The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett XX
[0] Did you know that the DariVosio now has its own channel exclusively on Samsung TV Plus?
[1] And I'm excited to say that we've partnered with Samsung TV to bring this to life, and the channel is available in the UK, the Netherlands, Germany and Austria.
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[5] right now.
[6] When you look back on the person you are now, and the tremendous wisdom that you've just demonstrated, just speaking to me just then, do you recognize the Mel that was, couldn't get out of bed, was feeling depressed, couldn't find, you know, described to herself as you did as being lazy, do you recognize that person?
[7] And what's at the very essence in the engine room that drove that change?
[8] Was it passion?
[9] Was it finding your calling?
[10] Because I know you weren't this, you couldn't have been this person.
[11] Well, dude, it's also been 31 years.
[12] I mean, come on.
[13] I've basically been changing for as long as you've been alive for crying out loud.
[14] And also human beings are designed to grow.
[15] But not everybody seems to.
[16] Because they don't understand being stuck.
[17] Yeah, interesting.
[18] See, being stuck is one of the most, universal feelings of the human experience and nobody understands what it is what is it oh it's amazing when you hear this it's like so remember how we've talked about how the human beings have this crazy amount of natural intelligence wired into us and inside your body we've talked about one of the signals anxiety anxiety is a signal that means pay attention that's why you go into fight or flight you're in an alert mode okay that's all it is it's a signal an alarm system and your body body has a sophisticated system of signals and alarms.
[19] And they are all tied to fundamental needs.
[20] Anxiety is tied to your fundamental need for safety.
[21] That's why it's a signal.
[22] Let's talk about your most important fundamental needs.
[23] Let's go right back to psychology 101, Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
[24] You need food or else you die.
[25] So when you need food, what is the signal that your body sends you?
[26] Hunger.
[27] When you need water, what is the signal?
[28] When you need air.
[29] Yeah, you're catching your breath.
[30] When you need rest, what do you feel?
[31] When you need connection, what do you feel?
[32] Lonely.
[33] Human beings are designed to grow.
[34] When you stop growing, what do you feel?
[35] Stuck.
[36] Yeah, I was going to say stagnant, but I guess stuck is, yeah.
[37] Or stagnant.
[38] Yeah.
[39] We're still.
[40] Trapped, I guess, is young.
[41] Yeah.
[42] Feeling stuck is a signal that you've stopped growing.
[43] That's it.
[44] And when most people feel stuck, since they don't understand that it's tied to a fundamental need for growth, we believe it's an existential crisis and we blow up our lives.
[45] For most human beings, what actually will get you feeling like you're not stuck is having something in the future that you're looking forward to or taking a class where you're learning something or changing a routine so that you try a new class at the gym learning anything gets you back in touch with a fundamental need it makes you start to feel like things are moving and from that place of feeling a little bit more empowered you'll be able to make better decisions about what big things need to change in your life and is that you would also describe that as a moment where your life has like an absence of purpose I think about, I think about various examples, Olympians that come back from the Olympics and they, they're like 80 % chance of depression after they've, you know, and then I think about people who have, yeah, lost purpose in their lives for whatever reason, been fired from their jobs or whatever, or people that are in jobs that are, you know, absent of purpose completely, a feeling of being stuck.
[46] And then we talked also about the importance of goals and ambitions going forward when humans don't have that forward ambition or that, thing to look forward to in the future and their current situation lacks purpose they become very psychologically disorientated would be the way i describe it um i have a different take on purpose um i think everybody's purpose is exactly the same what is that i think your purpose is to share your true self to be fully seen and for the olympian when you are training and you're in that arena, that is an experience of being seen.
[47] And for most people that are lacking purpose, they feel profoundly invisible.
[48] And being seen fundamentally comes back to whether or not you even see yourself.
[49] And when you start to feel empowered and you start to see yourself and meet you where you are, what happens is every day that you're able to stand with yourself to accept where you are, to give yourself the compassion, to give yourself the support and the love and the respect and the worthiness that you deserve, you're going to go out into the world and share more of yourself.
[50] That Olympic athlete is sharing more of themselves.
[51] And so I think our purpose in life is to come back home.
[52] to ourselves, to reconnect with ourselves, and to empower ourselves to go back out into the world and share our stories and share our experiences and share our full selves with the rest of the world.
[53] From a prehistoric standpoint, because I always try and check things against the caveman of my ancestral beings, the idea of being seen when I was, you know, my ancestors 10 ,000 years ago, what kind of role does that play in from a survival perspective?
[54] Well, I mean, I'm freestyling here, so my suspicion is if you were not within your mom's eye view, your ass was going to get eaten.
[55] And so I think that, you know, if you wandered off as a kid, you were in danger.
[56] If you weren't hunting with the pack, you were in danger.
[57] And so being seen means safety.
[58] And that's why when you look at psychological safety, there are three fundamental needs.
[59] They need to be seen, the need to be heard, and they need to be celebrated for the unique person that you are.
[60] Those are your three fundamental emotional needs when it comes to feeling safe and whole as a human being.
[61] And most people's experience, by the time they are done with childhood, as they feel, feel invisible, they feel like nobody gets them, and they feel completely disconnected and unloved or not celebrated.
[62] Did you know that the Dario of a CEO now has its own channel exclusively on Samsung TV Plus?
[63] And I'm excited to say that we've partnered with Samsung TV to bring this to life and the channel is available in the UK, the Netherlands, Germany and Austria.
[64] Samsung TV Plus is a free streaming service available to all owners of Samsung Smart TVs and Galaxy mobiles and tablets.
[65] And along with the Dyer of a CO channel, you'll find hundreds of more channels with entertainment for everyone all for free on Samsung TV Plus.
[66] So if you own a Samsung TV, tune in now and watch the Dyer of a CO channel right now.