When Are You Going To Clean Up Your Financial Stupidity?

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[8] Jenny, or Jenna, rather, starts this hour off in Spokane, Washington.

[9] Hi, Jenna.

[10] How are you?

[11] Hi, Mr. Dave Ramsey.

[12] Hey, what's up?

[13] Um, so my situation's a bit complicated.

[14] Um, so two years ago today, my husband and I got married.

[15] Congratulations.

[16] We are both, well, thank you.

[17] We are both, uh, 23 years old.

[18] and recently graduated from college and we're on baby set too trying to pay off our student loan debt and so with that in mind my father -in -law and my mother -in -law have both divorced recently and my father -in -law has remarried and during that divorce he took over the parent plus loan that was my husband for school And so originally I had a problem being worried about my financial future, our financial future, being in his hands because we have gone non -contact with him for being kind of a toxic person to be around and specifically related to money.

[19] He likes to try and buy people's love.

[20] And so really my question is, how can we protect ourselves or ask?

[21] assets, our financial future from my toxic father -in -law.

[22] And I'm aware that the Parent Plus loan is now not legally binding to us.

[23] So it's kind of his loan now, but I'm still concerned he's going to use that as an emotional.

[24] Only if you let him.

[25] Yeah, you want your cake and you want to...

[26] Okay, so he's gone non -contact and he has a loan in his name.

[27] I think he has a problem.

[28] Why would you invite the problem into your house?

[29] Oh, we're not trying to.

[30] Okay, then don't.

[31] Yeah, don't take his money.

[32] Don't ever take his money and go on about your life.

[33] Okay.

[34] If you want to take his money.

[35] Now, has your husband promised to pay this loan?

[36] That's not, okay, that's a confusing part for me because they never really had an agreement on that.

[37] I didn't ask if they had a written agreement.

[38] I asked if your husband had promised to pay it.

[39] That's a yes or no answer.

[40] Did he or did he not?

[41] No, sir.

[42] He did not.

[43] I don't believe so.

[44] Okay.

[45] Ask him that.

[46] Because if he did, he needs to be a man of his word, regardless of if his father is scum.

[47] Mm -hmm.

[48] Because it says more about him than it does his dad.

[49] So, but technically, legally, there's no destruction of your finances by your father -in -law being in debt unless you choose to let.

[50] him manipulate you but that's your choice yes sir there's not any there's no way he can destroy you unless you say please come and destroy me yeah what are you worried that he's going to do any number of things really like you keep saying that but i want you to be specific i want you to name your fears a very vague set of villains here what are you specifically worried he's going to do i am worried that my husband will never be able to have a relationship with his father okay that's different that's different that's different than destroy your finances?

[51] Well, it's kind of a combo question.

[52] No, it's not.

[53] No, it's not.

[54] Your husband and his dad can choose to have a relationship in spite of the Parent Plus loan issue and without you agreeing to pay the Parent Plus loan.

[55] And so at no time have you destroyed your finances, have you traded the destruction of your finances for the relationship?

[56] If your father -in -law is so manipulative, he wants to make that trade, that the only way you have a relationship with me is you pay this loan, then he has chosen to destroy the relationship.

[57] But you and your husband didn't choose that.

[58] Yes, sir.

[59] Yeah.

[60] You desperately want this man to not be who he is, and sorry, kiddo, he is.

[61] Is he super wealthy?

[62] Um, no, I think he's actually kind of broke, which is another reason why I feel bad.

[63] We both feel I don't feel bad.

[64] You didn't do anything.

[65] Why would you feel bad?

[66] Well, because his family is now dependent on a man who is not a good person.

[67] My husband's family.

[68] He has three younger siblings who are feeling the brunt of his man's poor decisions.

[69] So that's heartbreak and grief and relational sadness.

[70] Don't.

[71] That's enough pain in and of itself.

[72] Don't add the added fear of and we're going to go bankrupt because this guy's going to destroy us.

[73] Y 'all are fine.

[74] How do I keep my father -in -law from destroying us?

[75] Yeah.

[76] That's a ridiculous question.

[77] He has absolutely no power to destroy you.

[78] He can break your heart.

[79] Unless you choose just to live in the sewage that he creates.

[80] Instead, you can just stand back and watch this thing and be sad about it.

[81] It's kind of sad.

[82] there's young children being affected, but you didn't cause any of it.

[83] And your husband didn't cause any of it.

[84] So it's just, it's just, you know.

[85] You can start a pen pal relationship with those siblings.

[86] You can invite them out for, you know, Camp Jenna once a year.

[87] I mean, y 'all can figure out ways to be in connection with them because I do get that heartache.

[88] Just don't overcomplicate it with imaginary things too.

[89] You're turning this into a catastrophe that doesn't exist, kiddo.

[90] That's what we're saying, okay?

[91] Any number of ways, you said.

[92] How can he destroy you?

[93] And your answer was any number of ways.

[94] And there is no number of ways.

[95] The number is zero.

[96] Follow me?

[97] We have a lot of, yeah, we have a lot of disaster mentality, I suppose.

[98] Yeah.

[99] And I think you might be afraid your husband's going to cave and get sucked into the vortex of stupidity.

[100] Yeah.

[101] And in that case, he needs you.

[102] Yeah, in which case, the two of you, 23 -year -olds, need to lock arms and say, her king coming baby everybody ready for the for the wind here it comes so everybody if you sense in your life if you ever say the phrase or think the phrase any number of things or a whole bunch of things or everyone is take out a piece of paper and begin to write them down who is everyone who is all of them what is what are the number of things the number of things and you find a real quick it's about three or it's two yeah or it's and they and there are two people that don't matter or one of them does and the rest of them right yeah but it really narrows your challenges really quickly yeah and um it well i mean like you say when you're facing trauma facts are your friends facts yeah so you need to reduce this thing to facts what's the truth here the fact is that your father -in -law is a hot mess and he's in a hot mess and he signed a parent plus loan and it's part of his hot mess.

[103] The fact is he's got zero power over you and your husband unless you grant him power with your weakness and you call that compassion.

[104] It's not compassion.

[105] It's just weakness.

[106] There's a difference.

[107] There's a complete difference.

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[148] you can download every dollar for free in the app store or google play tens of millions of people have what are you waiting for every dollar in the app store google play or every dollar dot com bryson's with us in hawaii hi bryson welcome to the ramsie show hey dave how's it going better than i deserve man what's up hey so uh just kind of my background with the ramsie program um Me and my wife had started trying to become debt -free, I don't know, like four years ago.

[149] I was staring down a dental school looking at like $650 ,000 of student debt.

[150] Good Lord.

[151] And decided to quit one month into it and ended up joining the military and got my student loans paid off.

[152] And then kind of came across to you guys about a year ago.

[153] and we've since paid off about $50 ,000 of debt.

[154] So you had $650 ,000 in debt, or you were looking at taking that on?

[155] No, I had $50 ,000.

[156] Oh, and the military paid for you to do dentistry?

[157] No, the military paid off my student loans I had from my undergrad.

[158] Oh, so you abandoned dentistry.

[159] And also, yes, yeah.

[160] And so I appreciate what you guys have been putting out, because, you know, we were kind of on our path to get now and then kind of started listening to you through some friends and just kind of really cleaned up a lot of our other debt that we had sitting around.

[161] But so thank you for that.

[162] Well, thank you.

[163] Thanks for your service to the country.

[164] How can we help?

[165] Absolutely.

[166] So I have a buddy that I've kind of told about what we were doing and talked about, you know, looking at maybe some side hustles of sorts being here.

[167] Hawaii.

[168] And so he reached out just barely about this company called Global Financial Impact.

[169] Oh, God.

[170] And yeah, so I looked online and they're very vague, but they kind of talk about universal banking and full life insurance.

[171] There is a little blurb about term policies, but I just don't really know what to tell my buddy because I like, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I feel like people take advantage of military people getting into things like this.

[172] And so I just was like, I don't know, I have some time today.

[173] So I'm like, well, I'll call in because I listen to your show every day.

[174] And I'm like, well, I kind of get some advice from Dave about what to tell my friend is.

[175] Well, go three clicks deeper.

[176] You will find nothing positive.

[177] Okay.

[178] If you just keep clicking, you're just going to keep finding more and more dirt.

[179] It's a bad deal.

[180] yeah run tell him to run run run as fast as you can the other way like they're shooting at you run run yeah because you know this is this isn't it's bad news listen anything it sounds too good to be true is absolutely and i there's no sense in getting into all the details but i think if you'll just do a little bit of research you'll just find you've already got the stink you got the smell off of it already and so you know just keep clicking on around you'll find other stuff it's it's uh fairly easy to find all the uh trash that's out there and um and in this case i think most of what you find will be the trash will be true so yeah dissatisfied people people that uh felt ripped off people that were ripped off uh and so on you're not going to find anybody goes change my life except in their ads so that that's your that's your key right there and so a lot of a lot of good side hustle you can do without getting involved in that kind of stuff man wow yeah and if it's your buddy and you're worried about how to tell your buddy um i don't know dave with me and my closest friends we have a pretty straightforward relationship that they've got permission in my life to say hey deloney you're about to do something real stupid don't do that and i have learned the hard way over the years that when one of my friends calls me and says that i'm probably not seeing something the right way and it's at least worth me taking a look.

[181] And so I think this is one of those moments, Bryson, that you call your buddy aside and say, hey, I'm just telling you because I love you, you're about to do something really stupid.

[182] Please don't do that.

[183] Or give me six months on the Ramsey plan.

[184] Give me six months.

[185] Don't do anything.

[186] But I love you enough to just try to stay in front of you and yell, hey, bridge is out.

[187] Stop driving.

[188] And at the end of the day, your friend's going to do what your friend's going to do.

[189] At you guys age, what's your college age folk, it's harder to have them maturity and the friendship to where you listen to that, though.

[190] I know I've experienced, as my kids were in that age, their friends going to do something.

[191] And like one of my kids would come in, Rachel would come and go, hey, dad, this friend from college is getting ready to do so and so.

[192] And I'm like, oh, no, no, no, no, no, no. And you need to tell them.

[193] And she would go tell them and they would do it anyway.

[194] So, you know, you need to be ready for that.

[195] He may do it anyway.

[196] You can't stop him.

[197] And it's just kind of painful to watch people you, You know, do stupid stuff.

[198] But, you know, especially painful.

[199] Benjamin is in Sacramento.

[200] Hi, Benjamin.

[201] How are you?

[202] Hey, Dave.

[203] Thanks for taking my call.

[204] Sure.

[205] What's up?

[206] My wife and I have been married about 10 years.

[207] We're looking at combining our finances for the first time.

[208] Good.

[209] She currently has $11 ,000 in auto loans and $14 ,000 in student loans.

[210] I recently paid off $20 ,000 in credit card debt with a large bonus.

[211] that I received, so I'm debt -free currently.

[212] I told her that, you know, the first thing we need to do is attack this debt together.

[213] She has right now $7 ,000 in her savings, and I have about five.

[214] And I told her, you know, once we combine, I'll apply all of mine with yours towards the debt.

[215] Let's leave $1 ,000 in there as our emergency fund.

[216] But I'm really struggling on convincing her to spend that $7 ,000 towards the debt.

[217] She's worried that some catastrophe could happen, and we're going to have no money.

