231 - Small Bigfoot

[0] This is exactly right.

[1] Hello.

[2] And welcome to my favorite murder.

[3] The big one.

[4] The normal sized one.

[5] The long one.

[6] The long one.

[7] But.

[8] Not long enough.

[9] Not long enough for everyone else's taste.

[10] Yeah.

[11] No, I was going to say, well, the long one, but the single story just for this week.

[12] Right.

[13] Just to finish out the circle.

[14] Yeah.

[15] You're welcome.

[16] for giving you something to fight about this week.

[17] Enjoy your passions.

[18] We understand you can't go outside anymore and feel them.

[19] So we'll give you reasons to be deeply upset.

[20] Listen, next week we'll come back with a nice three -hour and 45 -minute episode.

[21] We're both going to tell each other.

[22] Extensive stories.

[23] I'm going to tell this story of the persecution and crucifixion of Christ.

[24] And I'm going to tell the story of this first seven days of existence in this planet.

[25] it's like a father it's like a father son episode oh that's sweet so yeah we're gonna so yeah everyone hated the idea that one of us does one week and the next and i it's understandable yes it is understandable yes you're two stories that's kind of what we what we do here's what can i tell you what my sister laura said yes laura's got the final say on all of this first of all she doesn't listen she's not a fan so she's so she's coming objectively to this so no one can say of course your sister whatever Right.

[26] My sister, because I'm going to go, and it goes, really, at a time like this, you're going to change the whole, the whole setup.

[27] I was like, we just were talking about it.

[28] We're tired at summertime.

[29] We're whatever.

[30] And she's like, no, no, no. This is the time people need structure.

[31] They need things to be exactly the same.

[32] You go to McDonald's.

[33] You want it to taste like McDonald's.

[34] Don't fuck around with people at a time like this.

[35] I was like, shit, okay.

[36] I, of course, I think only of myself, as we all do.

[37] I think only of myself.

[38] So we all should say.

[39] yourself.

[40] Yeah.

[41] Every other week homework sounds great.

[42] When one of us needs a mental health week and hasn't gotten their story finished and the other person has a nice, thick story that they can tell, you know, then we'll do one a week.

[43] We'll be back to normal next week.

[44] Yeah.

[45] Don't worry.

[46] But also, you know, we'll go back to normal next week.

[47] This week, when we're not back to normal, let's practice flexibility.

[48] Let's practice change, liminal.

[49] states where things aren't as we want them to be and practice our resilience within those moments and right now let's take a deep breath in and let it out sorry shit I ruined I was trying to lead people in three deep breaths Georgia couldn't have it I ruined it and it was like the worst burp I like it wasn't even a good one it was short and forced you're lucky you didn't throw up you're lucky i didn't throw up you stephen is you're the lucky one can we really before anything talk about this most recent episode of perry mason i knew and there's going to be spoilers truly if you haven't seen it we're we will not hear it from you after the fact this is going to be a spoiler chunk get away if you don't like it five four three two one all right this fucking show is so good dude i i knew from the tone of your voice that you were about to start talking talking about Perry Mason because it is really yes because it was like this yeah it was a how fucking how hot and like messy and dreamy what's his how do you say his name Matthew Reese Welshie Welshman yeah Matthew Reese sounds right is it Matthew do you know that he has a fucking wine tour show I was listen I was just casually reading looking him up on Google listen no big I just Google searched him to see come up on my I just wiki -feated that guy just to see what was going on.

[50] He has a show, this Welshman and a wife, as this is telling me right now.

[51] He has a show called The Wine Show, where he and his actor friend Matthew Good with an E, G -O -O -O -Doo.

[52] He's like a beautiful Burnet Man. Yeah, yeah.

[53] He's a da -da -da -da -da -da -but, okay.

[54] They all went to the Royal Shakespeare Academy together, I bet.

[55] I'm sure.

[56] They're all that style.

[57] They just pre -pandemic travel, like Italy.

[58] drinking wine together and talking about wine and wine varietals and like slowly getting drunk on wine and laughing about it and he has this fucking beard this like big like Vince level quarantine beard see that's a thing about that guy and I'll talk about him as Perry Mason because I don't know him any other way I know he's I only want to talk about being in love with the character Perry Mason.

[59] See I want to object to the actor.

[60] That's my goal.

[61] I want to objectify the Merlot he's drinking.

[62] But that that spirit of a man, which is you're fighting your demons overtly, you've got a very nicely weathered leather jacket, you've got sparkle in your eyes, even when fucked up shit is happening.

[63] But your eyes are also slightly dead because you've been around the block a time or two.

[64] You've seen too much.

[65] Everything about it and the way he, like when he fights with John Lithgow and he gets that kind of like sparkle.

[66] It's just the dynamic and thrilling.

[67] You're screwing this like really dark, interesting woman who like has her own secrets, but you're like clearly in love with her a little bit.

[68] Yes.

[69] And she's like, get out of get out of here and fuck you.

[70] It's not romantic, but it's very bonded.

[71] Yeah.

[72] And it's hot as hell.

[73] I love it.

[74] I mean, it's okay.

[75] So this most, the spoiler I want to state just because it made me laugh so hard when it actually happened.

[76] Do you know what I'm part of the show?

[77] I'm going to say.

[78] It's the part where the little girl walks up to give sister her gift.

[79] This isn't a like a real big plot spoiler, so don't worry if you, yeah.

[80] No, if you're powering through the spoiler, but it turned, the gift turns out to be a humongous snake.

[81] Right.

[82] And it's so shocking.

[83] And the little girl is so good and it's played so perfectly that you're as shocked as the sister is.

[84] I can't remember her character's name.

[85] Tatiana Masley, I believe.

[86] I asked this.

[87] name who's from Orphan Black and she's unbelievable.

[88] Oh, is she okay, cool.

[89] But yeah.

[90] But that moment, so my friend Carrie O'Donnell, the hilarious Carrie O'Donnell from Sex Unique Podcast, he texted me and said, when the little girl tries to assassinate her with a serpent, I knew this show was it.

[91] And I wrote back, oh my God, that part was, all caps, who I am.

[92] Karen is a little girl carrying a perfectly wrapped, what you think is a pastry box too because that's a fucking mean thing about it if she's just like these were going to be some incredible 1930s pastries sweet they keep saying the word sweets and I was like oh I can't wait to watch her bite into whatever the fuck this is going to be I was thinking Danish like straight hardcore Danish I was thinking of like you know princess cakes that have the green stuff on it like the perfect fondet it's also called they have it at Victor but it's like our family actually our family like cake it's what you fucking get and you fucking like on our birthday at El Coyote What you have to have It's what you have, yeah Yes The um It's the stuff made of almonds Yeah what's it called Yes Everyone's yelling Someone tweeted a thing That said You you'll the most You'll ever understand What a ghost feels like Is when you're listening to a podcast And the hosts are trying to remember a word For something that you know I feel bad that I can't give credit to it I don't it's just been going around I think my sister sent me that meme.

[93] It's so true because right now everyone at home is yelling Almond dine.

[94] Marzapine.

[95] Marzapine.

[96] My!

[97] Steven!

[98] Steven's a ghost.

[99] Steven's a ghost.

[100] Boo, boo, boo.

[101] So that's what I was picturing, a little tiny princess cake or something that was kind of old -fashioned looking and she opens it up and it's the biggest snake.

[102] It's the big, scary snake.

[103] Vince can't do snakes and he lost his fucking mind.

[104] It was so good and tricky.

[105] And to me, that's like, it's how this show is so smart.

[106] It's doing incredibly creepy things realistically.

[107] So you don't go, you never walk away going, oh, that was a little.

[108] I mean, there's things that are super graphic, but it's for the, it's for the plot.

[109] It's got such a good, creepy feeling of like everything's wrong in the world.

[110] Yes.

[111] And you have to fight it.

[112] But it looks beautiful because it's 1930 something.

[113] There's also that brilliant scene with the black cop who actually saw the body and when those other detectives come to talk to him and how incredibly oppressively but unspoken racist they are and like how they're controlling him with barely lifting a finger like it's so well handled they're like speaking to him in a like a respectful positive way that intones this creepy fucked up negative it's like you don't even have to say anything negative it's just it's just it's just in their fucking it's in the vibe it's the vibe it's so like it's so accurate to how that stuff actually works it's so good anyway bravo good job everybody i bet the people who pitched we're going to do a gritty reboot of parry mason i bet you they had a lot of doors slamming their faces so the idea that now they're the the the maybe queen and king who knows of hbo i love it it's i mean telling you sunday nights parry mason and i'll be gone in the dark.

[114] It's like, oh, it's like, I'm excited in quarantine.

[115] How do you fucking even do do that?

[116] It's crucial.

[117] Yeah.

[118] And the same thing with tonight, because tonight is Tuesday, it's the final episode of this season two of Dirty John.

[119] Oh, tonight's.

[120] It's the big finale.

[121] Is it good?

[122] I love it.

[123] The new Dirty John.

[124] Yep, starring Amanda Pete.

[125] Amanda Pete plays Betty Broderick.

[126] It's a classic story of a woman who supports her husband through medical and law school.

[127] Come on.

[128] He starts his own firm.

[129] You owe her everything.

[130] Get super successful.

[131] Starts cheating on her.

[132] Won't admit it for a really long time.

[133] And basically drives her insane.

[134] There's so many other elements.

[135] I mean, I think I'm part.

[136] Like the gas lighting.

[137] Yes.

[138] And the like not not being allowed to know your own life and to have any, um, What's the word?

[139] Ownership?

[140] Over your own decisions in life because someone is lying to you.

[141] Someone close to is lying to you.

[142] Like that is awful.

[143] It's exploitation of your connection where they're saying, oh, why would you, now he basically denied it for so long to her where he's like, you're really losing it.

[144] You're going to ruin this relationship.

[145] Yeah.

[146] He would take it and like fold it back into what everything that was wrong with her.

