?

[43] And so that's how, that's what I would do.

[44] I don't know, Ken, what do y 'all do?

[45] That's what I do.

[46] I tell Stacey, especially around Christmas time, I go, hey, listen, we plan out a budget for the kids, and then I go, all right, this is a range for us.

[47] And I said, you know, you just, you just not worry about it.

[48] And she loves that.

[49] And your wife is going to love that, too, because you've had the forethought to say, all right, I'm going to do a little extra over here, and it's not going to be crazy.

[50] And then she'll know all the details once she gets the gift.

[51] And so I think the thought that counts around the gift is great, but I think the thought to say, hey, we're going to stay controlled.

[52] We're going to stay disciplined.

[53] But, you know what, I want to do a little extra for you.

[54] And I think as long as you're communicating and you're disciplined, the romance is very much there.

[55] I love the heart of the question.

[56] But you guys communicating well allows for these month -to -month change.

[57] changes when you've got a Christmas of Valentine's and a birthday.

[58] Yeah, exactly.

[59] Because in February, we have Sharon Palusa.

[60] I know.

[61] Well, this is a big month for Sharon.

[62] Because of her birthday.

[63] Well, our first date was February 6th.

[64] Her birthday is the 8th.

[65] And then there's Valentine's Day on the 14th.

[66] So the whole freaking month is Sharon Palusa.

[67] I mean, she just gets, it's like ridiculous.

[68] So, yeah, budget for February is.

[69] Wow.

[70] Because it, you know, got a good month for sharing.

[71] Well, I've got a little category.

[72] It's SWI.

[73] Sharon wants it.

[74] Uh -huh.

[75] You know, so there it is.

[76] So it's one of my budget categories, and it works.

[77] It works.

[78] It's good, right, Rob.

[79] Is that also the same?

[80] Could you also call that same envelope, Sharon gets it?

[81] Well, that's the same.

[82] That's the point.

[83] Sharon wants it, Sharon gets it.

[84] S -W -I -S -G -I.

[85] That's it.

[86] Yeah.

[87] I have to give it all a full acronym.

[88] I like we're in the military.

[89] Yes.

[90] I love it.

[91] Good for you.

[92] Well done.

[93] Well done, Rob.

[94] Charlotte's with us in West Palm Beach, or Florida.

[95] Hi, Charlotte.

[96] How are you?

[97] Hi, Dave.

[98] How are you?

[99] Better than I deserve.

[100] How can I help?

[101] I have question.

[102] So during COVID, we decided to put some money in stocks.

[103] And now we made enough on the stock market to pay off our house.

[104] My husband really wants to because Florida is going crazy with insurance and taxes, and it's just going crazy down here.

[105] So he really wants to take the money out of the stocks and pay off the mortgage.

[106] How do you feel about that?

[107] What do you want to do?

[108] I don't know.

[109] I'm torn because how much is the mortgage up and I watch it go down but we pay you know $2 ,500 a month on our mortgage how much is your balance on the mortgage uh about 100 ,000 okay how much you got in stock value about 120 okay let's pretend your house was paid for and you didn't have any stock like like you did what he wants to do okay would you go borrow on your house to buy stock no same thing we want to well no no stop don't stop Stop, stop, stop, stop, stop, stop.

[110] You drove right past that.

[111] It's the exact same thing.

[112] If you had a paid -for -house and no stock, go borrow a mortgage to put the money in the stock market.

[113] It's just reverse engineered.

[114] It's the exact same thing as you taking this stock and paying off this house before close a business today, which is what I would do.

[115] I have never in 32 years of doing this radio show had anybody call me back and go, I paid off my house and I hate you, Dave Ramsey.

[116] That has never happened.

[117] There's a lot of people hate me for a lot of stuff, but that's not one of them.

[118] Okay.

[119] Pay off your house.

[120] Today.

[121] Okay.

[122] Do it by the end of the week.

[123] Have a little mortgage burning party with a little dancing stuff in the backyard on Friday night.

[124] Pay it off this week.

[125] You sound like him.

[126] He's just ready.

[127] Okay.

[128] Okay.

[129] Thank you so much.

[130] Sorry, Charlotte.

[131] He wins the argument.

[132] He's right, and you're going to love it.

[133] I figured that.

[134] I figured that.

[135] You called me and asked that question.

[136] You knew it.

[137] That's why I asked it.

[138] I was like, what do you want to do?

[139] Because when you lead with my husband once, we know where that's going.

[140] And, you know, it's funny for her to, she's kind of reconciling that.

[141] She's like, I'm watching it go up, go down, but she really wants to ride that wave.

[142] Well, they made some money.

[143] They did.

[144] And she's going, I like the way that feels.

[145] I want to do that again.

[146] That's exactly what it is.

[147] What you do is you take the $2 ,500 a month that you don't have any more, round that up to $3 ,500, and go if you're going to want to, if you want to do single stocks, I don't.

[148] I don't like the risk of it.

[149] Right.

[150] But if you want to do that, then throw some money in there and just watch that money grow.

[151] And now you've got to pay for a house in the backdrop.

[152] That's exactly what I would do.

[153] You breathe different when your house is paid for.

[154] The air goes more deeply into your lungs.

[155] It is a physical manifestation of peace, financial peace.

[156] Two words that don't go together like airline service, right?

[157] That's exactly right.

[158] I mean, it's just, you know, Delta, what's that mean?

[159] It means when you look it up in the Greek, we're probably not.

[160] going that's what it means so I mean oh out deep deep the airline jokes financial peace yeah well but here's the investment reality too though Dave it's that that 120 that 100 ,000 in equity is is no risk compared to the 120 ,000 yeah of the stock yeah because that could go up and down but your house is not going to do that not in florida hello you could get Biden reelected or Trump elected, or the world could come to an end, which is probably similar.

[161] At this rate, maybe that's the best option.

[162] C. None of the above.

[163] Yeah, I know where I'm going.

[164] It's a lot better there.

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[174] Ken Coleman, Ramsey, personality, number one bestselling author of the book Paycheck to Purpose.

[175] He's my co -host today.

[176] Erica is with us in Huntsville, Alabama.

[177] Hi, Erica.

[178] Welcome to the Ramsey Show.

[179] Hi, Dave.

[180] Thanks for thank you, Michael.

[181] Sure.

[182] What's up?

[183] So I'm going to give you a little bit of background so you can understand the situation.

[184] I'm in.

[185] I moved to the U .S. by myself when I was.

[186] 21 and I worked as a nanny until I was about 28 and when I was 28 I finally had the opportunity to go to college and I pursued a physics degree and in college I got as many opportunities that I could because I wanted to build my resume and have actual actual work experience and so I got an internship I did three research teams I was a physics teacher I published a paper, and I got a job right after college as a developer, and I'm making $40K a year.

[187] But I'm moving to Atlanta soon.

[188] I only have 10 days left at work, and I have been looking for a job since October, and I haven't even gotten an interview yet.

[189] And the people who went to college with me, they all got really good jobs.

[190] They have the same background as me, but they found jobs in engineering and tech, but I can't seem to find anything, and I don't understand why, and now I'm having to pay back my student loans, and things are getting tough.

[191] Erica, so let me ask you this.

[192] What have you done when you say I haven't been able to find anything?

[193] Does that mean you haven't been accepted in the form of getting hired, or you just literally are having a hard time ideating and selecting things to do with that physics degree?

[194] No, I actually have been applying to lots of jobs, and I haven't gotten in nature view.

[195] Okay, so let me - I applied for tech, engineering.

[196] So, Erica, I'm interrupting because that's the challenge.

[197] So we live in a world today where getting noticed is harder than ever if you're just going to apply.

[198] I mean, you could sit and LinkedIn message people all day long.

[199] You can apply, apply, apply, apply in your exhibit A for applying without a connection.

[200] And you were maybe not even getting noticed.

[201] There were some data that came out, Erica, in 2021 that said four million actually qualified candidates never even got noticed by the companies they applied for because of the artificial intelligence software that we have to use now to be able to process the amount of resumes.

[202] So I'm trying to encourage you, not discourage you.

[203] The encouragement is you've been going about it the wrong way.

[204] And now you need to do it the right way.

[205] And so if you're moving to Atlanta, you've got to start to zero in on everybody that you know that lives in Atlanta.

[206] Everybody that you know that knows somebody that lives in Atlanta.

[207] And we're going to show them the impressive degree that you got in physics.

[208] I'm assuming you had a great GPA and some of the papers that you've written.

[209] All these things are impressive, correct?

[210] Right.

[211] that's what I have been doing I have been trying to network there and I even went in person to a few companies to deliver my resume and introduce myself no luck yeah no but sweetheart listen you walk the days of walking into the street and to the receptionist while I love the hustle factor there it's just not the way things work so what has to happen is you've got to have somebody who is making an introduction for you to somebody who has a say in the job.

[212] Is this hard work?

[213] Absolutely.

[214] Is it harder than submitting resumes all day every day?

[215] Yes.

[216] But with your background, your pedigree, your issue is not qualification.

[217] Your issue is connections and getting in front of somebody who gives you an actual interview.

[218] And so there is no, there's no silver bullet advice here.

[219] This is you literally locking in on, this is where I'm moving to Atlanta.

[220] And so if I draw a circle around Atlanta and I know the north side, south side, You're looking at all of the companies, and one of the things you probably need to do is narrow in on.

[221] What is it that I really want to do with the physics degree?

[222] Do you have an answer to that?

[223] Give me top of the list.

[224] If you had three things, what would be number one at this very moment?

[225] Well, number one at this moment is what I have been doing right now to work as a developer, but I know that things have been tough for developers at the moment.

[226] So my second option would be engineering.

[227] You're doing code with a physics?

[228] degree?

[229] Oh, yes, because in my university, we have to have a lot of old background.

[230] Yeah, okay.

[231] But you want to do, you want to be a developer.

[232] That's the long -term ladder for you.

[233] I want to keep taking my developer skills and move up.

[234] Because your current developer job sucks.

[235] Yeah, you're not, you're on the low end.

[236] 40K to be a developer.

[237] That's awful.

[238] Yeah.

[239] It's because I was hired for a nonprofit company.

[240] Okay.

[241] So, Erica.

[242] we're fishing not only we're not fishing properly when you have fished you've been fishing in the wrong pools long profits by the very nature of their existence and operation there's just a lid on you financially you should be in the 75 85 range easy very soon with a a dev one six figures a first level dev yeah yeah for sure yeah that's what i'm trying to find i and they're and developers are not hurting there there there's a sure shortage.

[243] I don't know who told you the market is dried up for developers.

[244] There's a shortage.

[245] Oh, it's because of...

[246] I could hire five today if I could find them that were competent.

[247] I just went on...

[248] Listen, I just went on a popular job site.

[249] I'm not going to say their name.

[250] But there's 977 developer jobs on their site in the Atlanta area.

[251] Not exactly a shortage.

[252] 977.

[253] Yeah, so I have been applying for these, though.

[254] So you're not listening.

[255] That's why you're not getting an interview.

[256] For 10 minutes, Ken's been telling you applying for jobs doesn't work unless you know somebody inside the building that takes your resume out of that stack that's nine feet high and walks it over to their friend's office and says, hey, I don't know if Eric will be great or not, but you ought to at least talk to her or she's my buddy.

[257] That's right.

[258] That's who gets you the interview.

[259] Otherwise, we get 15 ,000 applications into Ramsey every year.

[260] we hired 170 people last year what do you think your chances of getting out of that needle in a haystack are it's not because we're mean or heartless so something erika just said and this applies a lot of people so i want to break this down so erika just said i don't have any buddies well first of all it's not true so let me give you all a really quick example of what i've talked what i've done a thousand times on the ken coleman show someone says ken i don't know enough people so i say to them dave how many people do you know, give me close ties, close network, social media, friends from college.

[261] And they usually say, every time they say, I know about 100, 150 people, 200 people.

