The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett XX
[0] Did you know that the DariVosio now has its own channel exclusively on Samsung TV Plus?
[1] And I'm excited to say that we've partnered with Samsung TV to bring this to life, and the channel is available in the UK, the Netherlands, Germany and Austria.
[2] Samsung TV Plus is a free streaming service available to all owners of Samsung Smart TVs and Galaxy mobiles and tablets.
[3] And along with the Dyeravisio channel, you'll find hundreds of more channels with entertainment for everyone all for free on Samsung TV plus.
[4] So if you own a Samsung TV, tune in now and watch the Dyer of a Cio channel, right now.
[5] And there's nothing more rewarding in this world than flipping a negative into a positive.
[6] Because if you're willing, and again, if you're willing to work hard enough and you're willing to take the shit and the fucking, and the bullshit and everything that surrounds negativity, if you're willing to dive into the center of it and you're willing to work in order to flip it into a positive, then I guarantee you you will find a positive in it.
[7] And I guarantee you that would be the most rewarding thing you ever do.
[8] It's like failure.
[9] It's exactly the same with failure.
[10] I look at failure and it's just like a challenge to me. It's like you can't do that.
[11] You don't know nothing about that.
[12] You're going to fail at that.
[13] Listen, I'll tell you what.
[14] I probably will fail at it, but I'm not scared to commit because I know that the moment I commit to failure, I'll take two or three or four steps into failure and I might go, yeah, right, I haven't achieved that.
[15] But those three or four steps that I've taken, that's what I bank.
[16] Those moments in the moment, that's what I bank.
[17] A lot of people they might take on failure And they might fail their objective And they think, oh, I failed that, therefore I'm a failure And they forget how far they've come That is completely automatically written off Because they're going, oh, I failed that.
[18] Do you know what I mean?
[19] It's like, I won't go near that again.
[20] That becomes part of your identity.
[21] I'm a failure.
[22] I'm a failure.
[23] So anytime failures, they think they're safety bubble, safety bubble, victim, but whatever, they won't go anywhere near it.
[24] But I love it.
[25] When negativity comes along and failure comes along, You know, I'm so intrigued on what I'll get out of it.
[26] I'm so intrigued what I'll learn from it.
[27] Because when you learn, you grow.
[28] When you grow, you become a better version of who you are.
[29] It's just that, it's that knock on effect that it has.
[30] And failure is exactly that.
[31] Failure isn't going to go anywhere.
[32] I've failed up to now in my life.
[33] I'm going to fail to the day I die.
[34] So are you.
[35] So are you.
[36] Every single one of you in here is going to fail.
[37] Whether you like it or not, it's just everyday part of life as much as it is breathing.
[38] It's surrounded by us.
[39] So why do we ignore it?
[40] If it's part of who we are and part of, part of what makes the world tick, then why don't we use it to our advantage?
[41] Because the perceived cost of failure, whatever that might be, you know, Jenny at work is going to think I'm not so, whatever, and this person's going to write this about me, the perceived cost, especially in the short term, feels greater.
[42] It feels, and that's the same force of, like, the PC brigade or that, you know, it's like, it's better just to stay in your lane today and to just, like, put your head down, be quiet, it because people think, and this is where it's wrong, people think that's the safest place to be.
[43] Reflecting on my own journey when I went to university and I knew that this was a piece of shit and that I needed to quit if I was actually going to become an entrepreneur, like it's calling my mum and then telling her, I'm dropping out and her telling me never to speak to her again, right?
[44] That was the resistance.
[45] That was the moment where life goes, stay in your fucking lane, right?
[46] Yeah.
[47] But when I, and people go, you were so, you were so brave.
[48] And then you're like that.
[49] You're grabbing hold of the wheel.
[50] You're like, my brain was so clear.
[51] the biggest risk, the biggest failure would have been staying in university and living a life not true to myself.
[52] So people say, oh, you're so much courage.
[53] Okay, courage would have been staying.
[54] Yeah.
[55] Right.
[56] And I think that's the, that's the thing.
[57] Of course, my mom says, I'd never speak to me again and I don't speak to her for two years.
[58] But look at the upside of living my, even if I'd fail, look at the upside of being myself.
