You Have to Know Where You Are Financially to Know Where You're Going

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[12] Come on.

[13] I don't mail anything.

[14] There you go.

[15] That's a very good point.

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[31] Rob starts us off in Hartford, Connecticut.

[32] Bob, excuse me, Rob, how can we help today?

[33] Hi, George.

[34] Hi, Ken. Thanks for taking my call.

[35] Sure.

[36] What's up?

[37] So I got married about six months ago, and I'm trying to dig us out of this ginormous hole of our prior divorces, some poor decisions, and a severe case of can't say no to wife -itis.

[38] Hold on a second.

[39] Hold on.

[40] What was that?

[41] A severe case of what?

[42] Can't say no to wife -itis.

[43] Wow.

[44] I liked it.

[45] I thought that deserved, you ran through that too quick.

[46] Can't say no to wife -itis.

[47] Yeah.

[48] I've got a similar case.

[49] It's called can't say no to daughter -itis.

[50] My 16 -year -old's got me wrapped around her finger.

[51] I really struggle.

[52] I don't think insurance covers those.

[53] Sorry, guys.

[54] It doesn't.

[55] Yeah.

[56] No, unfortunately.

[57] It's a pre -existing condition.

[58] So, but yeah, so long story short.

[59] We're probably about 250K in the hole right now, not including the house.

[60] Part of that is, like I said, the divorces hit both of us pretty hard.

[61] I also got in a car accident in December and then lost my job the next day.

[62] So I had like three or four months span that was really tough on us.

[63] But I am trying to, you know, we make decent income, so we have enough.

[64] We have a little bit of margin, so I'm starting, obviously, maybe step two, trying to get going on that.

[65] But the thing that kills me is I understand the concept of the smallest to largest, but the problem is almost all of our small debts are all 0%, and we have large debts that are 28%.

[66] And it drives me nuts that I'm going to spend, 12 months paying off $15 ,000, $20 ,000 worth of 0 % while the 30 % is accruing $1 ,000 a month in interest.

[67] And I was thinking, we can take a HELOC, cut that rate by 70%.

[68] It adds another $800 to $1 ,000 that we can roll into the snowball and get done eight months to a year faster.

[69] Rob, you are rearranging the chairs on the Titanic, my friend.

[70] This is not going to be the solution you're looking for.

[71] And I know you can crunch the numbers and see how much you're paying in interest, and that should make you angry.

[72] But here's the deal.

[73] The people that actually get out of debt, they don't just move around their debts and get new debts to cover the old debts and pay off the big debt.

[74] They just do the debt snowball and get so frustrated and so angry that they're willing to work as much as it takes to get rid of the next debt and get rid of the next debt, freeing up the next payment.

[75] And you're going to lose all of that momentum trying to tackle this giant mountain of the biggest debts with the biggest interest rate.

[76] So the question is, what are you willing to do and sacrifice to use your savings and future income to get out of this?

[77] Are there stuff we can sell on this $250K?

[78] Are there cars involved?

[79] I recently sold my video game collection for like $5 ,000.

[80] Hey, that's a start.

[81] But that was painful.

[82] Well, you've got no time to play video games.

[83] You're going to have four jobs for the next three years.

[84] Yeah, I'm looking at getting another job to try and...

[85] bring in some more income to tackle this.

[86] Now, you kept saying, I'm going to start the debt snowball.

[87] Where is your wife in all of this?

[88] She's there.

[89] She is in the other room.

[90] Is she a willing participant in this process?

[91] She's in the other room.

[92] Or is she like, hey, knock yourself out trying to get rid of this debt.

[93] I'm going to go be over here buying stuff.

[94] Yes.

[95] She's actually volunteered to get a second job as well.

[96] But she did that before with her ex -husband who...

[97] had no ambition at all.

[98] So I don't really want her to have to do that again.

[99] Well, why?

[100] You're projecting something.

[101] If she's willing to get a second job, the answer is thanks, babe.

[102] That's awesome.

[103] What are you, the knight in shining armor for the last deadbeat?

[104] The second job was not - You guys got to work together on this.

[105] Yeah, her last marriage was not crushed because of her second job.

[106] It was crushed because of a lot of other reasons and a lack of unity.

[107] And what this shows me is that you are actually creating unity because both of you have skin in the game and you're walking through this together.

[108] Can we dig in the numbers, George?

[109] Please.

[110] All right.

[111] I'm going to facilitate.

[112] I love this.

[113] Because you're the money guru.

[114] All right, Rob, I want you to just walk George through a couple.

[115] Let's just do the lowest, the smallest two debts in the debt snowball and tell us what the minimum monthly payment is on those.

[116] Walk us through those.

[117] The smallest two are, I think, my Apple card is like 500 bucks.

[118] I think there's a Samsung card that's like $1 ,500.

[119] Both of those are at 0%.

[120] Right, so what's your minimum payments on those?

[121] $58 and $133.

[122] All right, so now let's go the next level up.

[123] What's the small, the third, let's go up this, let's go, you know what I'm trying to say.

[124] I'm struggling.

[125] It's a Friday, folks.

[126] What are the next two, the next two debts?

[127] Yeah, I mean, we got like $2 ,200 and then...

[128] That starts to jump.

[129] From the $2 ,200, it goes up to about $6 ,000.

[130] Okay.

[131] So what are the minimum payments on the $2 ,200 and the $6 ,000?

[132] $2 ,200 is, well, that's another Apple card.

[133] So the way they do that is installments on your phones.

[134] I don't care.

[135] I don't care.

[136] I just want to know what the monthly.

[137] $400.

[138] $400 a month you're paying towards that.

[139] These are for iPhones?

[140] For that one is, yeah.

[141] I think we can sell some iPhones.

[142] We can rock some iPhone 8s.

[143] Right?

[144] Theoretically, yes.

[145] I think there's only two payments left on it.

[146] You said it's $2 ,200.

[147] Yeah, it's more than two payments.

[148] That's a whole lot of money to me. So, Rob, what I'm trying to do, what I'm trying to get George in here, George, I'm trying to show him.

[149] That's $600 in payments on the first three debts.

[150] I knew you would pick up the ball if I passed it to you.

[151] Do you see the real momentum here, Rob?

[152] We're talking about real savings quicker than trying to pay off the other cards.

[153] I mean, the high interest stuff.

[154] You need some momentum in this deal.

[155] I understand that.

[156] I wasn't really saying I'm going to switch to paying off the highest one because I know that doesn't work.

[157] I know what you said.

[158] You said you wanted to do the HELOC for it.

[159] We get it.

[160] But we're just trying to help you get some momentum.

[161] The momentum is the issue.

[162] Dave has proven this for decades.

[163] through people who followed it, it is about momentum.

[164] That's what we're trying to help you understand.

[165] George?

[166] Yeah, behavior is what got us here, not interest rates, not math.

[167] And so I know the interest rate is the easiest thing to get mad at instead of looking in the mirror and being mad at Rob.

[168] And man, you were dealt some cards that nobody should be dealt with.

[169] But here we are on the other side.

[170] And the only way out is through it.

[171] And that's the debt snowball method.

[172] So hang on the line.

[173] I'm going to send you guys my book, Breaking Free from Broke, along with Financial Peace University.

[174] You and your wife sit down, watch all the lessons, listen to the audio book, read the book, get fired up, get five jobs.

[175] And if your marriage isn't better at the end of this thing, then we've done our jobs wrong.

[176] Because I'm telling you, that's the kind of unity that the debt snowball creates.

[177] Yeah.

[178] All right, quick break.

[179] I'm going to try on George's bomber jacket, see if it fits, and we'll be back.

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[196] Let's go to Salt Lake City, Utah, and Sean is joining us there.

[197] Sean, how can we help today?

[198] Hey, guys.

[199] I'm currently an ultrasound tech, kind of functioning as a traveler, so I make pretty good money currently.

[200] I'm wondering if it's worthwhile to go back to physician's assistant school for two years and incur like $125K in debt to make a little more money long term.

[201] Okay, let's break that down.

[202] You set it up wonderfully.

[203] I need to get some facts.

[204] How much are you making now?

[205] So I'll probably make like $3 ,000 a week, so probably like $140 a year because I take some time off, so maybe a little less, but somewhere in that ballpark.

[206] So I make good money now, but if I was to go back and be a regular person and not do the travel thing, I'd probably make $80 to $90, and I'm kind of tired of doing the travel thing, so I'd like to...

[207] sit down in a spot for a while.

[208] No, I got it.

[209] Keep traveling forever.

[210] All right, so if you, let's just fast forward and let's say you got the $125 ,000 in cash to cash flow, becoming a physician's assistant, if I heard you correct.

[211] What would be your range of income as a physician's assistant?