[147] So by the time you admitted it, by the time they broke up, she had snapped.

[148] And it is, again, it's just, it's so, it was such a common thing in the 80s because this takes place like throughout the 80s.

[149] And it's so familiar to me because there was this time in like the early 80s where everyone's parents were scorned wives all at once.

[150] We're not saying murder's okay.

[151] And obviously it's not.

[152] And especially the, um, the new girlfriend, how, you know, it's not.

[153] it's not her relationship that was ruined it's not she has nothing to do with it she's not responsible for this dude his decisions no no but i and i will say this too the children the child actors in this show are exceptionally good actors okay cool there's one child that's had to do two monologues every time i watch it i go holy fucking shit how is this little kid he's he's like literally going but mom he's trying to to um reason with this woman who's basically been driven insane or gone insane and obsessively won't leave it alone.

[154] And he's trying to as like a nine year old.

[155] This kid is such a good actor.

[156] I was just like, well, that's our next Leo DiCaprio right there.

[157] He's so good.

[158] I'm going to watch once we're done with, what are we watching right now?

[159] Okay, we're almost done with Veep like all the way through.

[160] Oh, wow.

[161] Which is the best.

[162] I don't know what I'm going to do after.

[163] We watched Rambo 2 on Sunday as our Sunday matinee.

[164] Sorry, what?

[165] In that one, does he go back to the same town?

[166] To the prisoner to get the POWs out.

[167] Oh, that's the one that takes place where he like comes up out of the river and it's yeah, yeah, yeah.

[168] At one point electrocuted on like a mattress frame.

[169] I might have been doing my laundry at that part because I walked, Vince Watts scrambled too and I snuck in and out of it.

[170] Mm -hmm.

[171] Little America is fucking excellent.

[172] And like the British, sketch show?

[173] No, it's on Apple Plus and it's these little episodic shows that you don't have to watch them in order anything of like immigrants to America and their little, it's true stories of what they went through and how they came to America and thrived and lived and, you know, created their own lives there.

[174] It's a beautiful show.

[175] It's so uplifting.

[176] Little America on Apple Plus.

[177] Yeah, definitely.

[178] I mean, this is like Emmy shit.

[179] Is that for TV or is that Oscar?

[180] Yes, it is.

[181] Great.

[182] Yeah.

[183] It's great.

[184] I highly recommend it.

[185] They're going to get a Webby for sure.

[186] We're going to get a British podcasting award.

[187] Absolutely.

[188] And then books, podcasts, or what else are you doing?

[189] Well, oh, I, okay, here's a weird run.

[190] Someone, I believe his name is Drew McGarry and he's on Twitter and he told a story.

[191] He was like, are you bored?

[192] I'm bored.

[193] I'm going to tell you the story of the weirdest thing that's happened to me. And he did a tweet thread.

[194] It's a very strange story of him out hiking by himself one day and he's talking on the phone.

[195] He's walking and he calls his mom and then there's a woman, suddenly he gets bumped into from behind.

[196] He goes on an empty trail where no one is around and he didn't hear her coming.

[197] And all of a sudden a woman bumps into him from behind and he turns around.

[198] it's a small woman who is blonde.

[199] I'm doing all this for memory.

[200] And essentially, then all of a sudden he wakes up on the trail and it's four hours later and he doesn't have any socks on.

[201] Okay, wait.

[202] Under his boot.

[203] This is a true story of a thing that happened to a guy named.

[204] What's his name?

[205] I believe his name is Drew McGarry and it's like basically him saying this is the weirdest thing that's ever happening.

[206] Okay, so she hits him with a dart, a sleeping dart or something, right?

[207] No, no, well, bumps into him.

[208] Yeah, we don't know.

[209] Okay.

[210] We don't know.

[211] And then after that, he doesn't know.

[212] And, like, he was able to do the time.

[213] Like, he, he ended up getting home, checking his body.

[214] There's nothing wrong with me. I don't have any wounds or anything like that, but his socks are gone.

[215] I'm going to know what happened.

[216] Listen, I'm a doctor.

[217] Okay.

[218] I'm a trail doctor.

[219] And so I'm going to go with dehydration.

[220] Hey, okay.

[221] And that all around.

[222] He hallucinated her.

[223] He hallucinated her.

[224] He was so dehydrated that morning.

[225] He didn't put socks on at all.

[226] okay and so maybe the woman existed and did bump him and then maybe he sat down to like take a rest but he was dehydrated so he passed out okay right or alien or she's a small big foot shaved down coming coming up to CBS this Friday the smallest big foot in the forest well but here's so I ended up reading the thread because I was like this story's amazing and it's what it's just my cup of tea and then I knew other people would tell either tell their stories or do some kind of link and somebody named Jose Gomez said if you if you're into this I just found this podcast um and it's about stories that of like stories that are hard to explain basically is how he as how Jose Gomez explained it well it turns out it's front of the podcast uh pain Lindsay's podcast oh radio rental.

[227] It's hosted by Rayne Wilson playing a character.

[228] I think his name's Vincent Carnation.

[229] It made me laugh so hard.

[230] This character that he plays is insane and goofy.

[231] And it's as if it's said in a VCHR, a VHS video rental store.

[232] Great.

[233] I love that spot to begin with.

[234] There's some, someone, a little kid just barfed earlier in the day and they put cat litter on it.

[235] So that you've got that going on in one corner.

[236] Yep.

[237] And then of course, Mrs. Doubtfire is playing on the TV.

[238] over the cash register video stores remember but it basically is like he sets it up and it's very goofy funny and then they play the video and it's the person telling they're hard to explain story firsthand themselves which is my favorite and it's real that part's real and they're real and there's so there's 11 episodes I think there's two stories per episode I listen to it all in like three hours it was so good and these stories some of them are some of them are like oh and some of them are like holy shit there's one girl that tells so beautifully tells and it's later on i think it's episode eight or nine Pretty much all the podcast, Payne Lindsay's...

[239] Annie and all Pain Lindsay podcast.

[240] He's done a lot of work.

[241] This is going to be the summer season.

[242] So essentially, they had to sign, because they were a counselor, so they had to sign out for the day and say where they were going to go.

[243] It's like, here's my name, and I'm going this place, whatever.

[244] So everyone knew where everyone was going and when they'd come back.

[245] And this guy was like, hey, let me give you a ride to her.

[246] And she said in her gut, she felt it.

[247] There was something weird in his eyes.

[248] The energy was wrong.

[249] She knew.

[250] She was trying to walk around getting a ride from someone else, and it was almost like that was the last choice.

[251] And she, like, because she was going to get in her friends, whatever.

[252] So she was like, you know what?

[253] I'm actually going to hang back.

[254] And he was like, no, it's totally fine.

[255] I'll give you a ride.

[256] I'll go wherever you want to get.

[257] Good for her.

[258] And he was really trying to convince her.

[259] And then finally he got really mad.

[260] And so she stepped back and started making a bunch.

[261] She was like, I don't want to go with you and, like, made a scene.

[262] So other people came over and, like, guys basically.

[263] got him away from her.

[264] And she went back up and was like, I'm staying here for the day.

[265] And then everyone left.

[266] She went back up and checked the logbook.

[267] Her name had been erased from the log book entirely.

[268] And she was like, there's no doubt in my mind that he wanted to kill me. He was going to do something to me. And she basically gives its beautiful little speech that's essentially what we've all been saying to each other for so long.

[269] But essentially you don't owe anybody anything.

[270] If somebody wants to give you a ride because they're being nice, you don't have to be nice back to them.

[271] Making a scene is okay.

[272] Like you can be a fucking, everyone thinks you're crazy and you make a scene because you don't feel comfortable situation.

[273] It doesn't matter what they think about you.

[274] Yes.

[275] You can be not in Louise.

[276] Not when you, yeah, when you're, it's like, and apparently she grabbed her friend and said, no matter what happens, do not get in the car with him.

[277] Because he had a car that could only be him and one other person.

[278] So she was then convinced, he was going to try to get a different girl into the car.

[279] What's the podcast called?

[280] We're all going to listen to it.

[281] It's called radio rental and that's just one of the many unbelievably creepy, amazing, horrifying stories.

[282] I love it.

[283] I'm listening to that.

[284] I've been wanting to text you, but I keep forgetting and I want to tell you on the podcast too.

[285] There's this new podcast that I'm listening to called Missing in Alaska.

[286] Have you seen it or heard of it?

[287] It reminds me so much of the Oregon one.

[288] What was the Oregon one we loved?

[289] Murder in Oregon.

[290] Murder in Oregon.

[291] You know what?

[292] it might be the same people.

[293] Oh.

[294] I just fucking put that together.

[295] That would make sense.

[296] Yeah.

[297] Because you know why?

[298] It's about in the 1970s, these two congressmen were on a plane out of Alaska or like town to town in Alaska.

[299] These two and the plane disappeared.

[300] No one ever fucking found it.

[301] And the whole podcast is about the conspiracies of like, does it go all the way to the top?

[302] Because one of the widows of one of those congressmen ended up marrying this dude who was like in the mob.

[303] and like everyone knew it was in the mob and they're like all these crazy mob ties and like maybe there was a briefcase with um bomb in it and it's just like it goes all the laptop but in Alaska in the 70s which is the creepiest possible place to be yes okay wait really good do you have you listened to the entire series not yet okay no okay so I'm awesome I'm gonna start that yeah immediately that's great I need a good morning like I'm all my morning walk around podcast kind of like this is like this is like your this is like made for you.

[304] Okay, beautiful.

[305] Missing in Alaska.

[306] Listen to it with me, everybody.

[307] This will be the new book club.

[308] There's also, I always talk about the podcast family secrets because I just love it so much.

[309] It just speaks to me. And there's an episode I listened to yesterday.

[310] Oh, I'm crying now, by the way.

[311] It's kind of my new thing.

[312] I'm real dehydrated.