[262] Okay, great.

[263] How many people do those 200 people know?

[264] And then they say, well, 200, and I go, quick math, that's 40 ,000 people.

[265] Yeah.

[266] So when someone says this, and Erica is still listening, so Erica, here's what I want you to understand.

[267] You know everybody that you need to know.

[268] But this takes work.

[269] Let me give you a classic example.

[270] Here's what people do wrong, Dave.

[271] They go on LinkedIn, and they fire a bunch of emails and connections, and they feel like, I did good today.

[272] I put some hooks out in the water.

[273] What you got to do is...

[274] No bait on the hook.

[275] No, you got to go to LinkedIn and you go, okay, so I'm looking at a job right here, folks.

[276] I'm not going to say the company.

[277] It's a lead full -stack developer.

[278] She's not qualified for that.

[279] But this is developer job at a company in Atlanta, Georgia.

[280] And it's listed via LinkedIn.

[281] So what you do is you go to LinkedIn, you go, how many people on LinkedIn do I know at that company?

[282] If she comes up with zero, then she goes, all right, let me start looking at the connections of people on LinkedIn that work at that company.

[283] And I will guarantee you she's three or four degrees on LinkedIn from that one person who's at that one company.

[284] Now, folks, our advice here is practical and it's doable.

[285] We don't give out this kind of, you know, Mary Poppins kind of Pollyanna advice.

[286] This takes work.

[287] I know.

[288] But my point is it's not.

[289] just go out there and do it.

[290] It's, it's, you got to work it and work it to the point where someone goes, all right, I know Fred over there and Fred knows the hiring manager.

[291] Fred's going to connect you based on our relationship.

[292] Here's a copy of Ken's new book, number one bestseller, proximity principle.

[293] That'll help.

[294] The proximity principles are what we're talking about.

[295] Find someone that you're in proximity of the job with.

[296] They can pull your resume out of the stack and walk it down the hall to their buddy.

[297] the hiring manager and go, hey, I don't know if she'll work out, but at least look at her.

[298] That happened to me last week, an old childhood friend texted me and said, a friend of a friend's daughter has her stack, stuff in your stack, would you pull it out?

[299] We pulled it out.

[300] It did not result in her being hired, but we pulled it out and let them look at it.

[301] Yeah.

[302] This is The Ramsey Show.

[303] Ken Coleman, Ramsey Personality is my co -host today.

[304] Open phones at AAA 825 -5 -225.

[305] So, Ken, I'm thinking about Erica's call in the last segment, and she's applying to a bazillion jobs and not getting any reaction.

[306] And your goal is to get her to go to a human being and that she knows, that knows a human being or that actually does still work, does currently work inside the company and let the human being take her resume and walk it to the hiring manager.

[307] and you've made a really good, a huge impact on social media and the podcast is very successful telling people that simple idea among several others on the whole idea of a job hunt.

[308] I never, and you and I've talked about this for, I don't know, that book is three years old, two years old, the proximity principle.

[309] So we've talked about this concept on air and off air a long time.

[310] It just suddenly hit me. coming back from that break.

[311] And she couldn't seem to get her head around what we were telling her to do.

[312] It was almost like it was impossible for her.

[313] But, you know, how much of this, this is a passive -aggressive question because it's actually a statement, how much of this need to do things digitally instead of relationally is caused by a generation that grew or two, who that grew up doing everything digitally instead of relationally.

[314] I think it's a portion of it.

[315] I'll tell you the biggest cause is the sting of rejection.

[316] So every time you have to put yourself out there and ask somebody to help you, one of the hardest questions we know to ask is, will you help me?

[317] We don't want to feel like we're a burden to somebody, and we also don't want to potentially hear the word no. So actually the fear of rejection is what's really driving most of this.

[318] Now, to your point, social media and technology and development.

[319] devices has made it feel as though we are being more effective.

[320] People have digital courage.

[321] I mean, they'll say crap, trolling and do crap that would get their dadgum nose broken where they'd do it in person.

[322] Somebody punched their freaking lights out if you said that in person to somebody, right?

[323] But you know, you got digital courage behind and behind your little avatar living in your mother's basement.

[324] That's right.

[325] And so, and it's a generation that breaks up with their boyfriend or girlfriend instead of doing it in person, A, with a little class and D. be dealing with relational conflict properly.

[326] They do it with a text.

[327] Well, let's go a level deeper.

[328] Now we have ghosting where you don't even actually send the breakup text or whatever.

[329] You just don't show up ever again.

[330] It's a scourge.

[331] We have literally, there are story to story of businesses hiring people and their start day arrives and the person doesn't show up.

[332] They get worried about them.

[333] They reach out to them and they never hear from them.

[334] I'm not kidding.

[335] This is called ghosting.

[336] I know it's called ghosting, but it's ghosting on a new hire.

[337] They're not showing up.

[338] We've had people start here two times in the last year, and I have raised Kane with our recruiters and our interviewers because they shouldn't have got it in the building.

[339] They started here and they quit on the first day because they found out like, we work and stuff.

[340] Right.

[341] Like, whoa.

[342] Imagine taking a job and then.

[343] At Dave Ramsey's place and discovering I had to work.

[344] Why would that be a shock?

[345] Right.

[346] Right.

[347] I work.

[348] But I think you make a very good point.

[349] The rejection feels less when I, submitting a resume online, I feel good about myself because I submitted it.

[350] I'm going further than that.

[351] I'm saying not everybody in these generations.

[352] I'm not throwing a whole generation on the bus.

[353] That's right.

[354] But the skill of personal relationships has been stunted.

[355] That's exactly right.

[356] It's hard though.

[357] By this technology instead of enhanced by the technology.

[358] And you're right.

[359] And I'm agreeing with you.

[360] But I'm saying what's really going on underneath all of that is this fear of rejection and fear to ask for help.

[361] And to your point, they've not exercised the muscle to where it's no longer scary.

[362] So you're absolutely at the pinpoint of why it feels better and feels easy to do it this young lady said.

[363] Because I'll never forget, I was like in my 20s and I went to a sales conference and the guy was talking about the guy with, there was a big, in my 20s, there was a huge real estate company called Century 21.

[364] Yeah.

[365] Oh, sure.

[366] And the guy that won the award for selling more houses than anybody else in this huge company was a Vietnam veteran.

[367] and they called him up to stage and he kind of was just this little guy not real impressive looking and he got him in front of the microphone he really wasn't that impressive and they're like so how do you the number one guy in the nation I mean you think a guy would be a dynamo right and how are you the number one guy and he goes well just talk to people about houses and they buy houses yeah he goes well what do you mean he goes well like example the other day he goes I was in Burger King and heard this couple sitting over there talking about houses looking at Holmes magazine I walked over and told him I'm in the estate business and three days later I sold him a house and they're like well weren't you scared to walk up to a stranger and Burger King and he goes I did two tours of Vietnam Burger King ain't scary and not the truth so it's a muscle that's a great example you know it's a muscle that's exactly right so we all have to understand that when we put ourselves out there just in the act of applying what you are essentially doing is you are in a place of vulnerability and you're kind of going I hope they like me and so now what's happened with this caller and we hear this all the time is she has tasted rejection so much that now she has really begun to believe the narrative that I can't find a job.

[368] And developers, you can't, nobody's hiring developers in Atlanta.

[369] And in a two second search, live on the air, you get 977 jobs to come up.

[370] So what's happened?

[371] What's happened is the warped reality.

[372] Right, but from what?

[373] I can't find anything.

[374] Nobody wants me and we believe it as opposed to what's really hard is to go taste rejection.

[375] I'm going to tell you something.

[376] When I was a kid, my dad, I remember my first job, he walked me up to a, drove me to a McDonald's and sat in the car and said, go in there and turn your application in.

[377] I had to go ask for the application.

[378] This is going to freak out some young people.

[379] I had to go ask for it.

[380] They hand it to you.

[381] Then I go sit in the corner.

[382] My dad gave me a pen.

[383] I filled it out.

[384] Had to walk back up and interrupt the manager who's busy trying to fill a, you know, a large fry order.

[385] And you're standing over there.

[386] But it's those kind of things that, yes, it was terrifying for me. And I'm an outgoing extroverted guy, but still.

[387] I mean, when you're four years old, that's hot.

[388] It's true.

[389] I was young.

[390] But, you know, the idea is, is that you have got, let me tell you, let me just say this.

[391] The most underrated, underused question in the world is, would you help me?

[392] And here's what I found about successful people.

[393] Most anybody will.

[394] Just about everybody does.

[395] Successful people who have been helped, by the way, they say this.

[396] Come on in.

[397] The water's nice.

[398] Sure.

[399] There's plenty of room for everyone.

[400] You have got to ask, which means you've got to be okay here and know.

[401] Success is not a fixed pie.

[402] There's a lot of room for all of us.

[403] Come on in.

[404] I'll help.

[405] It's your classic story of the turtle.

[406] Yeah.

[407] Turtle on a fence post.

[408] One thing you know, if you see a turtle on a fence post.

[409] Two things you know.

[410] One is, it's a curious sight.

[411] And two is the boy didn't get there by himself.

[412] And it's so rich.

[413] Are you a turtle on a fence post?

[414] Most successful people feel like they're a turtle on a fence post.

[415] They know they didn't get there by themselves.

[416] And so they're willing to help.

[417] They're willing to do that.

[418] So it's, yeah, and if I can't help, I'll send you to somebody that can't.

[419] That's right.

[420] Or I will help you by giving you an instant no on an email.

[421] That's right.

[422] I'll just say no. And I just feel like there's some people out there who are watching and listening today you need to hear this.

[423] I'm going to share this.

[424] Years ago, I had the opportunity to interview Soledadad O 'Brien.

[425] She was at CNN at the time, and I was asking her about her journey, starting from scratch in media.

[426] And she said something, a producer pulled me aside one day.

[427] She goes, I was in a heap.

[428] I had asked for a role and anchor.

[429] They told me no. and she was just devastated.

[430] She said the producer pulled her aside and said, listen, you need to start turning nos into not yet or not here and stop looking at it as finality.

[431] And the word no when we don't even get crickets back.

[432] You remember when we were kids, we'd write the little note, do you like me, yes, no, or maybe?

[433] What's weird about that is the maybe was more excruciating for me than the yes or no, because at least I do where I stood, right?

[434] I can move on.

[435] and so we we treat noes in the form of no reply to a to a job application we treat nose in the form of I interviewed I thought I did well but I got beat out and we treat that as this final period end of statement and I can tell you Dave knows my story I heard no from Ramsey leaders three years before I actually came here and it wasn't a no it was a not yet turned out Now, I didn't know that at the time.

[436] We weren't in a position to handle a thoroughbred like you.

[437] Well, I don't know about that.

[438] No, I think you had to find a program.

[439] It took a little while to get ready.

[440] We had to get a really good saddle and bridle.

[441] But you get that.

[442] We got to start.

[443] Well, no is not final.

[444] Exactly.

[445] It's true, though.

[446] It's not yet.

[447] It's not now, right?

[448] It's exactly right.

[449] It's a matter.

[450] Well, or not here.

[451] Not here.

[452] Somewhere else.

[453] We keep moving.

[454] Somewhere else.

[455] Keep moving.

[456] The guy that turned down the book financial piece.

[457] One of my best friends.

[458] Yeah.

[459] Sold 3 .2 million copies now.

[460] Oops.

[461] He's still in publishing and I'm still an author.

[462] But that deal never happened.

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[477] All right one last thing on that and then I'm going to move on because one of our team members working in the lobby mentioned this to me at the break.

[478] You know I'm saying that we've got a a couple of generations now that have grown up with a magic wand in their hand and they have learned to think Facebook friends or real friends, which is a lie, or break up over text and that there's a stunted growth associated with a digital level of communication versus a personal level, a relational level of communication.

[479] That is, I'm not making that statement, and to her point, she corrected me, and I appreciate are doing that.