[218] a husband.

[219] You know what husbands do?

[220] Husbands tell people what we're going to do and don't talk about why.

[221] You're such a husband.

[222] I do it all the time, even though I tell people not to do it.

[223] I still do it at home, though.

[224] So, yeah, don't talk about what to do until you've talked about why.

[225] You already got the why because you've been studying this Ramsey stuff.

[226] You just laid out the baby steps and the execution of them.

[227] you totally get it you but you know so so you're willing to do it because you see somehow you've spent enough time with us that you see that it's going to take you where you want to go the why is i don't want to be broke anymore the why is i want to build wealth the why is we can get to live our dreams and go on vacation wherever we want by whatever car we want and be generous beyond belief that's my why you're seeing that out in the future so you're willing to you know engage in some sacrifice to get there and you you guys never talked about the why you just went and took her money and paid down her debt you didn't yet physically but i mean in her mind that's what happened and she got emotional whiplash because she doesn't know why we're doing this right yeah so you owe her an apology okay i'm sorry i went about this wrong we should have talked about why i'm so excited about this and let's talk about where we can be if we follow these steps and then we'll talk about what the steps are and then we'll talk about what the implications of the steps are for the savings that we both have and the debt that you have remaining in your name as a part of our combining this so back up about five steps and sell and have a dream date dreaming about what the future will be like again and you got i'm sorry i i went straight i went straight to the throat and you're such a husband and i don't do that guys you're we ladies don't do this to their They don't do it.

[228] It's such a husband thing.

[229] We see it all the time.

[230] And then my name becomes a cuss word.

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[248] Daniel is in Richmond, Virginia.

[249] Hi, Daniel.

[250] How are you?

[251] I'm doing well, sir.

[252] How are you?

[253] I deserve.

[254] What's up?

[255] I was calling because I have a vehicle that basically between the payment and the insurance is about $900 and I'm not really good with finances and the slightest and I'm trying to figure out what the next best step is to kind of get out of it.

[256] Basically I'm also under I'm basically under it as well.

[257] I definitely am not going to be able to get out of it more to what I I paid for certain, and the payments are basically really, really weighing it down.

[258] Okay.

[259] What do you owe on the car?

[260] I think the remaining balance is about $25 ,000 to $26 ,000.

[261] Where did you get that figure?

[262] That's based off of the buyout from the loan company that I used.

[263] Okay.

[264] Is it a lease?

[265] Yes, sir.

[266] Okay.

[267] So the early buyout, they told you.

[268] you, they didn't give you an actual figure.

[269] No, sir.

[270] It was just about, yeah, it was about 25 is from what they'd kind of roughly get into me. Yeah, okay.

[271] All right.

[272] Give them an email or a phone call and tell them you need in writing what the buyout is this month.

[273] Okay.

[274] Okay.

[275] Then we know what we're dealing with.

[276] You said you think it's around 25.

[277] Is that what you said?

[278] Yes, sir.

[279] Okay.

[280] And what do you think the car is worth?

[281] anywhere from 16 to high like I saw in Calgoo looks anywhere from 16 to 17 5 Is that trade -in or private sale?

[282] It goes about private sale Okay, how long have you had the car?

[283] Two years now Okay And what did you pay for it?

[284] I believe it came out to 31 ,000 Okay.

[285] How long a lease is this?

[286] It was an 80, 84, I believe is what it was.

[287] So how old are you?

[288] 22.

[289] I feel like it, but I'm 28.

[290] Oh, okay.

[291] All right.

[292] What do you make?

[293] I make about 54 a year.

[294] Okay.

[295] So both take home is about $3 ,000.

[296] And there's a little bit more with a car.

[297] I had to get a co -signer on it as well when it all kind of came about.

[298] So I've been trying to figure out the best way to kind of get past all of it.

[299] So take home after everything is roughly about $3 ,000 a month.

[300] Okay.

[301] You must be getting a big tax refund or you're taking a bunch of stuff out of your check.

[302] Yeah, it's a bunch of stuff.

[303] I somehow seem to be owing every once in a while.

[304] but between taxes and health insurance, it's about 32, figure it take, 31 to 32.

[305] That's only 36 ,000.

[306] You should be getting home with a lot more than that on a 54 income.

[307] Something's wrong with your math.

[308] So you need to investigate why you're not getting home with more money and understand that.

[309] And if there's some things you can cancel there, like if you've got a bunch of rip -off insurance or something, that's not your health insurance.

[310] at work then let's getting nickel and dimmed and if you're getting our tax refund you need to change your withholding and i think you probably are so did you get a tax refund last year no sir you did not well i i i do federally i think i got about a hundred bucks uh oh have you got money going into your 401k no sir okay i don't know where your money's going but there's a problem there's a hole here somewhere anyway um and you're working 40 hours a week doing what What do you do for a living?

[311] I work as a logistic technician for a marble and granite company.

[312] Okay.

[313] It's about 50 hours, 50 to 60 hours a week.

[314] Okay.

[315] All right.

[316] Well, you desperately need $8 ,000 or $10 ,000 to write a check for the difference in what the car is worth and what the early buyout is, agreed?

[317] Yes, sir.

[318] And get the car sold.

[319] That's the answer.

[320] And so where are we going to get $8 ,000 or $10 ,000?

[321] I'm guessing you have no money saved, correct?

[322] Just the $1 ,000 emergency fund.

[323] And how much other debt do you have other than this car?

[324] I have a credit card with maybe like $100, but that's really not all.

[325] I haven't really used credit cards.

[326] Who is this ridiculous lease with?

[327] It's with a company called Consumer Portfolio.

[328] Okay.

[329] All right.

[330] Yeah.

[331] Okay.

[332] your desperation for a car, whatever created the desperation, I don't know, caused you to get screwed and get a co -signer in the process of getting screwed because you've got a horrible loan and you just bought a car and desperately wanted that car for some reason, so you're willing to do whatever because you're dealing with a subprime lender and they pulled in a co -signer and you probably paid too much for this car, it sounds like on top of all that.

[333] and so, you know, and all of that was because they saw you coming and you had that stink on you of desperation or impulse or immaturity or something.

[334] I don't know, but something led you into a really, really bad car deal, and you made all the decisions.

[335] So that makes it that much harder to get out of this.

[336] So learn your lessons from it.

[337] The good news is you learn it at 28.

[338] You don't have to do it again, right?

[339] Yes, sir.

[340] So when I was your age, I was going bankrupt because I was an idiot.

[341] so I got you beat you just did a bad car deal I lost everything so we both get to learn our lessons and never repeat the lesson okay and that's what I want you to do here man and if you just go back go back and analyze what you were telling yourself you know I was forced no you weren't I was I know you weren't you got all freaking emotional and bad and just completely signed anything they put in front of you because you were walking walking away with that car, nobody was stopping you, and you drug somebody else to the table with a cosine.

[342] So anyway, put all that in the rearview mirror, but be sure you smoke that pipe before we're done and never do it again.

[343] Now, then the way to get out is we've got to go take six extra jobs.

[344] You're going to be working all the time.

[345] You're single, aren't you?

[346] I live with my girlfriend.

[347] Okay.

[348] You're not going to be home much.

[349] You're going to be working a lot.

[350] doing anything that will pay you good money that is moral and ethical.

[351] I want you to go bananas for a short period of time.

[352] A couple of grand a month extra income coming in, and in three or four months have the money saved up to write a check for the difference to sell this stupid but car and go buy you a $5 ,000 car for cash and drive it until you can save up the money to be in a better car.

[353] Because you don't have a $900 payment going out.

[354] And check and see if they put an extended warranty on this.

[355] If they did cancel it, and that'll give you a credit back towards the balance as well.

[356] Because I think they screwed you on that too.

[357] They got you with everything else, so they probably got you with that one too.

[358] And so, yeah, cancel that.

[359] That might be a couple grand off that balance in there as well.

[360] Check your take -home pay.

[361] Something's wrong with it.

[362] We need to get home with more money.

[363] And if you find another $1 ,000 coming home, it'd be about right on your, check and um i mean i don't surely you're not paying a thousand dollars a month for health care you might be um but that wouldn't be a good benefit actually so anyway that's um at the root of this question dave is i think it's just something that's that you know the politicians sold this so much and so much this idea of there's a way we can just make debt go away and people call in the show and it's happened more of the last year or two which is how do i just get out of this you don't and i think that's the harsh method um or the harsh truth that we give you that nobody else will give you there's not a hack around this it's just straight through it it is six jobs for six months and not going home and not going on dates and working and working and working and working and saving this money up and paying this thing off yeah and there's no shortcut there's no shortcuts You have dug a pretty substantial hole, and you need to get some shovels.

[364] Anybody sends you an email, any other programs, a special, hey, you know what, we can, they can't.

[365] They're lying to you.

[366] There's one way through this, and that's to earn the money and pay this stupid stuff off.

[367] And there's not an app you can put on your smartphone that makes this work.

[368] You just, it sucks, and you've got to dig it out.

[369] You're going to have dirt under your fingernails, and you're going to learn your lesson, and you're never going to go back.

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[386] Angela is in Roanoke, Virginia.

[387] Hi, Angela.

[388] How are you?

[389] Hi, Ms. Ramsey.

[390] I'm doing just fine.

[391] Good.

[392] How can we help?

[393] All right.

[394] I have just come through, I was married for 36 years, and I've been divorced for two years.

[395] Right after my divorce, I purchased a home in my name.

[396] And about four weeks ago, I sold that home, and I made $108 ,000 profit.

[397] Good for you.

[398] Okay.

[399] I'm 57 years old.

[400] That's got to feel pretty cool.

[401] Way to go, girl.

[402] I was very surprised.

[403] I did good.

[404] You did good.

[405] Well, my question is this.

[406] Do I turn around and purchase another?

[407] home at this age of life?

[408] Yes.

[409] Or do I take this money and reinvest it?

[410] No, you need a house.

[411] You're just 57.

[412] You look like you're 87 at this age of life.

[413] I got socks that are 57.

[414] Come on.

[415] Seriously.

[416] Well, I'm on my own for first time in my entire life, and I'm just want to make sure that I'm making solid investment.

[417] Well, you did good on the last one, kiddo, without him.

[418] I did do really good.

[419] Yeah.

[420] I'll buy your lonesome.

[421] You took the training wheels off and did it.

[422] Yes, I did.

[423] Proud of you.

[424] So I think you can trust you more than maybe you think you can trust you.

[425] Well, I overhand a lot sometimes and talk myself out of thing.

[426] You need a house, Angela.

[427] That's yours that nobody can take from you.

[428] Okay.

[429] So buy the house and move on.

[430] Yeah, buy you a house and a 15 -year fixed.

[431] where the payments know more than a fourth of your take -home pay.

[432] And here's why.

[433] From 57 to 87 or whatever year you leave this earth and go to heaven.

[434] But from 57 to 87 is 30 years.

[435] Every single year rent is going to go up.

[436] It did for the last 30 years, didn't it?

[437] It did.

[438] Wouldn't it be neat if we could rent something what it was 30 years ago?

[439] Oh, yeah.

[440] Wow.

[441] Oh, yeah.

[442] Well, guess what?

[443] That's where you're going to be when you're 87.

[444] you're going to be paying those high stinking rents if you're not an owner.

[445] So be an owner.