[313] I can't buy my socks.

[314] It's a mess.

[315] It comes up real randomly, huh?

[316] Like sometimes you do not see it coming.

[317] Yeah.

[318] You ever get those ones?

[319] No, I always can tell.

[320] And I'm like, I think when I go, this is a time when normal people would cry.

[321] And then I'm like, oh, fuck.

[322] Hey, I'm normal people.

[323] So there's an episode back from April called Bug Dust of the podcast family secrets that made me cry.

[324] That is so beautiful.

[325] And I don't know.

[326] It like hit a spot in me for sure.

[327] Love it.

[328] Love that.

[329] Go to our merch page, my favorite murder.

[330] Wait, wait, we haven't, have we talked about Unsolved Mysteries?

[331] Oh my God, no, we haven't.

[332] Okay, let's clear the deck because lots of people have been like, we need to hear.

[333] And I am blown away at how amazing.

[334] Like, look, we do, we've done ads for this.

[335] We do ads for this.

[336] This is not an ad.

[337] It's not an ad.

[338] But it's so, so beautifully.

[339] I mean, like, look, the original was great and it was totally reflective of, the time and like a guy in a trench coat coming out of the fog being like mysteries are mystery and there were like ghosts bread there was like ghost loaves of bread and like alien it was like a lot of that and I was a little worried that this would be almost like just another true crime show you know like I think the key to this one too is it's the people telling their own story you get the people you get the family you get the wife of the missing man you get the reporter that was there first like that is the way to do it it's those that's the most compelling way to do it.

[340] You don't need a talking head.

[341] It's a really well done.

[342] It's a well done true crime show.

[343] It's good.

[344] Yeah.

[345] The fucking French story that's so much like the John List story.

[346] I haven't.

[347] I only have watched the first episode and then I honestly couldn't watch another one.

[348] It's so creepy.

[349] I was going to be like moving on, but I was like, what in the fuck happened there?

[350] It's so creepy.

[351] It's crazy.

[352] Well, people on Reddit are talking about how similar that it is to the plot of the game, the movie the game.

[353] Yep, right?

[354] So everyone go watch the game from the 90s, I think.

[355] Well, is that just because he falls through a roof?

[356] No, he, he, because the guy, Ray, the guy was a screenwriter.

[357] Oh, right.

[358] And then really into movies, the whole movie was that he felt like he was being chased in this simulated world that ends with him falling off a roof.

[359] Oh, okay.

[360] So when he gets a call and runs out of the house, I don't know.

[361] I don't know.

[362] Yeah, no, I see that.

[363] I see it.

[364] But I guess my thing is the fact that he's a writer makes all of those things really difficult because truly if you saw the crazy shit, well, I mean, really the stuff you write down and the stuff like I don't explain to myself what my documents mean.

[365] You never write like the following list is for the upcoming Easter bunny movie I might write.

[366] you just start going eggs, eggs, eggs, and everyone's like, she's totally lost it.

[367] Like, anything out of context that's creative like that could make you seem.

[368] Yeah, because you don't expect anyone else to ever read it.

[369] But then if they find it after your fucking sudden and mysterious death, they're going to be like.

[370] And it's taped up under the, I mean, that one, that story is just like, it's, all of those stories are so much to handle and like absorb and they're, and it's so great they're doing it.

[371] So good.

[372] I want more and more.

[373] Like, I just wish they were, I think there's more coming out.

[374] There's only six, which sucks, but it's so good.

[375] Yeah.

[376] I love it.

[377] So good.

[378] Yeah.

[379] Okay, good.

[380] We had to put that on the table.

[381] Doesn't spend so long.

[382] All right.

[383] Good.

[384] merch.

[385] We have it.

[386] There's some new shit.

[387] The puzzles.

[388] I don't think a lot of people have been tagging us in their finished puzzle because it's so hard to finish.

[389] You finish that puzzle, God damn it.

[390] You do it.

[391] The quarantine depends on you.

[392] And then, um, Oh, should we do exactly right news?

[393] A couple of quick, exactly right podcast network.

[394] We have this week out is everyone's favorite.

[395] I said no gifts podcast.

[396] And the guest is comedian, Yasser Lester.

[397] The most hilarious.

[398] Yeah, and Murder Squad this week, Billie and Paul are actually covering that mysterious death of Tamla Horseford, which is a story that a bunch of people have been talking about recently.

[399] recently it's it's uh they're looking into this basically uh she was the only black guest at a sleepover party in georgia in november of 2018 and she was found dead the next morning and people have been asking to have her case reopened so billy and paul look into it it's that's very i've seen a lot of people talking about yeah recently that's really interesting i can't wait to hear what they what they talk about me too anything else and then of course on dinar this week me and chris about the Dave Matthews band.

[400] I don't know what more topical, timely, relevant material you need from a podcast.

[401] No. I mean, yeah.

[402] It's like, don't make me cross promote.

[403] You guys are dropping the dime.

[404] I don't know.

[405] You're on top of the news.

[406] Sure.

[407] Oh, my God.

[408] It's like, it's weird.

[409] We are as if the Los Angeles Times was in a car, had once been in a car and picked people up from the airport.

[410] Another thing that Vince always reminds me of whenever he hears Dave Matthews band referenced is that that remember that one time they were driving over a bridge in Chicago and they opened the they were like in their RV or they're like touring van they opened the flood gates to like get let all the you know waste out as you do in a bus over the river but there was a tour boat boat underneath at that exact moment and they dumped all their tour.

[411] you know excrement onto that boat destroying the lives of at least 35 tourists i mean you would i mean where do you go what do you how do you stop screaming how do you live your life like when you have your first child you look at it and go like this is so much better than that one time that dame matthew's fans excrement got dumped upon us like every moment has to every worst moment of your life like someone dies and you're like but is it as this is this is worse than the time the day of matthews ban but not by much actually now that i think about it because at least they lived a full life and i was merely 23 right when i was on my tour i mean it is so fucked and it's so like um i mean it's like that it's i think it's that kind of thing like yeah let's bring this to the forefront you can't just dump shit anywhere literally You can't just dump shit literally can't.

[412] You can't.

[413] And like, that's a good metaphor for life to like, well, look where you're going before you open your floodgates of excrement from of rock and roll of your backup band.

[414] Yeah.

[415] You're going to want to be careful when you are heading out of town.

[416] Yeah.

[417] In love and life.

[418] Please.

[419] Watch where you dump your excrement.

[420] Please.

[421] Your extra excrement smells extra bad to other people.

[422] Treat your friends and things.

[423] family like you would a boat full of tourists below Dave Matthews and like cover them with your love and a tarp of love actually be the better bus driver that's like I'm going to wait until we get out by the the fields and grasslands nowhere near Chicago like people are everywhere downtown Chicago I didn't know they must have just pulled out of their hotel they had just rocked out the night before best show everyone's high -fiving high -fiving each other all three bass players are like we did it guys Dave Mathis is like poop boop boop doing his terrible scatting Scatting is right you're excited right I mean this is we're right we're right now covering material that every decent morning radio shows went into deeply 17 years ago when this happened.

[424] We've turned into a morning radio show.

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[445] Goodbye.

[446] Hey, am I first this week or are you first?

[447] I'm first.

[448] Oh, first and lonely.

[449] And middle.

[450] All right.

[451] Well, okay, so here's my story, my solo story.

[452] too.

[453] I love it.

[454] Let's hear it.

[455] I know, right?

[456] Yeah.

[457] But I'm here for you to ask questions.

[458] Give me the old signal if you don't want me to ask the questions.

[459] Ask the questions.

[460] I just don't know all the answers.

[461] Okay.

[462] Great.

[463] I do have a question because I didn't know this until very recently.

[464] Did you know that Michael Jordan's father was killed?

[465] Yes.

[466] Well, I'm going to cover that murder.

[467] Okay.

[468] Oh my God.

[469] Amazing.

[470] Great.

[471] What we're just going to say.

[472] I was going to say, if you ask me a question and you frame it, did you know?

[473] Okay.

[474] I always have to say that.

[475] I'm sorry.

[476] I was damaged terribly as a child.

[477] Damaged terribly.

[478] It's going to be like pulling teeth for me to be like, I didn't know.

[479] Okay.

[480] There's no like, there's no world where it's okay for you not to know a thing or like.

[481] No, no, no, no, no, no. Make fun of you and like come after you.

[482] What?

[483] I mean, after the fact, when I've already been wrong and it's being discussed, that's fine because I won't be there for it.

[484] Sure.

[485] in the face -to -face you and me you might what you should say is I know an interesting thing I found that an interesting thing I didn't know and that's okay because it's okay not to know everything it is um yeah I'd in fourth grade I got made fun of for not knowing what the word whore meant and looking back I'm like that's probably good that I didn't know yeah you fucking kind but at the same time it was humiliating well What isn't?

[486] I mean...

[487] When you're in fourth grade.

[488] That's the kind of thing where every day when you were in, like, grammar school and especially into junior high, you get up and go to school, the rules have changed overnight.

[489] You don't know what you're supposed to know.

[490] All you know is you're already behind.

[491] Totally.

[492] You don't have the right.

[493] You don't own the right things.

[494] No. This fucking hypercolor shirt was baller a week ago.

[495] And now I'm not...

[496] Now you can just see where I'm sweating because I hit puberty?

[497] What?

[498] No, it's just tragic.

[499] Wait, I have to say that just...

[500] reminded me. I was telling my sister a story about things that happened today.

[501] And at one point, my sister goes, oh, my God, Jesus Christ, what are they?

[502] A seventh grade girl?

[503] And then my niece goes, hey, that's offensive to me. Seventh grade girl here representing, I would never act like that.

[504] They're more woke than we are.

[505] They know.

[506] Okay.

[507] So actually, you mentioning this to get back on your topic.

[508] Let's talk about this.

[509] Sorry.