[480] To her point, it's not a generation -wide malady.

[481] But it is not a, and so there's plenty of millennials that know how to do relationships.

[482] That's not my point, other than digital, right?

[483] There's plenty of Gen X or Gen Zs that know how to do relationals.

[484] But you guys have learned how to make almost that your default mechanism.

[485] And if you don't watch, you'll fall into that as my point, because our generation, we didn't have that.

[486] I mean, our phones were connected to the wall.

[487] That's so true.

[488] And so you couldn't, you had to kind of go around the corner to talk to your girlfriend and your sister not here at the dinner table.

[489] You know what I mean?

[490] With how long a cord could you get on this thing?

[491] And so, you know, it was a different type, a different situation with communication.

[492] And we didn't fall prey to, we didn't have the option of doing something stupid that goes viral and stays on your digital tattoo the rest of your life.

[493] So we didn't have that disadvantage either.

[494] So, but we didn't have the advantage of any question you ever want to answer in the world is at your fingertips.

[495] Yeah.

[496] And 30 seconds later, you can have the answer hypothetically, correct, depending on whether Google likes your algorithm search or not.

[497] But anyway, but conceptually, you know, it's a, it's a, it's a wonderful piece of technology.

[498] It is.

[499] And all millennials and all zis are not stunted.

[500] I want to make sure I'm not.

[501] Because I was not saying that.

[502] but I'm saying you can fall into that if you're in those categories.

[503] So be careful.

[504] All right.

[505] Helen is in Vancouver.

[506] Hi, Helen.

[507] Welcome to the Ramsey Show.

[508] Hi, Teneb.

[509] Thank you for having me. Sure.

[510] What's up?

[511] So I want to know, do I have a moral obligation to financially support my sibling?

[512] No. Likely for $250 ,000 in debt.

[513] No. You don't have a moral obligation to support your siblings, period.

[514] under any circumstances.

[515] It's, it's, um, I understand not, but I have very limited family, and I'm actually worried for her health, but I, that's, that's sweet and you love her, but that's different than a moral obligation.

[516] I love my sister and I want to help her is different than a moral obligation.

[517] Okay, so let's phrase it that way.

[518] Okay.

[519] Is there a way I can help her?

[520] Oh, yeah.

[521] Protects me?

[522] Uh, sure, sure.

[523] Uh, but you, unless you want to give her 250 ,000.

[524] thousand dollars to pay it off then you've got to coach her and be her cheerleader to uh give her some instruction and some encouragement to work her way through this you're her biggest fan you're her her biggest cheerleader her she'll never work her well okay so she's almost 60 her net income is 50 thousand dollars well change her income how do you what's her 250 ,000 in debt for uh living large what's it owed on pardon me what does she owe the money on?

[525] Well, the primary is a line of credit that I think that she's put onto her mortgage and then her mortgage.

[526] Okay.

[527] She doesn't even know that.

[528] She didn't think that she can actually Okay, so how much is her mortgage when it comes to?

[529] What's her mortgage balance?

[530] I would say probably, the grandson I know is like $250 plus.

[531] Okay.

[532] And what's the house worth?

[533] What's the house worth?

[534] What's the house worth?

[535] House is probably worth $600.

[536] Sell it.

[537] Boom.

[538] She's out of debt.

[539] That's what I think.

[540] But.

[541] No, she's out of debt.

[542] She doesn't need help.

[543] She just needs somebody to go, if you want to be out of debt, I can tell you how to do it.

[544] Sell your house.

[545] And you got, you got, what, $350 ,000 left over?

[546] You can survive in Vancouver on $350 ,000.

[547] She has equity in it.

[548] I don't even know that.

[549] Yeah.

[550] Pardon me. Well, you're dealing with a bunch of unknowns and a vague set of worries and a whiny sister.

[551] When she won't deal with her issue.

[552] Her issues are she's spending like she's in Congress.

[553] Yeah, and Helen, twice on this call.

[554] And she's not worrying about tomorrow.

[555] Yeah, you can't help.

[556] You can't make somebody grow up.

[557] That's up to them.

[558] Helen, I've heard twice on this call, you begin to make excuses for her.

[559] And I think there's a bit of guilt.

[560] I think you started this call with a sense of guilt.

[561] There is guilt because I'm financially secure.

[562] Well, wait a second.

[563] But you didn't cause her to be insecure.

[564] What are you guilty of?

[565] I hear you, but it's, I'm in the helping field.

[566] And that's kind of where I come so am I. It's like, it's been every day on my life helping.

[567] Would it be a good investment for me to buy the property or rent it to a really?

[568] No. Okay.

[569] The last thing you need to do is get involved in this woman's finances.

[570] She's an absolute out -of -control car wreck.

[571] Yep.

[572] You just stand back and just watch the car wreck and say, darling, if you will turn left, you will not wreck the car.

[573] Stop turning right and pushing on the gas.

[574] slow your butt down, turn left, sell the house, and get your act together.

[575] But she doesn't want to get her act together.

[576] You want her to grow up more than she wants to grow up.

[577] Probably true, yeah.

[578] Well, I think it's a step -a -low, I think it's lower, deeper.

[579] I think you want to protect her from the car wreck.

[580] You see it coming, and you feel like it's your obligation.

[581] Yeah, of course, right?

[582] That's what's all over you.

[583] You have guilt all over you.

[584] Like, it's your responsibility to stop the car wreck because you know it's.

[585] coming and I get that but I don't think you can but people you love all you can do is say hey you know what I've learned is that when I do this I get pain and when I do this I get joy and so I'm going to recommend the joy actions and behaviors not the pain actions and behaviors and I love you and I wish you do that but I can't make you do it and I can't do it for you and so you're not in the helping business I hope very deeply because you have the language of an enabler and you don't want to start doing that well i haven't i haven't given her money good you know but you're about to if if if at all no i said if i would give you money it wouldn't be a gift it'd be a loan and don't do that what do you want to be a creditor to this woman for yeah she's not dependable it's like throwing a rock to somebody who's drowning don't loan her any money again you're trying to help something that can't be helped yeah If she wants to make positive steps in a right direction and you can do things to encourage her and cheer her on, even if you matched some of her debt reduction.

[586] And you said, hey, if you pay off $10 ,000 or the debt, I'll put in $10 ,000 towards it.

[587] But if you just start loaning her money or giving her money and she keeps on the same behavior pattern, that money went down a rat hole.

[588] Yeah.

[589] So you're not really helping.

[590] You're just enabling when you do that.

[591] You're giving a drunk of a drink.

[592] That's what I'm trying to avoid.

[593] Yeah, just so don't get involved unless you can assist her moving in a positive direction that she has chosen to move in.

[594] She might have chosen because you talk to her about it, because you love her, you confronted her, all those kinds of things.

[595] But you have no moral obligation, no obligation of love to give a drunk a drink.

[596] As a matter of fact, there's quite the contrary.

[597] Your love obligates you to not give a drunk a drink.

[598] drink.

[599] I mean, I've got a friend who's been dry 12 years.

[600] The last thing I'm do is taking him to a bar.

[601] Absolutely.

[602] I love him.

[603] I'm not taking him there.

[604] And so even if he wanted to go, I wouldn't take him there.

[605] And he doesn't want to go.

[606] So I'm not going to put him in a position where he's going to be in trouble.

[607] So Helen, you got to just, if you want to sit down and talk to her and say, I'll help you if you start doing some things that are positive, I'm scared for you.

[608] I love you.

[609] I think you're getting ready to crash and I'm really worried about you but you can't you can't make other people stop doing stupid stuff if you could this show had been over 30 years ago but instead it grows in popularity every year it's true like the Krispy Kreme Store we just keep making the donuts same same recipe hot lights on hot now same question it's just rolling off the track there whole other generation here doing the same stuff and they got more sophisticated tools for their stupid that's great oh helen you're a sweet lady you're kind be kind to her but uh you're not responsible for this is the ramsie show from the headquarters of ramsie solutions it's the ramsie show but we help people build wealth do work that they love and create actual amazing relationships.

[610] Ken Coleman, Ramsey personalities, my co -host today.

[611] The phone number is 3 ,8 -825 -5 -2 -2 -25.

[612] Thank you for joining us, America.

[613] Chrissy is in Raleigh, North Carolina.

[614] Hi, Chrissy.

[615] Welcome to the Ramsey Show.

[616] Hi, thanks for having me. This is exciting.

[617] It's honored to have you.

[618] How can we help?

[619] I have a car loan that I have been trying to get out of since I've got the car because I was negative from the previous car and just tracked it on to the new car.

[620] So I'm trying to get, and I'm on baby step two, and so I've got my savings from step one, and my goal is to pay this off as my only debt.

[621] I'm 35, and I make 43 a year.

[622] So my question is, should I pay the principal down because my payment is $6 .13 a month?

[623] So can I pay the principal and then, like, sell it to a private seller and give it time but again like it's I'm trying not to put as much miles on it so it can sell like less miles because I feel like that was so what do you owe on the car um late to 29 thousand have you looked up what its value is today I looked it up on that Kelly Blue Book for a private seller it would be like 24 to like 25 ,000 okay so you're four or five thousand in the hole right yes sir okay um Um, are you single?

[624] Yes, sir.

[625] What is your income?

[626] It's, um, like, part, per year or like, yes, per year?

[627] Per year is like $43 ,000 and I've just started making that.

[628] Okay.

[629] Because I just got a rate.

[630] Okay.

[631] You're right.

[632] This is a car that needs to be sold.

[633] I agree with you.

[634] Um, who's the loan with on the car?

[635] Who do you owe the money to?

[636] It's through, um, Southwest, through like the Toyota.

[637] It's a Toyota Rath, that's what I have.

[638] Yeah, what's your interest right?

[639] It wasn't bad.

[640] I know it was under, it's around like, I think, six, six point something.

[641] That's very good.

[642] Okay.

[643] All right.

[644] Is your credit good?

[645] Yes, sir.

[646] Okay.

[647] I would hop to your local bank or your local credit union and talk to the manager in person about getting about a $10 ,000 loan for a $5 ,000 car and $5 ,000 extra to pay off the balance of this one to get this one sold.

[648] Okay.

[649] I'd rather you'd be $10 ,000 in debt than $30 ,000 in debt.

[650] Exactly, yes, sir.

[651] And I have learned that through watching y 'all's videos and stuff.

[652] I'm definitely watching more than I probably should.

[653] But I've learned a lot.

[654] It's a good addiction.

[655] If you're going to have an addiction, we're a good one.

[656] Yes, sir Yes, and I had kind of wrote that in my notes And I've kind of been like Contemplating Because I want to make a good decision Going into my next decision And I travel for work So I need a vehicle that's going to be A to B But also like I need To make sure I'm not on the side of the road In a mess Amen, I agree And I think you can probably do that for 10 grand Well, no, it's going to be a $5 ,000 car You might not do that for $5 ,000 Yeah Okay Yeah, so, and I didn't know, would it be better to sell to a purse, like a person, whoever will give you the most money.

[657] But usually a dealer won't give you as much money as a private sales.

[658] The private's always going to be more than a dealer, because a dealer's buying it at wholesale to resell it to a private individual.

[659] Right, that makes sense.

[660] They want to make a profit, and so that's their idea.

[661] But the other option, of course, is do some.

[662] things to increase your income sounds like you've gotten a new job that makes more that's great but also if there's some side hustles and you could raise your income up you know if you get the thing paid down really rapidly you may want to work your way through it i think it's too much car for your current income but i also understand you're on the road and so um and whatever you're driving if you're putting a bunch of miles on it you're destroying the value of whatever you're driving so you're right the sooner you get this fixed the less the car is going to go down in value every day you keep it you're running up some pretty serious miles so good question matt's in raleigh and north carolina hi matt welcome to the ramsie show hi thanks for taking my call sure matt what's up um i just had my moment where i realized that uh things are really bad and they need to change um and i'm i'm trying to figure out a way out of the hole that my wife and I have put ourselves in.