[212] Probably starting out like $110 ,000 and then have to go from there.

[213] Okay.

[214] Be my best guess.

[215] All right.

[216] Okay, so how long, if you weren't allowed to take out a loan, how long would it take you to come up with the money off your current income?

[217] We should make it pretty good money.

[218] I wrote you down as between 125 and 140 based on how kind of loose you were with that.

[219] So I think that's a good range.

[220] How long would it take you to cash flow your way, to come up with the cash to do it without the loan?

[221] Maybe.

[222] I have no idea I'd have to sit down and do the crunch numbers probably at least a year.

[223] I'd imagine at least, like, probably two years.

[224] Yeah, I was going to say, there's no way.

[225] You're only making $100.

[226] I don't own.

[227] Go ahead, Sean.

[228] Yeah, I don't own a home either, so that's the other thing.

[229] I would like to own a home in the future.

[230] Okay, but we've got to solve the first problem.

[231] For sure.

[232] So, Sean, I want you to take a deep breath and slow down a little bit.

[233] I'm going to actually do all the heavy lifting for you and walk you through this, all right?

[234] So let me guide you through this.

[235] So the first problem we've got to solve is you want to get off the road of being a travel nurse.

[236] It's just a quality of life issue.

[237] I think that makes a lot of sense.

[238] That's the first problem to solve, not the house, correct?

[239] True.

[240] House is part of it, but yes, for sure.

[241] I know, but I'm helping you by understanding what your priorities are.

[242] So that's your priority.

[243] The move for you is, well, I'm going to take a pretty significant hit if I don't have the physician's assistant situation.

[244] If I jump back just to traditional nursing, I'm going to take a pretty big hit, correct?

[245] Correct.

[246] Okay.

[247] So we start looking at, okay, when we coach people, we want to help you come up with the decision.

[248] Let's not tell you what to do.

[249] And so we look at, okay, I'm single.

[250] I want to save for a house.

[251] and I want to get off the road, but I'm making really good money now.

[252] I do take a little bit of downtime.

[253] So which is the most important goal?

[254] Is it to be a physician's assistant and also make around 110?

[255] Is that a huge priority for you career -wise?

[256] Not the biggest.

[257] I mean, I really like my job currently.

[258] It's just more of, I guess, long -term, like what I can do when I'm 60, 65.

[259] Yeah, how old are you now?

[260] I just turned 40.

[261] All right, you're a young guy.

[262] Okay, so going through these priorities, Sean, I'm going to take the greatest opportunity that I have to stack cash that would then allow me to set myself up when I am 60.

[263] So you don't want to be traveling nurse when you're 60, but you got 20 years to get that physician's assistant degree.

[264] Putting yourself in debt right now, to me, seems completely nonsensical.

[265] You know we're not for debt.

[266] You knew that when you called us.

[267] Right.

[268] But forget our philosophical beliefs about this.

[269] I don't care who you are.

[270] In your position, I just think you've got to be a little bit patient.

[271] And just why put yourself in $125 ,000 worth of debt when, in your case, you don't actually have to?

[272] You like your job.

[273] You're making really good money.

[274] George, I want to bring you in here because even if you weren't anti -debt like we are, it still doesn't make any sense given where he is in his life.

[275] And I've been crunching the numbers, Sean, and based on just some quick research, entry -level PA in your area probably making 90 grand, which is what you said you'd make just getting off the road.

[276] Now, long -term, you could make closer to 110, 130, but this is not a significant jump to go 125 grand into debt or to even cash flow.

[277] Well, he's actually going to go backwards from where he is now.

[278] Exactly.

[279] So I would...

[280] To Ken's point, be very patient about this and just stack up cash and live like you're a broke college student right now.

[281] Because if you can put away, you know, 40 grand a year, in two years, this thing's cash flowed.

[282] And then two years from that, you're a PA.

[283] And so you've got time.

[284] That's right.

[285] Sean, let's play this out.

[286] You do what George just said.

[287] You're only two years of patience there.

[288] And then now you're stacking cash for the house.

[289] That's true.

[290] And I also saw in -state cost.

[291] For example, University of Utah, in -state costs should be closer to $82 ,000 for this program.

[292] So where was the $125 ,000?

[293] Was that a specific university you were wanting to go to?

[294] That's a specific university just because my degrees are old and there's not very many places I'll accept my credits since they're so old.

[295] Have you checked all around?

[296] Have you went to the most affordable options and went, will you take my credits?

[297] Can I get into this program?

[298] I feel like there's some more homework to be done.

[299] Yeah, I've checked quite extensively, and I have two bachelor degrees previously.

[300] They're just, my credits are so old to it.

[301] If I applied, like, say Salt Lake, I'd have to take numerous classes over again, like chemistry, O -chem.

[302] And you couldn't clip out of it, et cetera.

[303] I just want to say, if we can save $40 ,000 just by doing some homework and research, I'd rather do that than just say yes to the first one that takes me and use student loan debt to do it.

[304] Correct.

[305] I'm totally with you.

[306] My options are limited to go back to school based upon my educational path and how distant it is as far as the medical field goes.

[307] Yeah.

[308] Well, I mean, we've told you what we would do.

[309] We just want to save you that burden of debt.

[310] You just don't need it.

[311] Nobody needs debt.

[312] You really don't need it in this situation.

[313] Let's go to Scott in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.

[314] Scott, how can we help?

[315] Hello, Scott.

[316] Hi, how's it going?

[317] Good.

[318] How can we help?

[319] So I'm 23.

[320] I have been dating my significant other for about six years now, and marriage is definitely on the near horizon.

[321] Gee whiz, I would hope so.

[322] Six years.

[323] I'm kind of struggling.

[324] I'm exhausted already.

[325] I'm exhausted.

[326] Well, everybody tells us we're young.

[327] How old are you?

[328] You're 23?

[329] So the high school sweetheart situation, and you're like, all right, we kind of have our bearings.

[330] We're out of school at this point, working full -time?

[331] Yes, we're both working full -time.

[332] Okay.

[333] And you want to propose in the next 6 to 12 months?

[334] Yes, I was thinking within the next year.

[335] Okay.

[336] What's your question, Scott?

[337] So I'm just wondering, so we've also been thinking of a house as well.

[338] And I just feel like it makes me nervous.

[339] You know, all of these expenses coming up so soon, you know, you have the engagement ring, the wedding, the honeymoon, and then obviously a house.

[340] And, you know, everybody seems to be putting 15 to 20 % down.

[341] Who is everybody?

[342] Everybody's broke.

[343] You know, that would be.

[344] I don't know who everybody...

[345] I mean, it's rare.

[346] A lot of people I work with.

[347] I've never met a 23 -year -old who's about to get married who's like, yeah, we're ready to buy a house, buy a ring, get the wedding, and do it all in cash.

[348] Here's what most people do.

[349] They go, we'll finance it, and we'll start our marriage off in crippling debt and hope for the best.

[350] Yeah.

[351] That's normal.

[352] And so I want you to be weird, Scott.

[353] And that means, hey, maybe a newlywed couple can just rent for a year or two or three, get their bearings underneath them and get a good down payment under their feet before going, well, we're married, got to have a nice house, got to have a nice car.

[354] So I would focus on one thing at a time.

[355] Next up is the ring.

[356] We're going to do a reasonable ring, one month salary max.

[357] I don't care how wonderful she is.

[358] It's not about the ring she deserves.

[359] It's about the one you can afford.

[360] Next, let's make sure we can cash flow this wedding between family and ourselves.

[361] Next, let's talk about the honeymoon.

[362] All right, I'm going to pay for a reasonable honeymoon.

[363] Next, we can talk about emergency funds and down payments and all that good stuff.

[364] So hang on the line.

[365] I'm going to send you Financial Peace University.

[366] This is the roadmap for any newlywed couple.

[367] If you guys get aligned on this, it will bode very well for the success of your future marriage.

[368] That's good, George.

[369] One thing at a time.

[370] That's it.

[371] Very simple.

[372] So we're such in a rush at 23.

[373] Yeah.

[374] Wow.

[375] He's got a lot of life ahead of him.

[376] As Ken. He's much older.

[377] So much older.

[378] And by the way, the young thing, I got married at 23.

[379] This isn't too young.

[380] All right.

[381] We've got to take a break.

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[398] Alongside George Camel, I'm Ken Coleman.

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[426] We're not doing this again this year.

[427] That's right.

[428] You were talking about all the complexity out there around...

[429] Investing.

[430] That's why I was telling you during the break about what I've learned about sourdough bread.

[431] I saw you took a sourdough class.

[432] I feel like now you're an expert.

[433] Well, there's just a lot out there.

[434] What do you do with the starter?

[435] How much do you feed it?

[436] There's a lot of things out there.

[437] Well, it's much like investing.