[510] No. I cannot wait to watch the ESPN 3430, not 30 by 30, which I told it was.

[511] That's a fucking, that's a home improvement show.

[512] 30 by 30.

[513] I thought it was all about beams, posts and beams.

[514] So, yeah, that's there's, and there's also the last dance, which is the documentary on ESPN.

[515] And it's 10 episodes and it's all about Michael Jordan's life.

[516] Okay.

[517] Which Vince watched and loved, and I kind of checked in and out, as I do, and did with Rambo.

[518] But then, honestly, I didn't know about James Jordan, his father being murdered until I watched this.

[519] And then, of course, Vince knew everything about it.

[520] And I was like, why didn't he told me?

[521] And it was ugly.

[522] Okay.

[523] So then I looked into it, and it's like a fucking whole conspiracy mystery thing.

[524] Oh, shit.

[525] Please tell me all about it.

[526] Because when everyone was talking about the last dance, I assumed it was 30 for 30, but it's the last dance.

[527] whatever um but i was like i'm gonna watch that because i every sports documentaries even though i'm not the biggest sports fan me neither they when they know how to tell a story and they they tell they basically save it for the good ones the good ones are unbelievable and this is that and it takes you back to that early 90s time and place you know space jammy fucking cool shit and i think because i didn't care about sports so much i tune it out immediately i didn't know about this whole story about Michael Jordan's dad.

[528] So I looked and do it for this podcast that we This little podcast.

[529] This one?

[530] This one we're doing now.

[531] Most.

[532] So I got information from the website All That's Interesting.

[533] There's an article by Marco Margaritoff.

[534] There's a Washington Post article by Kyle Swenson.

[535] There's a great article on Deadspin.

[536] That's just an old GQ article from 1994 by Scott RAB.

[537] There's an Insighted edition article by Sal Bono, a Chicago Tribune, article by Dan Whiteer.

[538] And then there's also a NBA, like, YouTube channel hosted by this guy named Mike Corzemba, who does like conspiracy theories and like little 10 -minute stories about the NBA.

[539] It's really cool.

[540] Wow.

[541] And he had a whole episode about this.

[542] So, all right, let's get into it.

[543] Okay.

[544] So James Jordan is born in the tiny town of Wallace, North Carolina in 1936.

[545] At the age of 18, he joins the Air Force, and in 1956, he marries his high school sweetheart Dolores.

[546] They have three children.

[547] They moved to Brooklyn in 1963, so James can receive training as a mechanic on the GI Bill.

[548] He studies airplane hydraulics, and Dolores finds work at a bank.

[549] And while they're there, on February 17, 1963, they have their fourth child, Michael Jordan.

[550] Wow.

[551] You've heard of them.

[552] pretty soon you may know yeah wait can I just say really quick yeah the mind -bogglingly humongous donation that Michael Jordan made like in week two of the protests to Black Lives Matter how much was it Stephen did you look it up I think I think it was like a hundred million dollars that's amazing he's really big on charity and that that's kind of his his mother's work his dad was like so James Jordan his dad was super supportive and behind him the whole way advising him on sports and his mom was like okay but you can't become a big headed asshole you all and she would organize all his chair because he was really big into charity and you know children's charities and that's his mom Dolores it's pretty it's a pretty beautiful he had really supportive wonderful parents you Karen you were correct it was a hundred million wow thank you yeah isn't that crazy amazing humongous yeah so the family eventually moves back to North Carolina so the kids can be raised in a safer environment and then Michael decides in high school that he wants to play basketball, which James supports him, even though James prefers the game of baseball, which he actually had played semi -professionally himself, but he was like, basketball, let's do this.

[553] In the early 90s, Michael Jordan is an enormous basketball star and store, kind of.

[554] There was a couple stores, yeah.

[555] And he becomes a household name.

[556] He wins championship after championship, three NBA championships, three NBA MVP wins.

[557] and two Olympic gold medals and he is a fucking global icon whether or not you're into sports I remember this so well I mean he was just he was a huge he was a star so Michael describes his father who he calls pops which is my favorite nickname for a dad or grandfather character it's just this my dad pops yay my brother -in -law and my so my nephew they call the grandparents honey and pops and I just And her name's not honey.

[558] She just goes by honey and pops.

[559] And they're the sweetest fucking people on the planet.

[560] That's so cute.

[561] Yeah.

[562] So he calls him, he calls his dad pops.

[563] He's his best friend.

[564] He's his number one shareleader.

[565] He, like from high school to Michael's NCAA career at the University of North Carolina to his professional career with the Chicago Bowl starting in 1984, James Jordan is there every step of the way, flying from city to city with his son to support his career.

[566] So a really important figure in Michael Jordan's life, which takes us to July 22nd, 1993.

[567] So James Jordan is in Wilmington, North Carolina.

[568] He's attending the funeral of an ex -colleg.

[569] And after the funeral, he visits with friends late into the night, I think, seem kind of like when you do after a funeral, everyone's kibitzing and such.

[570] Yeah.

[571] And then so he hits the road sometime after midnight for the three and a half hour drive back to Charlotte, which is a long drive after midnight, you know.

[572] he's expected to catch a plane to Chicago the next day to meet up with Michael and an hour end at the drive he gets tired so he pulls over to take a nap in his it's his prized he's in his prized cherry red 1992 Lexus SC 400 I know about as much about cars as I know about sports so I don't fucking know what that means so he pulls off the road to take a nap he's just south of Lumberton North Carolina which is a city in Robeson County about 30 minutes outside of Fayetteville.

[573] So we're talking a lot of little rural areas, right?

[574] Yeah.

[575] Like long stretches of road, that sort of thing.

[576] It's disputed whether or not he just pulled off the road or if he was in the parking lot of a quality inn.

[577] But either way, it wasn't a really great place to stop.

[578] They were like both known, like drug dealing areas.

[579] Okay.

[580] You know what I mean?

[581] I do.

[582] Do you know what I mean, not drug?

[583] I do personally.

[584] And areas.

[585] Karen's.

[586] Karen Stace used to be a drug dealing area.

[587] Listen, I've spent some time out in front of the quality inn.

[588] Not in that area, but of my own personal quality in side.

[589] So 11 days later, cut two, a local fisherman hunting for catfish spots a man face down in gum swamp, which is a creek near South Carolina's northern border.

[590] The body is tangled on a branch and is fully dressed but missing its shoes.

[591] authorities from the nearby town of McCall, which is another timing town, can't find any identification on the badly decomposed body so they classify him as a John Doe and an autopsy determines that the cause of death is a single shot, gunshot, to the right side of the victim's chest with a 38 caliber bullet.

[592] I know.

[593] And because it's such a small rural community, there's a lack of storage at the morgue.

[594] So when the body isn't claimed or identified for a while, it's cremated.

[595] oh no but thankfully the coroner who by the way he's a part -time corner and this how small the town is and he uh who also owns a construction company in town so like that's what we're fucking that's the kind of size we're talking about here volunteer corner pretty much town size town okay he notices that the um the John Doe has expensive dental work and so he's like let's just save this so he removes the jaw from before they cremate thank God the remains as well as the hands just in case they're able to identify him in the future.

[596] Crazy, right?

[597] Yes.

[598] So, meanwhile, when James Jordan doesn't arrive as expected in Chicago the following day, his friends and family actually aren't worried because he's known for changing plans without notice.

[599] But when he doesn't check in with his secretary after a long period, she calls Michael Jordan as well as Michael Jordan's mom to let him know she hasn't heard from him.

[600] It's 21 days before family members officially report.

[601] Jordan missing, which is a long time.

[602] And I think it adds a little bit of like a suspicion to what happened.

[603] But it seems like it was kind of like everyone was doing their own thing.

[604] And it seemed like it was a normal thing in the family.

[605] So on the 22nd day that he'd been missing, his body is identified with the dental records from the jaw bones the coroner kept as James Jordan.

[606] Wow.

[607] Yeah.

[608] And police also find his prize Lexus.

[609] It's a abandoned and stripped in the woods near Fayetteville, which is about 60 miles from where his body had been found.

[610] So when news of his death breaks, though, the media goes fucking ape shit.

[611] Do you remember any of this?

[612] Yes.

[613] I don't.

[614] And there's all kinds of speculation based on the fact that, so I, this is another thing I wasn't really keen on is that Michael Jordan was super into gambling.

[615] I had no idea.

[616] So Michael Jordan would gamble on anything from like ping pong games to golf games to like, is my bag going to come out first while we're at the airport waiting for it?

[617] Like he was super in to like gambling and stakes and, you know, I bet you at this.

[618] I bet you that.

[619] Right?

[620] Yeah.

[621] Sorry.

[622] I just got really sad because it makes me think of all those times that we would be waiting for our bag.

[623] Oh, Karen.

[624] All those times on the road.

[625] Why haven't we been betting 10 bucks on them this whole time?

[626] seriously because Georgia and I had a running like argument about like will our bags come out first because we paid for first class this time and sometimes they would and sometimes they wouldn't I would say it was like 50 50 but every time we get up there it was like we were both kind of like what's it going to be this time and we that whole time we could have been having fun and betting and now we don't get to do it anymore COVID ruined all of it we are going to have in 20 years on our on our first when this is over on our first tour back you mean events we're going to have the most fun it's going to be fucking ridiculous we're going to i think that's when we go on our dave matthews bus tour and just dump shit across this nation whether it be on stages in a show verbally literally whatever it takes okay sorry no he would he would bet on anything yes he would bet on anything um but he also was into like Atlantic City and Vegas and shit like high roller style you have to think about the fact too Michael Jordan is you know the biggest basketball star consistent wins huge paychecks or whatever his his um what is that the you know his excitement oh he's always trying to peak that excitement that's the problem with with people that get into that position where then then you win the great the golden championship I don't know what it's called You win the championship.

[627] It's the golden championship.

[628] The golden championship.

[629] And you're the golden boy of the golden championship.

