The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett XX
[0] Did you know that the DariVosio now has its own channel exclusively on Samsung TV Plus?
[1] And I'm excited to say that we've partnered with Samsung TV to bring this to life, and the channel is available in the UK, the Netherlands, Germany and Austria.
[2] Samsung TV Plus is a free streaming service available to all owners of Samsung Smart TVs and Galaxy mobiles and tablets.
[3] And along with the Dyeravisio channel, you'll find hundreds of more channels with entertainment for everyone all for free on Samsung TV plus.
[4] So if you own a Samsung TV, tune in now and watch the Dyer of a Cio channel.
[5] right now.
[6] I've got a very good friend of mine who, I know what my me saying this, because we talk about it openly, who is going through tough times at the moment.
[7] He sounds very, very similar to the guy that you described, who was having those negative thoughts and was looking for purpose in life.
[8] And I'm almost searching for the advice to give him.
[9] I think that's why I'm asking you the question.
[10] Because he is that guy that sat in his car looking up at this guy wondering, what's the point in living?
[11] What is it that takes you from that place to putting the shorts on?
[12] on and saying, do you know what, I'm going to do something for me for once.
[13] I'm going to help myself.
[14] No one else is going to get me out of this situation but me. That bit there feels like the hardest mountain to climb.
[15] I guess for you, it was that sense of purpose and prestige and that was, you know, this had been your childhood dream or like, there's also this quote I sometimes ponder on, which is change happens when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of making a change.
[16] Like when life becomes suck so much that it would be, it would suck less to go and be beasted.
[17] yeah yeah you've got to want something that's what i looking back having learned everything along the way it was the desire to want something what is it i want um and it wasn't the validation of being a tough guy at all it was to be part of my dream you know and you think back to that nine -year -old he'd almost made his mind up on the spot there that he's going to and join the Marines, and that kind of got taken away, and then I took it away from myself anyway, and I think almost further away it gets, it becomes less tangible.
[18] So when the incident of the nightclub happens, and you find yourself becoming wrapped around the wrong axle completely, I think it's getting further away, I'm losing control, I haven't got it, I'm losing that thing I want, to that finally that day of something that reminds you to go, remember what you want to go fuck it I'm going to go and do it and do you know what I've found I know a lot of people like this I still have a few of in my close friendship group and I've worked with a lot of people like this as well where it's actually the courage to go and do it somewhere in your friend's head he'll be thinking something that I want to you may look at you yeah but you're successful it's easy for you to say it look how well you're living the dream fuck you can't give me advice and you're like Like, oh, dude, come on, switch on.
[19] In there somewhere is something he wants.
[20] In there somewhere is a desire.
[21] In there is a child who had an ambition for doing something.
[22] And the older we get, what I found with my experience, it feels like it gets slightly further away.
[23] And that gap gets bigger.
[24] And all of a sudden, you've got to take a bigger step or bigger leap.
[25] If you have that ability to go, no, I do have the courage with it.
[26] That gap closes.
[27] And it takes steps.
[28] it takes baby steps and people think it's overnight you know you may have found this oh you're an overnight success that's like 10 years worth of hard work lino messy says it took 15 years become an overnight success that's because deep down in the shadows those people which are fighting every day the addiction the difficulty the desire to go out on the piss with our friends in the normal world to do the drugs to eat unhealthy food whatever it is is is that fight right there to go yes or no Should I follow the easy option or should I follow the hard option?
[29] And sometimes the hard option isn't the challenge.
[30] Sometimes the hard option is the courage you have to build within yourself to take the steps.
[31] You know that.
[32] Is there anything that I could have said to you when you were in that point in your life, when you were doing the drugs and having suicidal ideation?
[33] If I was your friend, is there anything that I could have said to you that would have helped you get out of it?
[34] Because as friends and family members, we're always trying to change help, right?
[35] And I sometimes doubt the power of a mate turning.
[36] you and being like pull your shit together you know it strangely happened to me so uh i won't mention his name because he's doing sneaky beaky things these days but there's a close friend of mine sorry what sneaky beaky you know appearing from curtains working for special forces and doing things like that right not pervert no no no no no no yeah can't do that one again no he's not Berber.
[37] That's why I won't mention his name.
[38] A friend of mine was within this lifestyle I was with him and he decided to join the Marines and he got out of what we were embroiled in.
[39] And I remember ringing him like, what's it like?
[40] What's it like?
[41] You know, sort of inquisitive about it.
[42] And he just said, come and do it.
[43] And for me, that was like this guide and light.
[44] It was someone within my life who actually had come away from what we'd all been doing and plucks up the courage to go and do it.
[45] And it wasn't some millionaire entrepreneur, it wasn't my mum, it wasn't my dad.
[46] It wasn't a really senior Marine.