[438] Well, I signed up for the sourdough class.

[439] But you got to do it the right way and you got to have patience.

[440] That's right.

[441] You can't rush the process.

[442] So there you go.

[443] I just want to tie all that in together there, George.

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[451] That's too risky.

[452] We'll see.

[453] Let's go to Minneapolis now where Jacob is waiting for us.

[454] Jacob, how can we help today?

[455] Hi, thank you for taking my call, first of all.

[456] I was curious as to where I should start with my money.

[457] I recently had a change in careers or chose to change careers, and I feel a little bit lost on where to go from here.

[458] Okay, so you changed from what, making what, to what, making what?

[459] So I used to be a CNC machinist making about $25 an hour.

[460] I have changed careers to I'm going to school to become a nurse.

[461] Currently, I am a CNA making about $18 .50 an hour.

[462] Okay.

[463] How soon will you be out of the schooling and then making nurse money, and what will that be?

[464] It should be December of 2026.

[465] Okay.

[466] And what will you be making?

[467] I believe starting in my area is anywhere from 38 to 40 an hour.

[468] Okay.

[469] So a temporary step back in order to step forward.

[470] Correct.

[471] Okay, great.

[472] I got no problem with that.

[473] It's very strategic.

[474] Okay, so be more specific.

[475] When you said to George and I, I don't know where to start.

[476] What specifically?

[477] How can we help?

[478] Where's the area that you're not sure what to do next?

[479] So when I decided to change jobs, I also decided to change cities, change where I live.

[480] I live in a little bit more of an expensive area.

[481] And I am completely out of debt.

[482] I have about $5 ,000 in my savings for an emergency fund.

[483] And I'm trying to decide, you know, at the moment, I have a couple hundred dollars after the paycheck hits.

[484] room to work with.

[485] Um, and I'm not sure if I should be investing, you know, at least a little bit, I am 25 years old.

[486] Um, and I'm not sure if I should be investing that money or if I should just kind of keep stashing that away, especially since I'm in such a volatile area, um, my life being in school.

[487] Yeah.

[488] Great question.

[489] Are you familiar with our baby steps?

[490] I am, yes.

[491] Okay, okay.

[492] So you're in baby step three.

[493] $5 ,000 feels too tight for me for a fully funded emergency fund.

[494] So I would take those few extra $100 and start stashing it on top of your $5 ,000 until you have closer to $10 or $15, depending on what your monthly expenses are.

[495] The bigger question is, sorry if I missed this, is your entire schooling cash flowed from here on out?

[496] Yes, I actually qualify for it to be paid for.

[497] Amazing.

[498] Okay, that's great news.

[499] So I don't have to pay any.

[500] So there's no fear we're going to have to come out of pocket for school?

[501] Yeah, except for like books and stuff.

[502] But I've got all the books for the rest of my time in school.

[503] I've bought all those books that I cash flowed that.

[504] Wonderful.

[505] Then you're in a really good spot.

[506] You're cash flowing school.

[507] You're going to be going from making, you're going to double your income.

[508] by December of 2026, which gives me great joy.

[509] And then you'll be moving on to investing once you have that fully funded emergency fund, which will likely happen before you finish school.

[510] And so I think we want to get you investing, but you got to get that fully funded emergency fund because right now it could take one or two emergencies to wipe out that entire savings account.

[511] Sure.

[512] Do you know your monthly expenses off the top of your head?

[513] Uh, there, it kind of depends.

[514] It kind of seems like things have been popping up just about every single month lately, but, uh, anywhere from on a normal month, I'd say anywhere from 1000 to 1200 a month.

[515] I'm very, what is your rent with my, uh, my, my rent is actually the majority of it.

[516] Rent is about 900 a month.

[517] Um, but I don't pay for electricity, water, uh, internet, none of that stuff.

[518] That stuff is paid for, for me. So.

[519] My parents.

[520] Okay.

[521] How old are you?

[522] 25.

[523] And you're married?

[524] No, no. I am in a relationship, but I'm not married.

[525] Okay, you said the girlfriend.

[526] Okay, I wasn't sure.

[527] I'm sorry.

[528] Okay.

[529] Wow.

[530] 25 years old and mom and dad are paying all your utilities.

[531] That's a sweet deal.

[532] That's a good deal if you can get it.

[533] I don't think I like it very much, but I think it's time to cut the umbilical cord.

[534] Is the agreement that this is until you get through school or longer than that?

[535] Yeah.

[536] Yeah.

[537] Once I graduate and I'm making the money, I plan on moving out and kind of doing my own thing.

[538] Okay.

[539] Oh, you're living with them.

[540] I missed that too.

[541] Okay.

[542] All right.

[543] That makes a lot more sense.

[544] All right.

[545] There you go.

[546] Well, thanks for the call.

[547] I mean, you're on the way.

[548] And I love that you're thinking about the margin.

[549] And George gave you great advice.

[550] Keep it simple.

[551] Just stack it up.

[552] Because as soon as you graduate, there's probably going to be more expenses coming your way as you start out on your own, your own adult life.

[553] Yeah.

[554] All right.

[555] Let's go to John in Pittsburgh.

[556] John, how can we help?

[557] Hey.

[558] Hi, John.

[559] We've got about two and a half minutes.

[560] Hit me with your question.

[561] My question is, I'm in baby step two, and I just got an opportunity to move to another city.

[562] I was wondering if you guys think that's a horrible idea.

[563] Tell me about the opportunity.

[564] Is it for work?

[565] It is for work.

[566] I'm currently located in Pennsylvania, and the opportunity would be moving me to Dallas -Fort Worth area.

[567] Is it more money?

[568] It would be more money.

[569] How much?

[570] Almost another $30 ,000 on top of what I'm making now.

[571] Okay, I like that.

[572] Is it in the same industry?

[573] Same industry.

[574] It would be a higher position, too.

[575] So it would be doing what I'm doing now, but sort of managing people and overseeing an operation for a client.

[576] Great.

[577] Do you think that sets you up to continue to climb a ladder that you've sort of envisioned?

[578] You can see continued growth as a result of this move?

[579] Yes.

[580] It's a no -brainer.

[581] What would be the reason for not saying yes and calling us to get our take?

[582] So I'm married.

[583] We have a son.

[584] They're attached.

[585] The son is seven.

[586] My wife is 32.

[587] What's the attachment?

[588] The school attachment.

[589] My wife just started a new job that she loves.

[590] We also have three horses here on our property.

[591] No one wants to get rid of them.

[592] Of course.

[593] Who could get rid of a horse?

[594] I can't imagine.

[595] If the horses weren't the issue or your wife getting a brand new job, would you be doing this and automatically?

[596] Quick answer.

[597] Without a doubt.

[598] Can you negotiate a relocation bonus to cover those expenses?

[599] I don't think that's the issue, George.

[600] He's got bigger problems than Friday.

[601] I think the biggest issue is this.

[602] Can his wife find a job doing something similar that she enjoys?

[603] I think that's the issue.

[604] The horses, boy oh boy.

[605] I'm not touching that one with a 10 -foot pole.

[606] I will.

[607] Sell the horses.

[608] Sell the horses.

[609] Oh, I forgot.

[610] You've got a lot of controversy around that.

[611] It's called PTSD, Ken. I got it.

[612] We'll talk about the equine population during the break.

[613] We'll be right back.

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[627] All right, folks.

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[639] And I got to say, Ken, I really appreciated the Joey Tribbiani, how you doing?

[640] Yeah.

[641] At the very beginning.

[642] See what I did?

[643] Yeah, you really sold it.

[644] Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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[648] Go find out.

[649] Click the link in the show notes.

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[651] Do they have a how you doing in Boston?

[652] Yeah, it's a little more aggressive and probably has more expletives, but, you know.

[653] Give me a PG version of how you're doing Bostonian.

[654] What's up, my guy?

[655] Okay.

[656] Something like that.

[657] Okay, I like that.

[658] What's up, guy?

[659] I like that.

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[661] That's my Ben Affleck.

[662] That's fantastic.

[663] You did well, by the way.

[664] By the way, it goes with the bomber jacket.

[665] Thank you.

[666] I think the accent works.

[667] Very tough.

[668] Yeah.

[669] Let's go to Lynn in Madison, Wisconsin.

[670] Lynn, how can we help?

[671] Hi, guys.

[672] I do need your help.

[673] Well, good news, we have got help to give.

[674] I mean, I can't think of two guys that are more helpful than us.

[675] So you're in good news.

[676] Yeah, I'm hoping to get a dispute settled.

[677] Oh, I love dispute.

[678] Oh, it's between you and your husband.

[679] It is.

[680] All right, let me ask this before we get going.

[681] Is he by chance in the room with you?

[682] He's not.