[630] And like, of course then you're suddenly, you're just like $10 ,000 that my bag comes out next.

[631] You need the hit.

[632] You need the adrenaline hit.

[633] And you probably go from like, I don't know what their financial situation was, but like, let's say they have a normal, you know, middle class situation.

[634] And suddenly you have, they're throwing you, Nike is throwing you millions of dollars to make your own shoes.

[635] And you don't ever have time off because you're practicing all the time.

[636] So, yeah, of course, like with your fucking best friend, Scottie Pippen, I don't know if that's a thing, you're fucking betting, you know, all the time because there's nothing else to do, probably.

[637] So it becomes this compulsion, I would imagine.

[638] And it's a, and it's about winning and it's about power.

[639] But it is like, it's also about you get to a point where you're, in those people get to that point of success where they don't even see the rest of the, of the casino, because they're always behind the velvet curtain.

[640] Exactly.

[641] Where the food spread.

[642] Where there's gambling and a food spread.

[643] Right.

[644] No one else has ever seen before.

[645] That's right.

[646] Yeah.

[647] All right.

[648] Sounds great, actually.

[649] Yeah.

[650] We'll get there.

[651] We'll get there.

[652] Except...

[653] Buffalo.

[654] Buffalo.

[655] Except it becomes a problem, though.

[656] And in fact, the summer that James Jordan is killed, the NBA had just announced a huge investigation into Michael Jordan's gambling problem.

[657] Oh.

[658] Yeah.

[659] The investigation sent around the fact that Michael had given a large amount of money to a known drug mule and like gambling crony who had worked for what was a dude who was known as a drug kingpin and he and it was for gambling debt and there's proof that he was in business with all kinds of shady characters who he owed lots of money in gambling losses too so that's not the not fun part is that you actually rack up losses yeah because you do you know yeah when it's out of your control it's just the luck of the draw yeah then you lose luck of the draw but fucking the chips are stacked against you yeah Look at me. Yeah.

[660] So the media goes crazy.

[661] It's theorized that the killing isn't a random act of violence because it is a fucking crazy coincidence, right?

[662] And instead, the media implies that the murder happened because of Michael's gambling debts and maybe they killed his father to send him a message.

[663] And actually to this day, it's still a huge conspiracy theory and there are people who will, who totally stand by this theory.

[664] Like maybe the mob did it.

[665] Maybe the NBA was like sick of his shit and they were making him look bad.

[666] They were making them look bad or they thought they were going to come after them and their families.

[667] So that's like a theory.

[668] I don't believe it.

[669] But it's not true.

[670] So I'm just going to say it.

[671] At the time of his father's murder, Jordan issues a statement saying he was outraged in that quote, I'm trying to deal with the overwhelming feelings of loss and grief in a way that would make my dad proud.

[672] I simply cannot comprehend how others could intentionally pour salt in my open wound by insinuating that faults and mistakes in my life are in some way connected to my father's death, which is like you're not just, yeah, you're not just dealing with your father's unexpected brutal murder, right?

[673] It's also people saying it's your fucking fault.

[674] Yeah.

[675] So Michael and his family have James's ashes interred at a small cemetery near a church in T .C. North Carolina during a private ceremony.

[676] And 52 days later, Michael, now 30, with his, without his biggest supporter, shocks everyone by announcing his retirement from the NBA.

[677] And he says, quote, the most positive thing I can take from my father not being here with me today is that he saw my last basketball game.

[678] And that means a lot.

[679] So he retired because he didn't want to play another game.

[680] And, you know, obviously he said that.

[681] I just read it.

[682] Yeah, yeah.

[683] He's heartbroken.

[684] And there's this crazy heart wrenching video that I think is in the last dance of after he wins a big game.

[685] on the first father's day without his dad.

[686] He goes back to the locker room and just lays down on the floor and he's sobbing.

[687] And there are all these cameras around him and they like kind of no one knows what to do.

[688] It's really sad.

[689] But no one knows what to do, but they certainly don't stop rolling those cameras out of decency.

[690] That's exactly right.

[691] So meanwhile, the investigation has to go on, right?

[692] So investigators led by Robeson County Sheriff Hubert Stone, they're able to trace So they get the car.

[693] They trace 36 calls made from the Lexus' car phone to friends and family of two local teens.

[694] So Daniel Green and Larry Demery.

[695] So they're 18 years old.

[696] They had become friends when they met in third grade.

[697] They're really close.

[698] They had both been outcasts.

[699] And Daniel is black.

[700] Larry is a Native American from the local Lumby tribe.

[701] They're both just kind of outcasts in their families.

[702] And they find each other in third grade.

[703] and become inseparable, almost like they see each other like brothers.

[704] The now 18 -year -olds both have criminal records, so it seems like an open and shut case, these two kids.

[705] Police charge them with murder in the first degree, conspiracy to commit armed robbery and armed robbery.

[706] Sorry, because they made calls from that stolen Lexus, and that's the connection.

[707] Because they're known criminals in town in this small town.

[708] And because all the 36 calls that are traced through those, they're.

[709] are all two friends and family of those two boys.

[710] Yes, but stealing a car is not the same thing as killing a person.

[711] If you're questioning the investigation into the stolen car sounding weird, you're exactly right.

[712] Thank you.

[713] Uh -huh.

[714] Thank you for supporting me. So Demery quickly turns on his friend, Daniel Green, when police tell him that Green had already ratted him out, you know, that lie of like, well, he told us what happened and said it was your fault.

[715] What are you going to do?

[716] Yeah.

[717] Demery agrees to a plea deal and a lighter sentence when the DA.

[718] points out the evidence they have against him for the murder, and as well as three other armed robberies he'd been a part of that same summer, one of which he had smashed an elderly woman over the head with a brick.

[719] Oh, no. So it's not looking good.

[720] No. Demery pleads guilty to charges related to the murder and agrees to testify against his lifelong friend Green.

[721] Demery's story is that he and Green originally planned to rob a tourist at the quality in, but then they saw this, you know, this red Lexus parked along the shoulder of the road nearby with the driver asleep and they were like easy target.

[722] They said that they plan to tie him up and leave him alongside the road and just take the car.

[723] But Demri claims that Green, that his friend Green shot the driver in the chest when he started waking up saying it's all his fault, you know?

[724] And then they took a look at the victim's driver's license, realize who he is and then decide they have to get rid of him.

[725] So they dumped the body over a bridge near the swamp and abandon the car in the forest.

[726] 40 miles away.

[727] And that's his story.

[728] And since Daniel Green doesn't give a statement at all, that's, and he doesn't testify, that's kind of the official version of what happens.

[729] And that goes on the record.

[730] So the case against Green mounts, okay, so a rap video, like a homemade rap video comes out that was filmed days after Jordan's death.

[731] In it, Green is wearing the NBA championship watch and 1986 All -Star Ring that Jordan was given by his son, which had both been taken from the Lexus.

[732] So, like, they're clearly involved.

[733] They were both there.

[734] I feel like there's no way to dispute that.

[735] Yeah.

[736] And also, you can't, if you're wearing the jewelry of the person, then my whole theory of, hey, you can steal a car but not kill the person.

[737] Like, those could have been two separate things, but.

[738] Right.

[739] Right.

[740] That doesn't look good at all.

[741] It doesn't.

[742] It's, yeah.

[743] So when Green's murder trial starts in January of 1996, the state's case rests mostly on Demery's testimony against his friend.

[744] But it's supported by supposed blood evidence.

[745] The prosecution maintains that Jordan was shot through the heart at close range while sitting in a driver's seat of his Lexus.

[746] But the coroner's report shows there's no exit wound.

[747] Like it didn't come out, you know, it didn't just go in and stay, which I think is what happens when a gunshot is shot close up.

[748] But it's so it suggests that the gunshot was actually shot from farther away.

[749] Does that make sense?

[750] Because there was an exit loan?

[751] Because there wasn't an exit loan.

[752] Because there wasn't an exit loan.

[753] Exactly.

[754] And there's also no blood or gunshot residue found inside the car.

[755] But the state presents expert testimony from a woman named Jennifer Elwell.

[756] She's a special agent at the State Bureau of Investigation to support the Demery's story against his friend.

[757] And she testifies that two chemical tests suggested, quote, a pretty good indication of blood in the car.

[758] so it's like we don't know is there isn't there blood in the car how close up or far away was he shot it's weird huh well very weird too of uh you would think that there would be more than a pretty good indication of blood at a gunshot scene there should be if you're bringing it up as a large part of the evidence against someone you know yeah yeah um but it's 1996 you know shit's fucked up uh green is convicted and sentenced to life and Damarie is only given 40 years because of his cooperation and the case is officially closed.

[759] But now, a day is 25 years later, Green is trying to get a new trial in the North Carolina justice system and key elements of the case are coming to light.

[760] So first is the mystery of the shirt that James Jordan was wearing when he was shot.

[761] The autopsy concludes that Jordan is shot once on the right side of the chest, but the pathologist notes that there are no holes in the shirt that he's wearing.

[762] And there's no sign of gunshot residue either.

[763] Okay.

[764] Ready for this?

[765] After the autopsy, the police gave the shirt to a company that performs funeral services.

[766] And then they buried the shirt because they claimed it had an overpowering stench.

[767] Which like, I don't care who is responsible for what.

[768] That's the fucking weirdest explanation I've ever heard of something like this.

[769] I mean, I guess because the body was decomposed and in a swamp or whatever, but still Like, shouldn't you keep the shirt for evidence?

[770] It's evidence, yes.

[771] Yeah.

[772] Right.

[773] So they bury it, which I think is weird too.

[774] And the shirt is later dug up at that facility.

[775] And it has a hole in the chest where it didn't before.

[776] Okay.

[777] Yeah.

[778] So Green's attorney theorized that the state was at least careless with the evidence or maybe even tampered with shirt and added a hole that wasn't there to begin with.