[446] Okay.

[447] So should I do a 30 -year mortgage and do maybe three extra payments a year?

[448] No, ma 'am, do a 15 -year.

[449] And then do three extra payments a year.

[450] Yeah, that'd be one.

[451] I want you to pay it off, okay.

[452] So you got, I want you to do a 15 -year, and I want it paid off before you retire.

[453] Yes, okay, that's my goal.

[454] want to be well i mean if you got you got 10 years if you retired 67 right right so if we take out a 15 year we pay extra payments will be done in 10 right and that might mean we buy a more conservative cottage than the Taj Mahal yeah i'm i'm on board for that yeah i mean i'd rather have a paid for a cottage than i would uh in debt Taj Mahal Angela how are you married for that.

[455] I was married for 36 years.

[456] All right.

[457] I want you to metabolize this.

[458] There is a very strong possibility that you live another 36 years.

[459] Wow.

[460] So you, as long as it feels like you were married, you might live that long.

[461] What does that mean?

[462] I want you to create the back half of your life.

[463] You're holding a blank piece of paper and a pen.

[464] What do you want this thing to look like?

[465] This is like when you go to the concert and the curtain goes down, but everybody keeps clapping and then the curtain goes back up.

[466] They call that an encore.

[467] That's what you're in the middle of.

[468] This is your encore.

[469] This is your, after the first bow, you come out and you do a whole other show.

[470] I don't want you to look up and have burned 10 years of this.

[471] Yeah.

[472] Because you're very capable and you're not old.

[473] Okay, good.

[474] We got that behind us.

[475] It wasn't long ago that 57.

[476] was old.

[477] But now that I'm 63, it's just a pup.

[478] So there we go, you know.

[479] Open phones at AAA 825 -5 -225.

[480] Mark is with us.

[481] Mark is in Austin, Texas.

[482] Hey, Mark.

[483] How are you?

[484] Hi, Dave.

[485] Hi, John.

[486] Hey, what's up?

[487] Good.

[488] How can we help?

[489] Yeah, so my wife and I just had our first son.

[490] Hey, congratulations.

[491] And thank you.

[492] And we're looking into sending him into private school.

[493] He's a baby.

[494] to that.

[495] Yeah, you started off earlier, right?

[496] Mark, slow down, homie.

[497] Okay, so.

[498] Yeah, but we want to figure out the best way to fund this because we all know that tuition will be going up, and I was considering maybe using the 529 plan to invest in that more than what we would have for his college as well.

[499] Obviously, we will invest in his college in the 529 plan as well, but maybe separate out a different kind of amounts and then hopefully have enough for you know a decent amount for well it will work and it's legal you're not gonna you got what five years of growth on these funds that is tax free in a 529 and that's your only gain by doing this yeah and what's your household income sir uh 110 okay all right and um well when people decide aside, especially 20 minutes after birth, that they are thinking about private school, generally it is for a couple of reasons.

[500] One, it could be they're concerned about the quality of academics.

[501] Two, there are people of faith, and they want their child to attend a school where their faith is, the value system of their faith is respected, and maybe don't think that's going to happen in a public school.

[502] the third one is safety they're worried about the actual physical safety of the child in a in a situation and those are generally the three reasons that someone or some combination of those reasons that someone would be a staunch on private school they're convinced that private school is a better academic situation that would be one as well I guess that you're going to learn more there um so which would which category do you all follow and what's the concern we're number two mostly and also number one but Texas has great public schools from what I can tell I can't remember which one is number two what was the subject um we're developed Catholics Jesus all okay okay so you want you want your kid to have a Catholic education you're about Catholics okay yeah the good news is that the general generally speaking Catholic private schools are not as expensive as fru -frew private schools.

[503] Yeah, yeah.

[504] They're very, they're usually, of the private school spectrum, they would be the less expensive of the bunch, generally speaking.

[505] Not always true.

[506] And hey, Mark, can I, can I pass up along to you?

[507] Just, just dad to new dad?

[508] Yeah, yeah, for sure.

[509] Six and a half years ago, I was three jobs and two states away from where I am right now.

[510] Yeah.

[511] Like, you're already trying to map out that, okay, then and then this and then this and then this.

[512] I'm all about plan and all about thinking ahead you make six figures you're all going to be okay yeah but i also want you to make room for your life's just going to look different in six years than it does right now and that's okay and i know you're holding that little baby and you want to make sure every variable's covered man that's a recipe for anxiousness and panic so get the big rocks get the big values anchored in and then get ready for the adventure of a lifetime man be highly intentional but be intentional about those values and those directions man and be open to what comes because you might find out that public schools in your area are amazing and they're great and y 'all can move that money somewhere else or you may find that you know you need to move early who knows what you're going to find but head that way man well the thing that what we found was um as people of faith as Christians that um we were so stupid and naive we assumed that if it said Christian school over the top that that meant everything that happened there was Christian?

[513] No. I know, but I was stupid.

[514] I'm sorry.

[515] I'm just saying.

[516] And if you think everything that happens in a Catholic school has anything to do with Jesus, you're real confused.

[517] So, because it's not.

[518] So there's all kinds of stuff happens in all these schools.

[519] So what I've learned the hard way early in our children's education process was that it's actually up to us.

[520] It's our job.

[521] It's my job to make sure that they held those values.

[522] It's my job to do this and if I let someone else do that job it's done poorly or not at all or it's perpendicular to what I believe accidentally and so um yeah it's my job to make sure you're learning to read I know it's the teacher's job to teach them to read but I better make sure that you're learning to read because I'm the dad this is the Ramsey show hey folks Dave here and I know some of you listen to the show waiting for a call that answers your specific question.

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[535] Dave is with us in Cincinnati.

[536] Hi, Dave.

[537] Welcome to the Ramsey Show.

[538] Hi, Dave and John.

[539] I'm a long -time listener, and it's an honor to talk to both of you guys today.

[540] Thanks for taking my call.

[541] Sure.

[542] How can we help?

[543] I am at this season of life.

[544] I'm looking at 63 years old and looking at retiring here in the next couple of months.

[545] And I'm doing a global assessment of my finances.

[546] I'm currently, after slugging it out for all my career, I'm currently under management, professional management, with one of the big name outfits.

[547] They're managing about $5 .6 million at a 1 % fee.

[548] And when I look at the next 25 years as I begin retirement, that comes up to a substantial amount of future fees that I'd be looking at probably in excess of 1 .4%.

[549] million in fees, not including the time value of money, and was wondering, how does somebody like me who needs about $75 ,000 a year to pay my bills, if I wanted to become self -managed or go into some kind of a flat fee management scheme, how does one depart from being fully managed and look at making a serious transition into becoming either semi -managed or self -managed?

[550] and is that even a wise thing to consider, you know, at this point in the game for me?

[551] Yeah, I think it's a wise thing to consider.

[552] And I think you may be able to find that other firms, 1 % is fairly standard, but at your level with $5 million under management, it should have started to be, the fee should have been on a gradient.

[553] It shouldn't stay at 1%.

[554] And so you might want to shop and say go to one of our SmartVestor pros.

[555] A lot of those years of 1 % management.

[556] fee program, but ask them if any of them have a gradient based on scale.

[557] Because at some point, you know, you start asking the question, if I'm going to buy a series of mutual funds and I'm never going to touch them or almost never touch them, I'm not sure exactly why I'm under management at the point that I'm 5 .6 million.

[558] Now, if you're 560 ,000, you should stay there because you probably need the guidance and you probably need the other stuff, but you've proven to be an excellent investor, someone who sticks it out, doesn't jump ship every time there's bad news on the nightly news report, which is every night.

[559] There's a reason to get out because the world is coming to an end, and you didn't fall for any of that.

[560] And so, you know, you've stuck with it and done a great job investing.

[561] So, yeah, I mean, I would investigate some other structures out there.

[562] I don't think there's anything.

[563] I don't think you're being, and you didn't present it this way, but, you know, but, you I'll say it out loud.

[564] I don't think you're being ripped off, but is there a more efficient way to handle it with this much money, possibly, yeah.

[565] Maybe there's a portion of it you leave it under management if you like these guys, and there's a portion you pull and say, I'm going to just put this in these six mutual funds, and I'm going to forget it.

[566] And, you know, we'll look at it once a year, you know.

[567] And so the vast majority of the Smartmaster pros that we endorse and the people in the the industry have moved to the 1 % model under the new fiduciary rules that are out.

[568] It puts them at too much risk to do it the other way.

[569] I don't have my personal under that with my SmartVestor Pro.

[570] I've just got it under, I mean, I buy air shares and they get paid, and that's all.

[571] And then it sits there.

[572] And so they get paid on the front and they're done.

[573] But most of those guys have moved all of their client base into a 1%.

[574] So I'm not shocked to hear you're there.

[575] But, yeah, I think you're asking good questions and you're asking them with the right kind of heart.

[576] And so this is a good time where you're making some assessments.

[577] And I'd go to the firm you're with and say, you know, based on the fact I'm over the $5 million mark, is there not some gradient on this fee that maybe y 'all forgot to apply.

[578] Hello, wink, wink, or talk to the smart list of pros and see if any of them do.

[579] I don't know if that's out there.

[580] But I know, for instance, if you have a certain amount with a certain mutual fund, they no longer charge any fees.

[581] There's breakpoints with the mutual fund companies where there's no fees charged and no commissions charged and so on.

[582] And you're definitely at those break points.

[583] So most of it goes away at about a million dollars with them.

[584] So, yeah, I think I'd ask the question of your current folks, unless you're dissatisfied with them.

[585] And then there's no need to ask the question.

[586] And I'd check SmartVestor Pro at Ramsey Solutions .com and talk to a couple of those guys and gals and see if they have anything to offer.

[587] And maybe you do a portion of it again and you take a portion of it and self -manage.

[588] All self -manages is you're not going to screw with it.

[589] That's the trick.

[590] The problem people have when they self -manage at the beginning of their investing lives is they jump on and off.

[591] And if you jump on and off the roller coaster, that's who gets hurt.

[592] ride the dadgum ride and you'll be okay these people you know and you need somebody to talk when you're early in the game emotionally you need someone to talk you off the ledge and so it's worth every penny and generally they they earn their one percent other ways as well so um you know it's it's not a bad plan what's the fiduciary responsibility what is that what's that shift well um under the obama administration they push this stuff through um and it's It's bogus in my mind, but it's still become the regs, that fiduciary technically means that you do, if I'm a fiduciary for your money, I do what is best for you, not what's best for me. That's what fiduciary technically means.

[593] And you could be a fiduciary regardless of how you're paid.

[594] You just have to do what's right for the customer, not what's right for your home pocketbook.

[595] You know, look out for the customer first.

[596] So a real estate agent that gets paid, a commission is technically a fiduciary, but they have a conflict of interest because they're getting paid a commission.

[597] So in the investing world, the Obama administration pushed these regs through that said that anyone who's paid a commission is not a fiduciary.

[598] But if you're paid a one, so if you're paid a commission, you know, five and three quarter percent on a mutual fund, that's a straight commission on the A share.

[599] And then that's it.

[600] You never get paid again, but they manage your money for you.

[601] and that's how the old SmartVestor pros all ran it back in the day.

[602] But if you do that now, you're liable if they want to sue you for something.

[603] If you want to get rid of the liability, you put it under one.