[59] And I think that's pretty much what I'm hearing from what you're saying is like, there's this, you know, the, there is the short time resistance where it's like, oh my god if you fail you're going to lose it all it's like no you'll lose it all if you don't try it's exactly how the thing about it is the way that your mindset thinks then it's it's not a complicated way of thinking see you know what I mean it's like it's it's so simple really so simple stupid that it's almost incomprehensible um and everything that I do and you just said it then and make what you just said there makes complete sense to me to every single word you said about that story I'm like that yeah Yes.
[60] It's like, it's obvious.
[61] Why wouldn't you do that?
[62] But sometimes the most obvious things that are the hardest to process, the hardest to achieve.
[63] And with my books and my tours, you know, I don't get people coming off my tours going, and, you know, I've tapped into this part of my brain now.
[64] Thank you for this.
[65] It's like they come off my tours or read my books and go, and it was always in there.
[66] Yes.
[67] You just gave me this kick yourself moment where I'm just like, how did I not see that?
[68] How did I not?
[69] You put it in such lame in terms, because I'm a simple man. Do you know what I mean?
[70] I'm not, I'm not an intellect.
[71] I'm not a bookworm.
[72] I'm a simpleton.
[73] I'm a simple man. I keep things, the way that I get to my answers is good, bad, right, wrong, positive, negative.
[74] Yes, no. Do you know what I mean?
[75] I keep it.
[76] It's listening.
[77] But it's listening to who I am.
[78] And it's the most simplest way of getting to where you need to be.
[79] But we let the constraints and, the bullshit and the complications of society and what other people think cloud all of that.
[80] I almost see it like two dials, right?
[81] One of them is this voice inside, which everyone has in them.
[82] They're saying, go and dance in the hills of Costa Rica.
[83] And then there's this other really loud dial, right?
[84] The sound dial.
[85] And it's society and your mum and your whatever.
[86] And that one's saying, go be a fucking lawyer and shut up, right?
[87] And in all of our lives, I think one dial is a little bit higher than the other.
[88] And the challenging thing, but the most important thing you can do if you want to reach your potential, be happy, avoid mental health issues, avoid midlife crises, is to like turn up the internal dial and just try and get that other dial, which is society's voice, right down to fucking zero, right?
[89] And I just, do you know, and I just feel if everyone could just do that in their own lives, which is not easy to do, because listening to this internal voice is going to come with real resistance.
[90] People are going to cancel you.
[91] They're going to, my mom's going to not speak to me for years, right?
[92] but that's the short -term cost for a long -term gain.
[93] And as is the way with comfort, I see, like, comfort in, like, avoiding that resistance is a, it looks like a friend.
[94] It's a short -term friend, but a long -term enemy.
[95] And if you, you know, if you'd, if you're in the moments where you've said you've been, like, canceled, quote -unquote, had you caved, short -term friend, probably would still have a show or two.
[96] Yeah, of course.
[97] Long -term.
[98] But long -term.
[99] And I say to people, what you've got to realize is that you are with yourself 24 hours a day for the rest of your life no one else can even come close to that no one else will even come close to that so you are with yourself your whole life people they come and go situations they come and go so ultimately you've got to live with yourself first before you try and live with anyone else before you try and live with any situation before you try and put yourself into any environment that's what I say to people and they go you're with yourself 24 hours a day day to the day you die.
[100] Nothing comes close to that.
[101] No one comes close to being anywhere near that.
[102] That's the person you've got to honour.
[103] That's who you are.
[104] Yeah.
[105] So that's the person who you've got to honour.
[106] That's the person that you've got to make happy.
[107] That's the boss.
[108] That's the boss, right?
[109] That's the person.
[110] It's impossible to please that voice and that voice, right?
[111] So but please yourself and ultimately, you know, what comes out, it will, you know, should be war, should be authentic, should be true.
[112] So, and then you'll find your belonging.
[113] You'll find your circle, you'll find your like -minded people, you'll find your, yeah, you'll find your belonging.
[114] It's like, you know, you must know, as you get more successful, as you, you know, you start thinking, you start changing, start evolving your mindset more and more and more and more, your circle gets smaller and smaller and smaller, I'm happy with that, you know, I'm, I'm happy with that because not that I'm above anyone or below anyone, you know, we're just on different ends of the spectrum, okay, because guess what?
[115] I'm going to keep evolving.
[116] My mind, mindset's going to keep changing.