[779] And then there may be there's a reason.

[780] And then this is where it might, does it go all the way to the top question mark?

[781] So remember all this phone calls made from Alexis?

[782] There were 36 total.

[783] Well, the police figured out that the first call went to a sex hotline because the kids were fucking 18 years old.

[784] Of course it's a yeah.

[785] Idiots.

[786] Okay.

[787] Yeah.

[788] The second call is made to a 919 area code in Hamburg, North Carolina, seven hours after the murder, and it's registered to a man named Huber Larry D's.

[789] And the call lasts less than a minute, but this dude, Larry D's is a co -worker of Demery.

[790] He's also a high -level drug trafficker who ends up being arrested in February of 1994, less than a year after the murder, and is linked to a Colombian cocaine pipeline that had connections in New York and North Carolina.

[791] So that's a second phone call they made off of this stolen car phone.

[792] okay so this guy d's most importantly though is the biological son of none other than hubert stone who i mentioned before who happens to be the robeson county sheriff what yeah that makes sense they called the sheriff's son yeah yep uh -huh who is a drug trafficker and drug dealer in a lot in the same ways where the um like the preacher's son would be kind of a rebel right you know like he might be the only man who could ever teach you really ever reach me the son of a preacher man that's right okay so okay their first call is to their drug dealer friend whose dad is to share first calls to a sex hotline oh sorry they had to get on that's where I said idiots because they're so what together in a car they're making a phone call so that someone's like hey what are you guys have they're going to have dual phone sex with the right and then it's like charge it to the phone light so yeah when I was in junior high and I got in trouble for something probably I think it was drugs they put me in a room to be like wait you're we're going to call your mother wait here and like I didn't and there was a phone there and I was like I'm going to make 900 calls and like I'm the only number I knew from like the back of a rolling stone was the grateful dead hotline so I called it what they say I think it was just some recording of like dead like grateful dead music what I'm saying is that's such a fucking what's the word when you're really young immature thing to do yes it's just like yeah your brain is like what do we call who do we call plus they probably never used a fucking car like we didn't have car phones that was like rich people fucking thing 94 car phone that was a car phone that was a very big deal there's a very big deal so like who do we call and they're like the only number I know is the one that comes up at fucking 1 a .m. on the TV every night.

[793] And I call it.

[794] When it's like, do you want to party inside?

[795] Hey.

[796] Hey.

[797] Hey, big boy.

[798] Kids double car sex with your friend.

[799] With your friend sitting next to you?

[800] So horrible.

[801] It's horrible.

[802] So, in addition to him being the biological son of the Robeson County Sheriff, he's also, no. One of the lead detectives on the case is Mark Locklear.

[803] He's a friend of this kid, the son.

[804] Dease, and sometimes let's Dease right along in his patrol car with him.

[805] Okay.

[806] All right?

[807] Here's the biggest problem is that Dease is the only person on that car phone call log to never be questioned in connection with the case.

[808] They call 36 people.

[809] They question, let's say 34 and the sex line.

[810] They give it a call for...

[811] She's like, hello, I'll answer any questions you want.

[812] Right.

[813] But they lead out the night.

[814] number 36 person.

[815] Ridiculous.

[816] Right?

[817] It doesn't.

[818] It's bad.

[819] That's bad.

[820] Yeah, that's not good.

[821] No. And Green's attorney finds that the prosecution knew of Dees's relationship to the sheriff -inly detective, and he doesn't disclose any of this to the defense at trial.

[822] So, like, that alone is just a mistrial probably at that point, don't you think?

[823] Yeah, I would think so.

[824] Yeah.

[825] So I think that's what they're going for.

[826] Yeah.

[827] So Green's lawyer thinks that James Jordan, what they say is that James Jordan was in the wrong place at the wrong time when a drug dealer drug deal was about to go down and Demery, this kid Dease or another party shot him and they say that maybe Dease's connection to local law enforcement helped him get out of trouble.

[828] But this kid Dease himself doesn't comment on this angle but his lawyer says that the theory is completely unfounded and he claims that Green and Demery had only called him because they kind of knew that he was a local drug dealer and he might be someone who would be in the market to buy the car they had just stolen.

[829] which sounds totally feasible to me it's just so weird that he has these connections so that makes sense it's just such you know it's it's the investigator's fault that they didn't look into this one name well and then why is it their fault or was it intentional yeah because it's it's on them for due diligence right right I mean just call every person because also why wouldn't you it just doesn't seem very smart where it's like if you say you were trying to cover for someone's son as an incident, why wouldn't you just have the actual, do the investigation, do the interrogation, go through the motions.

[830] Give them a fake alibi if you need.

[831] Like, I'm not telling you how to do your, your shitty job, but like, pretend that you're going through the motions, right?

[832] But maybe in those, you know, what we've seen before in stories like this, where in small towns when there's such a lock on the law enforcement aspect of life and it's a lock.

[833] Like no one messes with certain people.

[834] No one does certain things that maybe they're never pulling back and saying this is going to be a national, if not international story.

[835] We better cross every T and dot every I. They're just like a business as usual.

[836] So in the early 2000s, actually, the Robeson County Sheriff's office is like caught up in a federal corruption probe.

[837] So there are issues with the sheriff's department aside from this.

[838] It's not a coincidence.

[839] The probe is called Operation Tarnished Badge, which is really clever.

[840] 22 officers are charged with crimes including perjury, drug trafficking, and money laundering.

[841] But neither Locklear or Sheriff Stone are caught up in the federal probe at all.

[842] And Stone dies in 2008.

[843] And Dees serves some time of a federal sentence.

[844] He's released in 1998.

[845] He denies any involvement.

[846] involvement with the death at all.

[847] And there's really nothing to connect him to him, except for that phone call and the curious circumstances that he never got asked about it, you know?

[848] Yes.

[849] And what's interesting is they could have literally been like, we got this car, which means we might have money soon.

[850] Let's see if we can get some pot.

[851] Yeah.

[852] Or something that is just, it, it alludes to more, but actually is just kind of a standard fair.

[853] could be very standard fair.

[854] Well, you think of like a small town, small time drug traffickers or drug dealers.

[855] So they can't have, you know, maybe, maybe $5 ,000 at a time of drugs to be sold.

[856] So who do they know that's going to have the kind of money to buy this brand new Lexus?

[857] Not a lot of people.

[858] So they think of the one guy they know who might have an actual hookup, you know.

[859] And then if it's a hot car, they can actually.

[860] Right.

[861] And it's a hot car.

[862] And he's like, fuck you.

[863] know which any smart crook would know to do but see yeah and they also like the idea that they would make that video and wear that jewelry which means that at some point they knew who they killed oh they absolutely knew I think yeah it sounds like as soon as they killed him that night I don't think they knew but I think whoever killed him didn't know they found out immediately but they didn't seem that bummed they made a fucking music video so it turned you know meanwhile both um both Both Demery and Green had been partners in at least two other armed robberies.

[864] That's that same summer during one of which Green had stolen a 38 caliber gun from an elderly county store clerk who he shot.

[865] Allegedly, the clerk survives.

[866] They found that stolen firearm in a shot vac in Green's home after his arrest.

[867] They say it's the weapon that killed James Jordan, but they can't prove it through ballistics.

[868] So they're like, this is obviously what happened.

[869] and it's not that complicated, but they're still fighting it.

[870] In Green's post -conviction motion, his legal team argues that prosecutors didn't disclose at trial that multiple other chemical tests performed by that woman Elwell on the leather taken from Jordan's front seat were inconclusive, and blood might not have been present.

[871] So there's all these blood issues.

[872] And over the years, the state has agreed that there was little evidence to show much or any blood inside Jordan's car.

[873] and Green's attorney says the absence of blood goes against the official version of events, which Demery, you know, had made and gives enough reasonable doubt for Greene's case.

[874] And also weird is that the blood evidence in the case was destroyed almost immediately after the trial, which Elwell later admitted was out of the norm.

[875] And the head of the lab said the evidence had been destroyed without his knowledge.

[876] Wow.

[877] Someone got in there.

[878] Yeah.

[879] And an outside audit of the state crime lab in 2010.

[880] that just happened, you know, otherwise, found that analysts omitted, overstated, or falsely reported information about blood evidence in 190 cases from 1987 to 2003 that ended in convictions.

[881] Whoa.

[882] That's what people need to think about when they think about fucking, well, he's a convicted felon.

[883] It's like, or, you know, this person's clearly guilty because there was blood evidence or this kind of evidence, you know, we're talking about humans doing these tests.

[884] other humans and humans are fallible completely.

[885] So you just never know what you can count on.

[886] Yes, it's very true.

[887] It's very true.

[888] Thank you.

[889] We've been doing this show for four years.

[890] Four and a half years.

[891] You know what?

[892] Four and a half.

[893] It's almost like we're in an abusive relationship with true crime.

[894] Look, the way true crime has been served up for a long time is like, here's this story here's the case here's the the infallible source or the final word here's how you can feel about it you know period yeah it's important and it's a it's a major change but it's like yeah it's like that part in the staircase you know right one of one of our bonding pieces of media where they show that that guy that was the blood splatter expert was making shit it up.

[895] Making it up.

[896] Just making it up.

[897] I truly like until I saw that documentary, I was just like, I'm sorry.

[898] Like this is there's no way to make up science.

[899] Like there's no way you can do that.

[900] And it's like, of course you can.

[901] Of course you can mishandle things.

[902] Right.

[903] Of course you do you're the ones that's saying well here's how we're going to test it in my garage.

[904] And the same way you can't rely on eyewitness testimony because humans have fallible brains.

[905] you know yeah that can't be the only evidence exactly then it's like then you have to make sure that you're that all the sources are okay and yeah I mean it's it's it's bewildering to think about and horrifying it's very scary things have to change yes the processes have to change and you know and that's why people get mad at us if we're like people clap at the end of a live show right they're glad that a serial killer died or went to jail and it's just like that used to be I'd be like what are you talking about and it's like Because there are those people who are in jail and they should not be.