[663] And I'm wondering if I should sell the house to help dig us out of that hole.

[664] Wow.

[665] So what happened?

[666] Tell me about it.

[667] So things were looking really good.

[668] We had our first house.

[669] We bought when we were young, about 22 or 23, and basically flipped that while we lived in it.

[670] and sold that for a nice profit, and we moved up to a new house.

[671] Right around then, we had our first kid.

[672] We have two now.

[673] They are one and three.

[674] And we were just stupid and young.

[675] We had never planned for anything.

[676] So how much debt have you got, man?

[677] Um, about 295 ,000.

[678] On what?

[679] Um, a hundred and ten of that is a student loan debt that should be forgiven by the government in three years.

[680] No, it's not.

[681] That's absolutely bogus.

[682] Okay.

[683] Now, then what else have you got?

[684] Um, we have about 30 ,000 on cars, um, 55 on a truck that is about to go away.

[685] And a truck's being sold?

[686] And what else other than the truck?

[687] 100 ,000 on a heel lock.

[688] Okay.

[689] And what's your household income?

[690] We bring home around $67 ,000 a month.

[691] $67 ,000 a year?

[692] I'm sorry, $6 ,000 to $7 ,000 is what we bring home every month.

[693] I got you.

[694] Okay, I'm hearing you now.

[695] All right.

[696] all right so you're making 90 a year okay or 100 a year if you're bringing that home okay um if you're selling the truck i think i can see my way through this can't you um i think so but um i'm just trying to kind of i wanted to hear your opinion on it um so i'll tell you the thing that's bothering me the most is there's no fight in your voice you sound defeated I'm a little nervous Oh, okay, that's fair A lot of fights That's fair Yeah, I've been working about 16 hours a day Okay, that's fair I've been seven days week For about a year, but Okay I realize this a few weeks ago I've been really grinding Yeah, okay Well, you may need a little rest to start with But that explains it I wasn't being critical I just want to make sure that you've got Enough gas in your tank because the math I'm seeing with the sale of the truck, you can push through this.

[697] You can scratch your way through it, but you do have to stop all of the negative habits of overspending that you've been doing.

[698] Hang on, we'll send you through Financial Peace University is our gift, and hopefully we can help you get on the right track here.

[699] It sounds like you're heading the right way.

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[716] Thank you for joining us America.

[717] One of the things that we have not done very much of, and I regret that in the last 35 years on this show, is to follow up on does somebody actually take our advice?

[718] I mean, we pretty much tell you what to do, and you just go off into your world, and the listener never knows what happens to you, and neither do we most of the time, you know, unless it's something there.

[719] But occasionally, we get to follow up.

[720] So Marcus called in.

[721] and had not filed his taxes and ask Ken and I, our advice, a few months ago.

[722] And we, you know, here's an edited version of his call.

[723] So you guys get the gist of when he called the first time.

[724] I'll just be quick into the point.

[725] 2020, 2021, I was working a mortgage company.

[726] They closed their doors in 2022.

[727] I was making quite a bit.

[728] Now I'm a teacher, didn't file my taxes for 2020 and 2021, probably 80 % of that was obviously commissioned, so I did dumb.

[729] I know I need to file those now, obviously, and I'm going to owe quite a bit.

[730] I was just going to see if I could maybe get some advice on how to go about doing that.

[731] Not paying taxes is not a criminal act.

[732] Not filing taxes is a criminal act.

[733] That's the danger that you're in.

[734] concerned about that than I am the payment plan.

[735] If you were doing mortgage origination in 2020, you made some bank.

[736] Yes, sir, yeah.

[737] Like, what'd you make that year?

[738] Probably $2 .250.

[739] And you paid zero taxes?

[740] Yes, sir.

[741] I want you to get it done now.

[742] I don't want them to come find you.

[743] Okay?

[744] I want you to go to them, like, immediately.

[745] No later than the middle of January, these documents need to be filed, okay?

[746] you've got the cancer diagnosis you just don't know what the treatment is yet yeah so you got it probably got a 50 ,000 plus tax bill and needs to get filed and doesn't have the money to pay it and that's where we left him but you have to go get filed immediately that was the advice so you guys heard the call so Marcus contacted us and said he wanted to follow up so let's talk to him hey Marcus in Oklahoma City how are you doing these days brother Dave I'm doing a lot better I'm doing a lot better from not the last fall, and I appreciate the help and advice.

[747] Sure.

[748] Tell me what happened.

[749] I got online.

[750] I got hooked up with Dave Ramsey endorsed a tax professional who basically said kind of what you said.

[751] Sounds like you know you've done dumb and you've got a long road ahead of you, but I'm here to help.

[752] Send me an affidavit to basically sign on everything stating that if the IRS contacts you, we're going to be able to talk on your behalf.

[753] He got everything down.

[754] called me. It was a lot, it was still bad, but it was worse than, it wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be.

[755] And I think really at the end of the day, just knowing that number, knowing the monster that we have to attack is a lot better than just not, just the unknown, I guess, so to speak.

[756] So you've gotten a filing done.

[757] Got the file, took your, took your advice, got the filing done as soon as possible.

[758] I think it was maybe mid to late January once it was all sudden done.

[759] Okay.

[760] And, and And now you've got a huge bill with a payment plan.

[761] Well, yeah, I had about $60 ,000, $70 ,000, I put towards it.

[762] Oh, which dropped, yeah, which dropped it down to about $20 ,000.

[763] Oh, that's not bad at all.

[764] I thought you were in a deeper, deeper mess than that.

[765] That's awesome.

[766] I mean, it's horrible that that money's gone, but I'm glad you had.

[767] Somehow I didn't remember you having a pile of money, or maybe I didn't know that from the call.

[768] I don't know.

[769] But I'm glad you had that pile of money.

[770] So you had a $90 ,000.

[771] tax bills, what you're saying?

[772] Yes, sir.

[773] That's correct.

[774] Ouch.

[775] And, you know, it's just something about every, every phone call, I know, as dumb as it sounds, every phone call you get, when you're in that predicament, you're thinking, oh, my gosh, I wonder if that's the IRS calling me, you know, asking me. Why haven't you filed?

[776] Where, you know, anything else?

[777] Where are you so we can come get you?

[778] Right.

[779] The monster's in the closet.

[780] Yeah.

[781] Yeah, getting it filed, getting that number and getting that, at least that, it still hurts, but just the unknown not knowing you know when you may get that call or that you that certified letter or whatever the case may be is a lot scarier than what that number was so true well done well done you were brave that took some courage and uh and the moral of the story is the known is not as scary as the unknown a hundred a hundred times over yeah so that maybe that'll inspire some other people to take care of something because Sometimes when you've got something just off in the background from your past and it's hovering out there and you're just waiting on it, you know, the shoe to drop, so to speak, that is a lot scarier than just dealing with it.

[782] And you go, oh, that's all that I mean, 20 ,000 bucks.

[783] We'll get through this.

[784] That's all that's left.

[785] I mean, 90 ,000 bucks.

[786] But I'm really glad you had the 70s save from those good income years to throw at it.

[787] So, yeah, that's good news.

[788] So are you married?

[789] No, sir.

[790] Okay.

[791] So you're single.

[792] All right.

[793] Yes, sir.

[794] In a sense that makes it scarier because it's just you.

[795] Right.

[796] And it's like, oh, I mean, who's going to feed the cat if they come get me?

[797] Yeah, it's just knowing that.

[798] Go ahead, Marcus.

[799] Just like I said, just the unknown, just, you know, the phone calls and thinking, you know, sometimes, you know, it'll say USA or U .S. or something on your phone.

[800] And it just sounds stupid, but just thinking, no, it doesn't.

[801] No, it doesn't sound stupid at them.

[802] No, it doesn't sound stupid at all.

[803] And you see headlines like they're arming IRS agents and hiring 80 ,000 more.

[804] I mean, that's called a real nightmare.

[805] Here's my quick question.

[806] Obviously, you went into the tax pro to solve the current issue.

[807] Did you walk away with, speaking of things that you know, did you learn some things?

[808] You have some better strategies going forward?

[809] Because I feel like you're a guy that's going to have more windfalls and more success.

[810] I'm just curious how much of that you've talked with your tax pro about.

[811] Yeah, I mean, I told him, I said, I'm not sure, you know, I said that number is a lot less than I expected.

[812] I said, you will be my CPA for life.

[813] You know, and he just, he really kind of talked me through it.

[814] You know, he followed up with what was needed.

[815] Here's some, here's some other deductions we can take, you know.

[816] So he really worked with me. And I think they've said, you know, don't do this alone.

[817] Don't try this alone.

[818] You've got to get a tax guy.

[819] You've got to get somebody to help you out.

[820] And just deductions that I would know about, you know, things that he got up and and was able to do it for me. And then, like I said, I think the first step was when he sent me that affidavit and said, you know, sign this.

[821] If the IRS tries to contact you or anything like that, you know, we're going to speak on your behalf.

[822] Yeah.

[823] That's a great feeling.

[824] It's a great feeling.

[825] It's like if you're the little guy at school and the football player says, I'll take up for you.

[826] Here's my number.

[827] I'm not kidding you.

[828] I was getting ready to say, I was like, I feel like that happened to me once or twice.

[829] Hey, Coleman, I got it.

[830] Just don't go out on the playground, all right?

[831] Stay in the classroom.

[832] I love it.

[833] Marcus, congratulations.

[834] That took a lot of courage.

[835] I'm glad you did that.

[836] And thanks for allowing us the honor of the follow -up call.

[837] It's good for folks to hear it.

[838] And it's inspiring when people take, you know, take the bull by the horns, take responsibility and run straight at the problem.

[839] And that's the shortest route resolving the problem.

[840] Run straight at it.

[841] That's exactly right.

[842] So, you know, if you're facing something out there like that, guys, I mean, yeah, the tax pros are there.

[843] If you want a tax pro to do your taxes or to help you with a tax problem, uh the the guys and gals that we've approved across the nation that are ramsay trusted uh at ramsysolutions dot com you just click on the ramsay trusted thing there's tax pros everywhere they'll help you so there's people like that in a lot of different industries where insurance and real estate agents and so on and we've got the smart vester pros over in the investment side all of that and we put this network there's almost 8000 of these different folks available that we have vetted in these different areas and so you can check it out that way but here's the thing jim Collins told me this that wrote the book good to great.

[844] The research he did on his last book, he was telling me this in the green room when we were speaking together one time not long ago.

[845] And he said, ambivalence not knowing is more scary than bad news.

[846] Exactly right.

[847] It's like I've got a friend with a cancer diagnosis.

[848] And from the time they gave the diagnosis until they gave the detail and the treatment plan, then not know.

[849] knowing was scarier than the actual bad news of what the treatment plan and the actual prognosis was.

[850] Once you know what the demon looks like, once you know the size of the dragon, then you know the size of the weapon needed.

[851] That's right.

[852] And even if it's an uphill battle, even if it's a battle, you don't know if you're going to win or not.

[853] But at least you know the knowing how tough it is and doing the tough thing is easier than the not knowing.

[854] And that's what he just outlined.

[855] That's right.

[856] So fear of the unknown is a. a bigger fear than fear of tough stuff that's what i'm saying so step into it people step into it i don't know how much dead i've got i'm afraid to look that's scarier than knowing how much get in there and figure it out this is the ramsie show ken coleman ramsie personality is my co -host today open phones at triple eight eight two five five two two five you jump in and we'll talk about your life and your money ian is with us in tcoma hi i ian welcome to the ramsay show.

[857] Hey, thank you guys for taking my call.

[858] Sure.

[859] What's up?

[860] Hey, so I have a question regarding my career.

[861] So a while back, about a month and a half ago, I kind of asked myself the age old question of if I could wake up and do any job in the world, what would I be doing?

[862] Such a great question.