[604] If you're one of the investment brokers, you put all the customers in a 1 % and you call yourself a fiduciary.

[605] Were there instances of individual investors who funneled their clients into these packages that had bigger returns for them that might not have been the best product or what was the well that was always the auspices that no one that who's paid a commission can do the right thing for the customer that's the absurd but that's stupid because that's absurd if i'm getting paid a commission i want to continue to do right by you so i can keep your business you know again it's the Obama administration and it was just it was bull crap yeah it was supposedly in the name of the consumer but it really well now the consumer's going to lose more money over oh hello hello that's how that works wow yeah that's exactly what happened so they actually we're helping the consumer.

[606] We're going to make sure that they get charged more.

[607] That's really what it came down to.

[608] So, yeah, and that's what Dave is discovering right here.

[609] Exactly.

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[651] Caesar is in Mobile, Alabama.

[652] Hi, Caesar.

[653] Welcome to the Ramsey Show.

[654] Hello, Dave.

[655] This is Caesar.

[656] I wanted to ask you guys if I want to buy an investment property with my uncle, who's on disability.

[657] I currently already own a home, and I got that also.

[658] for $156 ,000 at 6 .25 % APR.

[659] My mortgage on that is about $1 ,200 per month.

[660] I have two tenants that live there, so they're paying off my mortgage.

[661] I have about $13 ,000 in my savings account, and I have no car payment and I'm giving about 10 % of my payment into a Roth RIA.

[662] okay and what do you make i make about uh four grand i where do you live if you if you rent it out the house what do you live in the house with a roommate yeah i live in the i live in the house it's like a roommate sort of deal so it um how old are you i live with my girlfriend i'm 20 years old okay and why do you want to buy an investment property so i want to buy an investment property because it I saw that, you know, being a landlord is really not as hard as I thought it was.

[663] I have the, like, the credit for it, and I believe that, you know, that's what I want to do with my life, just buying homes, either flipping them and renting them out.

[664] You know, I have a home, actually, that is $300 ,000.

[665] I would, me and my uncle, who are splitting everything in the home.

[666] It's about we're going to split everything, the down payment, like absolutely everything in the home.

[667] The house is worth about $300 ,000.

[668] We're getting about 7 % APR, and we would be doing an FHA loan on that.

[669] The thing is that my uncle doesn't live in the state, so I would be in charge of maintaining the property, and we would go essentially half -seas on the - And you need your uncle involved.

[670] Why?

[671] So I need my uncle involved because I just got this loan from this VA loan about six months ago and they're not letting me get another mortgage payment.

[672] Okay.

[673] Because you're too broke to buy a property.

[674] That's why they're not letting you do that.

[675] So the bank is telling you not to do this and you're figured out the way.

[676] to beat that is to use an uncle and do it anyway.

[677] Yes.

[678] Yes, sir.

[679] Okay.

[680] Well, Caesar, I've got just a moment with you to try to offset all of the bull crap you've been reading on the Internet about real estate, and I don't know if I'll be able to accomplish the goal of offsetting all of that.

[681] I will tell you that when I graduated from college at 22 years old, I bought my first problem, By the time I was 26, I had over $4 million worth of real estate with a million dollar net worth doing exactly what you're talking about.

[682] I had co -signers.

[683] I had banks that I had talked into loaning me money.

[684] I was flipping houses and with no money and you got no money.

[685] And I was buying property basically with no money.

[686] And so I was leveraged up to my eyeballs.

[687] one of the banks got scared and got sold to another bank and they looked down and said there's a kid in his 20s that owes us over a million dollars and they called the notes on the flips that I was doing.

[688] There were 90 -day notes and they called the flip notes.

[689] It was a million two.

[690] I had 90 days to come up with a million two.

[691] I spent the next two and a half years of my life losing everything I owned.

[692] Getting sued, getting foreclosed on, and finally with a brand new baby, a toddler, and a marriage hanging on.

[693] a threat I was bankrupt that's my story okay that guy that did that now owns me several hundred million dollars worth of real estate I recovered in my 30s at 40s and 50s I'm sitting in one building that's worth over 600 million right now and it's debt -free okay so just to give you an idea that this can be done but I never borrowed money again and I never took on another co -signer because those two things caused me tremendous trouble.

[694] And everybody that I knew that did the type of real estate deals that you're doing, all of my friends in that business were broke too.

[695] The only ones that survived were the ones that got out of debt.

[696] And you, sir, are walking straight into a razor.

[697] And I'm going to beg you not to buy this house.

[698] want you to own real estate and I want you to be good at it later I want you to take your time and pay cash for the next little property you buy and I think between now and 30 years old you probably are going to have several properties that you could pay cash for without your uncle and without 7 % APR and just because you can manage three roommates doesn't mean you know how to manage tenants yet that's a bit of a leap they're a little different and I've managed tenants for 40 years.

[699] Believe me, I know.

[700] And the idea that the tenant is paying for your house is internet crap because you're paying for your house and you've got some tenants.

[701] You will find out that the tenant is not paying for your house when one of them doesn't pay.

[702] That's when you'll discover that I, that real estate is not passive at all.

[703] It's very active.

[704] So I love real estate.

[705] I own a bunch of it.

[706] I'd love for you to own a bunch of it.

[707] But I also love for you to avoid a nightmare.

[708] and I don't know if there's any chance that I talked you out of it because you were completely in it almost sounds like you've already done the deal and then call me back to bless it and I'm not going to if you did that deal I wish you didn't because you set yourself up for problems you set your uncle up for problems you set up relationships for problems you're living on the edge and you don't even know it you don't even feel it you don't you don't you've not assessed the risk that you're under correctly you've taken on way more risk than your heart is grasping or you're about to please don't just take your time every time i read the book the tortoise and the hair the tortoise wins so be the tortoise that's about all i got john yeah yeah and again if that doesn't give you pause then nothing's going to give you pause um you mentioned this um at the very end there this is a sure fire way to implode family relationships as well.

[709] Yeah, because it's not going to work out.

[710] It won't work out, number one.

[711] And the uncle's on disability, for God's sakes.

[712] And he's in another state.

[713] And so when this doesn't work out, trying to help his little nephew out.

[714] But the uncle's brother, his dad's going to call and say, you need to do this, and grandmother's going to call, and mom's going to call.

[715] And now you're not going to be able to go to Thanksgiving.

[716] You're not going to be able to go to Christmas.

[717] Everyone always enters into these things, only considering the upside.

[718] And nobody understands the risk.

[719] profile, man, spend your life -studying risk.

[720] And that's where you'll, man, that's what the fulcrum always has to, has to equilibrium.

[721] I used to say it wrong.

[722] It's got to, there's always another side of the fulcrum.

[723] Let me say it that way.

[724] Yeah.

[725] And nobody takes that into consideration when you get starry -eyed, man. Yeah.

[726] Go take a cold shower, son.

[727] You got house fever.

[728] Yeah.

[729] Slow your butt down.

[730] That's what I would tell you.

[731] Yeah.

[732] You made the mistake.

[733] call and asking for my opinion, which I'm 100 % of the time I'm going to give you.

[734] I'm an expert on my opinion, and I love you, and so I'm going to tell you the truth.

[735] This is The Ramsey Show.

[736] Dr. John Deloney, Ramsey Personality is my co -host today.

[737] Thank you for joining us, America.

[738] We're glad you're here.

[739] Buffalo, New York is next.

[740] Hicks is on the line.

[741] Hi, Hicks.

[742] How are you?

[743] Hey, Jay.

[744] How's it going?

[745] Better than I deserve.

[746] What's up in your world?

[747] Dave, I got a question for you, Dave.

[748] I hope you can help me out here.

[749] I've been trying to decide which way to go here.

[750] Okay, recently retired, I had a medical condition that forced me to retire.

[751] Had to take a cut in pay.

[752] I owe $90 ,000 on a $20 ,000 -dollar house.

[753] It would be paid off in seven years.

[754] I own my car, I own my truck.

[755] The question is this, having some health issues, I'm thinking about moving.

[756] My wife has been helping me, and now she's pregnant.

[757] She needs help.

[758] I'm thinking about sending her out to her relatives in another state.

[759] And I'm saying, well, if she go out there, who's going to help me?

[760] So I'm thinking about relocating, telling the house.

[761] And I'm trying to decide, should I keep the house, wait for her to get back in three to four months.

[762] fell the house, go out there, and I'm kind of stuck here because I'm trying to get help here, and if I don't...

[763] How old are you?

[764] I am 64.

[765] And you have a baby on the way?

[766] Yes.

[767] Okay.

[768] How old is your wife?

[769] 37.

[770] Okay.

[771] Cool.

[772] All right.

[773] And what's the nature of your health problem, sir?

[774] I have to do with a muscle condition, rare disorder.

[775] order.

[776] They're trying to figure it out as to go along.

[777] Okay.

[778] So six months, eight months from today, where do you all want to be living with your new baby?

[779] Preferably in a house that we can afford.

[780] This one, but I'm thinking about going to another state.

[781] Why?

[782] Thinking about just because there's relatives and help out there.

[783] Okay.

[784] So you've got family in another area, and that's attractive.

[785] What area is?

[786] is that out in california that's closer to uh i want to say riverside closer to riverside well it's a wee bit different price market than buffalo new york brother uh yeah i have to get that yeah i think the uh monthly storage rates are about three hundred ninety thousand dollars Yeah, I don't think if you want to do something affordable and your income was just cut and your health is failing and you have a brand new baby on the way, probably the California real estate market is not going to be friendly to you, my friend.

[787] I'd be getting my Kansas on, Hicks.

[788] Yeah, I'd be looking for Kansas or West Texas.

[789] That's where I'd be going.

[790] Some place that's affordable and or stay where you are.

[791] You don't have friends and family there.

[792] yeah I do seem like a lot of people busy yeah they're busy in California too what does that mean yeah that they're busy people don't want to help you they help us as they can yeah are you are you specific in your help request uh yeah um I got some help and then I told them what's going on I'm in with the doctors back and forth it came on so suddenly I really didn't have have a chance to catch my breath too much.

[793] I was now, they say it's rare, and they don't see it that much, and they're doing all these different things to try to help me. Does your wife work outside the home, sir?

[794] She did until she got further along in her pregnancy.

[795] Yeah, okay.

[796] Because it sounds like you all are going to need her income to come back after the baby comes.

[797] Is that fair?

[798] Yep, that's exactly what we've been talking about.

[799] Exactly.

[800] So that's why I'm at, Dave.

[801] I don't have a magic wand.

[802] If you told me a bunch of friends and family were in an affordable market, I would be all for this.

[803] You're talking about moving to one of the more expensive areas in the world.

[804] Okay.

[805] And so, you know, Riverside is just not cheap, man. And it's not, you know, your mind's going to be blown what it'll take to buy a house like you've got right now there.

[806] And so it's just not transferable.

[807] I think the help you would gain is going to be far offset by the increased cost and I don't think it's going to be worth it.

[808] So if you have a different location with some family that is an affordable location, maybe the move makes sense.

[809] But I think you guys have got to continue to talk through where you want to be that you can afford to live and prosper with the current situation you find yourself in.

[810] A new baby, a 37 -year -old wife that's working.