[906] Right.

[907] Okay.

[908] So these days, as of 2018, Green is making an appeal for a retrial and he claims that he wasn't even present during the shooting.

[909] So at this point, he's now telling his side of the story.

[910] He says he's guilty of accessory to murder after the fact at the most.

[911] Green's official version of the events on that night of July 23, 1993, is that he and Demery were at a cookout, at a friend's house.

[912] Around 1 .30, Demery left the party on his own and Green stayed behind.

[913] And then Demery returned to grab his friend and he was visibly upset.

[914] He asked Green to come along with him and they left the party together at 4 .30 a .m. And Larry says that the reason he had left earlier was for a drug deal instead of gotten in a confrontation with a man and a red Lexus and he had fatally shot him.

[915] And he asked his best friend, Daniel Green, to have.

[916] help him dispose of the body.

[917] Green says he agrees to do it and they take his possessions, realize who he is, but he does help him dispose of the body.

[918] So that's what he's admitting to at this point.

[919] But he says he wasn't there for the murder and he didn't pull the trigger himself.

[920] If Green was only convicted of what he's admitting to, which is accessory after the fact, he would have received a maximum sentence of 10 years under the North Carolina law.

[921] But instead, he continues serving his life sentence in a medium security prison more than 25 years later.

[922] Wow.

[923] And so what's actually interesting is that Demri's story between his original confession when he was told that his friend was turning against him, interviews with authorities, and his testimony against Green, his story has changed several times over the year, whereas Green's has stayed the same.

[924] But after his request for a new hearing is denied and Demery declines to comment on his new claims, nothing moves forward, and Green will be eligible for parole on October 14th, 2021.

[925] His lead attorney is Christine Muma, and she's the executive director of the North Carolina Center on Actual Innocence, so total badass, a nonprofit that focuses on wrongful conviction and whose efforts have led to criminal justice reform.

[926] She says that they'll continue to appeal Green's case.

[927] And, you know, they're now in their late 40s, and Demery is also being considered for parole, even though he was denied twice once in August 2013 and once in 2016.

[928] And according to a spokesperson, there's a review going on of his case as of 2019 and there's no deadline to make a decision.

[929] So it's kind of just sitting there up there.

[930] Wow.

[931] So after retiring from basketball, Michael Jordan pursues a career in baseball to honor his father and joins the Chicago White Sox.

[932] Which I never knew was why he retired from basketball and became, remember, he became a baseball person.

[933] I never knew that was the reason either.

[934] I didn't know the timeline of that at all.

[935] Neither.

[936] After one season, he returns to the NBA.

[937] He won three more championships with the Chicago Bulls before leaving the team in 1998, retires for a second time, joins the Washington Wizards in 2001 and plays for them until 2003.

[938] He's considered one of the greatest basketball players of all time, and he's inducted into the NBA Hall of Fame in 2009.

[939] But the death of his father still leaves unanswered questions for many people.

[940] And the conspiracy theory that James Jordan was killed because of his son's gambling debts is still, like, hotly debated.

[941] And the fact that the actual story has a lot of holes and doesn't quite add up just kind of helps with the rumors.

[942] And I feel like there's also this thing where it's like the simplicity of two 18 -year -olds out for a, you know, a joy.

[943] ride and trying to rip off a tourist and murdering one of the greatest basketball legends of our time.

[944] His father and greatest supporter is just, it's so tragic.

[945] I feel like a lot of people just don't want that to be the truth.

[946] You know what I mean?

[947] Yeah, that that tragedy can be that random.

[948] Right.

[949] I don't know.

[950] That's fascinating.

[951] Yeah.

[952] James Jordan died nine days before his 57th birthday.

[953] Oh, it's so young.

[954] I know.

[955] And about he has just this kind face when you see him in photos with his son when they're celebrating.

[956] It's just like the pride you can just see in his face.

[957] About his father, Michael Jordan once said, quote, he's a voice of reason that always drove and challenged me. My father used to say that it's never too late to do anything you wanted to do.

[958] And he said, you never know what you can accomplish until you try.

[959] And that is the murder of James Jordan.

[960] Wow.

[961] That's fascinating.

[962] I have no idea.

[963] I can't believe it.

[964] Yeah.

[965] It's not just, it's just bewildering.

[966] Yeah.

[967] Yeah.

[968] And tragic.

[969] It's crazy.

[970] And like, tragic.

[971] And then him and Michael Jordan being already in the spotlight, I, I, I, it is so sad.

[972] It's, yeah, the idea that Michael Jordan was put through that tragedy, like in the spotlight.

[973] Yes.

[974] And then blamed.

[975] That's disgusting.

[976] It's like, you're blamed for it.

[977] Totally.

[978] That's horrifying.

[979] Like, look what you did when really it's just, I don't, I don't.

[980] I don't.

[981] I don't.

[982] believe any of the conspiracies.

[983] I think it was just a fucking time and place and big coincidence.

[984] But I think it was a simple, a simple robbery that turned.

[985] Yeah.

[986] Yeah.

[987] It would make sense.

[988] Yeah.

[989] But then again, like, there's still, but who knows who shot him?

[990] That's the other thing is like, we don't know who pulled the trigger.

[991] So there's still this mystery going on.

[992] It's just like, right.

[993] It's just sad all around.

[994] Yeah.

[995] Great job.

[996] Thank you.

[997] Really good.

[998] Thanks.

[999] Oh, we're coming up on the two -hour mark.

[1000] Yeah, come on.

[1001] We're not so far away.

[1002] You guys.

[1003] You guys want a million hours.

[1004] I'll give it to you next week.

[1005] Yeah, really.

[1006] Should we do some fucking hooray?

[1007] Yeah.

[1008] Hey, you guys, we need you to send in more fucking hurrays.

[1009] Maybe just comments on Instagram or Twitter or in the fan cult of your fucking arrays or email them to us at my favorite murder.

[1010] And I guess they could just be things that have made you happy this week or wins.

[1011] that you're feeling or you know shoutouts you want to give just something good at the end of these horrible fucking stories that we have yeah so please send those in and then if you've sent them in and we haven't seen them and or haven't talked about them send them in again because we probably didn't see him this I love this one because the subject line is this is a fucking hooray but I don't know where else to submit so here I am lost amongst the hometown page so this must be from the fan it's a fan yeah that works um hello to all the beautiful souls of MFM both with and without pause.

[1012] I have only discovered this podcast fairly recently, but I've binged all episodes and am completely caught up.

[1013] Yay.

[1014] Thank God I found you guys.

[1015] Truly feel like I know you and that you both get me so much.

[1016] It's beautiful.

[1017] Anyways, my fucking hooray is not only that my fiance and I both survives a coronavirus.

[1018] Wow.

[1019] Amazing.

[1020] But that we are both also celebrating 18 months sober and have truly gotten our lives back on track.

[1021] Shit.

[1022] Oh my God.

[1023] That's incredible.

[1024] Okay.

[1025] Not only as a unit, but as individuals as well.

[1026] We have both struggled with drug addiction for the majority of our lives and have been so extremely blessed to come out alive and on the other side.

[1027] I know it's not all going to be a piece of cake from here on out, but I say we've already been through hell and high water so we can make it through anything, including both testing positive for corona.

[1028] Oh my God.

[1029] God bless it.

[1030] It's real people.

[1031] Wear your damn mask.

[1032] Crazy times.

[1033] We are.

[1034] crazy times we're living in, and I couldn't be more thankful to have my recovery family, my amazingly wonderful man, and as my fanci knows, y 'all, my murder girls.

[1035] Love and Light, Eden C. Fuck, congratulations, Eden C. Hell yeah.

[1036] On, like, about six different fronts.

[1037] Oh, my God.

[1038] That's such lovely news all around.

[1039] I'm so glad.

[1040] Yeah.

[1041] So glad that you came through coronavirus and are okay.

[1042] Congratulations.

[1043] Like the rest of your life is going to be.

[1044] fucking awesome now.

[1045] You've done it.

[1046] Yeah.

[1047] I mean, you've really, you've really done it.

[1048] You've done it and you're doing it and you're going to continue to do it.

[1049] That's awesome.

[1050] 18 months of sobriety is so much.

[1051] So much.

[1052] That's, let's not be weird new parents about it.

[1053] Let's call 18 months a year and fucking six months.

[1054] But what chip is that?

[1055] 90.

[1056] Let's see.

[1057] It's a bit it's a big old.

[1058] Do they do it by days?

[1059] Yeah, so 90 days and then all, it's a two year.

[1060] I don't know.

[1061] Let's see.

[1062] It's two chips.

[1063] minus a 20 -day chip.

[1064] What did they just gave you like a 90 chip?

[1065] They make you change in chips.

[1066] Congratulations.

[1067] That's the best.

[1068] Yeah.

[1069] And there's such a huge community online and just in murderinos alone on Facebook and Instagram of people working towards sobriety.

[1070] It's great.

[1071] So much support.

[1072] So many people that, you know, have found each other.

[1073] It's really lovely.

[1074] So cool.

[1075] Okay.

[1076] This just goes a fucking hooray.

[1077] My fucking.

[1078] array for this week, I had to share with you.

[1079] I work as a nursing assistant while going to nursing school.

[1080] I take care of women who have gynecological cancers.

[1081] This weekend, while being overloaded with too many patients and not enough time, I was stressed and constantly running around.

[1082] One of my 14 patients asked for help in her room.

[1083] And I go in to help her to the bathroom and get her comfy back in bed.

[1084] And while in her room, she told me she had recently had a stroke in May. And I told her for someone who had a stroke, she was doing amazing with her speech and walking.

[1085] And she said she had one more goal she needed to achieve.

[1086] And with her childlike sweetness, I'm assuming an intellectual delay from her stroke, she said, quote, I need to keep working on my physical therapy with my middle finger.