[863] And I came across the answer of being a pilot.

[864] Oh, fine.

[865] Because for a while, I've been interested in planes and aviation and I've been to a bunch of aviation museums across the country and it's just been something I've been interested in a long time before a long time and after doing research on the career it's it's a lot training's expensive a lot of time and money yeah yeah training's expensive uh job security is if be depending on when you enter the markets and when you finish your training so it's a lot and I have a very stable career right now I make decent money for what I do so I'm kind of stuck in a head versus heart situation no I don't think you're stuck I think you're scared and I would be scared at this kind of staring at this giant mountain of time and money that is the transition that you're going to have to make but I I would say that the stable job is it's your platform it's everything and whatever you choose to do if we choose to go the pilot route, you're not choosing between these things, and there is no head and heart wrestling match.

[866] I know what you're talking about, and I use that analogy a lot, but the only thing that's happening is your heart knows it wants to be in the air, and your head's going, this is absolutely excruciatingly hard, and some days the brain's telling you it's impossible, and so what we have to do is get the head aligned with the heart.

[867] And so the heart says, this is what we want to do.

[868] And then we go, okay, how would we go about getting there?

[869] And here's the question for you, Ian, since you went with the metaphorical question, if you're willing to do what it takes, are you willing to wait as long as it takes?

[870] Absolutely.

[871] All right.

[872] Now we got an answer.

[873] And I want to just get real personal for a second.

[874] I was 33 years of age when I got to a conclusion that I was supposed to go.

[875] into broadcasting, but I had no degree in it and zero experience.

[876] And everybody I talked to in Atlanta told me I was too old.

[877] And truthfully, I was.

[878] 33's ancient to get into broadcasting.

[879] But my wife and I sat down on one very specific night, and I looked at her.

[880] I needed to know if she was willing to go all in with me on this, because I told her I thought it was going to be five to seven years before I caught a major break.

[881] It ended up being seven years when Dave asked me to join him.

[882] And it was two and a half more years of pay and do.

[883] So about nine years.

[884] So if you're willing to wait, and it may be five, seven, nine years, depending on your financial situation, if you're willing to wait as long as it takes, then I would go for it.

[885] And that means you're going to be stable in a day job the entire time because we must stay stable.

[886] And then we build, we build, we build, we You get your hours, you get your licenses, you put the hours in the, because you've got to get the hours in the air under your belt.

[887] There's no exception to that.

[888] The only way to get around that and short circuit it is join the Air Force, or the Air National Guard, where they will train you and pay you.

[889] That's right.

[890] And it's a full -time gig, and when you finish your service time, you come out a pilot, and you're ready to go.

[891] That's if you get approved.

[892] Now, you could make that route, but otherwise you're going to be a weekend warrior at the airstrip, and everybody over there is going to know you.

[893] And you may even be doing some light instructing or something as you go along to keep your costs down on your time in the air.

[894] How many years, based on your financial situation, have you mapped this out, how long it's going to take you to save up the money?

[895] Because you know, we don't want you to go into debt just in order to get in a big old plane.

[896] What's it going to look like?

[897] Yeah, I've thought about that.

[898] I actually ran the numbers a bit ago.

[899] And in theory, I should be able to cash flow flight school by the summer of 2026, assuming I'm working full -time while going through flight school.

[900] Great.

[901] Man, that's two years to get started.

[902] What's it look like the full timeline on the other side of that when you're ready to get hired?

[903] So from what I've heard, it's generally 18 to 24 months to go from zero hours.

[904] to a commercial flight instructor, which is the most common way to build hours.

[905] And then after you get commercial flight instructor, it takes around another two, three years, depending on how many flight hours you get.

[906] It depends a lot on region, whether stuff like that, students, how big the school you work for is.

[907] Yeah, but it's very dope.

[908] So from zero hours to air transport pilot license minimums, generally it's three to six years.

[909] Okay, so let's split the difference, right?

[910] So let's say, let's say four and a half, and that's starting at 2026.

[911] So by 2030 -ish, we're ready to roll.

[912] Yeah, in a best -case scenario, yeah.

[913] I know, but I'm just letting you get your head wrapped around that because that is, we're talking about a four -to -seven -year play, and you've got to be signed up for that.

[914] But on the other side of that, I want to challenge one of your supposition the airline industry is in dire need of talent.

[915] And so you keep your nose clean, you do a good job, you become extremely likable, really work the relationship game this entire time, you're going to be in demand.

[916] You married?

[917] No, I'm young.

[918] That's one of the advantages of, I'm 20.

[919] Oh, I love this.

[920] 27, he's doing it.

[921] Why don't you go the Air Force route?

[922] It'd be faster.

[923] That's true.

[924] I actually have a medical condition that prevents me from flying for the military.

[925] Okay.

[926] I have amblyopia in my right eye, so lazy eye, so it is uncorrectable to 2020.

[927] Okay.

[928] But you can fly commercially with that condition.

[929] Yeah.

[930] Yeah, just military.

[931] They've got heavy requirements.

[932] I would have to go through the F, like some medical process or the FAA, so yes, I can, but that's the process.

[933] I wouldn't be able to jump immediately into training with the medical license I need.

[934] Yeah, that's right.

[935] Okay, all right.

[936] Gosh, yeah.

[937] He's a sharp young man who's laid out.

[938] Here's the other thing, Ian.

[939] I want you to give yourself permission along the way for you decide, oh, it's not a career, it's a hobby.

[940] That's a good point.

[941] And maybe I've got a different career in front of me. And that's okay, too.

[942] You could go, I mean, the number of guys that I know, and I'm in my 60s, that are pilots that do it just because they enjoy flying they are not doing it for a career but they've gone and gotten their pilots license because they enjoyed the intellectual stimulation and the thrill of flying and having the you know having the airplane at their control uh there's a bunch of them a bunch of good friends that do that um i've avoided it because i know how i am i'll get sucked in and i won't do nothing else i see you in some like one of those stunt planes yeah i'll be just zipping i wouldn't be doing anything else i'm all or i'm it's so i'm not I'm not a good personality for that.

[943] That's why I did not try to learn to play golf until I was almost 60, because I knew it would get sucked in, and I did.

[944] I just want to see you in one of those old school planes with the leather hat and the goggles.

[945] A little Snoopy hat.

[946] Yeah.

[947] Snoopy and the Red Barber.

[948] Yeah.

[949] I've actually got a picture of me doing that in a biplane, but I wasn't flying it.

[950] I was a pilot.

[951] Yeah, but I like that.

[952] I got to see that.

[953] I need to see the picture.

[954] Now, we do know that you like to jump out of planes.

[955] I have done that.

[956] That's kind of a thing for you.

[957] Are you done with that?

[958] Have you gotten that out of your system?

[959] No, I'll do it again.

[960] I mean, it's fun.

[961] I'm just not, I'm not doing it every weekend.

[962] Right, yeah.

[963] Yeah, that was a fun thing.

[964] I started doing that when I was 60.

[965] You're a recreational skydiker.

[966] Yeah, that's it.

[967] You and George Herbert Walker Bush.

[968] There you go.

[969] There you go.

[970] Our 41st president got into it.

[971] Well, yeah, that's how, I think that was just military training, if I recall.

[972] But yeah.

[973] Good job, Ian.

[974] Very cool.

[975] A sharp young man who's really laid it out.

[976] And, you know, most people want to microwave everything.

[977] he's willing to crockpot it.

[978] Sounds like it.

[979] That's what it takes.

[980] That's a big deal right there.

[981] That ability to delay pleasure to win.

[982] That's it.

[983] That's called maturity, regardless of the number of years you've been on the planet.

[984] This is the Ramsey Show.

[985] Ken Coleman Ramsey personality is my co -host today.

[986] Thank you for joining us.

[987] Today's question of the days from Adam in Florida.

[988] I'm a new listener, and I've got a burning question.

[989] Is there any way to leverage debt and stay aligned with your methods?

[990] No. We tell people not to borrow money.

[991] I mean, you don't listen to show but about 30 seconds to figure that one out, dude.

[992] It seems to me as a WT employee that the only way to attain outsized financial freedom would be to reach C -level suite, corporate America.

[993] Oh, brother.

[994] Or become wildly successful salespeople.

[995] Salesperson, oh, brother.

[996] I recognize that there is much more to life than acquiring wealth.

[997] But if there was ever a time to take a shot at entrepreneurship through acquisition or buying short -term, long -term rental properties, that'd be now.

[998] You sound like a TikTok ad, dude.

[999] I would also prefer to be my own boss than an officer of a large company.

[1000] Okay.

[1001] So you don't want to work for a large company, but here's the thing.

[1002] You have created a world in your mind that says that the only way to become wealthy is go borrow a bunch of money and buy real estate other than do things that you don't want to do, which is be a C -suite or whatever.

[1003] The truth is that C -sweeters don't become that wealthy that often anyway.

[1004] So that's a misnomer.

[1005] a high percentage of small business owners build wealth if they survive in business.

[1006] The number of people that borrow money to buy real estate and 10 years later are not bankrupt is almost zero.

[1007] So I'll give you an example, Adam.

[1008] When I was in my 20s, I did this.

[1009] You obviously have not heard the story.

[1010] So I got it to go.

[1011] agree in real estate.

[1012] I grew up in a real estate household.

[1013] I got my real estate license when I turned 18 years old three weeks later.

[1014] I sold my first house to another guy as an agent a week and a half after I got my license.

[1015] So I've been doing this a long time.

[1016] It's in my blood.

[1017] I really know real estate.

[1018] I started buying real estate from nothing, went deeply into debt, buying everything I could buy, everybody that would loan me money because I was doing the stuff back then before there was cable TV or TikTok to tell you how to do it and I was doing all the things that they're showing people to do now and I bought and bought and bought and bought and bought and by the time I was 26 I had four million dollars worth of real estate that I owed three million dollars on starting from nothing I was a millionaire and in 1983 I made $250 ,000 that's $20 ,000 a month in 1983 doing real estate so I was successful except I'd borrowed a lot of money and my largest lender that owed a million two of that three million two got sold to another bank and they called our notes because they looked over and said there's a 26 year old child that owes us a million two and this scares the crap out of us for good reason and we want him to bring us our money now let me tell you what you call real estate that you sell fast cheap that's what you call it there's one way to say real estate sell real estate fast low price So I start giving away my real estate to meet these note calls.

[1019] Our second largest lender got word that I was in trouble.

[1020] Within 24 months after all of that, I was bankrupt.

[1021] I lost everything I owned.

[1022] I was sued.

[1023] I was foreclosed on.

[1024] Our marriage was hanging on by a thread.

[1025] And with a brand new baby and a toddler, I was bankrupt and got the opportunity to start over.

[1026] So a man with an experience is not at the mercy of an idiot on TikTok with an opinion.

[1027] I've been there, done that.

[1028] I got all your t -shirts.

[1029] So don't do this, Adam.

[1030] Don't do this.

[1031] Not because I had a bad experience, but because what I learned in that during that time was I joined the Nashville Real Estate Investors Club.

[1032] As a matter of fact, I was an officer in the Nashville Real Estate Investors Club.

[1033] It was formed by a nothing down guy named Robert Allen, who wrote the book called Nothing Down.

[1034] If Robert Allen was in the business today, he'd be big on TikTok.

[1035] Nothing Down.

[1036] The book called Nothing Down.

[1037] and he formed these clubs all over America, people buying nothing down real estate.

[1038] By the way, he went bankrupt.

[1039] Interesting.

[1040] The guys that were in that club that were buying real estate on debt, which was almost all of them, some of them more debt than others, some of them less debt, 10 years after I was bankrupt, you know how many of them were still doing real estate?

[1041] Two, the rest of them had gone broke.

[1042] The two that didn't have sold off the vast majority of their price, property to get the debt paid off and clear a handful of properties.

[1043] So this idea that you're going to build wealth with highly leveraged real estate is absolute hogwash.