[683] Okay.

[684] He's not.

[685] I wish he were.

[686] I do, too, because I am now starting this new trend here, George.

[687] We've done this one or two times.

[688] We get both of them on the phone.

[689] Yeah, that's more fun.

[690] Okay, we'll hear one side.

[691] All right, Lynn, let's go.

[692] Let's hear your side and his side.

[693] Okay.

[694] All right.

[695] Well, the question is, I want to know if I'm a Ramsey Solutions hypocrite.

[696] Oh.

[697] I'm fighting words.

[698] I like how you lead off here.

[699] We'll see if you're a Pharisee.

[700] Go ahead.

[701] All right.

[702] Well, some quick background.

[703] All right.

[704] This is a second marriage for both of us.

[705] We were just married this past December.

[706] Okay.

[707] I'm age 58.

[708] She's age 54.

[709] We have a total of four adult children, two on each side.

[710] And I think a key thing for me was I was a single mom for 17 years.

[711] So my kids were two and three when I was divorced.

[712] And I paid maintenance and I paid child support.

[713] I carried the health care.

[714] And I paid for all the incidental for my kids.

[715] I found Ramsey Solutions after a layoff that scared me to death.

[716] So the stress left me, you know, in not a great place.

[717] And I dug into the Ramsey plan.

[718] I bought in.

[719] I listened.

[720] I did Financial Peace University.

[721] And I started with a net worth of $170 ,000.

[722] My life insurance was more than my net worth.

[723] So coming into the marriage, I was Baby Step 7 with a net worth of $1 .9 million.

[724] Hey, way to go, Lynn.

[725] It was a lot of small vacations at the local park.

[726] You're a rock star.

[727] Don't mess with Mama Bear, Lynn.

[728] Listen, let's just call that out.

[729] That's hard work.

[730] Good for you.

[731] Thank you.

[732] It was hard work, but it was worth it because now here I am.

[733] So Baby Step 7.

[734] And now my husband, he came to the marriage with a net worth of $150 ,000.

[735] And he was one of those guys who never found that he didn't like.

[736] He had car loans.

[737] He had a boat loan.

[738] He had credit cards.

[739] He kind of had everything.

[740] And obviously, since we're married, we financially got into the same place.

[741] So I introduced him to Ramsey Solutions, gave him Financial Peace University.

[742] We went through that.

[743] And he's come aboard.

[744] So we've eliminated the credit card debt, the car loan, got rid of everything.

[745] I wanted, going into the marriage, I wanted a prenup.

[746] And this is where the dispute came.

[747] And I wanted the prenup to state that if we divorced, I wanted the $625 ,000 that I was putting into paying off our residence accounted for.

[748] Now, that was if we divorced.

[749] asked for a death clause that states that should I die, he gets the house in the entirety.

[750] And there's no splitting it with my estate or anything like that.

[751] It would be his.

[752] So it's just a divorce.

[753] If there was a divorce, I wanted that accounted for.

[754] And then anything above and beyond that would be split equitably.

[755] And it's our intent that our retirement account would remain separate.

[756] So the principle of our retirement accounts would remain separate.

[757] If we draw anything out to pay for things for us, That's all commingled.

[758] And everything that on the other cash, everything would be split equally if we were, if we divorced.

[759] I wouldn't be saying like, oh, well, we paid off the car while we were married and my cash paid that off or whatever.

[760] It was none of that.

[761] So what specifically is he calling hypocritical?

[762] That I wanted a prenup.

[763] Just the prenup.

[764] Did he have any, but was he fine with certain parts of the, you just laid out a list.

[765] Was he against all of those things?

[766] All of those things.

[767] He's like, absolutely, this is ridiculous.

[768] I can't believe that you're going to be asking for a prenup.

[769] Once we're married, we're married, and everything should be equal.

[770] I'm like, well, it is equal.

[771] I'm just saying if we get divorced, because I've been divorced before, and I'm now 58, if I split half, which Wisconsin is a 50 -50 state, I don't have time to recoup that again.

[772] All right.

[773] And how long have you been married?

[774] Two months.

[775] I'm going to ask a stupid question, George, that I think you know the answer to.

[776] I may not.

[777] Try me. Can you get a prenup post -marriage?

[778] Post -nuptial.

[779] You can.

[780] Yeah.

[781] No, we have the document now.

[782] We have it now.

[783] Oh, so he didn't want it, but you went ahead and got it drawn up anyway.

[784] Yep, we got it drawn up.

[785] We got to a place where those were the things we agreed on.

[786] I was trying to explain, like, hey, we're sharing all bank accounts.

[787] We're sharing everything.

[788] No, no, I get all that.

[789] I get all that.

[790] So is it signed?

[791] It's signed.

[792] The prenup was signed before our wedding.

[793] But he just resents you for it.

[794] So why are you calling us again?

[795] So what's the dispute?

[796] This is all moot point, right?

[797] No, no, I'm still a hypocrite.

[798] I'm still a Ramsey hypocrite, and I'm not truly into the Ramsey solutions.

[799] Okay.

[800] Well, just let me free you of all of this.

[801] There's no hypocrites here.

[802] There's no Ramsey Bible that you've sinned against.

[803] Prenups are a very nuanced thing.

[804] And usually what we say is unless there's a massive gap in net worth and yours, it truly is not like a, oh my gosh, you're bringing millions and millions in.

[805] You have a family business.

[806] There's massive generational wealth here.

[807] We're talking about someone who prepared for retirement and someone who's just getting started.

[808] And it sounds like he's on the same page.

[809] You're on the same plan now.

[810] So you're on the edge of like, is this even necessary?

[811] But I understand with your backstory that you're just going, hey, I just can't be left out in a lurch, you know, not unable to retire or something were to happen.

[812] So I think you both need to go to counseling and deal with the underlying.

[813] trust and communication issues but there's no hypocrites here you did nothing wrong quote unquote so let me release you of that that no one's gonna quote yeah we don't have like a blanket policy on that no it's just most people don't need one yeah and the guy goes well i'll make 40 grand and she makes 20 i need no dude you don't need a prenup this is we're talking about protecting your stuff from the crazy family around you not from each other yeah and had you called us had you called us before you got it signed i would have said Same thing that George said, but I would have said, I personally would not do one because I feel like a prenup is an acknowledgement that we could finish this thing and end this thing.

[814] And I'm not judging anybody that's been divorced.

[815] I want everybody to hear this.

[816] I'm not judging anybody, okay?

[817] I am blessed to come from, my wife and I both come from families where our parents have been married over 50 years.

[818] So we have a heritage that we inherit.

[819] We saw it.

[820] And when Stacy and I got married, There was no out.

[821] And we've been married 27 years, and there have been times it's been very, very hard.

[822] There's no out.

[823] Now, that's our position.

[824] I'm not prescribing that to anybody.

[825] I'm not proselytizing today.

[826] But I would say that I would have said ahead of time, I want you to go to counseling because you've got some very natural fears, Lynn.

[827] And I understand.

[828] I'm empathetic to go, if I were in your shoes, I could see where you could get to that point and want to protect yourself.

[829] You've been burned.

[830] But so is he.

[831] And I think that this should have been counseling on the front end.

[832] You should not have forced this.

[833] I'm going to say something crazy here.

[834] If it were me, I'd tear it up.

[835] And then I'd go to counseling.

[836] I think you forced the issue on this, and I think you've got to redo it.

[837] That's what I would do.

[838] Oh, boy.

[839] Here come the hate now.

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[862] I'm Ken Coleman.

[863] He's George Camel.

[864] And he may have the best beard in all of YouTube.

[865] Now you're just trying to offend me. But I appreciate that.

[866] No, I mean, it's well coiffed.

[867] I guess in the YouTube world, they can't grow facial hair.

[868] So I'll take that.

[869] Is that right?

[870] Yeah.

[871] You know I'm making this stuff up.

[872] Yeah.

[873] The fact that you fact checked me on that is, you know, it's just a nice little.

[874] I appreciate that.

[875] And you got a good five o 'clock shadow happening.

[876] I want to throw a little something positive your way.

[877] You know?

[878] I mean, it was a compliment.

[879] That's the kind of friendship we have.

[880] You couldn't receive it.

[881] I was just trying to say something nice about you.

[882] Thank you.

[883] Let me restate it.

[884] Alongside George Campbell, the man with the best bomber jacket collection in all of the YouTube content.

[885] That's the Ken Coleman I know and love.

[886] Oh, so you'll receive that one.

[887] Yeah.

[888] Okay.

[889] I mean, I can't grow a beard.

[890] I can choose what I receive.

[891] All right.

[892] Well, folks.

[893] I have agency.

[894] You figured it out by now.

[895] We like to have fun while we help you out because there's breakthrough on the other side of these calls.

