The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett XX
[0] Did you know that the DariVosio now has its own channel exclusively on Samsung TV Plus?
[1] And I'm excited to say that we've partnered with Samsung TV to bring this to life, and the channel is available in the UK, the Netherlands, Germany and Austria.
[2] Samsung TV Plus is a free streaming service available to all owners of Samsung Smart TVs and Galaxy mobiles and tablets.
[3] And along with the Dyeravisio channel, you'll find hundreds of more channels with entertainment for everyone all for free on Samsung TV Plus.
[4] So if you own a Samsung TV, tune in now and watch the Dyer of a Cio channel.
[5] final right now.
[6] What are the biggest misconceptions about you?
[7] I'm just sort of lucky to be where I am.
[8] I don't really, I believe in fate and I think I was really fortunate to get that first opportunity to go to Rapture TV and start my broadcasting career.
[9] But I don't think that luck has really played a part in getting me to this point now.
[10] You know, I think I've sort of worked out the building blocks to success.
[11] and I think that anyone can do it.
[12] I think anyone are listening to this podcast and obviously they are the kind of people that are minded towards success anyway because they listen to this.
[13] And this is what, for me anyway, this is what your podcast is all about.
[14] I listen to it all the time.
[15] I think it's about success.
[16] No matter what you talk about.
[17] For me, it's about success.
[18] And I think that I honestly believe that anyone, anyone can get their hands on success.
[19] Why is it that some people don't become successful?
[20] Some normal people like you that when you know we're crap in school why is it that those people that therefore don't become successful and why jake humphreys who also was a very normal kid in school when tom to become successful that's really the point i'm trying to get to is is what's the the is it a mindset difference is it i think we have to be really careful right when we talk about this because i think we both have been successful but that doesn't mean that just because it's happened to us then then um it's something that's really simple and it can be achieved by anybody.
[21] It's almost like just because we think it's the same rule for everybody else.
[22] I don't think that, I don't think that success comes from expecting it to arrive.
[23] I think that you can be successful if you know the trick to being successful.
[24] Does that make sense?
[25] And I think the trick, personally, I think the trick to being successful is an absolute rock -solid responsibility for every single, minuscule part of your life.
[26] And I sometimes really struggle to explain this point to people.
[27] And I mean total responsibility, total, 100 % responsibility for absolutely everything, even things that are not your responsibility.
[28] Because I don't see any benefit with putting the blame for any part of your life onto anybody else, because it's not other people's job to sort that life out, right?
[29] It's only yours.
[30] So there might be a, let's take you as a prime example.
[31] example, right?
[32] Maybe it kind of was your fault, but let's say when you left university, right, it wasn't your fault, yeah.
[33] It's still your responsibility to deal with that.
[34] Of course.
[35] What about all the times when you were trying to get success and you were in your late teens, early 20s and you didn't manage it, right?
[36] Yeah.
[37] Not necessarily your fault, but still your responsibility to keep going to the next thing.
[38] And then when things do start going well, it might not be your fault that they've gone well.
[39] It might just be that the time was right but then again it's your responsibility to take control of that and i just think if people can get into a mindset where absolutely everything is totally on them and on nobody else it's almost like a door was open and i thought oh my goodness that's that's the thing i have to take responsibility for everything and as soon as i do that then it leaves no excuses and how you're raised it plays a huge huge because i now you've said that i was in my head i was thinking about how much i was raised with that almost accidentally the fact that when i'd wake up in the morning my parents weren't there And when I went to sleep at night, they still were at work every day for about seven, eight years from the age of 10 to 18.
[40] And I was explaining on a podcast yesterday that made this connection in my mind that if I was going to have anything, it was me that was going to do it, even my pack lunch in the morning.
[41] And so I went off into the world with this mindset that because my parents created this massive void, that everything I was going to get was on me. I wasn't going to get Christmas or birthdays.
[42] I wasn't going to get two pounds in the morning for lunch.
[43] It was your responsibility.
[44] It was my responsibility to feed myself.
[45] And actually, for me, that was really liberating because it made the whole world attainable to me in a weird way.
[46] When you believe that, you know, Santa Claus is going to show up and present things under the Christmas tree.
[47] When did that moment come, though?
[48] When did you...
[49] I was 14 years old, I think I really...
[50] I remember I went off to London to do the junior apprentice for the BBC, and my parents didn't know I'd left the house.
[51] And I was there for a day and a half, and I was 14.
[52] See, this is where you were so different to me, though.
[53] Because at 14 years of age, I was still watching cartoons that were probably...
[54] for eight -year -olds.
[55] You know, I was not a smart, worldly, wise kid at 14 who would have taken myself to London to go on the apprentice and try and be on there.