[1087] I thought, okay, odd goal, but it's a goal.

[1088] I said, your middle finger?

[1089] And she replied, yes, I miss being able to flip the bird at people.

[1090] I don't think I had smiled so hard and so long.

[1091] Then she said, quote, I usually just practice when the president's ads come on TV I try and flip the bird I literally laughed out loud and that sweet little goal of hers changed my entire perspective for the rest of my crazy day.

[1092] Thank you guys for keeping me sane during such crazy times.

[1093] I hope you all stay safe and healthy remember stay sexy don't hang out with murderers at your kids sporting events and wear a fucking mask in public Lauren.

[1094] Yes.

[1095] Nice.

[1096] Lauren.

[1097] Good one Lauren.

[1098] You're doing God's work.

[1099] yeah for real well here's more of that hi friends my fucking hooray is that i started a fucking hooray at work i'm a social worker in philadelphia working in a methadone clinic as you can imagine our work is filled with stress anger fear and heartbreak and as a black social worker the pain has been doubled we didn't want to keep ending our weekly meetings on a low note so i suggested we start a fucking hooray the first one shared was from my co -worker who just got engaged to his partner of eight years Oh, that's beautiful.

[1100] Thank you for continuing to do the work of destigmatizing mental health and for your work towards equality.

[1101] Stay sexy and be nice to your therapists in parentheses.

[1102] We're struggling to Brittany.

[1103] Wow.

[1104] Yeah.

[1105] Isn't that awesome?

[1106] I love that.

[1107] Oh, my God.

[1108] So good.

[1109] I have one more.

[1110] Okay.

[1111] Hello, bold women, which I love.

[1112] I've never thought of myself as bold.

[1113] That's awesome.

[1114] I have been embracing your fucking heart.

[1115] A message is lately, and I'm so happy to be able to share one.

[1116] I was diagnosed with breast cancer in August 2019, had a mastectomy in November, chemotherapy from January through April, followed by radiation therapy.

[1117] Holy shit.

[1118] I had my last treatment this Wednesday.

[1119] Fucking hooray, indeed.

[1120] The biggest hooray is that I have my amazing husband and daughter.

[1121] Hi, Emma.

[1122] She's a listener, who have done everything in their power to make all this nonsense bearable.

[1123] I honestly couldn't have done it without them.

[1124] So fucking hooray for my beautiful little family.

[1125] Peace, Anne.

[1126] Wow.

[1127] I love this.

[1128] It's like a medical fucking hooray session.

[1129] I know.

[1130] It's like a yearbook of medical people.

[1131] Roaring back.

[1132] I love it.

[1133] Soriety and health and healing and sassiness.

[1134] Yeah.

[1135] And focusing on the good, some gratitude.

[1136] Yeah.

[1137] Love it.

[1138] Do you have a fucking right for this week?

[1139] Um, I just so my sister and I have started doing no wait that's not it you know what it is fucking crying it is weird and good and also not I don't love it's terrible but I know it's important and it's bringing up you know old reminders of crying that's not it either it can be crying yeah that's good I did a like um shower sob no did you slide down the wall and then hold your face we have a bent seat.

[1140] So I sat on the little bench and then, yeah, I held my face and it was like, it was a kind of a thing.

[1141] Yeah.

[1142] Yeah, it felt good.

[1143] It felt good.

[1144] And then I cut all my hair off.

[1145] Okay.

[1146] My fucking array is that I, my, my first quarantine self haircut isn't terrible.

[1147] It looks great.

[1148] I, to be honest, I just thought you trimmed your bangs.

[1149] I didn't think there was any difference.

[1150] It's just another bob.

[1151] It's not, it's actually not the worst haircut I've ever had, which is saying a lot.

[1152] Yeah.

[1153] Oh, that's good.

[1154] I love it.

[1155] All those things and more.

[1156] What's yours?

[1157] Well, because I just was going to say, you know, for a long time, I would try to very quickly talk through myself crying in therapy where I didn't want to cry.

[1158] So I'd be like, well, they're just like, and I thought if I could just talk, it would, she would kind of ignore the fact that I was crying and she would always make me stop and cry separately.

[1159] Plus, you don't want to wait.

[1160] You have 50 minutes.

[1161] You don't want to waste any of it.

[1162] crying.

[1163] Yes.

[1164] And I've like seven good stories.

[1165] Like you need to hear this lady.

[1166] Yeah.

[1167] And she'd just be like, hold, breathe.

[1168] I'm holding it with you.

[1169] It's infuriating.

[1170] And it made me create.

[1171] I can only, I mean, it's been so long and I can only now just, I have to stop myself and be like, mm -hmm, I know you're not going to let me power through this.

[1172] But it really is because I think part of when I was younger, when I would start crying, I would think, well, this is just how it's going to be from now.

[1173] You know what I mean?

[1174] Like, I've been overtaken by this feeling and now I'm powerless to it.

[1175] And that would, that idea would make me crazy.

[1176] And anyway, I'm such a fan now.

[1177] Yeah, no, I am too.

[1178] I'm going to keep going with it.

[1179] It's bringing shit up and that's important too.

[1180] I would say that mine, and this is very almost like very specific to you and I and what we've been going through lately, I'm really loving the power of not saying anything at all.

[1181] We've had a couple moments.

[1182] You know exactly what you're talking about lately that were very key and they were important and there was a lot of pressure on us to like respond and fill the air and make other people feel better about things and I would say it happened a handful of times over a matter of days and we just sat there and it there is something to not filling the air and not letting other people off the hook and not letting people be comfortable when they're demanding you do it in lots of different small ways and instead sitting in silence because it's a difficult thing to do and it really is an incredible power move sitting in silence without like filling the air and not apologizing like stating your side and fact and truth without ever saying the words I'm sorry or sorry or use that is I swear to you it's a it's a lifelong practice but especially lately it's almost like I feel inside I feel taller it's like I yeah we have a superpower now or it's I am so used to filling the silences to get other people off the hook because I don't like awkward silences but then no one does no and then you learn that when you just be quiet and let other people talk you learn a lot and it's important and we've been going through that and it's it's been business stuff And I think as women, yeah, we want to let people off the hook a lot.

[1183] And also just as a sidebar addendum, just since it's on my mind in this moment, I would just like to say this to both you and I and anybody who is ever in this position.

[1184] But I think especially women, in business situations, people like to get you to talk about your feelings.

[1185] They like to refer to your feelings.

[1186] And they like to bring your feelings up so that later your feelings are what the point is and not the facts of.

[1187] what you have a problem with.

[1188] And so I would just advise everyone to keep their eye on that, that when people start talking about, I know you're upset, I know you feel this way.

[1189] You have to be sure to get in and correct and say, that's not what we're talking.

[1190] Whether I'm upset or stoked, this would still be happening.

[1191] We're not talking about my reaction to what's happening.

[1192] We're talking about what's happening.

[1193] That's right.

[1194] I'm upset because of a fact, not my upsetness is not the fact.

[1195] It's not on, it's not what's relevant here.

[1196] And we all have reactions to things.

[1197] And that's not we're talking about what the problems are.

[1198] And that is something I got taught that a little while ago, but it's been come up lately.

[1199] And it's really amazing how often that is, you know, in business, in lots of things, in life, in relationships.

[1200] Everything can be a tactic, you know.

[1201] It's like people don't want to be, people want their way.

[1202] they want to feel right.

[1203] They want to do whatever.

[1204] And you have to just always be your own best lawyer and make sure that people don't allow people to frame arguments in a way that then puts you in a certain light.

[1205] And suddenly we're all talking about what you're like because that's not it.

[1206] And I think it's a trick.

[1207] It's a tactic maybe.

[1208] And sometimes there's people who just don't even know they're doing it.

[1209] It's not an awareness.

[1210] It's an inherent thing that we've all.

[1211] It's just the habit of, oh, the little ladies upset.

[1212] Right.

[1213] Gals.

[1214] So that's a, yeah.

[1215] That's another one.

[1216] I just don't say it now.

[1217] Well, I'm proud of us.

[1218] I feel like we've, we're getting the job done.

[1219] We're badass motherfuckers.

[1220] And I'm proud of us.

[1221] And someday you'll be too.

[1222] Someday.

[1223] Cool.

[1224] Thank you to Stephen.

[1225] Ray Morris.

[1226] Ray Morris.

[1227] For always being, having our business ladybacks.

[1228] yes and so much so thank you Stephen and thank you for all the work Stephen right now is my god a one -man band of a podcast engineer a sometime podcast producer he is wearing every hat in America while he's at home in an apartment also raising a child at the moment so there's so much and Stephen you've been killing it and thank you so much we could I mean I know we've said it a couple of times, but we literally could not do the show without you.

[1229] Now, this network wouldn't exist as it is without you at all.

[1230] No, not at all.

[1231] You're very dear to us.

[1232] You're doing an amazing job and we really appreciate it.

[1233] Thank you.

[1234] Raising a kid and a cat.

[1235] Thank you.

[1236] Thank you guys.

[1237] And we love you, Stephen.

[1238] On top of all that.

[1239] I love you both too so much.

[1240] We do.

[1241] Thank you guys for listening.

[1242] As always, this is the fucking coolest job.

[1243] in life.

[1244] And it's because of you guys.

[1245] And we're so grateful for listening to us and connecting with us and identifying.

[1246] And we're so grateful that you like the idea of one story a week.

[1247] Thank you for that support, that unwavering and beautiful support.

[1248] Our mental health could last another three years on this podcast since you guys are letting us do once a year, other than the one more year with two stories.

[1249] Our big once a year podcast episodes coming up, thank you so much for supporting it no we love you and thank you for even giving a shit one way or the other yeah that's what's beautiful is people care enough to even care about it that's right so that's a gift we appreciate it we're we're glad to do this show for you stay sexy and don't get murdered goodbye elvis do you want a cookie