[896] So let's get to it.

[897] Julie is in Tampa, Florida.

[898] Julie, how can we help today?

[899] Hi, how's it going?

[900] Good.

[901] How are you, Julie?

[902] Oh, thank you for taking my call.

[903] I prayed, and God put you guys.

[904] I'm like, I'm just going to go to the top.

[905] I'm a pastor's kid here.

[906] Oh, hey, you're talking to a pastor's kid.

[907] Yeah, I didn't know.

[908] I'm like, do I go to my dad, my brother -in -law?

[909] I'm like, no, I'm just going to go straight to the top about money and call them.

[910] So thank you for taking my call.

[911] That's brave.

[912] I'm glad you made it through.

[913] You're here for a reason.

[914] What's going on, Julie?

[915] Lay it on us.

[916] All right, I'll be fast.

[917] I can feel the weight that's on you right now.

[918] I can, too.

[919] I'm really interested about what's coming our way here.

[920] Okay, go, Julie.

[921] I just got through a pretty major health crisis that could have killed me. Major surgery.

[922] I think we stopped counting it.

[923] 17 hospital stays last year.

[924] Oh, my goodness, Julie.

[925] And then I had complications and was admitted four more times.

[926] The problem is my parents have taken on some of the medical debt, and we had to move in with them while this has been going on.

[927] Now we owe them $50 ,000.

[928] I don't know, about 16 months ago, we decided to do the financial piece, you know, the Dave Ramsey program, which I refused to do because he ran into so much of my debt.

[929] I didn't want to do it.

[930] I'm like, no, it's dad telling me what to do.

[931] But we paid off almost $28 ,000 already in medical debt.

[932] So it works.

[933] And we have our $1 ,000 in our checking account, and we're doing snowball.

[934] How much is left now?

[935] So now all that's left is my mom and dad put $50 ,000 on like 0 % credit cards, and they're coming up to expire and go to 30%.

[936] They're afraid they're going to lose their house.

[937] Oh, my goodness.

[938] Why would they take this on?

[939] Why couldn't you just go through the hospital to pay them and be in debt to the hospital where you could actually negotiate?

[940] And it was partially dental and cars.

[941] It was a little bit of cars, dental, and medical, those three things.

[942] And my dad swoops in and helps, big heart, you know, driving me to appointments when my husband's working.

[943] Just a lot of love that we all agree we made a terrible mistake.

[944] We just never combined it.

[945] And now here we are.

[946] And my husband, we've been married 25 years, and he has never been sick, never been a doctor.

[947] And he works a very, very dangerous job.

[948] There's been two deaths out at the plant in the last six months.

[949] And he fell with extremely high blood pressure and was put on, what is that, temporary disability for six weeks.

[950] So he's struggling with his health.

[951] And my question to you is, this is where the rift is with my parents.

[952] He doesn't know why we can't move out, continue Dave Ramsey, which we have a track record of doing it, and be on our own, heal.

[953] It's a lot better for him with the rotating graveyards to have a quiet, dark room.

[954] Right now we're in a small house.

[955] One little noise.

[956] Why can't you move out, Julie?

[957] My dad's like, if you move out, you're not going to be able to do these.

[958] He wants us to do his plan.

[959] I want to do these.

[960] What's your dad's plan?

[961] I'm going to go back to this.

[962] Hold on a second.

[963] I don't even care about dad's plan because we're going to get lost in details that don't matter.

[964] You called.

[965] You wanted our help.

[966] I'm going to ask the question again.

[967] why can't you and your husband move out?

[968] My dad wants us to stay until the debt paid back to him.

[969] Okay, I'm going to ask it a third time.

[970] I'm going to ask it a third time, and you're going to see where I'm going.

[971] Why can't you and your husband move out of your parents' house?

[972] We can.

[973] We can afford both.

[974] Then that's what I'm getting at.

[975] Thank you, sir, in the lobby.

[976] He was tracking with me. It took three times, Julie.

[977] But listen, this is why you called.

[978] No, I hurt my parents.

[979] No, no, listen.

[980] There it is.

[981] That's the real reason.

[982] That's the real reason.

[983] And you have a lot of respect for your dad.

[984] You also feel a massive amount of guilt.

[985] The heaviness that George felt at the top of the call is guilt.

[986] Yeah.

[987] Well, I got news for you.

[988] Yeah, I deal with that.

[989] Well, I got news for you.

[990] You've done nothing illegal.

[991] You've done nothing unethical.

[992] It just happened to me. Yeah, but you guys did some nonsensical things with the credit card.

[993] The money stuff was really difficult.

[994] But here's the deal.

[995] Your dad doesn't get to tell you what to do.

[996] You guys have been married 25 years.

[997] How old are you?

[998] Yeah, I'm 47.

[999] My husband's 51.

[1000] My husband's telling my father we're going to have a meeting tomorrow, so this call is perfect timing.

[1001] They don't talk about it.

[1002] Are you holding your husband up?

[1003] In other words, if you had already given him the green light, would he have already moved you guys out?

[1004] Yeah, I think I'm part of the problem, maybe, because I'm so concerned about my parents, and I think my dad's living in the what ifs.

[1005] Will COVID happen?

[1006] It's not his life.

[1007] George, I want to bring you in here.

[1008] Here's the deal.

[1009] Your dad decided to take on that credit card debt in his own name.

[1010] That's on him.

[1011] And so he cannot guilt you or manipulate you into doing anything.

[1012] So have a written agreement of how we're going to pay this back, and it's going to have nothing to do with your living arrangements.

[1013] He's holding you in a prison.

[1014] You know what's going to happen?

[1015] Miserable.

[1016] You know what's going to happen?

[1017] You're going to end up hurting your husband while trying not to hurt your dad.

[1018] Well, that's my fear is because my husband, he's...

[1019] his blood pressure because of the stress of the job.

[1020] Just imagine an oil rig that on land.

[1021] It's so dangerous.

[1022] Julie, Julie, Julie, Julie, Julie.

[1023] You're taking on the weight of the world right now.

[1024] Julie, stop.

[1025] God bless you.

[1026] I want to give you a hug.

[1027] I don't want you to feel me criticizing you, but I want you to hear me. Oh, I can take it.

[1028] No, no, no, no, no. Listen, I'm not criticizing you, but I'm trying to be so blunt with you.

[1029] Your husband needs you to support him.

[1030] Yeah.

[1031] Period.

[1032] There is nothing else.

[1033] I don't want to lose my husband.

[1034] Then move!

[1035] Then he needs a new job.

[1036] And that's going to be a new chapter for you guys.

[1037] I wish we could call him right now.

[1038] Yeah, he's here right now.

[1039] He is?

[1040] Yeah, you want to say hi to Jake?

[1041] Jake!

[1042] Jake!

[1043] Can you hear us?

[1044] Hey, guys.

[1045] How are you doing?

[1046] Hey, Jake.

[1047] Julie wants to support you, so you've got to make the man move now.

[1048] We just talked to her about it.

[1049] We told her.

[1050] She's got to follow you.

[1051] She wants to follow you, but she's also trying not to hurt Dad.

[1052] So now it's time for you to go, babe, it's going to be okay.

[1053] I'll support you dealing with whatever Dad's going to throw at you, but we are going to leave and cleave.

[1054] We've got plans tonight.

[1055] We're going to Home Depot.

[1056] We're buying some boxes, and we're packing.

[1057] And by the way, we're not asking permission.

[1058] Are you willing to lead, sir?

[1059] Yes, sir.

[1060] Well, and that's been the whole challenge.

[1061] No, no, we got to go.

[1062] I'm so sorry.

[1063] I got a commercial break.

[1064] I'm not being rude.

[1065] Lead.

[1066] Go get the boxes now.

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[1091] That's a law firm you'd hire right there.

[1092] Yeah, that is, isn't it?

[1093] What would we specialize in, you think?

[1094] Probably personal injury would be on like the park benches, buses, you know.

[1095] Real Better Call Saul vibe.

[1096] I could see both of us doing commercials together talking about call us.

[1097] You know, like that whole, it's so smarmy.

[1098] Yeah, we'd be very smarmy.

[1099] I think we would.

[1100] And that's the vibe we put off.

[1101] That's right.

[1102] Tyler is in Dallas, Texas.

[1103] Let's go to Tyler.

[1104] Tyler, how can we help?

[1105] Hey, guys.

[1106] How's it going?

[1107] Good.

[1108] What's going on?

[1109] So I'm in a position or a predicament, I guess you could call it.

[1110] I have two job opportunities, one being a former employer that I was laid off with workforce reduction and a new job.

[1111] Both have benefits and both have a downside to them.

[1112] And me and my fiance, we're just kind of stuck in the middle of which one it would be best.