[811] you've got a muscular disorder of some kind and you're trying to, you know, where do I want to be living in that situation for this next chapter of my life and that I can afford?

[812] And I think if you make a visit out to the California market that you're talking about, I think you're going to discover quickly that that's not affordable to you with what you're describing to me. So I might be wrong.

[813] You might.

[814] There may be something I don't know, but so you could go look at it.

[815] It doesn't cost that much to go look.

[816] But I'm going to have a plan B. If we don't go there, what are we going to do?

[817] And then under that situation, I'll go look.

[818] But don't tell me you were forced to move to an area you can't afford because you're not forced.

[819] You just got to make some different choices there in Buffalo.

[820] Man, I'm sorry.

[821] I wish I had a magic wand that can make all this go away, and I don't.

[822] There's not a good answer to that bad situation, folks.

[823] There's just some answers.

[824] There's just some, we can just kind of walk with you and think with you while you're facing these things.

[825] But there's not a, you know, there's not a simple thing.

[826] You just go do that.

[827] It's not.

[828] This is, there's a lot going on here.

[829] And all we can do is just sit here and be a sounding board with you and bounce those ideas back at you and see if they sound crazy when they come back at you across the net.

[830] Yeah.

[831] And just a quick note, if you were reaching out and everyone sounds busy, everyone's got quote unquote stuff going on.

[832] Um, it doesn't work every time, but often people will send a text message with some friends and say, hey, I've got some health struggles or I've got some challenges.

[833] If I'd love to get together for some coffee.

[834] Well, man, now people are wondering, well, who's on this text thread?

[835] How many people?

[836] That's like, I'm just going to wait.

[837] And then nobody responds.

[838] It's different when you say, hey, Dave, I've been really struggling.

[839] Is there a chance that you and I can get together tomorrow at 10 o 'clock?

[840] I'm going to get coffee.

[841] I'm buying.

[842] I'd love it if you met me there.

[843] That's a specific request that I want to meet with you.

[844] I want to talk to you.

[845] And people are much more likely to respond to that.

[846] And to respond affirmatively, like, I'll be there or I can't make that one, but I can do this date at noon.

[847] And so instead of just throwing these vague grenade balloons that just kind of loft out over, be specific, be at risk some people saying, I can't show up for you.

[848] Yeah, I got, listen, I need to ride the doctor tomorrow.

[849] Can you help me?

[850] Can you pick me up at 7 o 'clock?

[851] Yeah.

[852] I've got a doctor's appointment.

[853] I've got a doctor's appointment.

[854] I can be specific.

[855] That, boom.

[856] People will say yes or no. Yes or no. That's right.

[857] And by the way, you've got to be okay with her no if they're busy.

[858] That's okay.

[859] But at least you know.

[860] But you're more likely to get, I can't do that, but I can get, you know, cousin Judy to come to it.

[861] Or I got 10 bucks for, I got your Uber tomorrow.

[862] Great.

[863] I'll cover your Uber.

[864] That's it.

[865] That's it.

[866] That's the way you work.

[867] Yeah, very specific in the thing.

[868] Because when I hear, I've got a friend in the hospital right this second.

[869] And when I, you know, I'm talking to her husband back and forth.

[870] And I'm like, okay, well, you know, what can we do to help?

[871] How can we help you?

[872] I mean, how can we serve you?

[873] You want to share them make you dinner?

[874] I mean, can we come over?

[875] Do you want, no, no, okay.

[876] I start having to suggest.

[877] Of course, that's okay.

[878] I don't mind that.

[879] I'm not complaining, but I'm saying.

[880] But that's a close friend.

[881] If it's just this vague kind of out there.

[882] And even then, sometimes when it's kind of that vague, I'll say, me and Sheila bringing dinner tomorrow, we're going to be there at 6 o 'clock.

[883] If that doesn't work for it, you got to let me know.

[884] Yeah.

[885] And then sometimes they'll go, all right, thank God.

[886] Yeah.

[887] And then sometimes they'll say, well, we got four other dinners.

[888] Tomorrow night's not a good day.

[889] But I'm going to be specific.

[890] That's exactly what Sharon did.

[891] Yeah, that works.

[892] Good.

[893] That's a good call out.

[894] Good call out.

[895] So Hicks, the people that are busy around you, you might get more help if you're specific, as John's Point, if you're there in Buffalo.

[896] This is the Ramsey Show.

[897] Thanks for joining us, America.

[898] We're glad you're here.

[899] Open phones at AAA 8255 -2.

[900] 225, Patrick's in Fort Worth.

[901] Hi, Patrick.

[902] How are you?

[903] I'm doing good, Dave.

[904] Good.

[905] How can I help?

[906] Hey, I've got a question.

[907] I've got a question.

[908] I've got a patent pending on a mobile application, and I'm wanting to raise funds to get my MVP off the ground, right?

[909] And I've had a friend of mine and offered to give me a loan to do this, but I've been listening to you since I was 12 years old.

[910] Lost everything last year in a divorce, literally everything.

[911] And I'm wanting to go back up, but I don't want to give up my entire percentage of my company in getting with a traditional investor, and I really don't have access to traditional investors.

[912] So I'm just kind of curious, because it's kind of hard to crowd fund with a patent pending also.

[913] So I'm just kind of curious what you might have.

[914] on that.

[915] Okay.

[916] So remind me again what the patent is on.

[917] Okay.

[918] It's on a mobile application.

[919] A mobile application.

[920] Like a phone application.

[921] Like a phone app.

[922] Like an app for your phone.

[923] And why do you have to have a patent for a phone app?

[924] Well, it's just, it's just something new that is, well, I mean, I mean, you're going to put it in the Apple store, and you're going to put it in the Google Play Store, and people are going to download it onto their phone, right?

[925] Right, but it's a new and novel idea that nobody has ever put into play before.

[926] You don't need a patent for that.

[927] Is it a copyright?

[928] You don't need a patent for that.

[929] No, no, he told me I couldn't copyright it, but basically it would make it to where that somebody else couldn't redo that app.

[930] They couldn't make another, you know, because you can, I've patent.

[931] I've started the process to patent to process in the app.

[932] Okay, so, all right, let me stop.

[933] Okay, so how much are you spending to get the patent pending?

[934] So that's already, I've already paid that.

[935] Oh, okay, so you're done.

[936] I've already paid that.

[937] Okay, so you've got, so why do you need money to launch something in the Apple store?

[938] It doesn't cost anything.

[939] Well, well, in order to get the, in order to get the, um, the actual application built, the MVP, the minimum viable product, and to build that.

[940] Oh, you've not built the app yet?

[941] No. You're patent pending the idea or the technology?

[942] No, the technology is not done.

[943] It's not.

[944] Okay, are you not a programmer?

[945] You're not an engineer?

[946] I'm not.

[947] No, no. I've been a month since I was 16 years old.

[948] I bought my first business at 24.

[949] I bought and sold several different businesses.

[950] I mean, I've, but I lost everything last year, and I'm just starting over.

[951] Okay, so all you need is the engineering done.

[952] Right.

[953] You need a software engineer, right?

[954] Mm -hmm.

[955] So what's it going to cost to turn this into an app?

[956] Uh, the lowest quote I've got is around $24 ,000, $24 ,000 to $35 ,000.

[957] Okay.

[958] You know, we've built a bunch of apps here.

[959] We've got apps all in the store.

[960] I mean, I've put them up, taking them down.

[961] We've got a little thing called the Every Dollar app that we've got a lot more than that invested in, obviously, but we've also got, you know, tens of millions of people in it and all that.

[962] But even out of the gate, we had more than that in it.

[963] So I'm just trying to think how we would do it, because I don't borrow money, and I don't bring in outside investors.

[964] You know that.

[965] You said you've been listening.

[966] I don't want to give up.

[967] I don't want to give up.

[968] I wouldn't do it.

[969] I would do.

[970] You know, I mean, he'd even told me he would get it to me at 5 % But I don't want to take a loan No, don't take money from your free No, what part or no?

[971] You've been listening to us You knew I was going to tell you not to do any of this What's your panic?

[972] Like, what's the, you feel panicked?

[973] Are you about to get beat to market or something?

[974] If you hold a patent, can't you exhale And go earn 30 ,000 bucks?

[975] Well, the thing is is, yes, I have probably eight to nine months left of the status thing.

[976] My lawyer, he wants to do, he wants to do a non -provisional, which is potentially going to be 20.

[977] years protected, right?

[978] My uncle was an engineer, not in mobile stuff, but that's how he made his money.

[979] He invented, like, one of the largest crashing factories in the United States.

[980] And I've run by the seat of my pants in business.

[981] What do you, what do you, yeah, I know I can tell.

[982] What do you, do you have a job?

[983] Yeah, I'm a truck driver, so I've always, I've got my CDL, and I've bought and sold three different semi -trucks, but I lost almost.

[984] was $400 ,000 income last year during the divorce, and I was paying $3 ,000 a month in child support, and I just ate me alive.

[985] And I did have $15 ,000 in debt in that, but I've...

[986] Okay, let me stop you.

[987] All right.

[988] Here's, there's something in this situation that smells to high heaven of desperation.

[989] Like, you sound so desperate.

[990] You called it an application when you're talking to us.

[991] And it's not, it's a phone app, for God's sakes.

[992] This is not rocket search.

[993] Right.

[994] And so, and you sound so in a hurry and so chaotic and so desperate.

[995] And all of those things tell me you're getting ready to do something really stupid.

[996] Because every time I get that sound in my voice like a beagle chasing a rabbit, that's about the time I'm about to do something dumb.

[997] And I can hear it on you.

[998] I'm just being honest with you, all right?

[999] So what I would tell you to do is this.

[1000] I would tell you to slow your butt down.

[1001] Take a breath.

[1002] Okay.

[1003] That's what I'm going to tell you to do.

[1004] And then if you want to proceed with this, the only idea that comes to mind structurally on how to pull this off is to find a good software engineer and tell them you will pay them double their rate out of the proceeds.

[1005] And so if this thing is really a big deal, okay, you know, it's $24 ,000 for this stuff.

[1006] I'm going to pay you $48 ,000.

[1007] the first $48 ,000 that we make on this, I'm going to pay you out, and I'm going to pay you double, and then they're done.

[1008] And the problem is, as soon as you'd get the thing up, and here's what I'll teach you about apps, they're not one and done.

[1009] You can't ship it and forget it.

[1010] A hundred percent of apps that go out that are successful are constantly being worked on and iterated.

[1011] The negative thing about digital is you have to.

[1012] to constantly work on it.

[1013] The great thing about digital is you get to constantly make it better.

[1014] So you're not frozen.

[1015] When I print a book, it's either good or bad.

[1016] I'm stuck with it.

[1017] It's on the shelf for the next 40 years.

[1018] It's a printed book.

[1019] When I put something out in the digital world, I can change it tomorrow, and I can change it the next day, and I can change it the next day and make it better as I go along, and I will.

[1020] And so the every dollar budgeting app does not even resemble the app that was launched under the name every dollar originally.

[1021] It has iterated and upgraded, iterated and upgraded, iterated and upgraded almost every other week for years.

[1022] And so your software engineering costs have just begun, my friend, if this is actually going to work and be successful.

[1023] Your patent stuff is probably early and tremendous overkill.

[1024] you know, the number of times that people steal something on an Apple store is just not that big.