[56] I was a really super late developer, but I think what I had, similar to you, was not just a genuine sort of work ethic for my parents, but genuine rock -solid foundations to start my life from.
[57] And it's hard to even say exactly what they are but we talk about in my family about giving your kids roots and wings and it's about getting that balance right with giving your kids roots so they know that whenever there is a problem i mean i often say to my kids whatever and they're only little they're four and seven but one of the phrases i like to sort of instill in them is listen i'll always leave a light on in other words wherever you go whatever life does for you however far away you are from home there's a light on here and you you'll get back here if you just look for that and you and you come and find it.
[58] And I had that from my parents at a really young age, that feeling that I've got my roots here.
[59] And I think once you've got that, then it's possible to extend your wings and to go, right, I reckon I'm brave enough because it's quite tentative little steps when you're in your teens, right?
[60] I'm brave enough to go to London and do an apprentice audition because I can go ahead.
[61] I know, I can come home.
[62] I know I've got my roots there.
[63] I know there's a light on for me. Sure.
[64] And I think that's absolutely vital.
[65] Do you feel successful?
[66] No, not really.
[67] I don't feel successful and this is something that I try and explain to a lot of people you know when you say what do people think of you and I say I think they probably think I'm smug or whatever I think that people assume that if you've done the things that I've done or the things that you've done that it feels different right I feel like the same kid that grew up in Stoke Holy Cross a little village on the outskirts of Norwich I feel no different I haven't had a buzz as exciting as when In 2001, I bought an MGF sports car.
[68] I paid £9 ,750 for it, and I bought it from an old man in Colchester.
[69] And I remember him still to this day turning on the light switch in his garage and the light thing flicking on.
[70] And there's this green MG car.
[71] I was on Children's BBC at the time.
[72] And it was the first thing I'd ever really bought for myself.
[73] Despite everything that's happened since, I've never had that feeling of, wow, that is a real sense of achievement.
[74] and it's almost like the longer it goes on it almost goes the other way have you have you ever seen hamilton in the west end uh three times i've seen it twice it's the greatest musical ever and you know the song there's a million things i haven't done yeah it's almost like the more i do and the more i see the more i realize what i haven't achieved so i was watching miss americana the other day on netflix and i think my wife was watching it thinking oh this is great this is nice and i'm watching it thinking shit man how have i not been as successful as that.
[75] How do I get there?
[76] What do I do?
[77] And that's, I suppose, why I love my job.
[78] I love conversations like this.
[79] Because I think that everyone can give you that little bit of information about what they've done in their life.
[80] And that's why I like sitting with high achieving sports people, because all I care about is that that high achieving mindset that they've had.
[81] Has it ever been somewhat anticlimactic things you've achieved?
[82] Because they didn't, you expected them to feel like euphoria and like a finish line or a mountaintop, but they didn't quite feel that way.
[83] So it felt somewhat anticlimactic.
[84] Yeah.
[85] Yeah.
[86] I think you're absolutely right.
[87] What I would say is I get a real buzz out of doing my job.
[88] But I really love being a TV presenter.
[89] I really like the mental challenge of hearing seven or eight voices in my ear while I'm at a big sports event with 60 or 70 ,000 people and I'm trying to navigate through.
[90] and get us out the other side and get the best out of the pundits and come off air to the exact second.
[91] I love the challenge of that and I really enjoy the journey.
[92] But I don't think that I've ever, I think part of the problem is I don't feel like I've got to where I'm going yet.
[93] And so therefore I've never had that moment of euphoria where I think, oh my goodness, I've done it.
[94] This is amazing.
[95] This is me. Doesn't that concern you to some degree?
[96] Because it sounds like that's a place you will never arrive at.
[97] Possibly.
[98] But I am still enjoying the journey on the way.
[99] I don't feel I've had my moment yet, and I don't feel I've had that moment where I go, yes, that was wonderful.
[100] But I absolutely live with the mantra of savour it.
[101] Every single minute of every day, I try and make the most of it, you know.
[102] Did you know that the Dariovacio now has its own channel exclusively on Samsung TV Plus?
[103] And I'm excited to say that we've partnered with Samsung TV to bring this to life.
[104] And the channel is available in the UK, the Netherlands, Germany and Austria.
[105] Samsung TV Plus is a free streaming service available to all owners of Samsung Smart TVs and Galaxy mobiles and tablets, and along with the Dyer of a CO channel, you'll find hundreds of more channels with entertainment for everyone all for free on Samsung TV Plus.
[106] So if you own a Samsung TV, tune in now and watch the Dyer of a CEO channel right now.