[117] I'm going to keep getting wise.
[118] I'm going to keep getting more knowledgeable.
[119] I'm going to keep being honest with myself.
[120] Now, for me, that's my purpose in life.
[121] Nothing out there.
[122] You know, it's nice to have the nice cars, the nice houses.
[123] Don't get me wrong.
[124] It's nice to have money.
[125] I've had no money.
[126] And now I've got money.
[127] I know which side I'd rather be on.
[128] Okay.
[129] That's all, but that's all that comes part and parcel with being true to who you are.
[130] And my purpose in life, which is I will never achieve, but which is, I find fascinating, is trying to get the best possible version of Ant Middleton, trying to get to that.
[131] Okay, but knowing that I never get to that answer, because I'll be on this constant progression of becoming a better version of who I am.
[132] But I never become the best version of who I am because that's when you're perfect.
[133] when you're at 100 % you and that's not real.
[134] It doesn't exist.
[135] But the purpose of getting closer and closer and closer and closer to that answer is such a fascinating journey for me that there's nothing that comes close to it.
[136] There's nothing that comes close to it.
[137] And whether I have the counselling or the shows that keep coming or the TV production companies that call me now and the channels that go, whether I have failures or whatever it may be, all of these, everything that bounces in towards me is something to learn from.
[138] And it's a lesson.
[139] And it's going to, I'm going to learn from it, and I'm going to grow from it.
[140] And I'm going to get closer and closer to the answer, closer and closer to my objective, closer and closer to my purpose and that is to try and get as close as I can to being the best version of myself.
[141] And I'm fascinated with that.
[142] I'm addicted by it.
[143] I'm addicted to it.
[144] I'm obsessed with it.
[145] So like I said, when I get that Fannos moment, I'm like, bring all this negativity at me, bring it because I'm just churning away at it.
[146] Doesn't mean I'm always happy.
[147] I'm not always happy, you know, I don't go around sprinkling positive fairy dust.
[148] I'm, I'm, you know, I don't go around I'm not that type of preacher, right?
[149] But I preach, you know, working on your mind to make it positive.
[150] You know, challenging negative situation.
[151] I think, what is negative situation?
[152] I've got to tackle it with a positive mindset.
[153] Make a conservative effort to train your mindset to think positively, to flip the script from this default mindset where everyone, you know, thinks negatively.
[154] And I love working at that.
[155] I love working at that.
[156] So all of this stuff that you give me, it does.
[157] Once I got, because I go quiet, like this last week has been a media storm.
[158] And I'll go quiet and I'll be with my family.
[159] I'll be with my management.
[160] And I'm like, aunt, you're quiet.
[161] And I'm like, I'm quiet because I'm churning away at negativity.
[162] I'm not unhappy.
[163] Don't get me wrong.
[164] Listen, but I need to be left alone for two, three days, maybe a week.
[165] Because there's so much negativity coming in and I'm chipping away.
[166] Trying to find the light.
[167] No, nothing there.
[168] Trying to find the light.
[169] Trying to find, ah, boom.
[170] Bang.
[171] Da, da, did.
[172] And then I bank this positivity.
[173] And then the next week, I'll be boom.
[174] back to aunt you know i mean back to this positive naturally positive person because i've drained my mind to think like that i'm always in a positive headspace um but sometimes i go quiet doesn't mean i'm always happy so don't get don't get positivity mixed up with happiness yeah yeah because they're two completely different things and happiness comes from yeah in knowing who you are you know it comes from from being true to you are knowing who you are and you could be the poorest man in the world and you could be there you know you could have no one or nothing but you could still be happy you You know, or you could be the richest man in the world and, you know, you know the script.
[175] Did you know that the Dariovacio now has its own channel exclusively on Samsung TV Plus?
[176] And I'm excited to say that we've partnered with Samsung TV to bring this to life.
[177] And the channel is available in the UK, the Netherlands, Germany and Austria.
[178] Samsung TV Plus is a free streaming service available to all owners of Samsung Smart TVs and Galaxy mobiles and tablets.
[179] And along with the Dyeravisio channel, you'll find hundreds of more channels with entertainment for everyone all for free.
[180] on Samsung TV Plus.
[181] So if you own a Samsung TV, tune in now and watch the Dyer of a CEO channel right now.