[1113] And I'm just trying to seek out some advice, maybe an opinion of.

[1114] what you think would be best.

[1115] Okay, great.

[1116] So give us the pros of, we'll call it job number one, and let's go with, that's going back to your previous employer.

[1117] Did I understand that right?

[1118] Yes, sir.

[1119] Okay, so give me the pros of going back there.

[1120] So the pros for that one is going to be the pay.

[1121] The pay is significantly, it's about 40 to 50 ,000 more a year.

[1122] What's the total pay?

[1123] Well, it's hourly, but like I said, it was previous, so I cleared about 100, 110.

[1124] Okay.

[1125] The two jobs there.

[1126] Okay.

[1127] And the retirement's also really good.

[1128] The benefits are about the same for each, but one of them doesn't have a pension, and my former employer does.

[1129] So that's what you mean when you say the retirement's really good, is the pension program?

[1130] Yes, sir.

[1131] Okay.

[1132] What's the second job?

[1133] What's the difference in pay?

[1134] Um, difference in pay, I'll probably be making close to 70 there, um, 60 to 70.

[1135] Um, and the, another thing is the shift difference.

[1136] Um, so that, that's a big one.

[1137] We, we have two kids and our thirds on the way.

[1138] Um, and that's kind of where, is it the same industry?

[1139] Uh, it's a little different.

[1140] Uh, previous job was manufacturing, um, The new job would be repair and maintenance on aircrafts.

[1141] Okay.

[1142] And you're torn between this?

[1143] I mean, this is a massive pay difference.

[1144] The shift to me, shifts can shift.

[1145] Sorry for being cheesy.

[1146] No, of course.

[1147] But it's not like you're stuck in that shift forever.

[1148] But my goodness, you're talking about the difference between $110K and $70K.

[1149] Yeah.

[1150] And there's one more thing.

[1151] Okay.

[1152] My previous employer, they won't pay for school or anything like that.

[1153] They have some certain programs that they'll cover, but this new job, starting day one, they'll pay all tuition for any school I want to do.

[1154] Okay, so where do you want to end up?

[1155] Now, this changes the entire conversation for me. Where do you want to be 10 years, 15, 20 years from now?

[1156] What are you doing professionally?

[1157] I want to have my own business.

[1158] Doing what?

[1159] More than likely construction.

[1160] And would the degree that the second option would be willing to pay for, would that be an absolute must to get into construction?

[1161] I see that there's benefits for it.

[1162] I didn't ask you that.

[1163] I didn't ask you that.

[1164] So let me put it this way.

[1165] My policy on any degree has always been and will always be this.

[1166] Is the degree, I don't care if it's undergrad or grad, is it the only way to do what you want to do?

[1167] Or...

[1168] Is it the best way to do what you want to do?

[1169] So answer the question that way.

[1170] No. Then don't freaking do it.

[1171] It is wasted time, which is our greatest asset as humans, is time.

[1172] And it's wasted money.

[1173] So, man, I just saved you a lot of time and money.

[1174] And with three kids, is your wife working outside the home or is she home with the kiddos?

[1175] She's at home.

[1176] She works from home.

[1177] Okay.

[1178] I would not take the new job.

[1179] I'd go back to the previous employer.

[1180] Yeah, there's not enough pluses on this new one to take it.

[1181] Which way were you leaning?

[1182] Well, I was kind of in the middle because, I mean, I've worked.

[1183] No, you weren't.

[1184] No, you were not.

[1185] You know it's impossible to be in the middle.

[1186] There was a way that you were leaning before you made the call.

[1187] Which way were you leaning?

[1188] You couldn't get a hold of us, and you had to make a decision in two minutes, and you're on the phone, and they go, I can't get you in with Ken and George today.

[1189] And you've got to give an answer.

[1190] Which way were you leaning?

[1191] Tell the truth.

[1192] Probably the money.

[1193] Yeah, because you've got a brain, and you've got people who rely on you.

[1194] And the money in this equation sets you up better to be a business owner than this degree does.

[1195] Construction business is an expensive business to get into.

[1196] That's right.

[1197] You need a lot of cash.

[1198] A lot of cushion, too.

[1199] You need a fat emergency fund.

[1200] You need no debt.

[1201] And George, take it away on the pension thing too, because we don't want him just relying on that pension.

[1202] I wanted to bring you into that.

[1203] Pensions over time have way underperformed the market.

[1204] And so I know it sounds alluring because it's like, well, it's guaranteed income, but you can do better investing on your own in any company retirement plan.

[1205] So I would not make the decision just for the pension alone.

[1206] That's a fine byproduct if they have it, but I would not make your decision based on that.

[1207] And then financially, are you guys in a good spot?

[1208] Do you have any debt?

[1209] Do you have an emergency fund?

[1210] So, yeah, we have an emergency fund.

[1211] We have about two and a half months in that debt.

[1212] We have just her vehicle left.

[1213] We've got everything pretty much...

[1214] What's left on her vehicle?

[1215] Say it again.

[1216] What's left on her vehicle?

[1217] $30 ,000.

[1218] And how much do you have in savings?

[1219] For our personal savings or the...

[1220] All liquid cash you have access to, including the emergency fund.

[1221] Probably $8 ,000.

[1222] Okay.

[1223] We've got some work to do here.

[1224] If you're going to follow the Ramsey plan, we've got to knock out this car loan before we're working on that emergency fund, but you also told me you have a third baby on the way?

[1225] Yes, sir.

[1226] So let's pause and stack up cash, but as soon as baby and mommy are home healthy, let's push play and dump that savings into the car if you do decide to keep it.

[1227] You may decide to sell it, but...

[1228] That's, you know, your income supports having a $30 ,000 car, but not a $30 ,000 car loan.

[1229] That's a lot.

[1230] So George and I have, we've spoken.

[1231] You take the better paying job because of the long -term play here.

[1232] And man, I just want to reiterate this.

[1233] There's a really handsome guy out in the lobby that was shaking his head when I was giving my little...

[1234] Is it the only way or is it the best way degree thing?

[1235] I want to just reemphasize that because I know that's new to people in the show.

[1236] And I have found, because I've coached 10 ,000 people on this very issue, Ken, should I get a degree?

[1237] What should I do to grow in my professional development?

[1238] And the degree, when it is the only way, it's a no -brainer.

[1239] When it's the best way, it's still a no -brainer, but you may need to be patient.

[1240] But this idea that, well, I can go get a degree and they pay for it.

[1241] And now I got this degree.

[1242] And all of a sudden, you know, this piece of paper, you know, I can see it.

[1243] It's a degree.

[1244] People think it's like a Willy Wonka golden ticket.

[1245] It's a diploma.

[1246] Yeah.

[1247] And it does not guarantee success.

[1248] And I just can't say it enough, George, because this comes back to borrowed future.

[1249] This comes back to some of the podcasts that you've done.

[1250] I mean...

[1251] This is what, you talk about traps in your book, Breaking Free From Broke.

[1252] I have a whole chapter on student loans and I quote your very, is it the only way, is it the best way?

[1253] Because it's a trap so many kids fall into because they think, well, this is the only path.

[1254] If I don't go to college, I'm going to be destitute in my little town and never make it anything for myself.

[1255] And the truth is I see more people who took on crippling student loan debt for a degree they didn't care about, that had no real marketplace value, they had no passion in, and now they're left picking up the pieces, working a job because they have to to make it.

[1256] the payment yeah this is the insanity this is the loop let's go to college to get a job to pay off the loans with the job and it's sold to us as it sucks but you got to do it no this getting a student loan or going to get a degree that you can't afford is not like going to the dentist you got to go to the dentist you don't have to go to college and and i just think that that's the cultural message here and and i think it's slowly eroding as we see the crazy compound of student loan debt.

[1257] That's why people are going to the trades or starting small businesses because they're going, I don't want to be like that guy.

[1258] $150 ,000 in student loan debt, nothing to show for it.

[1259] That's crazy.

[1260] Do you floss regularly, George?

[1261] Three times a day.

[1262] Do you?

[1263] Yeah, probably too much.

[1264] I want to learn more about that.

[1265] Very offensive, my dentist asked.

[1266] Do you floss?

[1267] Can you not tell?

[1268] Doing it so much, man. Wow.

[1269] I'll learn more about your flossing technique on the break.

[1270] Thank you.

[1271] Don't go anywhere.

[1272] We'll be right back.

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[1290] I'm glad you asked.

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[1304] Welcome back to The Ramsey Show.

[1305] I'm Ken Coleman.

[1306] George Camel is with me. This is your show, 888 -825 -5225.

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[1316] Today's question comes from Kyle in Colorado.

[1317] I'm 30 years old and earn around $200 ,000 per year.

[1318] I owe 255 ,000 on my house and 50 ,000 on my vehicle.