[47] It was a friend who was probably about 15 weeks ahead of me on the process, who's not even made it himself and is still going through the hardest parts of training to say, come and do it, come and give it a go, you've got this.
[48] And that was almost that, not but that boost to be like, yeah, all right.
[49] Because that's a relatable role model.
[50] Yeah, he's just like you.
[51] Yeah, it's someone I know it, but it's so real.
[52] It's so, hang on, he was with us 15 weeks ago.
[53] I know him.
[54] I bring him and I'm like, wow, okay, I'm going to follow in your wake.
[55] Which in turn becomes quite intimidating because you're sort of social groups looking at it going, well, the Marines is really hard to get in.
[56] Now two of them are there.
[57] One of them's guaranteed to fail, aren't they?
[58] shortly and I'm looking at him going, oh, he's stronger and tougher than I am.
[59] Is it me?
[60] And that sort creeps in every now and then.
[61] But it was that role model to have.
[62] As you were saying that, I was thinking that people will now look at you after being in the Marines for, you know, almost 10 years, 10 years, yeah.
[63] Ten years.
[64] They'll see that, that Marine a decade in.
[65] They'll see Ben.
[66] And they'll think, oh, God, I can't, I can't do that.
[67] He's, you know, look, he's big strong man. He's disciplined.
[68] He's got this mindset.
[69] Like, there'll be a kid sat in his bedroom, glancing at that YouTube video of the, you know, the Marines advert thing.
[70] And then looking over at Ben and thinking, oh, no, I'm not, I'm not Ben.
[71] He's all polished.
[72] And it's funny that it sometimes takes a relatable role model to be the bridge where you go, do you know what?
[73] There's a guy that's halfway through the journey who I know, and I'm like him and he's not special or smart or whatever or rich.
[74] And that can, that's the bridge that I'm going to use to get in there myself.
[75] It's one of the things when I do the podcast and when I talk about my story, I always want to let people know.
[76] that the guy you see now that can talk and that can do this business stuff and no social media was like an idiot who like got kicked out of school, can't spell still, can't do maths, well, it's just like you.
[77] But as you say, maybe the defining thing was courage.
[78] And that courage came from just a delusional belief that I could.
[79] This is what I talk.
[80] This is why I wanted to write my book, commando mindset because I wanted to get people thinking that a commando mindset is a particular way of thinking within our world.
[81] You know, to have 100 % of the commandant of mindset, you have to become a commander.
[82] You have to go through a process and join up.
[83] But everyone has to get themselves to the gate.
[84] And I become quite interested in the getting to the gate part to start and who doesn't get to the gate.
[85] You know, the biggest critics never stand on the start line.
[86] you.
[87] They're always the ones in the stand given at the big end, aren't they?
[88] It's those on the start line who get to the gate.
[89] Now, I got to the gate and I was really proud of getting to the gate.
[90] You know, how cringe worthy, but potential Royal Marines Commando.
[91] Yes.
[92] At least I'm a potential Royal Marines Commando instead of a potential civilian, which I don't want to be for now.
[93] I want to go and live and enjoy the world in different parts of it.
[94] Some you wouldn't go to a holiday on, but I wanted to go and see it.
[95] And that for me was a really interesting point.
[96] And, you know, fast forward many years later, I managed to get the prestigious job but going back to the commander training center as an instructor and get to see those people get to the start line and see them go on their journey and listen to their stories.
[97] You know, you're a bit of a tough guy over them at times, but listen to their stories and hear them say that they had drug problems.
[98] And this happened within their family and this person lived on the street, for this long.
[99] But now you're in my world and I'm going to try and take you from what you were and turn you into something that we need you to be, but you have the ability to be as well.
[100] And that process has seen them go from civilian to commando.
[101] And that's really empowering because I get to stand there on the last day of training when they finally do it and you can finally call a mate when, you know, it's a bit hard up to that point.
[102] It's like, Good effort, mate.
[103] And you have a beer of them, and you tell them a little bit about your story.
[104] They go, whoa, I thought you were like this sort of thing.
[105] Yeah, untouchable dickhead.
[106] Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's it.
[107] Yeah, pretty much.
[108] But instead, they realise you're a human.
[109] Did you know that the Dario of a CEO now has its own channel exclusively on Samsung TV Plus?
[110] And I'm excited to say that we've partnered with Samsung TV to bring this to life.
[111] And the channel is available in the UK, the Netherlands, and Austria.
[112] Samsung TV Plus is a free streaming service available to all owners of Samsung smart TVs and Galaxy mobiles and tablets.
[113] And along with the Dyer of a CO channel, you'll find hundreds of more channels with entertainment for everyone all for free on Samsung TV Plus.
[114] So if you own a Samsung TV, tune in now and watch the Dyer of a CEO channel right now.