[1044] It simply does not work 10 years later.

[1045] You can't find somebody that's been doing these flips with heavy debt that survived 10 years.

[1046] You can't find a 10 -year -old one.

[1047] They don't make it because it's such high risk.

[1048] There's so many mistakes you can make, and I'm a freaking expert at this.

[1049] I mean, I was really, really good.

[1050] Dude, I was a millionaire by the time I was 26, starting from nothing.

[1051] I was good at it.

[1052] I was a pro.

[1053] So, you know, no, you know, you're, you're, the, the, the things you are asserting in this are absolutely false in this, in this question.

[1054] So how do you become wealthy?

[1055] Our millionaire statistics, the largest study of millionaires, ever done in North America, say it takes an average of 17 and a half years, you fully fund your 401k with a match and good growth stock mutual funds and you pay off your house and you stay completely out of debt on everything.

[1056] If you want to buy some real estate, you do it after you get your house paid off and you pay cash for your first rental.

[1057] And then you'll have a lot of cash flow because you don't have any stupid payments.

[1058] And then you pay cash for your next rental.

[1059] And then you pay cash for your next rental, which, by the way, is what I started doing when I earned 28 after I was bankrupt, and now I'm worth several hundred million dollars, and most of it's in real estate, and I haven't borrowed a dime since I was 27 years old, ever again.

[1060] I don't borrow money.

[1061] It is not a proven plan to wealth.

[1062] As a matter of fact, it's a proven plan to not become wealthy.

[1063] Yeah, and I would say, well, I want to address this last sentence.

[1064] I would also prefer to be my own boss.

[1065] We have a young man here.

[1066] I don't know if he's young or not, sounds like it, but you don't know if you want to be your own boss or not.

[1067] We have 70 % of Americans in recent polling said they wanted to work for themselves, but only 6 % of Americans do.

[1068] There's a massive gap there.

[1069] And the reason is because what we think we want to do in the form of working for ourselves, actually, we don't want.

[1070] Because when you've got a gap, Dave, between 70 % wanting to be self -employed and 6 % are, it's not all it's cracked up to be when they actually look into it.

[1071] It's really hard.

[1072] I tell you what, when you work for yourself, your boss is a jerk.

[1073] Yeah, and more demanding.

[1074] That you think you had a demanding boss before?

[1075] Wait till it's all on you, pal.

[1076] And so I just want to point this out.

[1077] He'll work you to death.

[1078] Yeah.

[1079] I love the entrepreneurial spirit we see of this young generation.

[1080] This is a difference between wanting it and wanting to do what it takes to get it.

[1081] And I think this is a young man who doesn't know what he wants.

[1082] I would say I wanted to validate what he wants.

[1083] He wants the shortest possible path to wealth.

[1084] That's it.

[1085] That's all in here.

[1086] Well, we all want freedom.

[1087] Welcome to the human race, right?

[1088] That's why John Locke and Cicero and Epictetus and Thomas Jefferson all created this phrase, The Pursuit of Happiness.

[1089] But here's the deal.

[1090] I've sat here in this studio and watched thousands of people talk about attaining outsized financial freedom, the words he used here, and they did it the way you described.

[1091] Outsized financial freedom in 2024 is the baby steps millionaires that we talk about and that we have helped do it.

[1092] That's outsized because most Americans are up to their eyeballs in debt and are going to retire broke.

[1093] There's only 15 million millionaires in America.

[1094] That shows you the percentages right there.

[1095] That's outsized.

[1096] Don't you think, Dave?

[1097] So if you have a million dollar net worth, what you own minus what you owe, you are outsized.

[1098] That's right.

[1099] And it's the first step to having 10 million.

[1100] So never has there been a C -sweeter on that stage that I'm aware of.

[1101] Maybe there has.

[1102] Yeah, we get them occasionally.

[1103] It's very rare.

[1104] But the correlation between, I have to be in the C -suite in order to be one of the 10 ,167 people that we interviewed that are millionaires.

[1105] There's almost no correlation.

[1106] None, none whatsoever.

[1107] Now, you know, I will tell you that the fourth largest category of career is business executive, which would include C -sweeters, sir.

[1108] But these people are steady investors.

[1109] they're not impatient but Adam your question screams of immaturity it screams of I want it I want it now and I want it easy please honey I did it don't do it don't do it what I did it's painful that's why I do the show so I said you keep guys from like you from becoming guys like me because what I did was really stupid and it really hurt everybody I loved live from the headquarters of Ramsey Solutions this is the Ramsey show we help people build wealth, do work, that they love, and create actual amazing relationships.

[1110] Ken Coleman -Ramsey personality, host of the Ken Coleman Show, and number one bestselling author of the book, Paycheck to Purpose, is my co -host today.

[1111] Thank you for joining us.

[1112] The phone number is AAA 825 -5 -225.

[1113] That's AAA 825 -5 -2 -2 -25.

[1114] Sarah starts this hour in Baltimore.

[1115] Hi, Sarah.

[1116] Welcome to the Ramsey Show.

[1117] Hi, how are you?

[1118] Better than I deserve.

[1119] What's up?

[1120] So my best friend had recommended that I gave the show a call, going through kind of a hard time.

[1121] I lost those in my parents.

[1122] My dad passed in November, and my mom most recently at the end of January.

[1123] Oh, my goodness.

[1124] Yeah.

[1125] I'm so sorry.

[1126] How old were they?

[1127] So my dad was 70, and my mom.

[1128] My mom was 62.

[1129] So unrelated events, I take it.

[1130] I guess unrelated.

[1131] My dad was very unexpected, but my mom didn't do well once my dad had passed.

[1132] Oh, broken heart.

[1133] Wow.

[1134] They were married forever, I bet.

[1135] Yeah, over 40 years.

[1136] So it was a long time for them.

[1137] I'm so sorry, sir.

[1138] How old are you?

[1139] I'm 34.

[1140] Okay.

[1141] How can we help, darling?

[1142] So I'm trying to give a call in because I've been trying to find some advice on how to protect myself financially during this time.

[1143] They didn't have life insurance.

[1144] They didn't leave a will and all they had left was our family home.

[1145] However, I had found out after their passing by going through their phone record that my mom was in a bankruptcy.

[1146] So now that she's passed, I believe that the bank will go for her house.

[1147] I'm trying to figure out what my best option is to protect myself, but also protect the equity in the house.

[1148] You personally are not at risk at all.

[1149] Okay.

[1150] People do not inherit their parents.

[1151] debt right so the only thing the only thing that's at risk here is the house and what's the best and wisest thing you can do on that let's talk about that for a minute but there no one's coming after sarah you understand that okay okay you're completely clear so this is more of a horribly tragic sad thing so your mom had filed a bankruptcy what will happen there and you can check with an attorney to verify this is the creditor which is the bank, will file for a dismissal of the bankruptcy because the person has passed away.

[1152] That'll be granted.

[1153] Then the bankruptcy protection that prevents foreclosure will be removed, allowing them to foreclose to take the house.

[1154] That's what's going to happen.

[1155] It will take a while, so we don't need to panic.

[1156] This is going to be a long -drawn -out affair if you want to fool with it.

[1157] Now, what's the home worth?

[1158] Um, so the home worth is between 300 and 30 ,000 and 450 ,000.

[1159] That's a pretty broad range.

[1160] Right.

[1161] What do you really think it's actually worth?

[1162] I think it's probably only worth around 350 because it's not in the best.

[1163] Let's use that as our number for discussion right now.

[1164] What is owed against the house?

[1165] They have two mortgages, one for 168 ,000, and one for 30 ,000.

[1166] I want to say 33.

[1167] Okay.

[1168] So we've got 200 ,000 owed with $150 ,000 worth of equity.

[1169] Are you the sole heir?

[1170] I am not.

[1171] I have a sibling.

[1172] However, my sibling will be signing over rights so that I handle the affairs.

[1173] Okay.

[1174] All right.

[1175] Well, I mean, without just let me cut to the chase, you've got a good option here.

[1176] long before they get it to foreclosure.

[1177] Where is the home?

[1178] What state?

[1179] In New Jersey.

[1180] Okay.

[1181] All right.

[1182] You can check New Jersey law, but I suspect it will take them three to six months to foreclose once they've gotten relief from the bankruptcy court, which is probably going to take them three months.

[1183] You might have a year, but you definitely got probably, I'll give you a 98 % chance you got six months.

[1184] okay that's a long time agreed right okay do they have did your mom and dad have other dad um he had a he was a cab driver in the city so he was paying off a medallion um is the medallion an asset that you can sell that's what i'm working with right now to figure out if i can tell it but they had depreciated and value greatly because of COVID and because Of Uber and Lyft, so they're not...

[1185] So what is owed on the medallion?

[1186] Another $168 ,000.

[1187] Okay.

[1188] So the principle is this.

[1189] When you pass away, what you own assets has to stand good for what you owe.

[1190] If there's not enough, if you don't own enough to pay everything you owe, then someone doesn't get paid but the debt does not go to sarah okay all right so what i think i just heard is you have a two hundred thousand dollar equity maybe you're going to have some legal fees if you want to go through all this stuff okay and out of that 200 thousand the medallion has to be paid off if it can't be sold and so it sounds like there's nothing here unless the medallion has Unless the medallion has value.

[1191] Basically, my question, like, do I fight for this?

[1192] No. Do I leave it?

[1193] No. I'd toss them the keys.

[1194] Unless the medallion has $100 ,000 value and you can sell it, I don't know.

[1195] I don't have any idea.

[1196] I've never done that before.

[1197] Okay.

[1198] So you've got to do a little work on the medallion.

[1199] But if the medalli, whatever the medallion is worth is about what you're going to end up putting in your pocket.

[1200] Okay.

[1201] If you sell, so if you sold the house for $3 .50 and you paid off.

[1202] the medallion and it was worth zero and you paid off the mortgages you got nothing so it's not worth the trouble does that make sense it makes sense okay because the other advice I was given was to claim a bankruptcy for myself no and I you're not in debt whoever told you that stay away from them they're not smart and it sounded absurd to me to change myself and make my life harder it's also not right no So now, but I really want, I think the hope in the story as far as actually getting something out of this estate is, is if the value, if the medallion has some value.

[1203] Hey, Ken hit the things ever, while we're talking here, Ken's going to look it up, just Google it.

[1204] Can you sell a medallion?

[1205] I don't even know.

[1206] I mean, I know what they are.

[1207] I've talked to cab drivers enough in New York City and over the years, you know, 30 years.

[1208] I don't even know what it is.

[1209] That's why I was, what is.

[1210] It's like a little badge that goes on the cab that gives them the right to be a cab.

[1211] driver.

[1212] It's a license to be a cab driver.

[1213] It says it's transferrable.

[1214] It's transferable by law and can be resold.

[1215] It can be.

[1216] I know.

[1217] But do they have any value?

[1218] Yeah, you got to talk to a broker is what it's saying here.

[1219] Okay.

[1220] Google's no help.

[1221] Well, here it is.

[1222] $137 ,000.

[1223] Low point 79 ,000, high point 137.

[1224] If you can get 100 out of it, kiddo, you may have something here.

[1225] So whatever you can get out of that medallion is probably what you're going to clear by the time you sell the house and the Badaya.

[1226] Ken Coleman, Ramsey, personality is my co -host today.

[1227] Ken, I am really excited about this total money makeover weekend that all the personalities, you, me, and the rest of them are going to be doing May 10th and 11th.

[1228] And one weekend, you're going to get a crash course on everything we teach about money, all new content.

[1229] Deloney, Coleman will be speaking.

[1230] Of course, Rachel and Jade and George and me. Everybody will be there.

[1231] Eddie will be our master of ceremonies, of course, and it's going to start on Friday afternoon, Friday evening.

[1232] As a matter of fact, if you come a little bit early Friday afternoon, you can watch us do the show live here on the glass.

[1233] We do it every day from one to four, and then we'll have things at the event center that night.

