The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett XX
[0] Did you know that the DariVosio now has its own channel exclusively on Samsung TV Plus?
[1] And I'm excited to say that we've partnered with Samsung TV to bring this to life, and the channel is available in the UK, the Netherlands, Germany and Austria.
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[5] right now.
[6] What role does money play in your, as a motivator for you in your career, but also as a, in terms of your happiness?
[7] And this is a question I'm asking because I want to know the answer.
[8] I'm hoping you're, you know, ahead of me so you can maybe reach back down and let me know the truth.
[9] Yeah, so I wasted years of my life chasing money.
[10] Now, what I want people to understand is the reason that people chase money is because money's real.
[11] Money is powerful.
[12] Money is more powerful than you realize.
[13] It's just not at all what you've been told.
[14] So here's what I thought about money.
[15] This is why I was chasing it so hard.
[16] When I looked at somebody who had a big house and I looked at somebody with a fast car and I looked at somebody that was wealthy, I admired them.
[17] I was in awe of them.
[18] I just thought, oh my God, like that would be so cool to be that person.
[19] And I thought I would feel about myself that same way if I just had those things.
[20] And I've had the very good fortune of the way that our wealth came is it was all in the company.
[21] So for a long time, I had a good salary, but for a long time, it was, I was just another guy with a good salary.
[22] You know what I mean?
[23] So I wasn't like really wealthy, even though on paper I was worth hundreds of millions of dollars in my real life.
[24] I was living in a normal house.
[25] I was driving a normal car.
[26] It was like there wasn't anything really fancy about my life.
[27] And then because we took an investment, we sold a small business.
[28] piece of the company, but the company was valued over a billion dollars.
[29] It's like all the sudden, the raw number of dollars is so crazy that you go from a normal guy with like a good salary to like hitting refresh on your bank account a few times because they're like the money's been wired.
[30] And all of a sudden you've got a lot of fucking commas and a lot of zeros in your account.
[31] And it's so crazy.
[32] And you have this moment of like, whoa, my life is never going to be the same.
[33] This is so bananas.
[34] But wait a second.
[35] second.
[36] I don't feel any differently about myself.
[37] Every insecurity that I had before the money hit, I still have.
[38] Like, I feel exactly the same about myself that I did a year ago, five years ago.
[39] I won't say 20 years ago because it's like you're doing all the work, but it's like...
[40] The money didn't change anything.
[41] One thousand percent.
[42] And it won't.
[43] It never will because you're not going to feel differently about who you are.
[44] Now, here's the good thing.
[45] I didn't feel badly about myself.
[46] It felt really fucking good.
[47] I felt like I was a beast.
[48] But the money didn't change anything.
[49] What changed something was, I showed up at the gym every day.
[50] I put in the work.
[51] I did things I didn't want to do.
[52] I was willing to suffer in service of a goal.
[53] And once you're willing to do that, once you're willing to be disciplined, earn credibility with yourself, have a why, push towards it, serve other people.
[54] Like all of those things, build your sense of self.
[55] And it's never going to be the money.
[56] Now, the irony of ironies is that the money is going to be an outcropping of those things anyway in this world, right?
[57] Because in this social age baby, like the number.
[58] one marketing vehicle is to be a good person and to do amazing things for people and to add a crushing amount of value to people's lives.
[59] Like the greatest marketing vehicle of all time now is to be a good person, which is amazing, right?
[60] And I think like getting into my story, in fact, here's another moment that was utterly transformational.
[61] So I'm working in this tech startup with the guys, they hired me as a copywriter.
[62] They said, don't think of yourself as a copywriter.
[63] You can have any job you want in the company.
[64] You just have to become the right person for the job.
[65] I spend six and a half years all into a level that most people just simply cannot comprehend.
[66] Like only letting my wife pick an apartment that I could get to the guys who are my employers, just my employers at the time, that I could get to their house in seven minutes or less.
[67] So she would find a place she would like and then we would get in the car, motherfucker with a stopwatch and we would drive, time it, drive back, go to the other one and time that.
[68] And if it was seven minutes or less, then yep, we can, whatever apartment you want at that point.
[69] But because I wanted, if they called me at 2 a .m. on a Saturday, I wanted to be there in 10 minutes or less.
[70] So like that was, was my obsession.
[71] Like, I was just all in round the clock.
[72] For six and a half years, I didn't actually take a vacation.
[73] I would leave the state, but I would have my phone.
[74] I'd be watching the business on a camera.
[75] Like, it was crazy.
[76] And finally, my wife had to pull me aside and say, look, you're now damaging the marriage.
[77] Like, this is just too much.
[78] You literally can't work.
[79] You can't sustain 90 -hour weeks for seven years.
[80] You just, it's crazy.
[81] So, but that's where I was.
[82] And I was just hell bent to become something.
[83] I was hell bent to get rich.
[84] That was my focus at the time.
[85] And for the first three years, I won't lie.
[86] It was awesome.
[87] And I was learning so much and I was growing so much.
[88] It was fucking rat.
[89] And there's nothing anybody could have said to me to make me back off.