[1025] It doesn't happen much except the Chinese steal and stuff, right, and duplicating it.

[1026] But, I mean, I'm talking about the number of times that someone just comes in and scarfs up an idea that because you didn't have it patented.

[1027] So, you know, it's, you know, I don't, I'm pretty sure none of the budgeting apps out there that are the top budgeting apps are patented just to give you an idea.

[1028] And, of course, here's the other thing.

[1029] As soon as you patent it, you're going to iterate it and change it.

[1030] So then you've got to update the dadgum pay.

[1031] Yeah, this is not, I don't know.

[1032] I, so, yeah, I do know.

[1033] I would slow down, breathe.

[1034] If you want to involve a software engineer and pay them 1 .5 or pay them 2 .0, what they're worth.

[1035] But they only get paid out of the proceeds.

[1036] And if there are never any proceeds, they get nothing.

[1037] If it never works, they put in their money for nothing.

[1038] If they want to join the venture for some extra money, that might be a way to draw somebody in but the other thing you could do is you just could go make some money like john said and then just write somebody a check to have the first round of software engineering done but be prepared as soon as you start making little money you're going to spend most of that back into new software engineering because you're going to upgrade and iterate upgrade and iterate you do not ship it and forget it in the digital world my friend this is the ramsie show live from the headquarters of ramsie solutions it's the ramsie show where we help people build wealth, do work that they love, and create actual amazing relationships.

[1039] Dr. John Deloney, Ramsey Personality, number one bestselling author of the book, Building a Non -Axious Life, and a host of the Dr. John Deloney Show in the Ramsey Networks.

[1040] He's my co -host.

[1041] Today, open phones here at AAA 825 -5 -225.

[1042] Isabel is in Nashville.

[1043] Hi, Isabel.

[1044] How are you?

[1045] Hi, Dave.

[1046] It's so great to talk to you.

[1047] You too.

[1048] What's up?

[1049] Well, we've got, we enjoyed four years of a gorgeous home, upscale area, suburb of Nashville, and our home has risen in value to nearly a million dollars.

[1050] So we're in this gorgeous area, beautiful views, and all of a sudden our neighbor decided to raise their yard, their entire yard.

[1051] We have a half an acre, and theirs is a large yard too.

[1052] So they decided to put in a pool, and we have a six -foot privacy fence between us, and they decided to raise their entire yard up seven feet.

[1053] So it's a foot above the privacy fence.

[1054] And basically they created an inescapable, bigger than life, very colorful scene.

[1055] It looks like a stage.

[1056] And everything is lifted up.

[1057] It's got, you know, they've got everything, huge flotation toys in motion.

[1058] They've got people, curtains, flags.

[1059] The whole scene is a big beach scene, but it's in disarray.

[1060] And it's a year round, they don't really clean it up.

[1061] I'm just shocked that the HOA, I mean, it's very visible.

[1062] You can see it actually, our house is the model home.

[1063] And when you come into the subdivision, you can kind of see it, you know, through past our house.

[1064] Is there any chance that your neighbors are Winston and Rachel Cruz?

[1065] No. I know they're putting in a pool.

[1066] I'll just making sure that wasn't, though.

[1067] Oh, no. Okay.

[1068] At this point, their approval is not that far along, so we know it's not them, but yeah.

[1069] Oh, I thought our situation was completely unique.

[1070] We're a military family.

[1071] It lived all over the world.

[1072] I've never seen this before.

[1073] Okay, so, well, the only, I mean, if the HOA, if it's not in violation of anything in the CCRs, the HOA has no enforcement rights, which they probably don't, unless it's some kind of visual from the road, the only other thing I can think is if they violated code in some way putting it in, if they didn't pull permits to put all of it in, but if they pull permits in the city or the county approved all of the installation, you're not left with a lot of options except plant some large trees.

[1074] Yeah, and we've looked into that, and it would have to be evergreens, and they would have to be at least 10 feet tall.

[1075] Well, if you just put in, yeah, 10 footers and then pour the water to them in your area, they'll grow like a weed.

[1076] Well, you know, in the Home Improvement Request form, I did ask the, they want me to send pictures and my issue.

[1077] And so they want me to send that to them.

[1078] But they did tell me that in the Home Improvement Request form, they do require that anything, any structure, they have to be told.

[1079] the height and everything else about it and the look of it and everything and they said that that was not provided for them.

[1080] When they look at that request form, there's nothing that indicates they're going to raise the land and they said that they would have said that we can't, they already said we did turn them down when they wanted to extend their porch and they keep the height of it and extend it and they got a no from the HOA.

[1081] It's a pretty strict HOA these homes are, you know, $800 to a million, and so it's pretty strict, so I can't imagine.

[1082] Oh, I'm sorry?

[1083] Apparently it's not pretty strict as soon as I started backing dump trucks up and raising the entire backyard seven feet.

[1084] Somebody would have stopped them if they were strict.

[1085] Hmm.

[1086] So they're not real strict at all.

[1087] Do you think they're just lazy and didn't notice?

[1088] Yeah, that's not strict, though.

[1089] I mean, you can't raise half an acre seven feet and have.

[1090] Nobody noticed.

[1091] That's a lot of trucks.

[1092] Yeah.

[1093] And why didn't you guys bark when you started seeing that?

[1094] We're waiting after it was done.

[1095] We're so busy with my parents live with us.

[1096] We're doing so much that we, and then we keep to ourselves and we don't, you know, it wasn't apparent until they were done with it.

[1097] It just looked like they were digging.

[1098] It's apparent when you have 32 dump trucks in the backyard that something big is going on.

[1099] Yeah, it was apparent.

[1100] I mean, what you're describing.

[1101] is a major construction thing, and yeah, you had to notice that if you live next door.

[1102] I mean, it's like they're building another house back there.

[1103] Obviously, you didn't know how it was going to turn out, but you saw an amazing amount of activity, and I wish you, I mean, if you, because now to undo it, they got to dig the whole thing out.

[1104] That's not going to happen unless they did not pull permits and the city makes them take it all out.

[1105] I don't even think that will happen.

[1106] The only thing I could see them is, they were, they would find their butt until they made them take it out.

[1107] They fine you, or maybe they'll pay for the trees.

[1108] No, I'm saying, let the neighbor pay for the trees.

[1109] But I'm just saying, yeah, I think you're going to be planting some large evergreens and putting water to them.

[1110] And I think you're done.

[1111] It doesn't sound like you're going to get anything else.

[1112] The HOA is not going to have the power to make them take it out after they approve them putting it in.

[1113] The city might, they might find them or the county by the day until they remove the whole thing if they did it without a permit.

[1114] If they did it with a permit, it's their land.

[1115] and you know it's unsightly but it's perfectly legal so nothing else to be done except plant some trees so I think you're probably down to planting some evergreens and calling it a day and or that and move one of the two but um you know I've got a couple of properties that we had that we wanted to put up a buffer on for different reasons not that's not similar reasons to this but we planted some of those and we're in the same area she's in and I planted some of the um some evergreens along the line of it and i mean two years later these things are you know giganticuan and they put up a complete barrier it's so complete you don't even know anything's the other side of it now it won't block noise but if you've got that much noise you just call the police for public disorder you know and at some point public nuisance you go next door and you meet your neighbors and you just say guys y 'all got to keep it down over here yeah can you help us out or, you know, if you don't, you know, and they go, okay, you know, but, you know, and I have had that.

[1116] I walked next door in another property where the kids were up at 3 o 'clock in the morning, the music was playing where you could hear it four towns over.

[1117] And I'm like, hey, guys, we're trying to sleep over here.

[1118] You all get got this.

[1119] Oh, I'm so sorry.

[1120] You're so drunk.

[1121] Yeah, I know.

[1122] But turn the music down.

[1123] I'll never forget moving into my first house, Dave, and the neighbors through a party.

[1124] And I remember walking out the back door.

[1125] And I went back inside and said, Sheila, my wife, they could have heard everything.

[1126] She said, what do you mean?

[1127] And for some reason in college, I thought if you were in a fenced yard, that was a sound barrier.

[1128] And I was like, oh, no. There's some neighbors that have heard some stuff.

[1129] Not super great.

[1130] I love it.

[1131] I'm sorry you're facing all that, Isabel.

[1132] Yeah, I hate that for you.

[1133] For those of us in the future, we notice things quicker, intervenes sooner, and then we can have better control.

[1134] But I don't think you're going to have a situation where this is undone.

[1135] You might, again, with the city if they didn't pull proper permits.

[1136] But I got a feeling they did, and I got a feeling you're baked.

[1137] So you're probably planting some evergreens and calling it a day.

[1138] This is the Ramsey Show.

[1139] we teach you in the first three steps of the baby steps to get completely out of debt except the house and build an emergency fund and be very intense while you're doing that like so intense that you're like a gazelle running from the cheetah you're trying to stay alive intense like no life like drop an atom bomb on your lifestyle nothing left right scorched earth right and so then once you break through and you have your emergency phone and you're dead free, then you move from intense to intentional at Baby Step 4.

[1140] That's when you start investing, and things change.

[1141] But you pay a price to win, so we teach you to live like no one else so that later you can live and give like no one else.

[1142] So at the first part, you're living like no one else.

[1143] It's a pain in the butt.

[1144] But later you get to live and give like no one else.

[1145] So we are doing for Baby Step 4 and beyond folks, the Live Like No One Else Cruise.

[1146] On the Holland America cruise line, the Ramsey folk are going to be the only ones on this ship.

[1147] And the entire Ramsey personality lineup will be there, along with Stephen Curtis Chapman, along with Manit Shohan from the Food Channel, along with Dina Carter.

[1148] Lots of other celebs are going to be traveling with us.

[1149] It's a complete Ramsey cruise.

[1150] It's called the Live Like No One Else Cruise.

[1151] And again, the Holland America ship is absolutely amazing.

[1152] there are just a few cabins left you can still come we would love to have you we'll be going to Turks and Caicos St. Thomas Puerto Rico the Bahamas it's only a $600 deposit and we sail next March 22nd through the 29th of 2025 we'd love to have you with us and you should probably get this book because I don't know if I'm going to do another one this is that thing we're going to be on the boat with you for seven days boys and girls so come Come on out.

[1153] We'd love to have you.

[1154] Ramsey Solutions .com slash cruise.

[1155] Our question of the day today comes from Allison in Wisconsin.

[1156] I read this one really, Dave, and I already have a little bit of indigestion.

[1157] Maybe a touch of the hemorrhoids.

[1158] Here we go.

[1159] Question comes from Allison in Wisconsin.

[1160] Allison writes, my 30 -year -old son has never maintained stable employment and often asks me to quote unquote spot him alone.

[1161] I've given him a lot of money over the years because I feel guilty for divorcing his father when he was just 16.

[1162] I've exhausted my savings and hoped to retire in the next two years.

[1163] He lost his job about a month ago, moved to a different state with no job lined up, and I've given him several hundred dollars already.

[1164] I don't want him homeless or hungry, but I can't keep bailing him out because he makes irresponsible decisions.

[1165] Can I cut him off?

[1166] Please, God, cut him off.

[1167] Please.

[1168] Right now.

[1169] He's useless today.

[1170] And it's your fault.

[1171] Stop it.

[1172] As Eminem said, you've created a monster.

[1173] You've got to cut him off.