[1234] I'll be speaking and some other things, and then all day, Saturday.

[1235] It's May 10th and 11th.

[1236] We're going to give you everything you need to get your crap together and get moving on this money stuff.

[1237] And you're going to see the whole thing.

[1238] When you see it all in one place like that.

[1239] that in one short -term setting.

[1240] It becomes like a retreat for money, like a mountaintop experience.

[1241] Absolutely right.

[1242] We're all excited about.

[1243] We've all been talking about.

[1244] We've got some fun stuff planned.

[1245] Jade and I are going to do something fun, and I get to be kind of the, she's got the expert thing.

[1246] We've done a lot of fun stuff on the show.

[1247] I know if you've heard about it, it's doing very well, where Jade will come in and go through a little grocery budget thing, and I get to be the straight stooge just eating the food.

[1248] And it's really quite fun.

[1249] I get to eat on the air and sample is the generic product better than the, it's really fun.

[1250] Oh, yeah, I heard about that.

[1251] It's right.

[1252] And you keep picking the generic products, what I heard.

[1253] It's true.

[1254] Your taste is cheap, is what I heard.

[1255] Oh, I am no tastemaker.

[1256] Let's make that very clear.

[1257] That has been obvious.

[1258] But we're all excited.

[1259] We're doing all money talks.

[1260] And they're going to do a lot of Q &As.

[1261] A lot of Q &A.

[1262] The Event Center holds about 2 ,500 folks.

[1263] It's almost sold out.

[1264] It's not quite.

[1265] We've got a handful of platinum tickets left.

[1266] which of course are down front and backstage experiences and all that kind of stuff.

[1267] And then in addition to that, you know, some general admission.

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[1269] That's a big deal.

[1270] So if you want to save 100 bucks a piece, two of you coming, that's 200 bucks, five of you coming, it's 500 bucks.

[1271] Yeah, if you're planning on joining us, get your tickets like today by midnight, okay, because they're going up.

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[1274] You're going to learn a lot.

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[1278] I mean, we're going to show you the stuff that we love to teach and that we love to inspire with because it's transforming information.

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[1281] It's immediately because they're going to be gone.

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[1283] I am excited about this.

[1284] We've got to do anything like this in a long, long time, and I'm really pumped.

[1285] It's going to be a lot of fun.

[1286] Keon is with us in Atlanta.

[1287] Hi, Keon.

[1288] Welcome to the Ramsey Show.

[1289] Hi there.

[1290] Yeah, thanks for taking my call.

[1291] Sure.

[1292] What's up?

[1293] So, for some context, I'm 21 years old, about to be 22.

[1294] I'm a student at Georgia Tech.

[1295] I'm going to graduate this May in a couple months with a bachelor's.

[1296] degree in electrical engineering.

[1297] Good for you.

[1298] Awesome.

[1299] Great school, great degree.

[1300] Well done.

[1301] I appreciate it.

[1302] The kicker is that that's going to come with about $80 ,000 a student loan debt.

[1303] Okay.

[1304] You graduate this May, did you say?

[1305] Yes, yes.

[1306] You already got your job lined up?

[1307] Yeah, so I've had a, I had an internship last summer at Texas Instruments.

[1308] I'll be returning for another internship this summer and from there likely getting a full -time offer.

[1309] Why are you doing an internship after graduation?

[1310] Well, so I have an internship lined up right now because my plan was to go to grad school and get a master's degree, but after thinking about it for a while and seeing how much more debt I'd have to go into, I'm starting to think that that might not be a smart idea.

[1311] Well, you can always do, you can always do an adult MBA later.

[1312] That's not a big deal.

[1313] And if you're not going to do that, then you need to change that internship into like a job.

[1314] Yeah.

[1315] Because you should be making six figures, shouldn't you?

[1316] Absolutely, yeah.

[1317] I think in a city with a lower cost of living, I'd be looking at maybe 100K, and then somewhere in California with a higher cost of living, probably 130, 140 starting.

[1318] Yeah, with their taxes, you won't even net out on that.

[1319] You're better off to take the 100.

[1320] Yeah.

[1321] And stay in, you know, be in Texas or Georgia or whatever.

[1322] So what are your possibilities to join with Texas Instruments as an actual employee with the relationship you already have?

[1323] Well, I think it's a strong, strong chance that I'd get a full -time offer if I asked for one.

[1324] I performed pretty well during my last internship and built good relationships.

[1325] I'd start asking.

[1326] Okay, so you got 80K, you're used to making nothing, and you're going to be making 100, so you're going to pay that off really, really fast, agreed?

[1327] Yeah, I agree.

[1328] Okay.

[1329] Now, my question is, my parents are not great with money.

[1330] They're in a boatload of debt themselves.

[1331] My grandma's not great with money, and she is, I think, 76 or 77, and she still works full -time.

[1332] Actually, she puts in overtime almost every week, and she's a chauffeur driver in California.

[1333] So I'm kind of worried about the rest of my family that they're in a much deeper hole than I'll be, and they don't have really the income to support themselves.

[1334] So I'm just worried about how anything that might happen to them will affect or will affect my goals, my financial goals, if I need to help them out or anything.

[1335] Wow.

[1336] You are an honorable, kind young man, Keon, and I would urge you to not take responsibility for your grandmother or your parents.

[1337] They're grown people.

[1338] Yeah.

[1339] I think it's good to love them, and if they need a little bit of help, and you've got a little bit of money, that's fine.

[1340] And later on, if you're extremely wealthy and you want to give them a lot of help, that'll be your choice, it'd be something you choose to do.

[1341] But it should not, it should not be top of mind for you right now of how you're going to take care of these grown people who have misbehaved.

[1342] Sure, yeah.

[1343] I mean, my mom and dad, they came to this country when they were in their 20s.

[1344] They're from Iran.

[1345] I was the first of my family that was born here.

[1346] So they kind of came in and to come to the all credit card craze and they have a lot of credit card debt.

[1347] And my mom has student loan debt from the 80s.

[1348] So it's kind of a mess over there.

[1349] Yeah, I mean, George Campbell's parents are immigrants.

[1350] He's first generation.

[1351] George is a millionaire.

[1352] To my knowledge, he does not support them.

[1353] But they embraced all the American ridiculous debt, just like your mom and dad, dead Keon.

[1354] and he's talked about that and they've talked about that and um so i'm not i'm not throwing them under the bus or him under the bus but george doesn't take them to raise either they're grown -ups and oh by the way i've got a good friend who's Iranian that came about the time your parents did he's now a billionaire because he made different choices because he has one driven son of a gun i'll tell you that because you you face uh you face some of that kind of oppression and then you see American freedom, you feel like you're set free.

[1355] This guy goes.

[1356] So you have options, you know, it's not, they're not doomed to these choices just because their first generation immigrants.

[1357] Agreed?

[1358] Yeah, I think so.

[1359] I mean, when I think about my future, I get really excited.

[1360] Yeah.

[1361] I agree.

[1362] Like, the student load that is not insurmountable.

[1363] I have a good shot at it.

[1364] Oh, I think you cleaned up in probably 18 months.

[1365] But here's the thing, Keon, if you feel this pressure from them or if it's self -imposed, it doesn't matter and that excitement about your future is going to turn into resentment for the very people that you love and care about this is not your problem to fix can you help can you assist in multiple ways that doesn't limit you or hurt you financially sure share your heart with them so what i love for you to do is to be debt free in 18 months and in another 18 months have 50 or 60 thousand dollars set aside have a decent car start to build your life and in another the five years, you're probably going to be close to being a millionaire.

[1366] Because your income's going to go up, and you are going to be very key and responsible.

[1367] The number one category of career that becomes a millionaire in our studies is engineer.

[1368] I'm excited for your future.

[1369] And so you have a, and I know Georgia Tech, and I know the quality of the education you've gotten.

[1370] So you are going to do well if you'll keep your nose clean and lean in.

[1371] and so I'm really excited for your future.

[1372] And I want you to be in a place where you can love them well, but I don't want you to carry them on your back the rest of your life.

[1373] That is not a moral or an ethical obligation of your part.

[1374] So be kind and loving and compassionate and generous when you can be, but it's not your first and foremost.

[1375] It's not your number one.

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[1379] That's another great milestone.

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[1381] Good grief.

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[1384] We've been number 10, 12, 14, 15, have in there for several years.

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[1406] Oh, this, we need a tote board in here while Dave's talking about it.

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[1411] You keep talking about it.

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[1414] You know what we need?

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[1417] Every time we hit it, we'll just kind of.

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[1420] That'd be okay.

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[1423] I mean, the NPR death of a thousand people murder thing or whatever is always number one, right?

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[1428] What is that all about?

[1429] I could just, you know, we could.

[1430] We could do some credit card crime.

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[1432] We'll cut stuff up, blow some stuff up.

[1433] We'll get firearms and just turn this into a. People want violence, Dave.

[1434] Let's, let's give them what the people want.

[1435] There we go.

[1436] That get the clicks.

[1437] That would get clicks.

[1438] I could accidentally shoot the TV right here.

[1439] That'd be irresponsible use of firearms.

[1440] Oh, no, folks.

[1441] I think we're doing okay without that, though.

[1442] So maybe we don't need to resort to violence.

[1443] I agree.

[1444] We don't need to upset the gun people either.

[1445] The anti -gun people are, I'm sure.

[1446] Oh, I was going to say.

[1447] We are gun people.

[1448] We don't upset the anti -gun.

[1449] We'd love to see you shoot more things.

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[1451] They love to see anybody shoot anything for any reason.

[1452] It's a sickness.

[1453] We could have a recurring YouTube segment called Dave shoots things.

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[1458] Oh.

[1459] Can you even imagine?

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[1468] Nilo's with us in Las Vegas.

[1469] Hi, Nilo.

[1470] Welcome to the Ramsey show.

[1471] Hey, how are you going to do it?

[1472] Better than we deserve.

[1473] We're goofballs.

[1474] What's up?

[1475] So I'm almost close to paying off my debt.

[1476] I got a couple of thousand and like four and a half thousand.

[1477] Good for you.

[1478] So I don't have any.

[1479] I don't have any hard day.

[1480] I don't have a car payment.

[1481] I don't have a house.

[1482] It's just loans and stuff.

[1483] I need to pay off.

[1484] So right now in Las Vegas, the housing is ridiculous.

[1485] I want to buy a house.

[1486] You know, that's my goal.

[1487] Once soon as I get off debt, you know, I want to plan for my future.

[1488] So the way the market is just so bad right now.

[1489] So I'll try to talk to my girlfriend.

[1490] I think it's a good idea for us just to invest into a trailer home.

[1491] Like now I'm not an old RV on wheels.

[1492] You pull with a pickup, but like you do a stationary mobile home.

[1493] You know, I've been looking in the market, there's something like 20 ,000, 30 ,000.

[1494] So if you buy a $20 ,000 mobile home in five years where you think that's worth?

[1495] I know it's going to depreciate.

[1496] So why is that an investment?

[1497] Investments are supposed to go up, Nilo.

[1498] Right.

[1499] I guess it's not an investment.

[1500] So if you turn $20 ,000 into $10 ,000, how does that help you get a house?

[1501] Well, because I was thinking if I could pay out quick enough, I'll be able to live there long enough so I could save.

[1502] a good chunk down payment to get my, like, forever home.

[1503] You know, run that math out for us.

[1504] If I pay it off quick enough, I'll be able to save money, so you would be adding debt, and you're almost done.

[1505] You're going to turn $20 ,000 into $10 ,000 so that you can have a little bit of time with no payments.

[1506] That's not working, dude, mathematically.

[1507] Okay.

[1508] So I appreciate your thought pattern, but, yeah, it's, you know, and what I love is your motivation.

[1509] I want to be in the game.

[1510] That's what you're saying.

[1511] And I love that about you.

[1512] What's your income?

[1513] What are you doing?