[1319] I max out my 401k every year with a current balance of 150 ,000.

[1320] I also have a Robinhood account with roughly $15 ,000 in it and invest $500 there every month.

[1321] Cash on hand is around $20 ,000.

[1322] I'm wondering if it's better to invest in the stock market or pay off my truck and home before considering any other investments outside of my 401k and monthly contributions to Robinhood.

[1323] Well, he's almost there.

[1324] Yeah, at least he's questioning his decisions.

[1325] That's a good start to wonder if you're even doing it the right way.

[1326] Here's the truth, Kyle.

[1327] You can do what you want.

[1328] You have an amazing salary.

[1329] You can out -earn your stupidity for a long time and afford that payment for as long as you want, my friend.

[1330] But if I'm in your shoes, I'm following the Ramsey plan.

[1331] I'm going to get rid of that vehicle ASAP.

[1332] It's not too much for your income.

[1333] So if you want to keep it and pay it off aggressively, my guess is your Robinhood account of $15 ,000 is not retirement.

[1334] So you could cash that out along with your 20K on hand, and that'll get your loan down to about 15 ,000.

[1335] And making 200 ,000, that thing's done within, what, 90 days or less, your vehicle loan is gone.

[1336] Now, regarding the house, would I put extra on the house?

[1337] I would be on 15 % of your income.

[1338] And so if you're talking about 200 ,000, that means 30 ,000 a year going into retirement accounts.

[1339] That means you could max out a Roth 401k.

[1340] You could do a back to a Roth IRA.

[1341] And that would get you to that 30K.

[1342] And then you can move on from there to paying off the house with any extra money beyond that, which you should have plenty of when you free up that $50 ,000 vehicle loan payment.

[1343] Goodness, that's got to be probably an $800, $900 payment right there, if not more.

[1344] So that'll free you up to start throwing that on the mortgage and get you on track for the baby steps.

[1345] Yeah, I love the advice.

[1346] Couldn't agree more.

[1347] I mean, he's putting 500 a month in the Robin Hood account.

[1348] So if we just start moving that over as well to the truck, that's going to be gone soon.

[1349] So he's going to knock the truck out quick.

[1350] And then you start working on the house.

[1351] Yeah, he's probably taken home.

[1352] $13 ,000, $14 ,000 a month.

[1353] And so you could, if you just get on a real bare bones budget, you could knock that vehicle out in probably two months if you got serious.

[1354] I love that.

[1355] I like this plan.

[1356] I like it.

[1357] Thanks for the question.

[1358] All right, back to the phones we go.

[1359] 888 -825 -5225.

[1360] Andrew is in Austin, Texas.

[1361] Andrew, how can we help?

[1362] Hi, thank you for taking the time to answer my question.

[1363] Sure, what's going on?

[1364] Yeah, so back when I was going to college, my parents and I took out student loans to pay for them.

[1365] When taking out the loans, there was no conversation about me having any responsibility for the parent portion of the loans.

[1366] Now, six years later, my parents are blaming my sisters and I for not having any money in retirement and for filing bankruptcy and saying that after all of that, we're going to have to take over the loans because it's...

[1367] They shouldn't have to worry about that this time in their lives.

[1368] And I told them no, but that caused a bunch of arguments.

[1369] And I suggested family counseling, and that was rejected too.

[1370] And I just want to know, are we in the wrong?

[1371] Having tried to help them, it seems like they have no willingness to change and letting money come between the family.

[1372] Now, what they've done is gross.

[1373] to put that on you.

[1374] You are not the solution to their financial mess.

[1375] And they're just in a real pickle and looking at their pile of debts going, well, if the kids didn't cause all of this harm to us, we would have been in a very different place.

[1376] The truth is they've been reckless for a long time with their money.

[1377] They didn't have a conversation about what was going to happen with college and student loans.

[1378] They decided to take on all of the debt in their name.

[1379] only with this Parent PLUS loan with crazy high interest, and now they want to pin it on you when they're in a bind, I'm not buying it.

[1380] And I'm guessing the relationship with your parents has not been great for a long time.

[1381] That is correct, yes.

[1382] It's been transactional and very, well, look at what we did for you, and this is what you have to do for us.

[1383] And I'm also guessing there is a lot more debt laying around here than just these Parent PLUS loans.

[1384] As far as I know, yes.

[1385] They're never open about it.

[1386] So I wouldn't know for sure, but the bankruptcy wouldn't even impact it.

[1387] Yeah, bankruptcy does not discharge student loans.

[1388] Right.

[1389] So why would they do it if it was only the student loans?

[1390] Exactly.

[1391] Do you know anything about their financial picture?

[1392] I don't know exactly, no. They've never been open about it.

[1393] This is just so warped, the way you describe this.

[1394] I just think you need such...

[1395] clear and very high boundaries that are in stone, like concrete boundaries, not flexible plastic fencing boundaries.

[1396] This is just so weird.

[1397] And I think there needs to be a real clear, clean boundary established and walk away from this nonsense.

[1398] Because this isn't just coming at you.

[1399] They're coming at your sisters too, you said.

[1400] So this is so unhealthy and so, and I use the word warped on purpose.

[1401] You got to make a clean cut for now and hope for healing, you know, hope for something.

[1402] But there's nothing you can do anyway.

[1403] So them putting this guilt trip on you because they're desperate.

[1404] And I don't want to be too critical, George, of the parents.

[1405] It is warped.

[1406] It's crazy unhealthy.

[1407] But they are hurting and they're desperate.

[1408] And this smells of desperation.

[1409] That's usually when you go to blame everyone else is when you're.

[1410] backed into a corner like this.

[1411] And so the best thing you can do is be kind, be firm, be respectful, set the boundary and let them know, hey, listen, I'm not in a position to pay this back.

[1412] We never had this conversation.

[1413] There's nothing in writing saying that we were going to be obligated to pay this debt.

[1414] You guys decided this is how we're going to help and quote, pay for school.

[1415] And therefore, it's your responsibility.

[1416] And if you're in a position to help, if you're going, hey, we got the money sitting in savings and we want to morally do this, that's fine.

[1417] But you have no legal responsibility to pay this back.

[1418] And I wouldn't let them guilt trip you into saying, well, if mom and dad are going to be homeless unless you foot the bill, I'm not buying that either.

[1419] Yeah, I agree.

[1420] That just feels so manipulative.

[1421] Let's see if we can get Eric in.

[1422] Eric is in Atlanta, Georgia.

[1423] Eric, how can we help?

[1424] Hey, how are you guys doing?

[1425] Good.

[1426] What's going on today?

[1427] Hey, so I have a pretty personal question here.

[1428] So I would say I'm pretty far well off in terms of financial stability.

[1429] My question is if I should save for an extra rainy day, and that extra rainy day meaning marriage and future kids most likely, or should I be a little bit more selfish with my spending and just kind of boost my own standards of living?

[1430] Well, I want to release you from the selfishness.

[1431] Let's find option C, where it's not save for a fictitious family.

[1432] I don't know what we're saving for, or save for me to buy a nice car.

[1433] What's going on financially with you?

[1434] Do you have a bunch of money laying around?

[1435] Well, let's see.

[1436] My net worth is right around $350 ,000.

[1437] Okay.

[1438] And I already have a house that's already paid off as well.

[1439] Amazing.

[1440] And you got an emergency fund?

[1441] The emergency fund is pretty much whatever is in my high -yield savings.

[1442] Yeah, how much is there?

[1443] $200 ,000.

[1444] $200 ,000?

[1445] Yeah, that's what I put in my high -yield savings for the maximum ROI on interest.

[1446] Okay, but I like money to have a goal, and that is way beyond a six -month emergency fund for you.

[1447] And so what would be your next goal?

[1448] Are you saying, hey, I don't really have one?

[1449] I have a paid -for house.

[1450] Are you investing 15 % or more of your income at this point?

[1451] Yeah, 15 % is already invested into retirement funds each year.

[1452] Okay, you sound like you are the eternal saver, and so it might be time to upgrade some things in your life reasonably.

[1453] We're paying cash.

[1454] We're not going to have this be a large portion of our world.

[1455] But if you want to buy a few nice toys, go for it.

[1456] Yeah, but he's in such a position that I'm not worried about him having money for a future family.

[1457] Yeah, you're fine.

[1458] It's a line item in the budget.

[1459] A family doesn't show up and you go, I need $100 ,000.

[1460] It's just a line item.

[1461] That's true.

[1462] For a ring and then for a wedding.

[1463] You'll have the savings ready to go, my friend.

[1464] I'd get out there.

[1465] I'd get out of the house and start meeting some people and maybe find a nice lady.

[1466] There we go.

[1467] All right, this is The Ramsey Show.