[1174] You have to.

[1175] Oh, God.

[1176] It's disgusting.

[1177] Actually, call him and say that you're sorry.

[1178] Yeah, I'm so sorry.

[1179] I've enabled you into stupidity and laziness.

[1180] an irresponsibility and i love you so much i'm not going to do it anymore my favorite quote from our buddy henry henry cloud says the greatest gift you could give this young man this 30 year old young man is some problems yep that's like going to the gym and stop taking the weight off the bar for him he's got to learn to lift he needs some new problems right he's some strength yeah he can only get that bike going through hard stuff he'll either find his way or he won't you can't fix it now i mean he's it's is you know some honey i recommend a good church and a good job and regularly attend both and all the sudden things will start to straighten out in your life young man uh but yeah what i and by the way alison he's going to stop calling you and he's going to blame you who gives a crap and these are not your these are you got to move on yeah yeah because you create a pattern where he's going to be pissed off when you don't keep giving him free money and coddling him.

[1181] But, yeah, honey, you really, this is, you, you, you need to love your son better.

[1182] You need to love him enough to let him grow and love him enough to let him feel the pain of his decisions.

[1183] And that's a hard type of love.

[1184] Dave, that's tough love.

[1185] No, it's just real love.

[1186] Enabling is not, it's not like soft and cuddly love.

[1187] Enabling creates stupid people.

[1188] and that's what she's done.

[1189] Enablers are nice, sweet people.

[1190] They're just weak.

[1191] They just don't have the strength to love well.

[1192] When I enable someone, it's because I'm too stinking emotionally lazy to stand in and tell somebody the truth and love them well.

[1193] And instead, I'll just throw some money at it and get away from them.

[1194] And that's just laziness.

[1195] You know, that's really what enabling is.

[1196] And it just, the enablers are the nicest people on the planet.

[1197] they never upset anybody except themselves and so um it just gosh and when i'm an enabler i'm much nicer than when i'm not but the bottom line is though it's like okay is a surgeon nice who refuses to cut you because it's going to hurt when he cuts you no they're not nice you mean when they do surgery that that's tough love no It's just love.

[1198] They use the scalpel doing as little damage as possible, caught inflicting some pain to remove a greater pain, right?

[1199] And that's, you know, that's exactly what you've got to do.

[1200] Allison, God, this is aggravating.

[1201] You're right.

[1202] Indigestion, among other results.

[1203] There we go.

[1204] Steve's in Salt Lake City.

[1205] Steve, what's up in your world?

[1206] Hi, Dave.

[1207] Hi, John.

[1208] It's a great pleasure to speak with you.

[1209] You too, sir.

[1210] How can we help?

[1211] Well, so here's my situation.

[1212] My wife and I are on Baby Step 7.

[1213] Good.

[1214] Thank you for all that you taught us.

[1215] We actually visited your office back in October and did our debt -free scream and got to meet you.

[1216] It was just awesome.

[1217] Thank you so much.

[1218] Thank you.

[1219] Yeah.

[1220] So I'm 50 years old and we're going to be just fine if I wanted to wait until age 59 and a half to retire.

[1221] But I keep thinking about retiring all the time.

[1222] And so I'm trying to figure out a way to do it earlier.

[1223] And when we hit Baby Step 7, I took my retirement savings 401K from 15 % up to 25 % just to try to save like crazy.

[1224] How much is in there now?

[1225] About $750 ,000.

[1226] Cool.

[1227] And your house is paid for?

[1228] What's it worth?

[1229] Paid 4.

[1230] About 620 last time I checked.

[1231] So your Baby Steps millionaires.

[1232] Congratulations.

[1233] Yeah.

[1234] Well, thank you very much.

[1235] That's what you told us at the office.

[1236] Yeah, very good.

[1237] Well done.

[1238] Okay.

[1239] So my question is, is I can't touch any of this money in my 401k until I'm at retirement age.

[1240] I'm just wondering if it could make sense for me to take that 10 % and put it into a regular brokerage account so that I can access that whenever I want to, whenever I want to see if I can retire.

[1241] Doesn't need to be in a brokerage account.

[1242] I just put into some mutual funds, what we call bridge investing to get to.

[1243] to money you can get to before retirement.

[1244] If you want to fund some, put a couple hundred thousand, it sounds like in, you know, you'd be able to do that.

[1245] Yeah.

[1246] The other thing that always comes up in this situation, though, is if you retire at 55, you intend to do no work for the next 40 years of any kind.

[1247] No, not at all.

[1248] My wife and I would make a plan.

[1249] Okay.

[1250] So you might be able to, you might be creating enough income to live on.

[1251] And I'm not talking about being a Walmart greeter.

[1252] I mean, it may be this whole thing, a whole other career, an encore thing.

[1253] Oh, well, one thing I didn't tell you is one of the things when we really got Gazelle intense was I created a side hustle.

[1254] That's what helped pay our house off a lot faster.

[1255] And it nets me about $20 ,000 a year right now.

[1256] I just kept doing it.

[1257] Yeah.

[1258] And so I imagine I would keep doing that.

[1259] Or could I just...

[1260] What do you make at your job?

[1261] About $100 ,000.

[1262] I'm thinking about something that makes you 200 ,000 a year.

[1263] That's more fun than your job, because you're wanting to quit your job.

[1264] You're not wanting to not work.

[1265] Yeah, I was hoping you wouldn't see India yet, but you did.

[1266] That's all it is.

[1267] I mean, you're not afraid of work.

[1268] Hey, I'm continuing to work because I love it.

[1269] Not because I need the money.

[1270] Love what I'm doing.

[1271] I'm going to continue to work until they don't let me anymore because I don't make sense.

[1272] So, there's so many places I could go right now.

[1273] that.

[1274] We're getting close.

[1275] That's all I'm saying.

[1276] We're getting close.

[1277] It could happen any minute, even if you're the president.

[1278] It could happen.

[1279] This is the Ramsey show.

[1280] Selling or buying a home in this current real estate world can either be a curse or a blessing.

[1281] And the difference is not the economy or the interest rates.

[1282] The difference is whether you're ready and whether you go through the process and select the right price range of home for your situation.

[1283] Getting plugged into a Ramsey trusted real estate agent will help you do it the right way, and then home ownership can be a blessing.

[1284] Selling a home can be a blessing.

[1285] And we have vetted these high protein, high octane agents, and they do a great job.

[1286] There are people that sell bazillion houses, not two a year.

[1287] If you sell two houses a year, I'm happy for you.

[1288] you, but you won't be a Ramsey trusted real estate agent because I want someone that I'm going to send our listeners to that actually does a lot of transactions and therefore is going to help you do a lot of do a transaction.

[1289] That's what it comes down to.

[1290] So if you want to know who we trust in your area, find a Ramsey trusted real estate agent for free and ramsysolutions .com slash agent.

[1291] Matt is with us in Portland, Maine.

[1292] Hi, Matt, how are you?

[1293] I'm good, Dave, how are you?

[1294] Better than I deserve.

[1295] What's up?

[1296] Yeah, so I had a question.

[1297] So I have about $25 ,000 left in school debt, $25, and I have the cash to pay it off, but I'm wondering if I should pay it off right now or if I should continue with the state program we have here in Maine where if you went for a certain degree, you live and work in the state, they will pay off your loan up to $2 ,500 a year for a max of $25 ,000.

[1298] And so over that time, it will cover it.

[1299] So really, I'm wondering if I should just continue that program or if I have the means to do it, just pay off the debt and never have to think about it again.

[1300] So let me make sure I understand the question.

[1301] Do I pay off my loans today with money that I have or do I let the state pay it off and I stay in debt for 10 more years?

[1302] Yes.

[1303] So this is the question.

[1304] Yeah.

[1305] Well, that's kind of a no -brainer, pay it off today.

[1306] You know why?

[1307] Even though they'll...

[1308] You know why?

[1309] Why?

[1310] Because building wealth is not about borrowing money.

[1311] Building wealth is about avoiding borrowed money.

[1312] So the faster you get this paid off, the faster you're on your wealth building journey.

[1313] What do you make a year?

[1314] Okay.

[1315] Uh, 90.

[1316] Yeah.

[1317] You are your secret sauce, not some main state hack.

[1318] Okay.

[1319] $2 ,500 a year is not going to make you.

[1320] rich.

[1321] What's going to make you rich is you getting out of your own way.

[1322] You are already a saver.

[1323] You are already a high -income earner.

[1324] You are doing a great job.

[1325] Let's use Matt as the solution to our problems and our challenges and our opportunities because Matt is a stud.

[1326] The state of Maine, not so much.

[1327] Yeah, Matt.

[1328] Can we walk backwards in history real quick?

[1329] Sure.

[1330] Our current president is a thousand years old.

[1331] The president before him hosted a reality TV show.

[1332] The president before him was a first -term senator.

[1333] The president before, like, in 10 years, you tell me what the leadership of Maine is going to look like.

[1334] You don't know.

[1335] Bro, I'd rather give myself 10 years of freedom.

[1336] If I've got that money in my account, right?

[1337] Yeah, we have no idea.

[1338] It could all be amazing.

[1339] And it could all not.

[1340] I think all of us have learned there's just we don't know the rules anymore and so I would take what I could control which is I'm out of debt today I would take what I can control and control the heck out of it yeah control the controllables and that is you're out of debt and then you use your wealth building your largest wealth building tool which is your income not avoidant not debt repayment avoidance to build wealth all the millionaires we interviewed none of them said you know I use that student loan payoff program and that's how I built wealth.

[1341] them said that they all said i took control of the controllables i got out of debt you didn't have any payments and i jacked and stacked money and i tell you what i'm still burned what those programs did some of my top students who chose to go to public service because of these promises and just got cooked man so i have i just have no faith in those programs not because i don't have any faith in the people that institute them on either side of the aisle you bozos so seriously because you keep making the loans and if they're so stinking bad, you shouldn't keep making them.

[1342] This is me talking to Congress again.

[1343] You should go testify before Congress.

[1344] Your congressman invited you.

[1345] I know, but I try not to do things that are a waste of time.

[1346] Open phones at AAA 825 -5 -225.

[1347] Zachary is in Columbus, Georgia.

[1348] Hi, Zachary.

[1349] How are you?

[1350] Good.

[1351] What about yourself?

[1352] Better than I deserve.

[1353] What's up?

[1354] so me and my girlfriend are planning on buying the house in two years and I was wondering if I have an 800 credit score if I should let it go to zero or if I should uphold this and continue on that task well number one don't buy a house with somebody you're not married to really dumb idea you're going to get burned okay if you want to buy a house and have a roommate that's your decision.

[1355] But don't buy a house with somebody you're not married to.

[1356] Don't put her name on anything unless she's your wife.

[1357] Or don't put your name on anything as hers unless you're her husband.

[1358] You'll get into a mess.

[1359] And I talk to those people every day on this show and they will tell you over and over.

[1360] Don't do that.

[1361] So now then back to you buying a house and answering your question.

[1362] Are you 100 % debt -free right now?

[1363] Yes, sir.