[1514] I make, I'm a union carpenter.

[1515] I make 42 an hour.

[1516] Woo!

[1517] Come on.

[1518] Last year, but I mean, it's off and on, you know, sometimes I'll work a good, it's all the eight months, and then I have like two months off.

[1519] Last year I did about 70K.

[1520] Hey, Nilo, listen to me. If you're making 70K, why aren't you saving money?

[1521] Yeah.

[1522] Well, I've been trying to pay out that.

[1523] I've been trying to pay off that.

[1524] Oh, that's true.

[1525] You've got the $4 ,500.

[1526] How much debt have you paid off?

[1527] And how long?

[1528] I paid off about 15.

[1529] My main debt was I bought a brand -new car.

[1530] 15 and how long?

[1531] How long did you pay off 15?

[1532] 15.

[1533] It took me about a year and a half, almost a year.

[1534] Why?

[1535] You make 70.

[1536] Right.

[1537] What are you doing?

[1538] I guess you're not being smart of my money.

[1539] Well, you're also not working, you're not working 12 months.

[1540] You're working eight months.

[1541] Can I just tell you something?

[1542] Yeah, Nilo, listen to me. Yeah, because construction is off and on, you know.

[1543] Listen, hold on a second.

[1544] I want to challenge you, okay?

[1545] So you need more money right now, yes or no?

[1546] Yes, you do.

[1547] You need more money, more money to get out of debt, more money to get an emergency fund, more money to save for a house.

[1548] Now listen to me, there is a shortage of carpenters in the United States.

[1549] So if you can't get some work related to being a carpenter, and you're a good one, you're making really good money, if you can't get that in Vegas, which I'm challenging you on that.

[1550] Oh, he can't.

[1551] He just can't get union work.

[1552] I get it, but my point is, is what else can you do outside of union work?

[1553] If they're not working you, you can work outside the union, can't you?

[1554] Yes, he can't.

[1555] I have a non -union company.

[1556] My weight goes down significantly.

[1557] I get paid only 23 over there.

[1558] Oh, darn.

[1559] Every time they're short of work.

[1560] That's better than zero four months a year.

[1561] Yeah, and not to mention, let's just talk about my father -in -law is 72 years of age, and he is busier than he's ever been in his life in a neighborhood here in Williamson County doing Renault stuff.

[1562] There's all kinds of money in Vegas.

[1563] You should be making huge money 12 months a year.

[1564] That's my challenge.

[1565] How old are you again?

[1566] I'm 24.

[1567] Okay, cool.

[1568] Well, listen, you have the good news is you have a desire and an ambition.

[1569] That's good news.

[1570] The good news is you've already been working to get out of debt.

[1571] That's the good news.

[1572] The other good news is you ain't afraid of hard work and you know how to make some money.

[1573] I think you can dial this in and make a whole lot more.

[1574] I believe you guys, if you're really careful, could double your income.

[1575] but you're going to have to really focus on it to get there and then you got to quit partying you are drinking a lot I'm not oblivious I know what I'm you're drinking all weekend man I mean you're going every happy hour maybe you're hitting a blackjack table somewhere the money's going because you there is no excuse for the kind of money you're making and you got nothing yeah it's party time stay out of the NG yeah you're going to have to work on some stuff here man and you do that all of a sudden the money's just going to like start showing up because you're going to quit blowing it all yes but i mean you're running around with a wrong crowd you're running around with broke people on the weekend and they're helping you join them so i could be wrong but i've been there myself so i might know something yeah um it's how you lose your hair i'll just tell you ahead of time but um that's what happened who knew yeah so anyway yeah you you there's a correlation between the quality of your personal habits in your life and your ability to build wealth.

[1576] That's right.

[1577] So you do those things.

[1578] So you and your girlfriend clean up your act and start focusing on your goals and your career goals and your income goals and then you're going to be able to build up a down payment in 24 months and buy a house.

[1579] That's right.

[1580] Without the girlfriend unless she's your wife, by the way.

[1581] Never buy a house with somebody you're not married to.

[1582] And please don't buy a trailer that goes down in value.

[1583] Get control of the guy in your.

[1584] mirror buddy and you do that you're going to win you you got a lot of potential you're a good man hold on we're going to put you through financial peace university our class on how to handle money we're going to show you how to do this and you call us back someday and tell us how you're winning because i jumped on your case you know this is the ramsie show our scripture the day first timothy two one and two i urge then first of all that petitions prayers intercession and thanksgiving be made for all people for kings and for all those in a thursday authority that we may live peaceful and quiet lives in all godliness and holiness.

[1585] Our friend Art Laffer says, it's not true that Congress spends money like a drunken sailor.

[1586] Drunken sailors spend their own money.

[1587] Congress spends ours.

[1588] I saw him on TV the other night and I was just so happy.

[1589] Art is just a treasure.

[1590] He's a gem, isn't he?

[1591] Let's face it, taxes are confusing.

[1592] And if you buy what some tax services, out there say you can never really get a grasp on taxes because you're dumb.

[1593] Well, you're not dumb.

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[1595] You can take care of your taxes.

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[1597] And if you've got an easy return, then you can get the Ramsey tax software.

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[1599] People are jumping to it all the time from those other people because we're not trying to sell your credit cards and everything else.

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[1604] Check it all out at Ramsey Solutions .com.

[1605] Mari is with us in Tampa.

[1606] Hi, Mari.

[1607] Welcome to the Ramsey Show.

[1608] Hi.

[1609] Thanks for having me. Sure.

[1610] How can I help?

[1611] So my husband and I have been married 22 years.

[1612] We've got six awesome children.

[1613] Lord's really blessed us.

[1614] We have always kind of lived pretty frugally.

[1615] He was a teacher for most of our married life, and I stayed home with our kids to homeschool them.

[1616] So the last four years, though, things have changed.

[1617] He started having back problems.

[1618] He wasn't able to do the work he had been doing up until then.

[1619] And then we got a cancer diagnosis in 2021.

[1620] So he's been fighting that.

[1621] We've been going through various treatments.

[1622] Four years ago when he had his back surgery, my job kind of took off.

[1623] My part -time, I was doing my gig work shopping for people.

[1624] And when pandemic hit, it just blew up.

[1625] So I took advantage of that.

[1626] He stayed home with the kids to homeschool them.

[1627] And last year, though, we had to put the kids in school because treatments were pretty rigorous.

[1628] And I was trying to support us by working as much as I could.

[1629] So we have a little bit saved.

[1630] We've got probably about $21 ,000 in savings.

[1631] I do have a car note that we took out normally.

[1632] we buy used, but I really need something more gas -friendly because I drive for, you know, sometimes up to 100 miles a day with my job.

[1633] So realistically, you know, getting 20 miles a gallon versus the 60.

[1634] So where are you to that way?

[1635] Well, we've got 14 ,000, just under 14 ,000 that we owe on it.

[1636] Okay.

[1637] So we're wondering, do we take that?

[1638] We're trying to just prepare for worst -case scenario.

[1639] We're really praying that he pulls through, but he really can't work at all with the pain medication he's on.

[1640] So I'm trying to figure out, I'm so sorry.

[1641] You guys have been through hell.

[1642] Yeah, it's been a. I'm so sorry.

[1643] How old are your babies?

[1644] So I have 18 to 4, and we currently have my two nieces living with us while their dad gets his life together.

[1645] So that has been a help.

[1646] How's the 18 -year -old?

[1647] She's amazing.

[1648] Her and her dad are really close, and she has really stepped up to help with anything we need.

[1649] So I think I hear you saying he's not doing well.

[1650] He's not doing well in the capacity that there's lots of treatments going on.

[1651] They're all clinical trials because traditional.

[1652] His is so rare that lots, he actually has a doctor, Pennsylvania calling him like every month.

[1653] So short of God stepping in, you're telling me that he's going to be in heaven soon.

[1654] Yes, yeah.

[1655] And praise God, we know where he's going.

[1656] I'm so sorry.

[1657] I'm sorry to be blunt, but I was trying to make sure I knew where you are so I can try to help you.

[1658] Because you guys are just been brutalized by this whole thing.

[1659] I'm so sorry.

[1660] It's okay.

[1661] I mean, we have a lot of hope.

[1662] And we, you know, we have a great church family.

[1663] They've stepped in.

[1664] My family is amazing.

[1665] Well, you've got an incredible character and faith.

[1666] He's still working on it.

[1667] Yeah, and you do too.

[1668] And, you know, everything you've described, you guys have reacted to everything that's been dealt to you perfectly, as perfectly as you could in a horrible situation.

[1669] It's just a tragedy.

[1670] I'm so sorry.

[1671] So the shopping thing is the income from that is a blessing.

[1672] and so how are you doing what's your what's your income these days um so prior this last year was was pretty low i hit right at 50 um the year before when i was really going at it working you know mindlessly uh i made more like 80 um so it the potential is there and it's again just directly what i the time that i put into it well you got you're you have to do something see babies so this is not a bad Yes.

[1673] Yes.

[1674] No. It has been in the flexibility, like I said, if my husband's having a really hard day or has to go to the emergency room, I don't have to work.

[1675] And I don't have anyone counting on me to do anything.

[1676] And again, we're set up with family and church and it has been a blessing.

[1677] But my fear is, you know, moving forward, how do I, how do I continue?

[1678] We have a mortgage and it's not a, you know, a lot.

[1679] large one.

[1680] We have the money to pay off the car, but basically at this point, you know, I'm just now wrapping my head around your podcast the last couple weeks, which is why I called in.

[1681] So we've, right now, we've got our four walls covered.

[1682] Here's what we're going to do, okay?

[1683] Number one, number one, we're going to put our arms around you and walk with you.

[1684] Okay.

[1685] Thank you.

[1686] So we've got financial coaches that have been trained by us in every city in America.

[1687] They're independent from us, but they've been trained by us and we will furnish you guys a financial coach at no charge we're going to walk with you okay oh wow and i'm going to put you guys through financial peace university and get you on the every dollar budget app right now as our gift as well doesn't cost you a thing okay then our strategy is going to be uh continue doing what you're doing uh we don't need to pay off a bunch of debt we need to stay in survival mode and continue to fight cancer Um, if, uh, if the end result of this is that your husband's in heaven, then we change strategies after we grieve that and grieve this whole thing, okay?

[1688] And the strategy at that point will change to how can we prosper going forward and what's our new life look like and that's going to, then we're going to start taking some of that money and paying off the debt.

[1689] Then we're going to take some of that money and build your emergency fund and we're start working the baby steps that we talk about here but right now you got six mouths to feed well eight mouths to feed and um uh nine 10 counting two adults and and and you know i'm not worried about your stinking car payment when your husband's in the final stages of fighting something and he's it down to experimental treatments does that make sense i want you just fight right now you guys I want to do everything we can to keep gas in your tank because emotionally you've got to be wrung out.

[1690] Yeah, it's been sustained by the Lord, but it is hard.

[1691] Yeah.

[1692] Yeah, it's just he does hold you up, but it's still the whole process is just wrenching.

[1693] So, and so what you got now is you got some more people that love you and are in your corner.

[1694] And we know something about this subject so we can help you with this subject and we will.

[1695] Okay.

[1696] Thank you.

[1697] And you call me back.

[1698] You call me back any time.

[1699] Anytime you've got a question, you call me back right here on the air and I'll talk to you.

[1700] Okay.

[1701] Regardless of what's going on, you call me back.

[1702] And we'll also have the coach in your corner and we'll guys put you through everything.

[1703] So hold on.

[1704] Christian's going to pick up and we're going to take care of you because that's what we do here.

[1705] That puts us our of the Ramsey Show and the books.

[1706] We'll be back with you before you know it.

[1707] In the meantime, remember, there's ultimately only one way to financial peace.

[1708] And that's to walk daily with the Prince of Peace.

[1709] Christ Jesus.

[1710] Hey, folks, Dave Ramsey here.

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