[90] And then it started to take from me. And it just was too much because I didn't believe in what I was building.
[91] And so at about six and a half years, I was like, okay, I'm a multimillionaire on paper.
[92] And which I hope everybody listening, there's a difference between paper money and cash money.
[93] So, but I was paper, I was multi -millionaire on paper.
[94] And I was so profoundly unhappy that I was like, this can't be real.
[95] I'm living the cliche of money can't buy happiness.
[96] Like, this is such a joke.
[97] Like, I've heard this a thousand times.
[98] So how am I being caught off guard by this?
[99] And I told my wife, because I had promised her I'm going to make you rich.
[100] I told her dad, who the reason he didn't want me to marry his daughter was he didn't think I'd be able to provide for her.
[101] And so, like, I had so much writing on being successful.
[102] And I went to my wife and I said, look, I know I promised I'd make you rich, but I need to do something that makes me feel alive.
[103] I need to fall in love with life again.
[104] Like this is so crazy and I'm so unhappy.
[105] And I said, I will do it.
[106] I will ultimately accomplish that, but I need to do it in something that I believe in.
[107] And so she said, I bet on you.
[108] And that has become sort of the foundation of our relationship was how right or die she is.
[109] and I went in and I quit and I was telling the story now it's such a powerful and cool moment but at the time I was deeply ashamed I was like I'm quitting I'm a quitter and I can't get across the finish line but I'm just that unhappy and I know like where depression leads people and that was obviously not somewhere I wanted to be but they said look we could do this without you but we don't want to and so I never quite made it home so I was literally driving back from having quit.
[110] And they called me as I'm pulling into the drive.
[111] I'm on the phone with my wife saying, like, I did it.
[112] I quit.
[113] Like the hardest thing in the world, these guys were the two closest people in my life outside of my family.
[114] And I felt like I'd just let them down, but I finally had the guts to say, I just can't keep doing this.
[115] And they called me and they said, come out to dinner.
[116] I go out to dinner and they say, look, we could do this without you.
[117] We don't want to.
[118] And it allowed me to connect to something other than the money.
[119] And I said, all right, I have to confess.
[120] If we're going to move forward together, then we're going to have to sell this company.
[121] We're going to have to build another company predicated entirely on value creation on building community and not focusing on money ever again.
[122] Like I'll never again make decisions based on money.
[123] It's not that I won't be thoughtful.
[124] It's not that I won't build the business in a way that makes sense financially.
[125] But I'm never going to let that be the lead driver again.
[126] So I have five drivers.
[127] I think most people do.
[128] Money comes, it's one of the five, but it's the fifth.
[129] And so the other one's purpose and meaning, autonomy and the desire for master.
[130] street like all of those sit in higher position than money and so that became my obsession like I want to do rad things for people and I want to be me I want to be authentic we didn't have these words back then this is all before social media was called social media there was no influencers no one was talking about authenticity and transparency but I came to it out of a out of a place of absolute pain and suffering and when I finally got there and realized money is never going to make me happy, that the punchline, and I want to just bring this mic close to eat it, because I really want people to listen.
[131] The punchline of chasing success is very simple.
[132] Success isn't money.
[133] Success isn't fame.
[134] Success is not people thinking that you're cool.
[135] Success is very simply, I promise you, fulfillment.
[136] That's it.
[137] Now I'll define fulfillment.
[138] Forfillment's what the ancient Greeks called technique.
[139] Techni is having a set of skills that are very meaningful to you, that you worked your ass off to acquire and they don't only serve you they serve other people that's it that's like literally i have the chills that's life once you get to that place where there's something you fucking believe in man like you really believe in it and you're ready to commit to think about this you're in this crazy mansion right now right i've got a lot of money i could have bought an island it retired but i didn't i'm working harder now than i've ever worked in my life but i'm more on fire more excited more energized because i believe in what i'm doing and because i know that that The way that you feel about yourself when you're all alone and it's dark and there's nothing to distract you, how you feel about yourself in that moment is everything.
[140] And so when you're doing something that you believe in and that serves, that's a big deal and it sounds super cheesy and I wish those words weren't cheesy because it's actually really powerful, but there's something inside of all of us at the individual level.
[141] We want to contribute to the group.
[142] We want to do something rad for people.
[143] We want to see that moment where we're like, whoa, that thing that I worked really hard for, that just helped this person.
[144] There just isn't anything better than that.
[145] It's why people like being parents.
[146] Did you know that the Dario of a CEO now has its own channel exclusively on Samsung TV Plus?
[147] And I'm excited to say that we've partnered with Samsung TV to bring this to life.
[148] And the channel is available in the UK, the Netherlands, Germany, and Austria.
[149] Samsung TV Plus is a free streaming service available to all owners of Samsung Smart TVs and Galaxy mobiles and tablets.
[150] And along with the Dyer of a CO channel, you'll find hundreds of more channels with entertainment for everyone all for free on Samsung TV Plus.
[151] So if you own a Samsung TV, tune in now and watch the Dyer of a CEO channel right now.