[1364] okay you're not going to maintain an 800 credit score then unless you go back in debt you've got to go back in debt yeah yeah I've only been maintaining it with credit cards anyways yeah yeah so you're going to have to continue to borrow money and pay it back to maintain an 800 because the 800 credit score is a Ponzi scheme yeah um hmm how old are you 28 what do you make i make approximately 40 ,000 a year well the only way i know how to answer questions is if i was in your shoes i'm a single guy someday i might be marrying two years from now i'm thinking about buying a house when i'm 30 i make 40 000 a year and the only way to maintain my 800 credit score is to continue to go into debt um what would i do if i woke up there i would not maintain it i would would let it go to zero and do manual underwriting to buy my house because I am well aware that the eight that the whole credit score thing is a scam the only way you run your credit score up is going to debt why do you do that so you can go into debt so why so I can run my score up why so I can go into debt why so I can go into debt it's a dog chasing its dad gum tail and all you do is get dizzy and then people walk around and I was at a party other than night and the guy goes yeah dude but I have an 800 credit score and I'm like she bless your heart man it's cost you least 100 grand an interest so yeah because the only thing you can do is just worship at the altar of the great fico great fico we bring you offerings of interest so um you know and that's that's what americans have done they fallen for the biggest scam in history which is the fico score so yeah i'd let it go Zach if it was me but please don't buy house your girlfriend do and i don't think you heard that i want to be real clear john we get those calls and they're really particularly heartbreaking.

[1365] Yeah, because nobody sets out to buy a house with anybody, their spouse or their boyfriend or girlfriend without thinking this is forever.

[1366] And we wouldn't have a show if everyone's plans worked out exactly like they thought they were going to.

[1367] And they just don't.

[1368] We would, but it wouldn't be nearly as entertaining.

[1369] That's right.

[1370] And by the way, all your folks' plans that didn't work out, your great radio.

[1371] My guess is Zachary can only buy a house if he has somebody else's income attached to it because he only makes $40 ,000.

[1372] So maybe the conversation is, if I really want to be a homeowner in two years, then I'm going to figure out ways to up my income in pretty dramatic fashion and not just settle for a $40 ,000 a year life at the age of, in my mid -20s.

[1373] I'm going to go for it.

[1374] Or if you love your job, that's cool.

[1375] It's just going to be longer than two years before you save up that kind of down payment.

[1376] Figure out of why to make some shirt.

[1377] money yeah that or put a ring on it marry the girl there you go this is the ramsie show our scripture the day proverb 163 commit to the lord whatever you do and he will establish your paths plans i'm sorry my angelo said you may not control all the events that happened to you but you can decide not to be reduced by them hmm that's cool all right Travis is with us in Dayton, Ohio.

[1378] All right, Travis, how are you?

[1379] Good, how are you?

[1380] Better than I deserve.

[1381] What's up?

[1382] I got a question about some investing stuff.

[1383] I don't know a lot about investing, but I know stuff about sports cards, and I was wanting to get your input on if you thought that was a decent thing, or if that was just like a childish hobby.

[1384] It's neither.

[1385] It's not a childish hobby, and it's not an investment.

[1386] It's a collectible, and collectibles should not be where you put your investments.

[1387] You can make money in collectibles, and if you've got an expertise in that area and a knowledge in that area, that's fine.

[1388] But there's very little data that shows that people build fortune in collectibles.

[1389] Very few people do.

[1390] And so whether it's art or cards or coins or whatever it is, you want to, that goes up in value.

[1391] And because of scarcity and uniqueness and so forth, I don't think it's childish at all.

[1392] I've got a lot of different collections.

[1393] I'm kind of a collectible type person, but none of that is considered an investment by me. It's just something that's fun, and it's an added benefit that not only is it fun, but it goes up in value.

[1394] And that's kind of part of the game from me. Like I've got a ridiculous gun collection, many of which are what we call safe queens in that world, meaning that she's going to stay in the safe and never be shot, never have a bullet go through her.

[1395] but but you know which makes her go up in value right so that kind of stuff so i've got that kind of stuff um i've got some unusual firearms i've got some uh valuable firearms in that collection and i've just enjoyed it and i shoot some of them obviously but not um but not and so that's not childish or manly or anything it's just a collection it's just that and yours is not childish it's uh it's a fun collection because it does sometimes tie back to our childhood or tie back to Maybe something you did with your uncle or your dad or something, and that's cool.

[1396] But again, the data on it as an investment.

[1397] No, I would never call those an investment.

[1398] So it should be something you do in addition to your investing.

[1399] Okay, that makes sense.

[1400] Yeah.

[1401] But it's valid.

[1402] I mean, I would imagine.

[1403] How many cards have you got?

[1404] I've started a third collection.

[1405] The first two I sold for probably a total of 5 ,000, but now I probably got close to 6 ,000 cards.

[1406] Or that are worth probably what?

[1407] I just sent five in, and when I get them back, they should equal out to about $1 ,500.

[1408] The whole bunch?

[1409] Or just those five?

[1410] I'm asking what the 6 ,000 cards is worth.

[1411] 20 grand?

[1412] Probably all together about 20 grand.

[1413] Yeah, okay.

[1414] All right.

[1415] So obviously you're not going to retire on that.

[1416] I mean, so that's fine.

[1417] I've got a buddy that collects knives, and he's probably got $30 ,000 worth of knives that he'll never sell.

[1418] because he didn't have to, A, but B, a lot of them have interesting memories attached to them because he bought them when he traveled and things like that.

[1419] So, yeah, that's cool.

[1420] Nothing wrong with that at all.

[1421] And no, I would not call it horrible or childish or something like that.

[1422] And if you do it properly, as you've discovered, they do go up in value.

[1423] And you may take joy in turning the whole portfolio over ever so often.

[1424] And that's fine.

[1425] But I'm just going to call it a hobby that works.

[1426] and a collectible that works.

[1427] Because collectibles, you know, art should go up in value.

[1428] If you're doing this right, the portfolio you've got should go up in value.

[1429] But it's not enough to justify.

[1430] You're not going to end up with a million dollars in your 401K, you know?

[1431] And you need a million dollars in your 401k.

[1432] That's where I want you to go.

[1433] Good question.

[1434] That's fun.

[1435] Yeah, and it reminds me of that conversation, Warren.

[1436] Do it?

[1437] Oh, you got guitars you collect.

[1438] Oh, I collect.

[1439] Dude, I got so many collections.

[1440] I used to collect cards like crazy.

[1441] I love it.

[1442] It reminds me the conversation that Buffett had with some kids that were pressuring him on Bitcoin.

[1443] And I loved that conversation about like, if I'm investing in something, I have to, it has to be in and of itself of value.

[1444] Not that I have to sell it so that I can get a thing so then I can go buy a thing of value.

[1445] And that's a, that was a good reminder for me. Like if I'm investing in something, I'm going to invest in a company that's going up in value or in a mutual fund that's a budget.

[1446] creating money that's creating that's not it's not driven purely by the nuance of shortage there you go yeah and that's that's what the commodity is what he's discussing and that's what bitcoin is why he hates bitcoin is and why i hate it is because it's a commodity it's not really an investment it's and so when you put money in something like that it's speculation not investing a whole bunch of people said that mickie metal card we're all going to say it's that much right but you can't eat it you can't you can't power a car with it you can't do a thing with with it.

[1447] Now, there's enough of a market.

[1448] There's probably more of a market for that Mickey Mantle card than there is the Bitcoin.

[1449] Because you can at least hold the Mickey Mantle card.

[1450] Yeah, at least touch it.

[1451] It's not an NFT.

[1452] Yeah.

[1453] So, yeah, there's that.

[1454] So, but completely validate you collecting.

[1455] I love collecting.

[1456] But just don't categorize it in your instead of investing.

[1457] Like, you know, I know a guy that was, uh, has passed away now.

[1458] There's a billionaire.

[1459] And I got to visit his car collection.

[1460] He had three different buildings full of cars.

[1461] and there were some really cool cars in there.

[1462] I got my picture made with some of them.

[1463] There were some of them from movies and things that he bought off the, off the, and they were really neat.

[1464] But it had nothing to do with his net worth.

[1465] His net worth is a completely different thing.

[1466] That car collection was just like Travis with his cards or me with my guns.

[1467] It was just for fun.

[1468] Just for fun.

[1469] That's simple.

[1470] Good question, sir.

[1471] Thank you.

[1472] Garrett is in Phoenix.

[1473] Hi, Garrett.

[1474] How are you?

[1475] I'm doing good.

[1476] How are you, Dave?

[1477] Better than I deserve.

[1478] What's up?

[1479] Hey, I'm getting married at the end of this month and congratulations.

[1480] Thank you, sir.

[1481] We're going through combining our finances and I have a fully funded emergency fund.

[1482] She has a bit of money and savings.

[1483] But I'm wondering, should I empty my brokerage account to finish funding that emergency fund together?

[1484] I'm confused.

[1485] You said I have a fully funded emergency fund?

[1486] I do for me, yes But when her and I get married They won't be fully funded for both of our I see And how much does she have in savings About 4 ,000 And how much is in your fully funded emergency fund 10 ,000 Okay, and what do you need 18 To be, you call that three to six months Okay, and you have 14 Right, between the two have you And you have how much in your brokerage account About $6 ,500.

[1487] Oh, okay.

[1488] Yeah, liquidate it.

[1489] Sure.

[1490] Liquidate it.

[1491] Yeah, that's fine.

[1492] And then start your investing plan based on the fact, are you 100 % debt -free at that point?

[1493] Yes, sir.

[1494] 100 % debt -free, 15 % going to retirement.

[1495] Yeah, you're going to be just fine then.

[1496] And then when you get the house, get it paid off and work your baby steps.

[1497] Yeah, you're right on track, dude.

[1498] Well done.

[1499] Good stuff.

[1500] Jessica's in Scranton, Pennsylvania.

[1501] Hi, Jessica.

[1502] How are you?

[1503] hi good afternoon thank you for taking my call sure what's up my father wants to gift my brother and I his house currently he's 75 why and he wants to gift it gift it to us now with him and his wife having life rights so that when he passed we don't have to he so we don't have to pay inheritance tax you don't have to pay inheritance tax he doesn't have a net where he does not have a net worth of over 20 million dollars does he no no there's no inheritance tax okay there might be a probate there might be a probate tax in Pennsylvania but it will pale in comparison to this stupid move and what it will do to your capital gains because if he gives you his house his basis becomes your basis and when you all sell it someday you're going to pay tax on everything above what he paid for the house originally dumb if however you receive the house upon his death you get stepped up basis meaning that your basis in the house for tax purposes is the market value at the time of his death.

[1504] You see the difference?

[1505] Okay.

[1506] He inherited the house from my grandmother.

[1507] Oh, so it's even worse.

[1508] Okay, so he has a zero basis.

[1509] What's the house worth?

[1510] If I had to guess, I'd say $4 ,000, I mean $400 ,000.

[1511] Okay.

[1512] So the difference is capital gains tax on $400 ,000.

[1513] Okay.

[1514] This is a $60 ,000 error if he dies now.

[1515] to give you the house before death.

[1516] You're going to pay an extra $60 ,000 in taxes.

[1517] Do not do this.

[1518] I'm so glad I called.

[1519] It's a $60 ,000 phone call.

[1520] Jessica, way to go.

[1521] Yeah, and guess what?

[1522] It was free.

[1523] Even the toll -free number is free.

[1524] Go figure.

[1525] Good show, John.

[1526] That puts this hour of the show in the books.

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