[1468] We'll come up with a dating plan for Eric's life on the break.

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[1486] Yeah.

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[1502] All right.

[1503] Jordan's up next in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.

[1504] Jordan, how can we help today?

[1505] Happy Friday, guys.

[1506] How are you guys doing?

[1507] Happy Friday, sir.

[1508] So I'm 26.

[1509] I have a house that's paid off.

[1510] Me and my fiance have minimal to no debt.

[1511] Probably the maximum we have, I have around $1 ,100.

[1512] She has around like $1 ,400 to $1 ,500 in debt.

[1513] I started trading options about five years ago.

[1514] Wasn't successful.

[1515] Sort of sat down for the past two years, three years, researching, studying markets.

[1516] You guys are king of investing.

[1517] So I wanted to get your advice on it.

[1518] I started about four or five weeks ago with $660.

[1519] and my account is now sitting at $4 ,800 and $200.

[1520] So I don't know if I should continue with the strategy that I'm using of trading options, or do I move to a different strategy?

[1521] Well, you've called the right show and the wrong show.

[1522] You're not going to like what I tell you to do, and you probably won't do it.

[1523] I would tell you to stop day trading immediately.

[1524] and focus on long -term wealth building through your normal day job income.

[1525] Do you have a normal day job?

[1526] Yeah, so that's actually what got me back into trading because I started this current position I'm at.

[1527] I work $4 .12 a week, so it gives me two to three days to day trade.

[1528] I'm currently making $42 .35 an hour, I believe it is, or $32 .40.

[1529] Okay, so you're making about $85 ,000 a year if you're doing that 40 hours a week.

[1530] You said you're doing 48 hours a week, so it's probably a little more than that?

[1531] Correct, yeah.

[1532] Okay, and what makes you go, I need more?

[1533] Clearly, you're enjoying doing this, and you haven't been burned by it yet.

[1534] Correct.

[1535] Okay, let me tell you that.

[1536] No, I have been burned the first two years.

[1537] I want to say I've lost close to $4 ,000 to $5 ,000 within the first two years.

[1538] Okay, so here's the stat.

[1539] fell perfectly into it.

[1540] 97 % of day traders who persisted for more than 300 days lost money.

[1541] And many people go borrow money to make trades, going into debt to leverage, right?

[1542] And we've taken some gut -wrenching calls on the Ramsey Show from people who have lost 30 grand, 150 grand, even $300 ,000 by day trading.

[1543] And it breaks my heart.

[1544] And here's the problem.

[1545] It's easy to feel like you're the exception when you're winning.

[1546] Correct.

[1547] And it's easy to go, well, it's always going to be, I'm good at this.

[1548] It's just gambling at the end of the day.

[1549] And if you do your research, it's just researched gambling, which still has a lot of risk.

[1550] And I'm with Dave Ramsey on this.

[1551] I just hate losing money.

[1552] And so the easiest way to avoid that is to not gamble it.

[1553] And so what I do is I invest into retirement plans.

[1554] If I want to invest outside of that, I would invest into an index fund and a taxable brokerage account and call it a day.

[1555] And so I would focus on...

[1556] Yeah, because I don't...

[1557] Here's the problem.

[1558] You're spending hours and hours of week staring at these screens trying to time the market.

[1559] And instead, the better thing to do is instead of timing the market is just have time in the market through compound growth and a long -term strategy.

[1560] This is the tortoise beats the hare.

[1561] You've heard that?

[1562] I've heard that.

[1563] I've also heard the whole gambling, it's short money gains.

[1564] Don't get into it.

[1565] You might win now, but you're going to lose it all later.

[1566] Yeah, and I don't think it's worth the mental calories.

[1567] I don't think it's worth the stress, the anxiety, the risk.

[1568] Our plan is all about peace.

[1569] You've heard it, financial peace.

[1570] And so can I tell you how many times I've thought about my investments over the last six months?

[1571] Zero.

[1572] I go, oh, market's down.

[1573] All right, I'm going to go get a coffee.

[1574] I just don't care because I'm investing for the long term.

[1575] And if you're investing for a shorter term purchase, like real estate, just park it in an index fund, let it ride.

[1576] That's what Dave does.

[1577] And when he finds a good piece of property, he'll cash out enough to buy the property.

[1578] But I would never encourage anyone to do single stocks or even a single crypto coin.

[1579] And day trading falls squarely in that with even more.

[1580] Because now it's a whole career you can make out of it of saying I'm a day trader.

[1581] And so, man, you're too smart to do this stuff.

[1582] You know, I heard all the news this morning.

[1583] Got to get your quick take on it.

[1584] What's that?

[1585] There is now, there is a crypto bar in New York City.

[1586] Oh, I have heard about this.

[1587] Have you heard this?

[1588] Yeah.

[1589] And I was thinking of you.

[1590] I heard it.

[1591] I was like, I wonder what George knows about this.

[1592] So I guess - I'll tell you, it's the worst place to meet a woman because he won't find one in there.

[1593] Yeah.

[1594] So if you just want to hang out with other crypto pros.

[1595] Yeah.

[1596] Stuart Varney was asking, this was on Fox Business.

[1597] Stuart Varney was asking his female co -host who was talking about it.

[1598] He's like, can you pay for your beer with crypto?

[1599] And she's like, yeah.

[1600] And she's like, you wouldn't know how to do it.

[1601] So I guess Stuart has not jumped on the crypto train, but very interesting.

[1602] Yeah.

[1603] A crypto bar.

[1604] I've got a dark curiosity.

[1605] She said it's full of crypto enthusiasts.

[1606] Oh, wow.

[1607] So there you go.

[1608] So my point is, next time you're in New York doing media, I think you should go do that for TikTok and Instagram.

[1609] Just do a little drop in.

[1610] Just see if anyone starts filming me saying, I saw George at a crypto bar.

[1611] Yeah.

[1612] That could be fun.

[1613] No, thank you.

[1614] All right.

[1615] Let's go to Sarah in Denver, Colorado.

[1616] Sarah, how can we help?

[1617] Hi, I'm excited to talk to my money heroes.

[1618] How are you?

[1619] Wow, you're a money hero.

[1620] Hold on a second.

[1621] Let me put my cape over the chair here.

[1622] There it is.

[1623] There it goes.

[1624] How can we help?

[1625] So my husband and I are in our 40s, and we're doing great for ourselves.

[1626] We're maxing out 401ks.

[1627] and iras and we're paying off the house with double payments wow and we're kind of deciding trying to decide what to do going forward you know once everything's paid off and exploring some options to help our adult kids so one of the things that we thought about was encouraging them to save even more for themselves and offering them the possibility of maybe you know if they put forth like a third of their Roth max for a year, would we double that, you know, and give them the other two thirds.

[1628] And so I guess I just wanted to find out what you guys thought about that.

[1629] Yeah.

[1630] So essentially you want to gift your children money to help set them up for success and wealth down the road.

[1631] And there's a lot of ways to do that.

[1632] How old are the children?

[1633] They are 23 and 24.

[1634] Wonderful.

[1635] And they're all working full time, gainfully employed.

[1636] Well, there's one that's doing a little better than the other.

[1637] Employment -wise, money -wise, and they're still learning for sure.

[1638] That's great.

[1639] Well, I like the idea of sort of a match because that encourages them to actually do the behavior instead of you doing it for them.

[1640] But there's a lot of ways to do this.

[1641] If it's not wealth, it might be, hey, we wanted to gift you some down payment money.

[1642] and it has to go toward the house.

[1643] And so there's a lot of ways you could do that.

[1644] I love the idea of just contributing to that.

[1645] I don't know, if you just wrote them a check for $3 ,000, would you trust that they'd actually go invest that into an IRA?

[1646] That's the question.

[1647] Yeah, I do think that both of them would go do that if that was the intention, yes.

[1648] Okay.

[1649] I would demand proof because I'm that guy.

[1650] I'd be like, all right, here's the deal.

[1651] I'm going to give this to you.

[1652] I need proof in one week that you've actually deposited this money or else I rescind it.

[1653] So it's okay to give with strings attached because they're going to benefit from it.

[1654] And here's what you should do.

[1655] Sit down with an investment calculator.

[1656] Show them what this money will turn into when they retire to 63.

[1657] And they're going to go, oh my gosh, mom, you didn't give me $3 ,000.

[1658] You just gave me $150 ,000.

[1659] That'll get them investing.

[1660] I love that play.

[1661] I'm starting to do that with my kids and they're starting to pay attention a little bit.

[1662] So I love that advice.

[1663] Uncle George will come over.

[1664] I'll show him the ropes.

[1665] We need more Uncle George around the house.

[1666] All right, folks.

[1667] Appreciate you being with us.

[1668] This is The Ramsey Show.